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Should a husband have to beg his wife for sex??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just as title suggests!

Should a married man have to beg his wife for sex?

Had a conversation with a friend recently and his wife keeps ducking out on sex. She keeps giving him the excuse 'she is tired' and when he brings up the topic of sex she tells him that he is being too pushy!

Any thoughts?

I've told him to sit her down and ask her what she expects from their relationship sexually and for him to tell her what he would like??

Barring joining here and looking for some, what are his options? Or has anyone been down this road before???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of desire for sex can result from many different things, including other issues in the relationship. The best thing your friend could probably do is express to his wife how the lack of sex is making him feel and suggest they attend counselling together. Chances are the lack of sex is a symptom rather than the cause of something amiss in the marriage.

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By *asterIrelandMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

I never begged for sex.. A men should if that's the kimd of relationship he is in...

However it doesn't seem this the kind of topic.

In time i learned terminating relationships that were becoming sexless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's absolutely soul destroying to be with a partner or husband that has zilch interest in having a physical relationship together. I lasted 3 years,the last 3 in marriage before I decided to leave. I admire your friend for at least trying to address the problem. It is sadly a symptom I think,as in something going wrong in their relationship. In my case it was an affair which I only found out about when I left marriage.So in other words there's a reason for her lack of interest, he just needs to find out exactly what it is..xx

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By *ombikerMan
over a year ago

the right side of the river

Maybe he might not be having sex but she might be

Or am I just a wee bit mistrusting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a question anyone can really answer as no one knows what's going on in anyone's relationship. Maybe he's talking shite looking a sympathy vote

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she really is tired? Some women work, juggle kids and school, have a house to clean, washing to do, mouths to feed and sometimes they just get tired. If you think this might be her, tell him to help more with the house and get a babysitter, get her to dress up, take her out on dates again and remind her why she loves him. The spark might just return.

Or Dombiker could be right and she is getting it elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe she really is tired? Some women work, juggle kids and school, have a house to clean, washing to do, mouths to feed and sometimes they just get tired. If you think this might be her, tell him to help more with the house and get a babysitter, get her to dress up, take her out on dates again and remind her why she loves him. The spark might just return.

Or Dombiker could be right and she is getting it elsewhere "

I totally agree with you.

The easy way is leaving a partner. Do whatever has to be done: your friend should start from the conversation with his wife first. Then if she agrees try both to fix it. It might be temporary lack of interest or even the symptom of depression. Please don't ignore anything. Of course sometimes there is nothing to fix but you wouldn't this know without trying.

Good luck to your friend! Marriage is an institution with lots of compromises

V.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Barring joining here and looking for some, what are his options

Getting some?? Do you think women on here are here to give married men what they aint getting from their wives. Sheesh

Tell him to leave her if shes not guna put out then get out. Thats not a marraige

Sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it.

Sounds like he wants asympathy vote

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin


"Lack of desire for sex can result from many different things, including other issues in the relationship. The best thing your friend could probably do is express to his wife how the lack of sex is making him feel and suggest they attend counselling together. Chances are the lack of sex is a symptom rather than the cause of something amiss in the marriage. "
This is good advice....I tried this with two series of counselling sessions over two years. A lot came out and was said. In the end though things didn't improve with our sexlife so the constant rejection led me to this site. One of the best decisions I've made was to take back control of my own sexuality. I'm a happier and calmer person since and if anything it has improved our realtor ship. Btw she knows I'm on here and meet but chooses to turn a blind eye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No he shouldnt have to beg

But she shouldnt have to give freely on demand either if she not fully up to it

It could be down to a number of factors

Health reasons

Emotinal reasons

Sometimes both men and women loose their sexual desires temporaily

It could be just that she dosent find him attractive anymore.this does happen

Best approach is sit down and talk to her about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asking or begging for sex is already kind of negative thing. Future have to look bright, conditions have to be right for mating

Every time he ask for sex and gets rejected - means he lost. After he loses enough times he becomes looser. Nobody likes losers.

He have to become stronger, have to stop saying weak things about himself.

If he styes in this type of relationship just for sake of saving relationship, he will turn into cuck.

He has to use logics and play her, get her excited. Christmas time makes girls horny ...

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Maybe he's a sheit fuck and she doesn't get much pleasure from it. So why have sex if you don't enjoy it?

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By *kblueeyesCouple
over a year ago

kilkenny

Some women loose their identity, after children maybe body image changes lack of confidence, or hey maybe she is not attracted to him any more,

Unless you ve walked in her shoes we can't judge or say

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By *eankaren88Couple
over a year ago

By the sea

There is Great TED talk about this topic called sexless marriage.

We recommend they watch this and a few others on TED talks.

Puts it All into perspective and understanding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's shagging someone else prob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just as title suggests!

Should a married man have to beg his wife for sex?

Had a conversation with a friend recently and his wife keeps ducking out on sex. She keeps giving him the excuse 'she is tired' and when he brings up the topic of sex she tells him that he is being too pushy!

Any thoughts?

I've told him to sit her down and ask her what she expects from their relationship sexually and for him to tell her what he would like??

Barring joining here and looking for some, what are his options? Or has anyone been down this road before???"

Well I don't think he should just join here to get some. He should talk to his wife. Could be any number of reasons, as people have pointed out already. His next step shouldn't be to just cheat on her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just as title suggests!

Should a married man have to beg his wife for sex?

Had a conversation with a friend recently and his wife keeps ducking out on sex. She keeps giving him the excuse 'she is tired' and when he brings up the topic of sex she tells him that he is being too pushy!

Any thoughts?

I've told him to sit her down and ask her what she expects from their relationship sexually and for him to tell her what he would like??

Barring joining here and looking for some, what are his options? Or has anyone been down this road before???

Well I don't think he should just join here to get some. He should talk to his wife. Could be any number of reasons, as people have pointed out already. His next step shouldn't be to just cheat on her "

Exactly, two wrongs dont make a right. And he will probably justify cheating by blaming her!

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