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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

Just wondering if there is any one on here that was adopted if the want to chat here or private

I know it's a bit off the topic for here anyway

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I was adopted?

You? Any particular interest?

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By *yeCandyDublinCouple
over a year ago

Lucan

So was I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sure there are quite a few of us around,

Is there a particular reason why the interest?

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By *anysicoMan
over a year ago

cork

Me too, this catholic country is full of us , we are special

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

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By *accorkMan
over a year ago

cork

Me too , they give away all the good ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm Not adopted op, but touched by your post, and it's good to talk, yes it's a sex site but theres more important things to get off your chest...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me too , they give away all the good ones "

I concur !

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

Just wondering what anyone thought if your parents got married after giving you up for adoption is there anyone in that situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I was adopted

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By *accorkMan
over a year ago

cork

Some are disturbed, angry , whatever, put it behind and look forward, i was a lucky one

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By *adylover321Man
over a year ago

navan

Me too

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city


"Some are disturbed, angry , whatever, put it behind and look forward, i was a lucky one "

you were, these days you'd just be aborted. Must be weird knowing that.

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

Yes it is,plenty of it back then more weird that i found out parents got married after

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"Yes it is,plenty of it back then more weird that i found out parents got married after"
I know of someone very similar there parents went on and got married after putting the child up for adoption... had another child but the father wouldn't except the child in later years evdn though it was his biological daughter as he was not married to her mum at the time he rejected her again in adulthood.

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge


"Yes it is,plenty of it back then more weird that i found out parents got married after I know of someone very similar there parents went on and got married after putting the child up for adoption... had another child but the father wouldn't except the child in later years evdn though it was his biological daughter as he was not married to her mum at the time he rejected her again in adulthood. "

That's just cold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it is,plenty of it back then more weird that i found out parents got married after I know of someone very similar there parents went on and got married after putting the child up for adoption... had another child but the father wouldn't except the child in later years evdn though it was his biological daughter as he was not married to her mum at the time he rejected her again in adulthood.

That's just cold."

Rejecting her is definitely out of guilt.. sad situation!

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge


"Yes it is,plenty of it back then more weird that i found out parents got married after I know of someone very similar there parents went on and got married after putting the child up for adoption... had another child but the father wouldn't except the child in later years evdn though it was his biological daughter as he was not married to her mum at the time he rejected her again in adulthood.

That's just cold.

Rejecting her is definitely out of guilt.. sad situation!"

My eldest brother is Adopted. He tried to track his mother and succeed after the Nuns fed him lies for years and years.

But unfortunately she did not wish to make contact back.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"Yes it is,plenty of it back then more weird that i found out parents got married after I know of someone very similar there parents went on and got married after putting the child up for adoption... had another child but the father wouldn't except the child in later years evdn though it was his biological daughter as he was not married to her mum at the time he rejected her again in adulthood.

That's just cold.

Rejecting her is definitely out of guilt.. sad situation!

My eldest brother is Adopted. He tried to track his mother and succeed after the Nuns fed him lies for years and years.

But unfortunately she did not wish to make contact back. "
that's sad too but parents don't have to be biologically related I'm sure your brother was well loved by his parents who cared for him all his life.

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

Yes it must be guilt,i was regected be both parents even do the went on to have more children

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge


"Yes it is,plenty of it back then more weird that i found out parents got married after I know of someone very similar there parents went on and got married after putting the child up for adoption... had another child but the father wouldn't except the child in later years evdn though it was his biological daughter as he was not married to her mum at the time he rejected her again in adulthood.

That's just cold.

Rejecting her is definitely out of guilt.. sad situation!

My eldest brother is Adopted. He tried to track his mother and succeed after the Nuns fed him lies for years and years.

But unfortunately she did not wish to make contact back. that's sad too but parents don't have to be biologically related I'm sure your brother was well loved by his parents who cared for him all his life. "

Indeed he was and still is.

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By *orny guy !Man
over a year ago

waterford / tipperary


"Yes it is,plenty of it back then more weird that i found out parents got married after I know of someone very similar there parents went on and got married after putting the child up for adoption... had another child but the father wouldn't except the child in later years evdn though it was his biological daughter as he was not married to her mum at the time he rejected her again in adulthood.

That's just cold.

Rejecting her is definitely out of guilt.. sad situation!

My eldest brother is Adopted. He tried to track his mother and succeed after the Nuns fed him lies for years and years.

But unfortunately she did not wish to make contact back. that's sad too but parents don't have to be biologically related I'm sure your brother was well loved by his parents who cared for him all his life. "

I have an older sister that i only found out about before Christmas gone , she was adopted out of a mother & baby home back in the day. I got some shock when she managed to contact me because i never knew anything about it. All good now though. The mother since passed on but didn’t want to meet her when contacted. I thought that so wrong, but some people that’s just their way.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

It's not really that cold to not want to contact someone you gave up for adoption.

