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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So was chatting to a lady on pof for last few days.She showed my pic to a friend of hers in Kilkenny.This other lady promptly told her I was on fab and showed her my profile.....FFS.... What goes on here should stay on here...some people dont have the brains they were born with...Wonder how she would like to be outed???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't use the same pics lol

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"So was chatting to a lady on pof for last few days.She showed my pic to a friend of hers in Kilkenny.This other lady promptly told her I was on fab and showed her my profile.....FFS.... What goes on here should stay on here...some people dont have the brains they were born with...Wonder how she would like to be outed???"

I’d have more sympathy if you didn’t have your face on public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So was chatting to a lady on pof for last few days.She showed my pic to a friend of hers in Kilkenny.This other lady promptly told her I was on fab and showed her my profile.....FFS.... What goes on here should stay on here...some people dont have the brains they were born with...Wonder how she would like to be outed???"

To be fair you have your face pic pretty public irrespective of glasses so you’re kind of putting yourself out there so to speak.

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By *unnitoesWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

Are you using the same pix on both sites? If so then you're hardly outed lol!

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out


"So was chatting to a lady on pof for last few days.She showed my pic to a friend of hers in Kilkenny.This other lady promptly told her I was on fab and showed her my profile.....FFS.... What goes on here should stay on here...some people dont have the brains they were born with...Wonder how she would like to be outed???

I’d have more sympathy if you didn’t have your face on public "

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"So was chatting to a lady on pof for last few days.She showed my pic to a friend of hers in Kilkenny.This other lady promptly told her I was on fab and showed her my profile.....FFS.... What goes on here should stay on here...some people dont have the brains they were born with...Wonder how she would like to be outed???"

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To see a person's face, privates & veris on "a swinging site" can be a bit of a shock to someone who's considering dating you on a vanilla basis....

Tbh Op... POF and Fab are 2 completely different worlds

so ideally one set of pics for POF and another set for FAB here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So was chatting to a lady on pof for last few days.She showed my pic to a friend of hers in Kilkenny.This other lady promptly told her I was on fab and showed her my profile.....FFS.... What goes on here should stay on here...some people dont have the brains they were born with...Wonder how she would like to be outed???

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To see a person's face, privates & veris on "a swinging site" can be a bit of a shock to someone who's considering dating you on a vanilla basis....

Tbh Op... POF and Fab are 2 completely different worlds

so ideally one set of pics for POF and another set for FAB here "
or go with no face pics on fab...just to be safe..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you are single does it really matter what site you use to try meet people ... if you are single & on FAB are you really a swinger?

that said it would make sense to have different pictures on POF than on Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as the ladies friend was also obviously a fabber, the friend also outer herself

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By *ofistimacatedMan
over a year ago

cavan town

If her friend was comfortable telling her she saw you on fab, chances are she is on here too. So all three of you could be on fab. This story could have a happy ending

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By *ancyachatnowMan
over a year ago

Naas

Why the face pic if so worried

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

Sorry man but that's a tad bit rich, if she said you were on fab, has a massive shlong and was 242/10 in the sack and the said lady fell over all wet, the last thing you'd be doing was posting on here at 11pm on a sat night and it would be the best thing in the world. You're just butt hurt, its a natural reaction, its OK to feel bummed about it but blaming some else for your what happened isn't cool

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having read all above posts and thought about it a little.....I have no problem with my pics.Its the discretion that gets me. How would this lady feel if I outed her on pof or fab.First rule of Fab is and always has been .... keep it secret. Theres plenty of people on here who I have met in ordinary life that I wouldnt dream of outing.

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark


"Having read all above posts and thought about it a little.....I have no problem with my pics.Its the discretion that gets me. How would this lady feel if I outed her on pof or fab.First rule of Fab is and always has been .... keep it secret. Theres plenty of people on here who I have met in ordinary life that I wouldnt dream of outing."

