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By *aughtyTippcpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nearby

This is to any grandparents on here

I'm about to become a grandmother for the first time in about 2/3 weeks, I seriously cannot wait

As excited as I am I'm also terrified. I want to help my daughter as much as I can with her baby

But I don't want her to feel like I'm overstepping the mark

My own mam was a great help, but in her way she sometimes made me feel like what I was doing wasn't good enough.

I really don't want to ever make my daughter feel like that. I know she's going to be an amazing mother

Is there an approach to help but not seem like an interfering busybody??

Tina

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I think help in little ways. When I had my first baby I was totally overwhelmed. The Mammy cooked up a whole load of dinners and put them in the freezer. It was best gift ever!

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By *aughtyTippcpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nearby


"Well I think help in little ways. When I had my first baby I was totally overwhelmed. The Mammy cooked up a whole load of dinners and put them in the freezer. It was best gift ever! "

Well she lives with me Rosy so the dinners are a certainty anyway thanks for your comment xx

Tina

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tina

I lived at home when had my son and my parents were a great support but they left me to it but if I needed help all I had to do was ask. So just sit her down and tell her.

Congrats on been a yummy granny you will love it and be an amazing Gran xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I think help in little ways. When I had my first baby I was totally overwhelmed. The Mammy cooked up a whole load of dinners and put them in the freezer. It was best gift ever!

Well she lives with me Rosy so the dinners are a certainty anyway thanks for your comment xx

Tina "

Lucky girl Tina having her Mammy so close to hand. Best of luck and enjoy the joy that it brings x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a parent or a granparent but really it just sounds like you need to actually tell her you want to be as supportive as possible witgout overstepping the mark.

At the end of the day its the dynamic betweem you two that will decide what is ok and what isnt.

I have friends with kids and the granparents seem way too overbearing but the parents love it.

Main thing is that your daughter knows its ok to tell you when she thinks your doing too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have the advantage of having the experience with your own mother... Remember how that felt and you will do great. Supportive but not smothering.

Delighted for you btw! Exciting times. Enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a parent or a granparent but really it just sounds like you need to actually tell her you want to be as supportive as possible witgout overstepping the mark.

At the end of the day its the dynamic betweem you two that will decide what is ok and what isnt.

I have friends with kids and the granparents seem way too overbearing but the parents love it.

Main thing is that your daughter knows its ok to tell you when she thinks your doing too much

"
Well is there no end to your talents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The dinners is a really good idea - they really helped a few years ago when my daughter was born! Don’t be afraid to take over feeding or nappy changing as she that will give her more confidence around you. Enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont worry you will be perfect,and she is lucky......just rember mother knows best...you will be there to help when it all seems over whelming..

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By *aughtyTippcpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nearby

We have an amazing relationship. I've always told my kids they can come to me about anything.

But my daughter is my only girl, and we just have this connection. We always have.

I've told her I'm here for her for everything she may need

You're all right, I just need to relax and enjoy my grandbaby and let my daughter come to me if she's feeling unsure about anything.

I was looking at it from my perspective as a young first time mother and the feeling of (for want of a better word) inadequacy when told I shouldn't be doing a certain thing "that way"

Thank u guys xxx

Tina

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stayed with my mum for the first 6 weeks after having mine and having her cook and washing all those tiny clothes was a godsend. It gave me a chance to bond with the baby and enjoy the whole experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is full of stages....wonderful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a parent or a granparent but really it just sounds like you need to actually tell her you want to be as supportive as possible witgout overstepping the mark.

At the end of the day its the dynamic betweem you two that will decide what is ok and what isnt.

I have friends with kids and the granparents seem way too overbearing but the parents love it.

Main thing is that your daughter knows its ok to tell you when she thinks your doing too much

Well is there no end to your talents. "

I'm glad your a fan

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By *ysteryman2009Man
over a year ago

Ireland


"This is to any grandparents on here

I'm about to become a grandmother for the first time in about 2/3 weeks, I seriously cannot wait

As excited as I am I'm also terrified. I want to help my daughter as much as I can with her baby

But I don't want her to feel like I'm overstepping the mark

My own mam was a great help, but in her way she sometimes made me feel like what I was doing wasn't good enough.

