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Honesty best policy??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Say you start dating someone,things get serious,do you at some stage,tell them about being a swinger??

Hey darling,once a upon a time,I used to have sex with strangers at parties,want some spuds ??

Or do you keep it to yourself??

Red

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't want a relationship with someone I was afraid to be honest with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say you start dating someone,things get serious,do you at some stage,tell them about being a swinger??

Hey darling,once a upon a time,I used to have sex with strangers at parties,want some spuds ??

Or do you keep it to yourself??

Red

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Really someone who loves you should take the good the bad and the ugly and your past makes you who u are today. I personally would have no issues telling anyone I'm with what I enjoy but I've no shake in being sexually liberated and sure they be reaping the benefits of what I learned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm upfront about it if I start dating seriously... You can't build a realtionship on shoddy foundations so honesty is the best way to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ugh that’s a tough one. Realistically, are you really going to be talking to them about your past sex life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally don't see the problem.. Ur past is ur past if they judge u for it are they worth it. Unless ur planning in introducing them to fab..I wouldn't say anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If asked I’d explain all but I don’t think I’d volunteer the info unsolicited. After all we as people rarely ask our partners about their sexual activities within prior relationships. Not our business unless it endangers health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would tell them if they asked and you were having a conversation about it. Otherwise I don't realy see how it is his bussiness,unless you plan to continue swinging. Do you want to know everything in his past

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

I probably wouldn't use it as a conversation opener but if the topic came up, and it has before, I have to be honest about it.

If I felt I can't be honest in a relationship then it ain't the right one for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I probably wouldn't use it as a conversation opener but if the topic came up, and it has before, I have to be honest about it.

If I felt I can't be honest in a relationship then it ain't the right one for me."

And if they can't handle it ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would tell him cause if your out one night with the hubbe,you could prob bump into one of your swingers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think honesty is the best policy just maybe not as blunt as I did it whilst watching porn together I just blurted out... Oh thats just like my first 3sum too , he wasn't too impressed and even called me a slut ... Until he realised it turned him on and he in fact liked sluts alot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh that's a tricky one :-/

I suppose it all depends on who your dating and how open minded they are about swinging

I think I would prefer to be with someone who would be happy to swing with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I probably wouldn't use it as a conversation opener but if the topic came up, and it has before, I have to be honest about it.

If I felt I can't be honest in a relationship then it ain't the right one for me.

And if they can't handle it ?? "

Would you want a partner who thought that way?

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"I probably wouldn't use it as a conversation opener but if the topic came up, and it has before, I have to be honest about it.

If I felt I can't be honest in a relationship then it ain't the right one for me.

And if they can't handle it ?? "

Well, it would be their decision to continue with the relationship or not.

I can't change the past.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I probably wouldn't use it as a conversation opener but if the topic came up, and it has before, I have to be honest about it.

If I felt I can't be honest in a relationship then it ain't the right one for me.

And if they can't handle it ??

Would you want a partner who thought that way?"

People do alot of things,can't judge someone because of them exploring their sexual fantasies.

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By *ensualandslow321Man
over a year ago

Tullamore

For you to be 100% confident in any relationship then honesty is the best way to go. You obviously care about him and if that is to be reciprocated he should let history be history. People who dwell in the past or can't get over the past are not relationship material.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For you to be 100% confident in any relationship then honesty is the best way to go. You obviously care about him and if that is to be reciprocated he should let history be history. People who dwell in the past or can't get over the past are not relationship material."

Very true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its up to you if you tell them or not. I personally dont thknk I need to know everything a gf has done in the past unless if affects the present. So as an above poster stated if you were ibterested in continuing to swing then it would be relevent.

Either was I wouldnt do it with with spuds... really feels like more of a pasta conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I probably wouldn't use it as a conversation opener but if the topic came up, and it has before, I have to be honest about it.

If I felt I can't be honest in a relationship then it ain't the right one for me.

And if they can't handle it ??

Would you want a partner who thought that way?

People do alot of things,can't judge someone because of them exploring their sexual fantasies."

Exactly, so better find out sooner than later if that's the kind of person you're dealing with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For you to be 100% confident in any relationship then honesty is the best way to go. You obviously care about him and if that is to be reciprocated he should let history be history. People who dwell in the past or can't get over the past are not relationship material."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U have to ask yourself do u intend to stay a swinger through the relationship and/or is your intentions to involve this person in your fab life. Then when u know them answeres and knowing ur new partner and there ability to deal with the honest truth of it Recalculate the risk/ reward in telling them.

Now if it was me and there was baken and cabbage going with the spuds u could tell me anything and I would be happy lol

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I have already told everyone.

People on the swing scene judged me for it more than people not on the scene. Suddenly I became untrustworthy. Being able to out people who attempt to out you, is a big part of swinging for a lot of people, without that option then they don't like you.

I have never had sex with a stranger though, so for me its easy to say everything I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can sum up my answer to this question in one word lol ...

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it comes up...sure. Openness with each other in a relationship is whats makes it strong. Nobody needs to be judgmental..just accepting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep quiet might scare him off and what's in the past stays in the past is my motto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say you start dating someone,things get serious,do you at some stage,tell them about being a swinger??

Hey darling,once a upon a time,I used to have sex with strangers at parties,want some spuds ??

Red

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Or do you keep it to yourself??

take the secret to the grave unless the partner has a secret even more interesting or revealing than yours ...anyway you are single so for you its just multiple 1 nite stands ... if you were a guy they would be applauding you

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