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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok this is not a fantasy it’s a real life situation I am currently in, One of my best friends has been with his girlfriend for over 5 years they have a great relationship and a lovely daughter.

I have been traveling the past year with work and been in Frankfurt a bit.

So a couple of weeks ago on his birthday they had booked a hotel room and done the usual relationship thing dinner drinks etc. I got a text around 3 am from him saying him and her have been talking about threesomes etc for quite sometime and because she knows you, You would be the only guy she would be comfortable with doing it for various reasons, so I said ok I would it hasn’t happened yet and they have been texting me on and off since trying to organize a date. She ya been sending me dirty snapchats and being honest it has been fun, this is all consensual and nothing is been doing behind anyone’s back.

My biggest fear is ruining a perfectly good friendship with him and there relationship. Has anyone ever been in a situation similar, not only as the 3rd party but have any couples done this involving a close friend?

Opinions and Experiences will be greatly appreciated either publicly on here or by DM.

Thanks in advance guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have done it and it's hot. No awkwardness after as its something we talked about for a while beforehand. Something so sexy about fucking my husbands friend and they loved sharing me sooo much naughtier imo than just organising a meet here. It's hot having a dirty secret than only us 3 know about at get togethers I'd say go for it. You'll be talking about the best bits at coffee the next morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And belive me their relationship is solid if they are thinking of swinging let alone swinging with a close friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok this is not a fantasy it’s a real life situation I am currently in, One of my best friends has been with his girlfriend for over 5 years they have a great relationship and a lovely daughter.

I have been traveling the past year with work and been in Frankfurt a bit.

So a couple of weeks ago on his birthday they had booked a hotel room and done the usual relationship thing dinner drinks etc. I got a text around 3 am from him saying him and her have been talking about threesomes etc for quite sometime and because she knows you, You would be the only guy she would be comfortable with doing it for various reasons, so I said ok I would it hasn’t happened yet and they have been texting me on and off since trying to organize a date. She ya been sending me dirty snapchats and being honest it has been fun, this is all consensual and nothing is been doing behind anyone’s back.

My biggest fear is ruining a perfectly good friendship with him and there relationship. Has anyone ever been in a situation similar, not only as the 3rd party but have any couples done this involving a close friend?

Opinions and Experiences will be greatly appreciated either publicly on here or by DM.

Thanks in advance guys. "

Recipe for disaster

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By *unnerbenMan
over a year ago

Dublin / Cork

I completely agree with Bonnies comments . I have had 3sums with friends and years ago I was in the couple that invited a friend in for a 3sum . I still talk about them threesomes to this day with the people. Hot memories forever and they seem solid in their relationship as doing it together . Ben

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I completely agree with Bonnies comments . I have had 3sums with friends and years ago I was in the couple that invited a friend in for a 3sum . I still talk about them threesomes to this day with the people. Hot memories forever and they seem solid in their relationship as doing it together . Ben "

Exactly so much hotter than inviting in a randomer too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact is it could go either way. It's a minefield. It could be great or it could fuck up what you all have already. That's the gamble...is it worth it?

L

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact is it could go either way. It's a minefield. It could be great or it could fuck up what you all have already. That's the gamble...is it worth it?

L

"

Just give the lady what she wants. A happy wife is a happy life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a friend when i qas in college we were close but not romantically.. many years later we ended up together briefly as there was always something, I was told dont get involve with friends unless you are willing to lose them. But I did it never worked and I am 1 friend short but it was fun while it lasted

NO RAGRETS !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a friend when i qas in college we were close but not romantically.. many years later we ended up together briefly as there was always something, I was told dont get involve with friends unless you are willing to lose them. But I did it never worked and I am 1 friend short but it was fun while it lasted

NO RAGRETS !!! "

No ragrets pmsl

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok this is not a fantasy it’s a real life situation I am currently in, One of my best friends has been with his girlfriend for over 5 years they have a great relationship and a lovely daughter.

I have been traveling the past year with work and been in Frankfurt a bit.

