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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Did you ever receive a negative verification? Of course you won't have displayed it! So what is the point of them when they're pretty much full of shit? I once met a guy who turned up with a big stain on the front of his shirt. Couldn't look me in the eye while we spoke (it's like he was looking over my shoulder!) and barely made any effort in said conversation. (But we did have sex.) I didn't bother to verify him. But yet he has close to 30 verifications saying how great he is and how big his dick is (it isn't!)... Anyway, I know this topic has been done to death...but hey!!

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?"

My thoughts too...

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?"

Got to agree with that.. why?

I’d never leave a negative veri, I’d just leave no veri.

I’ve also met guys that had amazing veris for me to go.. what the hell were they talking about..

I’m sure some guys have met me and gone.. whaaaat???

Veris are very subjective..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?"

Did you not read the big dick great in bed part... he cpuld have been Don Juan dressed as Don Juan't Wash

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?

Did you not read the big dick great in bed part... he cpuld have been Don Juan dressed as Don Juan't Wash"

Doesn't matter how big his dick was if there's no attraction I just couldn't just have sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ugh I couldn’t have sex just cause if someone can’t even hold a conversation that definitely is not a knicker dropper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No attraction no fun simple even wit a big dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?

Did you not read the big dick great in bed part... he cpuld have been Don Juan dressed as Don Juan't Wash

Doesn't matter how big his dick was if there's no attraction I just couldn't just have sex "

I was being a little facetious....

I do agree if the attraction isn't there its a bit strange to continue with the meet.

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By *razy-88Man
over a year ago

Belfast-carlingford

Funny how this thread has just turned from negative veris into why did you have sex with!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?"

I'll be honest. I was very "green" and had put myself into a situation where it was just easier to go along with it. Not proud of it! You live and you learn

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Funny how this thread has just turned from negative veris into why did you have sex with!"

Yep!!!

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?

I'll be honest. I was very "green" and had put myself into a situation where it was just easier to go along with it. Not proud of it! You live and you learn "

It does happen i have been in a situation like that

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?

I'll be honest. I was very "green" and had put myself into a situation where it was just easier to go along with it. Not proud of it! You live and you learn "
True..id say most of us do things differently once we are on here a while, as for the negative veris, I just wouldnt bother leaving one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at verifications now as just knowing that the person is real and turns up. I will just have to make my own decisions about them when I meet them because I could find them unreal and the next person could find them unbelievably boring. I do find most verifications are full of crap but hey who doesn't like to hear they are a sex goddess . I am guilty of leaving 2 crappy verifications were I had to treat it like giving a reference for a job... It's what's not said in it that's the problem

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?

I'll be honest. I was very "green" and had put myself into a situation where it was just easier to go along with it. Not proud of it! You live and you learn "

Its happened to most if we're honest. You learn from your mistakes and move on

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

I dont leave negative veris who am i to make someone feel shit about themselves... ive a this just didnt work out veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a one worded vert one time after a coffee meet

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"I got a one worded vert one time after a coffee meet "
I have to ask saying what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got a one worded vert one time after a coffee meet I have to ask saying what?"

Haha very funny actally

We chatted for at least two hrs over coffee.no awkwardness at all.he sent a vert saying cutiexx

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"I got a one worded vert one time after a coffee meet I have to ask saying what?

Haha very funny actally

We chatted for at least two hrs over coffee.no awkwardness at all.he sent a vert saying cutiexx

"
that's nice one word probably meant more than a long essay one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got a one worded vert one time after a coffee meet I have to ask saying what?

Haha very funny actally

We chatted for at least two hrs over coffee.no awkwardness at all.he sent a vert saying cutiexx

that's nice one word probably meant more than a long essay one "

True wasnt nagative by any means just strange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op i have bought many shirts since all of them clean!

I went to daring tutorials by a master guru in the opposite sex now i look straight in the eyes my gaze is so piercing i can read your sould!

