FabSwingers.com forum: Advice on full swaps

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all, my husband really wants to try a full swap but I’m afraid that he will be more attracted the other woman or it would damage our relationship, naturally I’m curious and would love to try it but how do people separate it from their normal love life? What’s the fun in seeing your partner with someone else? I know I should only do this if I’m sure so I don’t need that advice, just the advice of how people make it work and how not to let it effect your relationship, should I be offended that my husband wants sex with other women and wants me to be with other men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re questioning the dynamics of involving others and you think he may be attracted to someone of the opposite sex my advice is don’t do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would agree

both male and female need to want full swap - don't take one for the team so to speak

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By *ubcouple35Couple
over a year ago

North Dublin

Firstly everyone is different and all I can offer is an opinion.

If you think your partner just wants to fuck other women and wants you to fuck other guys too maybe make himself feel better about what he is doing then DON'T DO IT.

If however you both have spoken about the possible negative feelings that doing full swap could in some way harm your relationship then that is a good thing .Talk about all your fears and insecurities . When joining a swingrlers site the number one thing that a couple needs to have is 100% trust in each other and their relationship.

If this is a fantasy that you both share and you have a strong relationship based on trust then I would say do it . But with the right couple and if your not feeling it in the moment just say your not ready any real couple understand and would never pressure you no matter how far you've gone as should your partner .

As for how you will feel afterwards for us it's nothing like our own sex life not even close . It's good fun and we enjoy the sex when we get home from a meet reliving the fun we had . But then things just go back to normal and real life goes on .

We treat it as just a bit of fun and nothing else .

Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you so much, that was such a nice message and thank you for taking the time to write it, it really helped x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your having any doubts about a full swap.Then DONT do it .

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Maybe try going to a social first, get comfortable with some couples, talk to them and see if they have any advice. If ye feel good about it take it further, maybe just kissing and a bit of touching, if not then walk away, at least ye can say ye tried it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP

When I read your post my first thought was don't do it.

Your only here three weeks..relax..take things at your own pace. Do not feel pressured to do anything more than your 100% happy doing. You mentioned that your afraid he'd feel more attracted to the other women or it might affect your relationship. These are two huge things. Fab should never come between a cpl. Talk to him about how you feel.

I don't believe there is a woman on here that hasn't thought the same thing so yes your concerns are not unique but they should only be passing thoughts and should not consume you. Fab experiences should be fun..when they stop being fun its time to stop.

In my experience and from talking to other cpls,most do not start off with full swap. That's something that develops over time on here and when both want to explore other fantasies.

Just don't over think it,but make sure your certain first as there is nothing worse than regret.

Mrs S x

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By *ubcouple35Couple
over a year ago

North Dublin

"Thank you so much, that was such a nice message and thank you for taking the time to write it, it really helped x "

Your welcome. Any time . Glad it helped . You will find that the genuine people on fab are always happy to share advice and help fellow fabbers out .

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By *arkandEm14Couple
over a year ago

dublin

Dubcouple35 hit the nail on the head. You both need to want it because if you meet experienced couples and they feel the tension between both you two they will stop. Swapping is all about trust and looking out for one another but also having fun. Swinging may not be for you guys yet. Take it slow. The fun life is going nowhere x

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Dubcouple35 hit the nail on the head. You both need to want it because if you meet experienced couples and they feel the tension between both you two they will stop. Swapping is all about trust and looking out for one another but also having fun. Swinging may not be for you guys yet. Take it slow. The fun life is going nowhere x"

Another great post just like _ubcouple35

We have been there before and right in the throws of it one of the other felt off . So we stopped everything straight away and talked

. It ended up a fantasy nite

Mr dirty xx

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

"If you’re questioning the dynamics of involving others and you think he may be attracted to someone of the opposite sex my advice is don’t do it. "

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

If you have any doubts don't do it . I watched a partner with another guy and I was turned on like nothing before . You have to make rules .

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By *itcouple40Couple
over a year ago

Kerry

You guys have webcamed a bit so it would seem you are not that shy about others watching so maybe a soft swap meet with the right couple would be the best start for you both. Meet the other couple for a coffee and a chat and discuss with them what you are comfortable with. You can plan a separate play meet on a different day if you are all comfortable with each other and attracted to each other. If you do go ahead with a soft swap meet and the night is going well then take a break and go somewhere quiet like the bathroom and talk to your partner about how you are feeling and if both of you are comfortable to go any further. If your partner is anything like a lot of the male halves on the scene he will be more turned on watching you. However like most of the people above have said if you yourself are not comfortable with being with someone else or your partner being with someone else then leave it at a soft swap for that night. Go home and talk about your experience on the night and then you can discuss in a no pressure atmosphere if you are both comfortable with taking the next step.

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By *rishcouple12Couple
over a year ago

Cork County

"You guys have webcamed a bit so it would seem you are not that shy about others watching so maybe a soft swap meet with the right couple would be the best start for you both. Meet the other couple for a coffee and a chat and discuss with them what you are comfortable with. You can plan a separate play meet on a different day if you are all comfortable with each other and attracted to each other. If you do go ahead with a soft swap meet and the night is going well then take a break and go somewhere quiet like the bathroom and talk to your partner about how you are feeling and if both of you are comfortable to go any further. If your partner is anything like a lot of the male halves on the scene he will be more turned on watching you. However like most of the people above have said if you yourself are not comfortable with being with someone else or your partner being with someone else then leave it at a soft swap for that night. Go home and talk about your experience on the night and then you can discuss in a no pressure atmosphere if you are both comfortable with taking the next step."

100% agree with above

Webcam can be fun and a nice step into world of fab , but remember it's different from a body to body play meet.

So don't rush the next step or jump steps .

Do a social meet, and discuss how ye felt and the horny possibilities...and if it feels right take the next step.

We have always taken things slowly and may have put some people off but at end of day we answer to ourselves, same goes for ye. Only do what ye are both comfortable with.

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