So a couple of weeks ago on his birthday they had booked a hotel room and done the usual relationship thing dinner drinks etc. I got a text around 3 am from him saying him and her have been talking about threesomes etc for quite sometime and because she knows you, You would be the only guy she would be comfortable with doing it for various reasons, so I said ok I would it hasn’t happened yet and they have been texting me on and off since trying to organize a date. She ya been sending me dirty snapchats and being honest it has been fun, this is all consensual and nothing is been doing behind anyone’s back.

My biggest fear is ruining a perfectly good friendship with him and there relationship. Has anyone ever been in a situation similar, not only as the 3rd party but have any couples done this involving a close friend?

Opinions and Experiences will be greatly appreciated either publicly on here or by DM.

Thanks in advance guys.

Recipe for disaster "

Care to elaborate on why you think it would be a disaster??

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I did this, married couple, both hot.

The girl picked me as one of the only guys they knew that she would be willing to do it with, and then he could get to pick a girl to try a fmf.

Went great, met two or three times, then got a text saying he was going to murder me. That if he ever seen me again he would kill me.

Replied "lol k"

Got a message from her later that day saying she was really sorry, that she asked him if we could meet alone without him, and he thought I proposed the idea, and she wouldnt be able to talk to me ever again.

That was the end of that, never talked to them ever again.

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin


"I completely agree with Bonnies comments . I have had 3sums with friends and years ago I was in the couple that invited a friend in for a 3sum . I still talk about them threesomes to this day with the people. Hot memories forever and they seem solid in their relationship as doing it together . Ben

Exactly so much hotter than inviting in a randomer too "

Feck, cause that was going to be my next question

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok just a little update we had a chat yesterday, I am meeting herself Saturday night out in Dublin as he is working shifts we had a good chat and I explained I do not want to be involved if there was any chance it could ruin a perfectly good relationship and family.

They both reassured me it is strictly just a one night thing and just sex. I suppose I can’t do anymore than that apart from turn up and try be a gentleman until we get back to the bedroom

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Hope it goes well for you. It will be very exciting.

I’d love that to happen to me (a cpl I know asking me to join them) it’s different with couples in here you just don’t have any background or history with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok just a little update we had a chat yesterday, I am meeting herself Saturday night out in Dublin as he is working shifts we had a good chat and I explained I do not want to be involved if there was any chance it could ruin a perfectly good relationship and family.

They both reassured me it is strictly just a one night thing and just sex. I suppose I can’t do anymore than that apart from turn up and try be a gentleman until we get back to the bedroom "

What are the chances that you are way better in bed than him? Is this your friends first time doing this? He has no idea how he will feel. Fantasy is very different from reality.

She might want more than one night. What if she develops feelings for her or you for her?

I guess you're going to find out.

Good luck

L

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok just a little update we had a chat yesterday, I am meeting herself Saturday night out in Dublin as he is working shifts we had a good chat and I explained I do not want to be involved if there was any chance it could ruin a perfectly good relationship and family.

They both reassured me it is strictly just a one night thing and just sex. I suppose I can’t do anymore than that apart from turn up and try be a gentleman until we get back to the bedroom

I suppose that’s all part of the risk involved, is it not the same for couples on here meeting guys?

What are the chances that you are way better in bed than him? Is this your friends first time doing this? He has no idea how he will feel. Fantasy is very different from reality.

She might want more than one night. What if she develops feelings for her or you for her?

I guess you're going to find out.

Good luck

L

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I suppose that’s the risk involved, is it not the same for couples meeting single guys or girls on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suppose that’s the risk involved, is it not the same for couples meeting single guys or girls on here?"

Yes, you're right it is the same in that outcomes can be similar. The only difference is the fact that you are already friends. You are not responsible for anything that happens in their relationship, that's their responsibility.

L

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

So you all meet up and in the moment you are into it and go for it, she has an amazing time, orgasms hard and often and in the process its obvious she has an experience the likes of which her husband has never watched or seen before.