As far as my dick goes im saving money for a penus enlargement surgery to add an extra 6 inches!

Just kidding... anyways I totally agree there should be a positive negative verification system something like facebook it would certainly give a more round idea of the person in the other side! Maybe suggest it on feedback section

Ps: you look good to eat

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

[Removed by poster at 16/09/18 11:05:15]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met guys and they've had amazing veris and absolutely shite in bed... so I dont know

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Plenty of negative veris around, you just have to learn to recognise and how to read them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty of negative veris around, you just have to learn to recognise and how to read them."

'Was on time for coffee'

Is one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty of negative veris around, you just have to learn to recognise and how to read them.

'Was on time for coffee'

Is one "

Sounds like a riveting chap

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I got a one worded vert one time after a coffee meet "

Lol what did it say?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I got a one worded vert one time after a coffee meet I have to ask saying what?

Haha very funny actally

We chatted for at least two hrs over coffee.no awkwardness at all.he sent a vert saying cutiexx

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op i have bought many shirts since all of them clean!

I went to daring tutorials by a master guru in the opposite sex now i look straight in the eyes my gaze is so piercing i can read your sould!

As far as my dick goes im saving money for a penus enlargement surgery to add an extra 6 inches!

Just kidding... anyways I totally agree there should be a positive negative verification system something like facebook it would certainly give a more round idea of the person in the other side! Maybe suggest it on feedback section

Ps: you look good to eat "

Haha thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got a one worded vert one time after a coffee meet I have to ask saying what?

Haha very funny actally

We chatted for at least two hrs over coffee.no awkwardness at all.he sent a vert saying cutiexx

"

Well that’s a relief..better than another one word beginning with c

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?

I'll be honest. I was very "green" and had put myself into a situation where it was just easier to go along with it. Not proud of it! You live and you learn

Its happened to most if we're honest. You learn from your mistakes and move on "
thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've met guys and they've had amazing veris and absolutely shite in bed... so I dont know "

Same as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What might be a good fuck for someone,might be a bad one for someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The verification system isn't a failsafe. Plenty of users with buddies on this post buddy references to get them over that hurdle. I'm increasingly skeptical of it.

You never know until you meet someone.

Also, he could have been having an off day. Maybe 90% of the time he looks like Michael Fassbinder but the day in question where you met his murderous ex might have been arund the area and his dog died and he looked more like Michael Moore than Fassbinder.

But I get why you had sex with him. Sometimes you gotta find the truth behind all that online PR faffery... like eating the last donut in the box... you know it's gonna feel gross but you *have* to do it.

All you other prudes just don't get it. I empathise, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The verification system isn't a failsafe. Plenty of users with buddies on this post buddy references to get them over that hurdle. I'm increasingly skeptical of it.

You never know until you meet someone.

Also, he could have been having an off day. Maybe 90% of the time he looks like Michael Fassbinder but the day in question where you met his murderous ex might have been arund the area and his dog died and he looked more like Michael Moore than Fassbinder.

But I get why you had sex with him. Sometimes you gotta find the truth behind all that online PR faffery... like eating the last donut in the box... you know it's gonna feel gross but you *have* to do it.

All you other prudes just don't get it. I empathise, OP."

hahaha, that gave me a good laugh

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?

I'll be honest. I was very "green" and had put myself into a situation where it was just easier to go along with it. Not proud of it! You live and you learn

It does happen i have been in a situation like that "

That worries me tbh!

How does one ever get into a situation with a stranger that requires you to have sex as a means of leaving?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What might be a good fuck for someone,might be a bad one for someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?

I'll be honest. I was very "green" and had put myself into a situation where it was just easier to go along with it. Not proud of it! You live and you learn

It does happen i have been in a situation like that

That worries me tbh!

How does one ever get into a situation with a stranger that requires you to have sex as a means of leaving? "
..totally agree!

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?