Again, and I'm not trying to be a wanker but where is that written? You're putting up a straw man argument

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to be a woman to be outted on fab.Its not important if you are a man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having read all above posts and thought about it a little.....I have no problem with my pics.Its the discretion that gets me. How would this lady feel if I outed her on pof or fab.First rule of Fab is and always has been .... keep it secret. Theres plenty of people on here who I have met in ordinary life that I wouldnt dream of outing."

There is no rule on fab that says keep it secret.

You choose to display your face pic on your profile for everyone to see.

And as someone else pointed out,the other lady who recognised you may well be a fab member herself,.

Are you ashamed to be on swingers?

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"You have to be a woman to be outted on fab.Its not important if you are a man."

Don't feed the trolls

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Having read all above posts and thought about it a little.....I have no problem with my pics.Its the discretion that gets me. How would this lady feel if I outed her on pof or fab.First rule of Fab is and always has been .... keep it secret. Theres plenty of people on here who I have met in ordinary life that I wouldnt dream of outing.

There is no rule on fab that says keep it secret.

You choose to display your face pic on your profile for everyone to see.

And as someone else pointed out,the other lady who recognised you may well be a fab member herself,.

Are you ashamed to be on swingers?"

I tend to agree with him even though his pic is on display fab depends on discretion the second lady had no business spreading his nocturnal pastimes around the village,as he said if he had done the same there would be screaming for his balls on a spit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to be a woman to be outted on fab.Its not important if you are a man.

Don't feed the trolls "
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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary

Sorry dude.....the experts have spoken....your on fab and people should be allowed know that..and your face pic is public...and your a guy..its not important coz your a guy..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone whose face is on public display is outing themselves.

Case closed in my book.

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Anyone whose face is on public display is outing themselves.

Case closed in my book."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having read all above posts and thought about it a little.....I have no problem with my pics.Its the discretion that gets me. How would this lady feel if I outed her on pof or fab.First rule of Fab is and always has been .... keep it secret. Theres plenty of people on here who I have met in ordinary life that I wouldnt dream of outing.

There is no rule on fab that says keep it secret.

You choose to display your face pic on your profile for everyone to see.

And as someone else pointed out,the other lady who recognised you may well be a fab member herself,.

Are you ashamed to be on swingers?

I tend to agree with him even though his pic is on display fab depends on discretion the second lady had no business spreading his nocturnal pastimes around the village,as he said if he had done the same there would be screaming for his balls on a spit"

I agree,the lady wasn't using discretion,and yes I wouldn't be too pleased if it happened to us,but then I don't display face pics on our profile for all to see.

The op has very little to grumble about if someone recognises him.

And theres still nothing in the rules about keeping things secret.that's up to every individual on the site,and i certainly wouldn't trust everyone.

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Op do you really think a woman is going to be more loyal to an anonymous guy off a sex site or her friend?

Of course she is going to tell her friend where she saw you

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Having read all above posts and thought about it a little.....I have no problem with my pics.Its the discretion that gets me. How would this lady feel if I outed her on pof or fab.First rule of Fab is and always has been .... keep it secret. Theres plenty of people on here who I have met in ordinary life that I wouldnt dream of outing.

There is no rule on fab that says keep it secret.

You choose to display your face pic on your profile for everyone to see.

And as someone else pointed out,the other lady who recognised you may well be a fab member herself,.

Are you ashamed to be on swingers?

I tend to agree with him even though his pic is on display fab depends on discretion the second lady had no business spreading his nocturnal pastimes around the village,as he said if he had done the same there would be screaming for his balls on a spit

I agree,the lady wasn't using discretion,and yes I wouldn't be too pleased if it happened to us,but then I don't display face pics on our profile for all to see.

The op has very little to grumble about if someone recognises him.

And theres still nothing in the rules about keeping things secret.that's up to every individual on the site,and i certainly wouldn't trust everyone.

The face pic doesn't give permission for others to broadcast that a person is on fab

I'd have approached the guy and told him I know the person on pof and to let her make an informed decision at least tell her he's on here

Possibly the same result but just done differently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op do you really think a woman is going to be more loyal to an anonymous guy off a sex site or her friend?

