FabSwingers.com forum: Just trying to chat with women!!!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe it's me or my profile, as it's been mentioned, but how come when you message a lady to see if they fancy chatting with you they simply delete your message?? But on their profile a coffee meet or public meet is essential!! How are they supposed to get to know you even before or if there's a meeting of any description!!!???

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By *uliacWoman
over a year ago

dublin

IMO: It's your profile. It doesn't show any personality. Also, you have no photos.

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

Your profile is poor. Male or female if you make no effort you'll never get what you want

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By *traycats2Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

Same as all above no pics nothing I’d delete you too .

Sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Changed my profile and pic being approved. Any better?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile is poor. Male or female if you make no effort you'll never get what you want "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Same as all above no pics nothing I’d delete you too .

Sorry "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"IMO: It's your profile. It doesn't show any personality. Also, you have no photos."

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pics are really important... for me ideally not close up cock pix!! I like to see the body it’s attached to!!

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By *ornyyyyMan
over a year ago

around

I find the same aswell and i hav pic up nd I think my profile is ok if its not can he let me know so I can change it thanks fabbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pics are really important... for me ideally not close up cock pix!! I like to see the body it’s attached to!!"

Agree with this..I'm more a body pic girl, I don't actually like seen cock pic's unless I make a request through chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pal , womans like to read description profiles and pervert dirty pictures.Nothing is wrong with your profile.I have been in the same road pal just be patient and you will get soon a woman .Don't listen to other people negative suggestions ,don't let anyone to change you.They are full of crazy woman and males here who want you to be their pet( hope you know what I mean by that).

Only thing , you missing pal is s dirty picture and the right woman for you will come along..Don't listen to 1 or 2 crazy woman in here, they are 27000 woman's on this site.

Best of luck pal , against remember just be yourself and be patient

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aren’t we all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Truth is, it can be really tricky for lads on sites like this... but being chatty and a bit of craic even on the forum threads helps as it prompts people to look at your profile... there a a few witty lads around and I always check out their profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The answer to your first question is pretty simple.. No reply = No interest.

The why is a bit harder because everyone is looking for something different.

As posters above have mentioned pics are important, that blank little avater is an instant delete for alot of people.

Dont try to please everyone jist be yourself get involved on the forums and if you notice someone on here message them referencing a thread more likely to at least get read.

I'm not sure how important having a hugely detailed profile is but I guess if you are sending out mails to people you havent interacted with before you need something on there to stand out and I'm afraid there isn't many guys on fav who arent "genuine and nice".

Have a browse on the more popular guys profiles for ideas but obviously dont just copy and paste from them.

Best of luck with it

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By *hadowcookieCouple
over a year ago

Portlaoise

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By *hadowcookieCouple
over a year ago

Portlaoise

We don't block many people (only 5 on our block list) but we had this guy blocked

He persistently bombarded us with messages despite our profile saying we didn't want single men

And even if we did want single males we aren't going to respond to a profile with no pics and short generic messages like 'hi' with absolutely no effort put in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And even if we do say coffee/social meet first, it doesn’t mean it’s a given just because a guy sends a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And even if we do say coffee/social meet first, it doesn’t mean it’s a given just because a guy sends a message. "
..always take a hurley in the hand bag

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By *orinaTSTV/TS
over a year ago

Dublin

Good pics are important. Body pics are important. Your profile description is a bit bland. It could be written by anyone. Make it personal to you. When you reply or message someone make it genuine. Use a bit of imagination. 80% of guys on this site haven't a notion even how to behave. If they behave with lack of thought online, what are they going to be like in person? Thought for the day. Have fun x

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By *ockhard and SweetcheeksCouple
over a year ago

City

Next...