I'll be honest. I was very "green" and had put myself into a situation where it was just easier to go along with it. Not proud of it! You live and you learn

It does happen i have been in a situation like that

That worries me tbh!

How does one ever get into a situation with a stranger that requires you to have sex as a means of leaving? "

It's not easy to walk out when you're already in the hotel room, nevertheless you should if it's not right. I had to do it once and it left me with no accommodation or means to get home at 10pm in the night. Thank goodness I've friends and I learned my bit from that one.

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?

I'll be honest. I was very "green" and had put myself into a situation where it was just easier to go along with it. Not proud of it! You live and you learn

It does happen i have been in a situation like that

That worries me tbh!

How does one ever get into a situation with a stranger that requires you to have sex as a means of leaving?

It's not easy to walk out when you're already in the hotel room, nevertheless you should if it's not right. I had to do it once and it left me with no accommodation or means to get home at 10pm in the night. Thank goodness I've friends and I learned my bit from that one. "

Coffee 1st DH

Or in my case Tae

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?

I'll be honest. I was very "green" and had put myself into a situation where it was just easier to go along with it. Not proud of it! You live and you learn

It does happen i have been in a situation like that

That worries me tbh!

How does one ever get into a situation with a stranger that requires you to have sex as a means of leaving?

It's not easy to walk out when you're already in the hotel room, nevertheless you should if it's not right. I had to do it once and it left me with no accommodation or means to get home at 10pm in the night. Thank goodness I've friends and I learned my bit from that one. "

Yep. First and last time for that to happen to me I can tell ya!!

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?

I'll be honest. I was very "green" and had put myself into a situation where it was just easier to go along with it. Not proud of it! You live and you learn

It does happen i have been in a situation like that

That worries me tbh!

How does one ever get into a situation with a stranger that requires you to have sex as a means of leaving?

It's not easy to walk out when you're already in the hotel room, nevertheless you should if it's not right. I had to do it once and it left me with no accommodation or means to get home at 10pm in the night. Thank goodness I've friends and I learned my bit from that one.

Coffee 1st DH

Or in my case Tae "

Na, I don't like coffee/tae meets. It's just doing your homework properly. Never had to walk out again of a meet since.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

I met a female Fabber here once who was articulate, chatty & things went well

Next day she asked for a veri so I made the effort and sent. She returns a veri that can only be described as a jumble of 12 words that could barely pass as a sentence let alone a verification

So little Miss Tele-Tubby, wherever you are tonight, hope kinky Tinky Winkee can make better sense of you than I!

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx


"I gotta ask...WHY did you have sex with him if you thought he was so uninterested and lacked in effort?

I'll be honest. I was very "green" and had put myself into a situation where it was just easier to go along with it. Not proud of it! You live and you learn

It does happen i have been in a situation like that

That worries me tbh!

How does one ever get into a situation with a stranger that requires you to have sex as a means of leaving?

It's not easy to walk out when you're already in the hotel room, nevertheless you should if it's not right. I had to do it once and it left me with no accommodation or means to get home at 10pm in the night. Thank goodness I've friends and I learned my bit from that one. "

Think we all have to have havevto have rhat experience once ...you become so much more cautious over time. I never rush into meets ...as one guy said your very cold when you start chatting ...persistence is needed ..

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Did you ever receive a negative verification? Of course you won't have displayed it! So what is the point of them when they're pretty much full of shit? I once met a guy who turned up with a big stain on the front of his shirt. Couldn't look me in the eye while we spoke (it's like he was looking over my shoulder!) and barely made any effort in said conversation. (But we did have sex.) I didn't bother to verify him. But yet he has close to 30 verifications saying how great he is and how big his dick is (it isn't!)... Anyway, I know this topic has been done to death...but hey!!"

Was the stain down the front of his shirt caused by his big dick then?

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By *umPlay69Couple
over a year ago

Near Dungannon

We'd definitely need to b able to have the banter with someone before any fun happens

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By *arryEssenceMan
over a year ago

Waterford

I don't think there is anything wrong with the veri system. Its miles ahead of something like tinder, where you arent even sure the person is real.