Of course she is going to tell her friend where she saw you"

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Just to clarify I have met loads here at socials and I would recognise them if a friend told me they were meeting them off pof so wheather there's a face pic or not on a profile makes no difference

If I seen them in public a knowing discreet nod and walk on by if I knew them well

I don't think it was done out of spite more consern for her friend just I have a different way of approaching it as would others but to say the guy has no rites because he has a face pic up doesn't sit well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to clarify I have met loads here at socials and I would recognise them if a friend told me they were meeting them off pof so wheather there's a face pic or not on a profile makes no difference

If I seen them in public a knowing discreet nod and walk on by if I knew them well

I don't think it was done out of spite more consern for her friend just I have a different way of approaching it as would others but to say the guy has no rites because he has a face pic up doesn't sit well

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There are no "rights" involved here cj.

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By *traycats2Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

Hard as it sounds (pardon the pun) putting your face pic up here is looking for attention and she (her friend) was only looking out for her ... face pics in my eyes a no no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regardless as to whether you use your face pic on fab as your profile photo that woman from Kilkenny should never have told the other that you are on fab. Seems like she can't hold her own piss!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"You have to be a woman to be outted on fab.Its not important if you are a man."

Have you been to Dowra mart since you got back from the holidays?

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

Facepic or not..still think id avoid 'said' female fabber due to her lack of discretion if i was into the whole fab meeting thing...could never trust her

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.bet if she had a facepic and posted the same scenario the responses would be very different..

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.(prob from the same people too )

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam


"You have to be a woman to be outted on fab.Its not important if you are a man.

Have you been to Dowra mart since you got back from the holidays? "

Did you recognise the lambs Mick??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to be a woman to be outted on fab.Its not important if you are a man.

Have you been to Dowra mart since you got back from the holidays? "
Is that post supposed to mean something to me.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

The OP has every right to be annoyed. Face pic or single it doesn't matter. It's an unspoken rule on here... discretion is everything.

Btw 90% of people on POF are on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are on a swinger site,we all want Discreetion.

But some don't mind.

At the same time that lady shouldn't have shown you are on this site.

Some people have no brains or respect towards others.

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

Sorry but having your pic on public has nothing to do with this in my opinion. It's possible to tell your friend stay away from someone without outting them on fab. Regardless of gender, as swingers we rely on the discretion of others here.

Having your pic up is risqué in this country but as said above it's similar to seeing someone at an event or meet.

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast


"The OP has every right to be annoyed. Face pic or single it doesn't matter. It's an unspoken rule on here... discretion is everything.

Btw 90% of people on POF are on here. "

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By *hersamightWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Face pics on profile ,your profile is available to view to non registered users, and a a User name like ures, sorry but can't get my head around your feeling that you have been wronged it has me baffled.

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary

Block her...move on....

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"The OP has every right to be annoyed. Face pic or single it doesn't matter. It's an unspoken rule on here... discretion is everything.

Btw 90% of people on POF are on here. "

87% of all statistics are made up......

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

I really don't understand OP...you have a face pic as your profile pic for the whole world to see

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By *eise68Man
over a year ago

newcastle


"I really don't understand OP...you have a face pic as your profile pic for the whole world to see "

Exactly and you don't even have to be a member here to see profiles

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Why do people keep mentioning the face pic? Maybe he has nothing to hide and that's why he chooses to put his face pic up. Everyone goes on about discretion and how important it is on this site. SHE told her friend he was on this site. SHE showed his profile to her. SHE was in the wrong. Will she show private pics of a bloke if her friend shows the same pic of a guy she has met on fab......I'd put money on it she would.

All relationships have to start somewhere. How many of us put all our cards on the table after the first few dates? SHE should have given him the chance to tell the friend that he was on here first.