I really don't want to ever make my daughter feel like that. I know she's going to be an amazing mother

Is there an approach to help but not seem like an interfering busybody??

Tina "

Tina congrats to both of you, you will be a great Granny just as you were a Mammy. Go with the flow and what ever comes up deal with it in sensable calm manner.

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By *ensualandslow321Man
over a year ago

Tullamore


"Well I think help in little ways. When I had my first baby I was totally overwhelmed. The Mammy cooked up a whole load of dinners and put them in the freezer. It was best gift ever! "

That's exactly what I did when I became a grandfather for the first time in June. Small practical things make a huge difference

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By *aughtyTippcpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nearby

Thank you all so much for your kind comments

You've helped calm me down a lot and see I just need to be there for her, the way I had planned to

I just started over thinking I guess and got myself wound up, and slightly panicked, that I'd go overboard with the help

Tina

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas


"This is to any grandparents on here

I'm about to become a grandmother for the first time in about 2/3 weeks, I seriously cannot wait

As excited as I am I'm also terrified. I want to help my daughter as much as I can with her baby

But I don't want her to feel like I'm overstepping the mark

My own mam was a great help, but in her way she sometimes made me feel like what I was doing wasn't good enough.

I really don't want to ever make my daughter feel like that. I know she's going to be an amazing mother

Is there an approach to help but not seem like an interfering busybody??

Tina "

Tell her ull do the night feeds, she will be delighted , on a serious note, congratulations on becoming a grand parent, we had Mrs crazy daughter and her twins live with us for a year, ur better of leaving her to it as she will want to rear her child her way , she will ask for help when she needs it, the main thing is she knows yer there for her when she needs a hand

Mr crazy

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Just be there for her and help her when she asks .

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Just enjoy minding you new grandchild . You will have great fun . Congrats

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By *aughtyTippcpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nearby


"You have the advantage of having the experience with your own mother... Remember how that felt and you will do great. Supportive but not smothering.

Delighted for you btw! Exciting times. Enjoy x"

Thanks Geordie xx

That's what my panic was, I was afraid that I might be a bit too helpful and make her feel the same way I did

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By *aughtyTippcpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nearby


"This is to any grandparents on here

I'm about to become a grandmother for the first time in about 2/3 weeks, I seriously cannot wait

As excited as I am I'm also terrified. I want to help my daughter as much as I can with her baby

But I don't want her to feel like I'm overstepping the mark

My own mam was a great help, but in her way she sometimes made me feel like what I was doing wasn't good enough.

I really don't want to ever make my daughter feel like that. I know she's going to be an amazing mother

Is there an approach to help but not seem like an interfering busybody??

Tina

Tell her ull do the night feeds, she will be delighted , on a serious note, congratulations on becoming a grand parent, we had Mrs crazy daughter and her twins live with us for a year, ur better of leaving her to it as she will want to rear her child her way , she will ask for help when she needs it, the main thing is she knows yer there for her when she needs a hand

Mr crazy "

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have the advantage of having the experience with your own mother... Remember how that felt and you will do great. Supportive but not smothering.

Delighted for you btw! Exciting times. Enjoy x

Thanks Geordie xx

That's what my panic was, I was afraid that I might be a bit too helpful and make her feel the same way I did "

Nooo. You know exactly how to play it. Delighted for you x

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By *aughtyTippcpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nearby


"You have the advantage of having the experience with your own mother... Remember how that felt and you will do great. Supportive but not smothering.

Delighted for you btw! Exciting times. Enjoy x

Thanks Geordie xx

That's what my panic was, I was afraid that I might be a bit too helpful and make her feel the same way I did

Nooo. You know exactly how to play it. Delighted for you x"

Thank you so much xxxx

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