There's lots of dickheads with great veris (I could be one of them for all I know!), but I try and look for people I know who have said something nice about a person or people whose profiles I recognise.

Once I'm fairly sure they are real then I may have a second look, because I love reading about the fun people have had.

But after that, you just have to meet them and see if you get along over coffee or something. And even then, you may not get the same chemistry with them in bed that someone else did.

I dont think you can do Yelp for people without it making a far worse situation than we have now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did you ever receive a negative verification? Of course you won't have displayed it! So what is the point of them when they're pretty much full of shit? I once met a guy who turned up with a big stain on the front of his shirt. Couldn't look me in the eye while we spoke (it's like he was looking over my shoulder!) and barely made any effort in said conversation. (But we did have sex.) I didn't bother to verify him. But yet he has close to 30 verifications saying how great he is and how big his dick is (it isn't!)... Anyway, I know this topic has been done to death...but hey!!

Was the stain down the front of his shirt caused by his big dick then?"

Lol no

It was a big coffee like stain on an otherwise very white shirt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting topic this. thanks for raising it.

The rest of the world thrives on verifications positive and negative. TripAdvisor and airbnb for example. If you could see the positive and negative verifications certainly help with patterns at least.

For instance if someone had 3 positive verifications and 10 saying "never showed up " that would be very useful.

Problem at the moment is people choose which to display.

Why not have an option to give a positive or negative verification and leave the summary section visible?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting topic this. thanks for raising it.

The rest of the world thrives on verifications positive and negative. TripAdvisor and airbnb for example. If you could see the positive and negative verifications certainly help with patterns at least.

For instance if someone had 3 positive verifications and 10 saying "never showed up " that would be very useful.

Problem at the moment is people choose which to display.

Why not have an option to give a positive or negative verification and leave the summary section visible? "

I guess the issue with positive v negative verifications os that you are not rating Business but a person.

Some trip advisor reviews both glowing and scathing you would wonder if the person had stayed at the same hotel, which is fine for a company but to give a person a negitave "review seems a little cruel.

I think no verification is sufficent and to be fair if you put in the leg work chatting to someone, a video or voice call and a coffee meet you should be able to tell for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are negative vertications actally given even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting topic this. thanks for raising it.

The rest of the world thrives on verifications positive and negative. TripAdvisor and airbnb for example. If you could see the positive and negative verifications certainly help with patterns at least.

For instance if someone had 3 positive verifications and 10 saying "never showed up " that would be very useful.

Problem at the moment is people choose which to display.

Why not have an option to give a positive or negative verification and leave the summary section visible?

I guess the issue with positive v negative verifications os that you are not rating Business but a person.

Some trip advisor reviews both glowing and scathing you would wonder if the person had stayed at the same hotel, which is fine for a company but to give a person a negitave "review seems a little cruel.

I think no verification is sufficent and to be fair if you put in the leg work chatting to someone, a video or voice call and a coffee meet you should be able to tell for yourself"

Agreed, plus whatever happened to being able to think for yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are negative vertications actally given even

"

Possibly but all you would have to do is not display it and it will still show up as a verification on your profile.

Key work being verification and not review

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are negative vertications actally given even

Possibly but all you would have to do is not display it and it will still show up as a verification on your profile.

Key work being verification and not review"

I find that hard to believe. Surely the person wouldnt bother write a vert if they found the meet that bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are negative vertications actally given even

Possibly but all you would have to do is not display it and it will still show up as a verification on your profile.

Key work being verification and not review

I find that hard to believe. Surely the person wouldnt bother write a vert if they found the meet that bad"

Probably not but if they do I doubt it would ever see the light of day

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

A few years ago I got a Veri " well worth the drive" . Short and sweet, but I loved it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sucks like a dyson treat with respect and bring your A game...a timeless classic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was it something someone said...

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