There is no need to paint them as bad people.

Its a bit of a non starter to expect them to throw the door open with a hug when someone comes to find them, this should not be an expectation to have.

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By *yeCandyDublinCouple
over a year ago

Lucan


"It's not really that cold to not want to contact someone you gave up for adoption.

There is no need to paint them as bad people.

Its a bit of a non starter to expect them to throw the door open with a hug when someone comes to find them, this should not be an expectation to have."

Can I ask are you adopted?

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By *orny guy !Man
over a year ago

waterford / tipperary

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By *ark44xMan
over a year ago

Antrim

Me too

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By *acknnoraCouple
over a year ago

north cork


"It's not really that cold to not want to contact someone you gave up for adoption.

There is no need to paint them as bad people.

Its a bit of a non starter to expect them to throw the door open with a hug when someone comes to find them, this should not be an expectation to have.

Can I ask are you adopted? "

I disagree it’s awfully cold

I know catholic Ireland ruled this country but after carrying a child for 9 months giving birth to it seeing it and to have had no choice to give it up for adoption would break me anyway

Maybe it’s the older generation were a tougher breed than us but how could you close the door on your own flesh and blood I’m sure you would be wondering all their life were they ok were they treated well did the parents they get adore them as much as I would have had..?

I watch the lost families on tv and every story breaks my heart but to see them reunite is amazing best of luck to all of you

Nora xxx

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city


"I disagree it’s awfully cold

I know catholic Ireland ruled this country but after carrying a child for 9 months giving birth to it seeing it and to have had no choice to give it up for adoption would break me anyway

Maybe it’s the older generation were a tougher breed than us but how could you close the door on your own flesh and blood I’m sure you would be wondering all their life were they ok were they treated well did the parents they get adore them as much as I would have had..?

I watch the lost families on tv and every story breaks my heart but to see them reunite is amazing best of luck to all of you

Nora xxx

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Can I ask if aborting the baby would break you? With liberal left wings ruling the country you feel the new accepted view that if you don't want them they are not even a life form, that you can have their spine snipped and have them thrown in a bin is less cold?

These people are such cold bastards for seeing it as a life growing inside them and giving that life a chance, they are monsters.

It's great that you enjoy TV shows made to thug at your heart, but it should not be the expected or default view that reuniting should happen and anyone who does not is cold. It's more like a hard decision and they have accepted their stance a long time ago, and they can probably look themselves in the mirror easier than all the non catholic liberals who have to seek out mental health care after aborting their babies.

But that's just my view.

Giving up for abortion is good, not being able to or wanting to reunite is fine.

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By *acknnoraCouple
over a year ago

north cork


"I disagree it’s awfully cold

I know catholic Ireland ruled this country but after carrying a child for 9 months giving birth to it seeing it and to have had no choice to give it up for adoption would break me anyway

Maybe it’s the older generation were a tougher breed than us but how could you close the door on your own flesh and blood I’m sure you would be wondering all their life were they ok were they treated well did the parents they get adore them as much as I would have had..?

I watch the lost families on tv and every story breaks my heart but to see them reunite is amazing best of luck to all of you

Nora xxx

Can I ask if aborting the baby would break you? With liberal left wings ruling the country you feel the new accepted view that if you don't want them they are not even a life form, that you can have their spine snipped and have them thrown in a bin is less cold?

These people are such cold bastards for seeing it as a life growing inside them and giving that life a chance, they are monsters.

It's great that you enjoy TV shows made to thug at your heart, but it should not be the expected or default view that reuniting should happen and anyone who does not is cold. It's more like a hard decision and they have accepted their stance a long time ago, and they can probably look themselves in the mirror easier than all the non catholic liberals who have to seek out mental health care after aborting their babies.

But that's just my view.

Giving up for abortion is good, not being able to or wanting to reunite is fine."

Yes it would I have had four kids and miscarried one in which took me a long time to get over

Before you bite back maybe think what ppl have gone through

I gave my opinion only it’s a terror you felt it ok to hump down my throat for that

This thread was open to discuss adoption not abortion

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By *anysicoMan
over a year ago

cork

Well said , i was one of the lucky ones that got a good home , with lots of love

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By *acknnoraCouple
over a year ago

north cork


"Well said , i was one of the lucky ones that got a good home , with lots of love "

Yes Dany that you were one as your such a fantastic guy and so glad to call you our friend xxx

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By *adylover321Man
over a year ago

navan

I was if anyone would like too chat

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

Nobody wanted me when I was a baba

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Both adopted here. We would adopt if we didn't have too many kids already