Just move on op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wht my profile like

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By *ellowguy13Man
over a year ago

Sligo Leitrim

In the same boat. Being honest, I have not made much of an effort to interact on here mainly because of the meet verified qualification. I understand there are probably weirdos on here and understand that but I think people don't reply when your not meet verified. Privacy & discretion are important for me as much as anyone but it seems if your not meet verified then chances of getting to meet someone are slim. Even the socials require this so it makes it very difficult. I don't want to jump into anything too quickly or want to sleep with the entire site,only looking for to have a coffee or whatever initially and see what happens from there, but seem to be behind the 8 ball from the start. Feel your frustration mate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We don't block many people (only 5 on our block list) but we had this guy blocked

He persistently bombarded us with messages despite our profile saying we didn't want single men

And even if we did want single males we aren't going to respond to a profile with no pics and short generic messages like 'hi' with absolutely no effort put in"

I don't just send "hi" messages to people!! We actually chatted for a while,not bombarded you with messages!!! And I think if you look at my last message to you, it was wishing ye the best of luck on fab and in the future!! Then you blocked me!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the same boat. Being honest, I have not made much of an effort to interact on here mainly because of the meet verified qualification. I understand there are probably weirdos on here and understand that but I think people don't reply when your not meet verified. Privacy & discretion are important for me as much as anyone but it seems if your not meet verified then chances of getting to meet someone are slim. Even the socials require this so it makes it very difficult. I don't want to jump into anything too quickly or want to sleep with the entire site,only looking for to have a coffee or whatever initially and see what happens from there, but seem to be behind the 8 ball from the start. Feel your frustration mate."

Can I ask why your on fab of your not making much of an effort to interact?

Being meet verified is only an issue for some people the majority will give you a chance, that of course relies on you actually interacting with people.

Its not that hard to get chatting to people if you make an effort either through your profile or on the forums or better yet both.

Try uploading a few more pics and making the profile text sound a little less generic

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By *hadowcookieCouple
over a year ago

Portlaoise

"We don't block many people (only 5 on our block list) but we had this guy blocked

He persistently bombarded us with messages despite our profile saying we didn't want single men

And even if we did want single males we aren't going to respond to a profile with no pics and short generic messages like 'hi' with absolutely no effort put in

But it took a few messages for you to realise, we also get 'not interested' messages and we DON'T message these people again.. And there are thousands of single males here so unfortunately it's gonna be difficult to get someone's attention... The best messages are the polite, complimentary ones.. And of course if there are no pics most people won't bother.. Why would they when they have thousands to choose from?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We don't block many people (only 5 on our block list) but we had this guy blocked

He persistently bombarded us with messages despite our profile saying we didn't want single men

And even if we did want single males we aren't going to respond to a profile with no pics and short generic messages like 'hi' with absolutely no effort put in

I was just chatting!!! Anyway, I still wish you the best of luck on fab and in the future!!

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By *hadowcookieCouple
over a year ago

Portlaoise

"We don't block many people (only 5 on our block list) but we had this guy blocked

He persistently bombarded us with messages despite our profile saying we didn't want single men

And even if we did want single males we aren't going to respond to a profile with no pics and short generic messages like 'hi' with absolutely no effort put in

I was just chatting!!! Anyway, I still wish you the best of luck on fab and in the future!!

LOL.. So do we, all we were trying to say is our time is limited and I find it difficult enough trying to chat to people we are meeting.. Much prefer a meet than a long time texting xx

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By *ellowguy13Man
over a year ago

Sligo Leitrim

Fair points, accepted,but it is kind of off putting, just sayin...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fair points, accepted,but it is kind of off putting, just sayin..."

If your put off go elsewhere,

Not to sound like a dick but if its for for you try tinder of pof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All is good I'm going to look after the op lol

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By *icole FanningTV/TS
over a year ago

Navan

"All is good I'm going to look after the op lol

Gotta love the community spirit here

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By *hostheman1972Man
over a year ago

tipperary

Its just simple maths, with so many guys,i find it very difficult , there is a balancing act between been chatty and not too pushy, its a fine line. Or could it be that been seen as not been pushy is seen as too laid back and not putting in an effort.

Rant over

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By *ellowguy13Man
over a year ago

Sligo Leitrim

Ja think u might be overreacting there a tad ?

Little too clinical perhaps ?

Jeez, how long since you had some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rude just saying

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

"Its just simple maths, with so many guys,i find it very difficult , there is a balancing act between been chatty and not too pushy, its a fine line. Or could it be that been seen as not been pushy is seen as too laid back and not putting in an effort.

Rant over

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Forget about the ratio & amount of women to men, etc...

If you make an effort here with your profile, pics, intros, etc and be charming yet cheeky

, you'll get more action that you'll know what to do with

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Country West

I was chatting to a few women in my local they were nice and friendly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the comments.

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