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By *hrome80 OP   Woman
over a year ago

tipperary

Looking for advice guys!

Head wrecked. Didnt realise my phone is synced with my sons tablet. When he brings it home my ex has been reading my messages. Message to one particular person are "fab-like" but more texts are very "everyday-like". Turns out my message content has been talked about with others.

Im raging that my messages have been read. Should I be so angry? Why am I so angry?

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By *imandher33Couple
over a year ago

Blanchardstown

Because everyone has a certain expectation of privacy and to have that expectation respected.

One thing to read them another to talk to others about them. Bang out of order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feels like an invasion of privacy I'd be angry too!

Human nature tho to read the messages,I'd like to think I wouldn't if I was your ex but it's like someone saying do not touch the red button.

Not much you can do sadly

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

Having your ex read them is bad but what if your child read them?

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By *hrome80 OP   Woman
over a year ago

tipperary

Confront him about it or not!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know he has read them and talked about them to others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confront him about it or not!?"

Yes confront him and ask why he has been speaking to other ppl about your business.

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By *hrome80 OP   Woman
over a year ago

tipperary


"Having your ex read them is bad but what if your child read them? "

I know but 99% sure my kid is more interested in his games on the tablet than message..but you're right

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By *hrome80 OP   Woman
over a year ago

tipperary


"How do you know he has read them and talked about them to others?"

Out-out over the weekend and my friend who is partner of my exs friend said it to me. Told me on the quite so dont want to hang them out to dry either

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Not nice, I understand that you're angry but op you really have to blame yourself.

My advice make sure that the two devices don't sync anymore in future and check what other apps are linked/synced, clear google history etc. and burry the whole issue, no point talking to your ex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not nice, I understand that you're angry but op you really have to blame yourself.

My advice make sure that the two devices don't sync anymore in future and check what other apps are linked/synced, clear google history etc. and burry the whole issue, no point talking to your ex. "

good advice re un syncing ... the sync is often a default option with iFones.

you might also want to think about using a second fone for Fab & other non family stuff, the "burner fone" as they refer to it in movies.

also means a disgruntled Fabber canot stalk you on your personal fone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know he has read them and talked about them to others?

Out-out over the weekend and my friend who is partner of my exs friend said it to me. Told me on the quite so dont want to hang them out to dry either"

Ok. I don't thonk its any of his business what you do. As another fabber said get the link between your sons tablet and your phone cleared.

If only a few know I would say nothing. When he cant find any more messages he will think you have stopped and it will die a death in a few days.

Thats what I would do anyway. Good luck xx

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By *andsomeman100Man
over a year ago

Ah sure now...

Him knowing what you're up to is not the issue really - sure f**K him if he has a problem with it, none of his business. Telling others? I can almost guarantee you they're not really that interested.

The real issue might be that he has evidence of your kid being exposed to stuff they shouldn't be, depending on your kids age. What you did isn't particularly bad, just a silly mistake overlooking the synch - could happen to anyone... and a few fab-like messages is just unfortunate. But, he could twist it. If the separation is in any way acrimonious its just ammunition for him that he could twist.

The important thing is now that you have become aware of it, put the necessary steps in place immediately to stop it happening again. Anyone can make a mistake, and this is the responsible adult reaction to the mistake...and then forget about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having your ex read them is bad but what if your child read them? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not nice, I understand that you're angry but op you really have to blame yourself.

My advice make sure that the two devices don't sync anymore in future and check what other apps are linked/synced, clear google history etc. and burry the whole issue, no point talking to your ex. "

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By *hrome80 OP   Woman
over a year ago

tipperary

Thanks folks....means a lot ye taking the time to type.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Exes are mostly scumbags and looks like he has no respect for you.

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