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By *o strings but a G-stringMan
over a year ago

city


"Just wondering what anyone thought if your parents got married after giving you up for adoption is there anyone in that situation "

I know a guy in that sition. Turned out to have 5 full siblimgs and gets on great with both his families. Circumstanced led his parents to giving him for adoption and him having a second set of loving parents

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

Ya I'm

Adopted my birth mother traces me 5 years ago..I'm one of the lucky ones I got the fairytale ending..: a whole new amazing family

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By *ustin 100Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Both adopted here. We would adopt if we didn't have too many kids already "
we adopted both our kids i think of their birth mother's everyday and thank them for their courage,

They gave us two wonderful happy healthy people,we encourage them everyday to rembered their birth mother's,we feel so lucky to be given such an opportunity

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By *rusader1Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Both adopted here. We would adopt if we didn't have too many kids already we adopted both our kids i think of their birth mother's everyday and thank them for their courage,

They gave us two wonderful happy healthy people,we encourage them everyday to rembered their birth mother's,we feel so lucky to be given such an opportunity"

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Have you tried contacting them op?

Children before marriage here was a big no no back in the day

Your mother could have been very young and unaware she was pregnant til it was too late to plan a wedding,a wedding with a bump would have been scandalous in some areas here up until very recently really

Her parents would have had a very big say in what happened to you too I'm sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's so horrible to see how people clutched to conservative lifestyles for so long despite the serious damage it continued to cause.

Looking back to when I was a kid and things my dad would do and say sickens me. Highly religious but so callous because he was so brainwashed by the church.

OP, if you haven't already I'd check in with a counsellor for some guidance and to release some of your thoughts. Although speaking to someone with similar experiences is helpful, it may not give you the answers professional counselling could give you.

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

Thanks for all the replys guys, the church here in ireland had a lot to answer

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was too. I have been lucky enough to have found my birth Mum and Dad. We gave a great relationship now. I found out I have 2 sisters and a brother. Both my parents are still together. My Mum was 14 when when she got pregnant with my Dad. Once she gave birth her parents put me up for adoption.

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

That was a great outcome, so delighted for u,can't say the same myself all though my parents are still together

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By *onygirl19Woman
over a year ago

co dublin

A very good friend of mine had a similar situation. He was given up for adoption and his parents later married and had other children . Him birth mother is in contact with his adopted mother and he has met her over the years but his loyalty lies with his adopted parents . His birth mother is desperate to have a closer relationship with him , but he just doesn’t feel it . And I get the sense that his birth father isn’t that interested . It’s really really complicated . I feel for everyone in these situations . It’s not easy , and most of the time we really shouldn’t judge unless we’re in it and know the situation . It was pretty shit years ago if you got pregnant outside marriage .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it is,plenty of it back then more weird that i found out parents got married after I know of someone very similar there parents went on and got married after putting the child up for adoption... had another child but the father wouldn't except the child in later years evdn though it was his biological daughter as he was not married to her mum at the time he rejected her again in adulthood. "

That's just too sad & upsetting He's a little messed up

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By *urpleheartxxxWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere different


"I disagree it’s awfully cold

I know catholic Ireland ruled this country but after carrying a child for 9 months giving birth to it seeing it and to have had no choice to give it up for adoption would break me anyway

Maybe it’s the older generation were a tougher breed than us but how could you close the door on your own flesh and blood I’m sure you would be wondering all their life were they ok were they treated well did the parents they get adore them as much as I would have had..?

I watch the lost families on tv and every story breaks my heart but to see them reunite is amazing best of luck to all of you

Nora xxx

Can I ask if aborting the baby would break you? With liberal left wings ruling the country you feel the new accepted view that if you don't want them they are not even a life form, that you can have their spine snipped and have them thrown in a bin is less cold?

These people are such cold bastards for seeing it as a life growing inside them and giving that life a chance, they are monsters.

It's great that you enjoy TV shows made to thug at your heart, but it should not be the expected or default view that reuniting should happen and anyone who does not is cold. It's more like a hard decision and they have accepted their stance a long time ago, and they can probably look themselves in the mirror easier than all the non catholic liberals who have to seek out mental health care after aborting their babies.

But that's just my view.

Giving up for abortion is good, not being able to or wanting to reunite is fine.

Yes it would I have had four kids and miscarried one in which took me a long time to get over

Before you bite back maybe think what ppl have gone through

I gave my opinion only it’s a terror you felt it ok to hump down my throat for that

This thread was open to discuss adoption not abortion "

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a shitty society we used to live in when families and young parents felt this was forced upon them.

What a pathetic establishment the catholic church is/was to support and condone this.

Its embarassing.

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

True words there lad

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

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By *oryou47 OP   Man
over a year ago

carlow

Bump

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