FabSwingers.com forum: Wedding vows???

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do married couples who wont see an attached guy playing alone see it as a breach of their wedding vows????

i really dont get what the issue is!!!!!!!!!

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The couples who are married are also breaking their wedding vows lol, poor singles get it in the neck evry time m8.. just cant win lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the partner of the married man or woman knows of their spouses activity on a swinging site then we don't have a problem with it.

....we will always ask to speak to the wife/husband first so they can confirm they are happy for their partner to play without them.

We've not had to speak to anyone's spouse so far as we have had plenty of 'true' singles to choose from

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast

tbh its not abt not wanting to see single guys who plays alone, its abt wot the guys message that turns to put them off.in this site there r lots of single guys so couple turn 2 approach the ones they wanna play with.I personally wont even care if a person is married or not.its not my business as we r just aftr nsa fun.Just looking for sumone who is discreet,fun and respectful.i hope this is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its nothing to do with vows or breaking of them, its the shit that hits the fan when the " single" mans other half finds out about him playing away,now of course if he is playing with full permisson thats another outlook, surely honesty is the best policy in all cases, i.e. putting on profile married but cheating, or married but playing with consent,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have thought that from the point of view of "Discretion" that meeting attached people would make more sense, and that they would be far less likely to rock anyones boat if things didn't work out for them...

Anyone that I know of, that has had a problem in this lifestyle, it has generally seemed to be with a single person.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

feck, we must be real bad.... we dont even need to know peoples names never mind if therye married lol

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

still none the wiser,,,,,,,,,

swingingnumber 1rule i would guess is discretion,,,what is morediscrete than a guyplaying away......

how many times do you hear of single men falling for the female and it all gets very messy and complicated...

no harm to single men but how clean is your willy,,,,a married or attached guy will always be super clean ,,,,,,,

i'm sorry but there has yet to be a good reason presented on this ubject,,,apart from the cheating element which in a swinging relationship who is cheating who??????

rant over

alan

feel free to message me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"feck, we must be real bad.... we dont even need to know peoples names never mind if therye married lol"

Lmao @ Abbeys..

GodI wish I lived closer to ye.. what a great no crap attitude..lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"still none the wiser,,,,,,,,,

swingingnumber 1rule i would guess is discretion,,,what is morediscrete than a guyplaying away......

how many times do you hear of single men falling for the female and it all gets very messy and complicated...

no harm to single men but how clean is your willy,,,,a married or attached guy will always be super clean ,,,,,,,

i'm sorry but there has yet to be a good reason presented on this ubject,,,apart from the cheating element which in a swinging relationship who is cheating who??????

rant over

alan

feel free to message me lol"

Apart from not wanting to be a part of someone else's misery if a wife was to find out...other things to put us of would be...timescale that a married man has to stick to...clock watching while playing....not being able to call them if we fancied a meet on the spur of the moment....guilt about the wife sat at home while I am fucking her hubby....calls from the wife if she found out etc etc.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Oh and being asked did we have somwhere were the dog could curl up as he was meant to be taking the dog for a walk ...I kid you not.

( he wasn't from this site )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rugby.. hes me thinkin you were a complete baiiitch... your a nice person for a Moderator lol

xx jesus, i hope i dont get banned for this ffs... you were good to that fella lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I see it is a married guy will tell no one.A single guy will tell his mates down the pub and brag about it.A married guy is more discreet and has more to loose. Just cause someone is married don,t mean the're not into sex.Have a female fuck buddy don't see her often but the sex is ace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For discretion etc the married man option seems your best bet . I once read a footballers biography and he always picked married women for his bit on the side. Only when he hooked up with a single did it hit the fan. Hard to argue with a pro footballer when it comes to nsa sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each and everyone too there own ,

im married wife hasnt slept with me for over a year now, i'v tryed everything to get her interested again to no avail, so i joined here does that make me a bad man, i have my needs to

happy new year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find it interesting when someone's profile has that they wont meet attached men but are into dogging. I thought a large part of that appeal was the anonymity of sex with strangers but i guess that is only half the appeal.

It must be great being in a relationship when both partners are so open minded but that's not the case for everyone so playing away is the only option. You can love someone but have different sexual drives/interests.

Sex should be like a hobby - if you want to play golf and your wife isnt into golf then you play with someone else

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By *essesCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

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By *essesCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

"The way I see it is a married guy will tell no one.A single guy will tell his mates down the pub and brag about it.A married guy is more discreet and has more to loose. Just cause someone is married don,t mean the're not into sex.Have a female fuck buddy don't see her often but the sex is ace."

Yes a married man might be discreet but I bet if his wife found out she wouldn't be!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just find the whole married guy thing a massive turnoff its a swinging site not cheating site,as for discretion always find the genuine single guys very discreet and greatfull so wouldnt touch a married man with a barge pole!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"I always find it interesting when someone's profile has that they wont meet attached men but are into dogging. I thought a large part of that appeal was the anonymity of sex with strangers but i guess that is only half the appeal.