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.thats whats awkward..if you're a randomer you leave the bedroom and thats that, they deal with whats next, but youre not a randomer..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So you all meet up and in the moment you are into it and go for it, she has an amazing time, orgasms hard and often and in the process its obvious she has an experience the likes of which her husband has never watched or seen before.

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.thats whats awkward..if you're a randomer you leave the bedroom and thats that, they deal with whats next, but youre not a randomer.. "

Do you think I should just avoid the situation

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal


"So you all meet up and in the moment you are into it and go for it, she has an amazing time, orgasms hard and often and in the process its obvious she has an experience the likes of which her husband has never watched or seen before.

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.thats whats awkward..if you're a randomer you leave the bedroom and thats that, they deal with whats next, but youre not a randomer..

Do you think I should just avoid the situation "

Hard to put yourself in someone elses shoes but my brain would be going exactly along the lines of my comment and personally i would avoid... but remember these are all simply other peoples opinions..trust your instincts

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It is a hard decision I will feel like a let down if I say no and I do feel guilty as the common saying goes bros before hoes.!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally speaking and from SOME experience I wouldn't cross that line. Anything could happen. I've known one of the couple falling for the other person and ending relationships and friendships forever. Not worth it just to get the leg over IMO.

But totally up to you. As I said it's just my opinion from personal experience and experiences of those around me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We invited my English girl friend to join us when she was visiting & staying with us last year.

We had an absolute ball & would do it again in a heart beat.

Jax died and went to heaven hahahaha.

As long as they are confident and secure in their relationship it shouldn't be an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suppose that’s the risk involved, is it not the same for couples meeting single guys or girls on here?"

If the couple is secure in their relationship and have discussed feelings and dos and donts they I don't think it should be an issue.

If they are insecure in any way id say run.

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By *ickheadcuntCouple
over a year ago

Cork Ireland

Done it three times now with a childhood friend. Been lucky enough that it hasn't caused any issues from all parties and we can laugh about it still. Happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have been in this situation and it has worked out well for all involved. No green eyed monster by any of us just good fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My personal experience on this is that my bf (at the time) became extremely jealous and regretted it later. However, they are still friends to this day.

If you are MASSIVELY attracted to her then do it. But if it's just to fulfil THEIR fantasy then I would avoid. Let them put the hard graft in of finding and building trust with a randomer. Don't risk it for a biscuit lol

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

Take the next step, and meet her. The thrill is in the expectation of something wonderful. Let them take responsibility for their relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take the next step, and meet her. The thrill is in the expectation of something wonderful. Let them take responsibility for their relationship. "

Wise words. You are not responsible for their relationship OP. Accept the offer in the spirit in which it’s made, but maybe check the ground rules first so there are no surprises.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve had a chat with both of them, I’m just a little bit weary as to how keen she seems on doing it from a woman’s perspective is this simply the thought of the forbidden apple kind of situation that makes it more exciting they have both made it clear it’s strictly just sex nothing more nothing less, and I am down for that.! The whole thing of being a good friend and saying no is still playing on my mind.

But... She has a great body and I’ve seen a few naughty snaps so far it has turned me on so I think I will go and give her my best

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By *ork3SomeCouple
over a year ago

BaileSexy

Our first foray into this world was a FFM with a friend of ours. We met multiple times until she morphed from friend to fuck buddy which was not anyone's original intention. That point coincided with her moving to Australia. She has since returned and we've met up as friends but would say friendship has definitely changed.

In your case can appreciate the allure and excitement of playing with the girl next door, curious to unwrap the whole package etc but would caution to bear in mind they have kids (even if ultimately that's their responsibility to fuck up...or not)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just an update.

It happened last night

I was out with some people and she was out with some of her friends

We eventually managed to sneak off together and spent about 6 hours together playing and having sex on and off it was really fun.

I got a text just now saying that was fun last night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an update.

It happened last night

I was out with some people and she was out with some of her friends

We eventually managed to sneak off together and spent about 6 hours together playing and having sex on and off it was really fun.

I got a text just now saying that was fun last night."

Sounds hot haha. They sound like a really strong couple who aren't afraid to explore their fantasies together. Told you it would be fun

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