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast


"I really don't understand OP...you have a face pic as your profile pic for the whole world to see

Exactly and you don't even have to be a member here to see profiles "

Read in the privancy section. You can hide your profile from non registered members. So all profiles are not for everyone to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people keep mentioning the face pic? Maybe he has nothing to hide and that's why he chooses to put his face pic up. Everyone goes on about discretion and how important it is on this site. SHE told her friend he was on this site. SHE showed his profile to her. SHE was in the wrong. Will she show private pics of a bloke if her friend shows the same pic of a guy she has met on fab......I'd put money on it she would.

All relationships have to start somewhere. How many of us put all our cards on the table after the first few dates? SHE should have given him the chance to tell the friend that he was on here first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So was chatting to a lady on pof for last few days.She showed my pic to a friend of hers in Kilkenny.This other lady promptly told her I was on fab and showed her my profile.....FFS.... What goes on here should stay on here...some people dont have the brains they were born with...Wonder how she would like to be outed???"

You were also outed as being on POF by the lady you were chatting to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can never understand the ascertation that people will simply accept to keep secret anything on here ! There is no rule stating anything of the sort . Usually the people on here screaming the need for discretion and n s a have actually no business on a swing site . They are not swingers at all just deluded sorts looking for a free hooker behind their partners back . Never assume everyone here is a cheater with a secret to hide . And if your single and on p o f I see no reason to point out your profile on other sights , at least your honest and free to do as you wish without judgement .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Regardless as to whether you use your face pic on fab as your profile photo that woman from Kilkenny should never have told the other that you are on fab. Seems like she can't hold her own piss! "
Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Face pics on profile ,your profile is available to view to non registered users, and a a User name like ures, sorry but can't get my head around your feeling that you have been wronged it has me baffled."
Perhaps you should put up a face pic then!!

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By *eise68Man
over a year ago

newcastle


"Face pics on profile ,your profile is available to view to non registered users, and a a User name like ures, sorry but can't get my head around your feeling that you have been wronged it has me baffled.Perhaps you should put up a face pic then!!"

If you were on another site lets say Tinder and you were outed on that would you be as vocal complaining

Put it down to experience .

If you you value your privacy on a site like this don't have your face on full view. If you do have it like you do I don't see what you have to complain about .

It's similar to oh Mary that guy your chatting to on plenty of fish . I saw him last nite comming out of a sex shop last nite . I promise you I was only passing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best not have face pic if you don't want be outted out

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

He should have known women luv showing off to their friends what do you think of him . Will I date him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found out the hard way about having face pics up and I also ran here when recognised in public and it was pointed out I outed myself by having a pic up in the first place even though it was on an old profile someone recognised me anyway so no point crying over spilt milk as they say

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

This turned out to be an interesting thread!

My 2 cent

*queue the Law&Order tune*

Op, you have every right to post up face pics anywhere you like but if you do you must also accept any consequences that may arise from that action....good or bad. I would say you waved your right to privacy by doing so and anything that happens there after lays solely with you, you need to protect your own privacy and not depend on others to do it for you.

Imo the Kilkenny lady did nothing wrong in a legal way. She showed what is a public photo and profile to a member of the public (pof lady) who, let's not forget, also could of accessed the profile and pic herself. Kilkenny lady was under no obligation NOT to show her friend the profile. Morally i think she could of handle this better but we do not know the extent of the friendship the 2 ladies share either.

The pof lady is the innocent party here, she clearly didn't want to be dating a "swinger" (I use that term lightly) because if she did, she would of set up her own account on here. She didn't have all the info available to her so was making a discission without knowing the full story..or from her point of view she was chatting to someone who wasn't 100% forthcoming and saw it as a red flag (but to be fair, no one is 100%, that goes against human nature).

Lastly I would say to the op, you have every right to post up anything you like (within the forum rules of course) but maybe, and this is just my opinion, discretion is the better part of valour here. I can only base my option of you based on this thread......and other potential fab meets you may have in the future will do the same.

I wish you the best op and I hope your days on here are filled with fun

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