You are assuming that all doggers play with people in dogging sites, some of us just played inside the car and let others watch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ah here now, married cheating lad are super clean and dnt tell there mates, there far more likely 2 hav sumting if they cheat and as a man i can tell u ladies ur hubbys mates will always know if hes cheating, plus the no1 rule is not discretion its that all partys are happy with the situation and the wife isnt, lads ur just digging a hole here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

still no wiser!!!!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

any more input or suggestions?????????

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

any more input or suggestions?????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Friend, like most threads on here, there are no right or wrong answers......it is choice....pure and simple

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By *unterslickCouple
over a year ago

tullamore

"feck, we must be real bad.... we dont even need to know peoples names never mind if therye married lol

xxx"

lol,,im not telling you and dont ask again,lol

well we had a male here last night,,hes part of a couple,but we swing with them so no probs there,and me and j aint married yet,but will continue to swing even after the vows,its not a breach as long as all are happy with it thats our opinion anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt any reason that people give will be acceptable to the OP, plenty of good valid reasons already given, the OP just sounds frustrated that people are put off by the fact he's married and cheating, a lot of people don't want to have your infidelity on their conscience , is that really so hard for you to fathom???

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

why should we want to meet someone that doesnt give a shit about their own relationship?

what respect would they show to ours or our boundaries?

thats why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree lovedup it's about respect and cheating shows a real lack of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, I'm not part of a couple but my reasons for not wanting to meet an attached man:

- I want to meet at a public place for the first time for safety reasons. Attached men don't want to do this as they could be seen

- I like regular fun, but attached guys can't be reached easily. I'm not allowed to text or call them. But on the other hand they expect full flexibility from me. They want me to be available within short notice

- Guilt; mine and theirs

- Fear she finds out and comes after me

These are my personal reasons. I don't know though why a married man is supposed to be cleaner than a single guy? I know of married guys who fuck plenty of women without protection.

I don't judge married women or men who are cheating on their partners. I just don't want to be part of it, if I can avoid it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok, I'm not part of a couple but my reasons for not wanting to meet an attached man:

- I want to meet at a public place for the first time for safety reasons. Attached men don't want to do this as they could be seen

- Guilt; mine and theirs

- Fear she finds out and comes after me

These are my personal reasons. I don't know though why a married man is supposed to be cleaner than a single guy? I know of married guys who fuck plenty of women without protection.

I don't judge married women or men who are cheating on their partners. I just don't want to be part of it, if I can avoid it. "

I agree with this post,its a bit of a generalisation to say married/attached are "ultra clean" I never have sex without protection....and as i said it is each members choice if they are happy to met you or not.....be a sad place if we all liked or behaved the same.....same is true for life in general

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be nice to be able to sit and be judgemental and generalise everyone in the same category.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say I generalise or make judgements I'm far from perfect myself, but it works both ways, if people are on this site who are attached but playing alone they shouldnt get annoyed if they get turned down due to this which is what.the OP seems to be saying. Everyone has a right to their own opinion surely as long as they are not rude about it.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

yep, its not about being judgemental, but ateotd if the marriage is so irretrievable that either member feels the need to fuck someone else, then have the balls to end it, rather than destroy the person you are leaving behind!

we have both been in relationships where the other person decided to do this, and we will NOT have any part of it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the important thing to remember is that people have all kinds of reasons for being in that particular situation so I think it is unfair to demonise people. Not one of us has yet lived a perfect life. However the attitude the OP has about it does get my back up lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And what about if the marriage is great but there are other reasons...if a husband had an accident and was impotent..if a wife had vaginismus..or there were other extenuating circumstances?

Should they just walk away from each other then?

I just think it's very easy to see things in black and white when sometimes there are other shades to be considered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the important thing to remember is that people have all kinds of reasons for being in that particular situation so I think it is unfair to demonise people. Not one of us has yet lived a perfect life. However the attitude the OP has about it does get my back up lol."

Yeah i totally agree nylons

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its about trust. If a person lying to there partner/wife/husband, what else will they lye about? . This site is about swinging, not illicit affairs.

And why should we, people who have open relationships and are at ease with our partners, partake and be willing players in affairs, deceit and hurt that another person is causing?

There are sites for those wishing illicit affairs. This is not one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"feck, we must be real bad.... we dont even need to know peoples names never mind if therye married lol

xxx"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well for us the rule is if its a couple profile we want to talk to the other person in person first even over coffee. Single profile its their relationship not ours that will be in trouble.

We would meet them anyway if we want to.

We are married and dont view our swinging as cheating as we do it together. But that is just us and our choice.

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