FabSwingers.com forum: Face Pic Fear

By *arkandEm14 OP Couple
over a year ago

dublin

Anyone else get the fear when it comes to exchanging face pics.

It's not the fear of rejection..we cant be everyone's cup of tea. More the fear of what that person(s) will do with the images then saved to their device.

Do you send them? How do u do send them? What precautions do you take?

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

I wont meet without one si they need to be exchanged but it worries me ... good question OP

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

"Anyone else get the fear when it comes to exchanging face pics.

It's not the fear of rejection..we cant be everyone's cup of tea. More the fear of what that person(s) will do with the images then saved to their device.

Do you send them? How do u do send them? What precautions do you take?

My advice is watermark any pic here be that face pic or not. That way at least if someone takes one of your pics they can't easily use it as their own. I use Photoshop for this but there are several apps etc that do it. With face pics in also very paranoid. I only share those with someone with several credible verifications.

Those steps at least reduce the risk somewhat

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By *K430Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

Very cagey now as I was

messed about, when I did , even on kik as everything there can be saved. You're putting faith in the person you're sending them to , make sure they're worthy

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By *arkandEm14 OP Couple
over a year ago

dublin

We used to send them via photobomb on K!K but that features is gone now... It would display the pic once for a set amount of time then vanish. If screenshotted It would alert the sender. Was a great function.

I wonder is there anything similar available??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have no problem sending face pic but it should be reciprocated and if not there should be a name and shame even if you don't want to meet as it's only manners, there in lies the weariness when someone receives your photo and nothing in return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That fear of knowing the person perhaps ?

Like oh shit that’s my bank manager with a dildo up her arse lol...

I suppose it won’t really matter if they are on fab too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wont meet without one si they need to be exchanged but it worries me ... good question OP"
We are the same so we got thinking and came up with the idea of video call through kik...that way it's live and ye know your not being messed around and no one can save your pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have no problem sending face pic but it should be reciprocated and if not there should be a name and shame even if you don't want to meet as it's only manners, there in lies the weariness when someone receives your photo and nothing in return. "

Totally ... I’m like shit who is this person I just revealed myself to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one is obliged to send you a face pic in return for an unasked for one from you. I never ask without sending mine, and if asked for one I reply 'asker sends first'. I only send to well verified people who have been on the site for a good long time. It's not foolproof but you have to have a little trust sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wont meet without one si they need to be exchanged but it worries me ... good question OPWe are the same so we got thinking and came up with the idea of video call through kik...that way it's live and ye know your not being messed around and no one can save your pics "

Great idea

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By *arkandEm14 OP Couple
over a year ago

dublin

I'm not too fussed if someone steals my naked selfies..

They are not directly linked to my everyday life and you can't stop the fakes so I don't waste time worrying there and I'd never add face to a naughty snap. Unwritten rule!

I would love to find a more controlled way of sending a face pic.

Do people ever Cam instead of sending pics? Or is that worse...

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

If someone sends me one without being asked for it then I will not send one in return till I'm ready. If I ask then I will send mine with the request

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By *iver80Man
over a year ago

south side ,

"Anyone else get the fear when it comes to exchanging face pics.

It's not the fear of rejection..we cant be everyone's cup of tea. More the fear of what that person(s) will do with the images then saved to their device.

Do you send them? How do u do send them? What precautions do you take?

Yeah there is that fear of rejection but you should never worry what others think ,i have no issue sending them and if i get rejected so be it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually attach a face pic! Nothing to lose, and it’s down to people’s preference so I’m not going to get too down is someone doesn’t like mine

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By *arkandEm14 OP Couple
over a year ago

dublin

I was just thinking bout that... Great option...

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By *arkandEm14 OP Couple
over a year ago

dublin

"Anyone else get the fear when it comes to exchanging face pics.

It's not the fear of rejection..we cant be everyone's cup of tea. More the fear of what that person(s) will do with the images then saved to their device.

Do you send them? How do u do send them? What precautions do you take?

Yeah there is that fear of rejection but you should never worry what others think ,i have no issue sending them and if i get rejected so be it

I have no fear of rejection... If we are not for you that's perfectly fine... It's more the fear of pics being shared or used by pic hunters or worse

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By *ivelifeMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"We used to send them via photobomb on K!K but that features is gone now... It would display the pic once for a set amount of time then vanish. If screenshotted It would alert the sender. Was a great function.

I wonder is there anything similar available??"

That feature is still on kik in the links section

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

Good thread OP.

I was chatting to someone for a while got on really well. Decided to meet so swapped face pic. This guy was well verified? Things went a bit sour so I had my reservations. I've a good memory and things he had said didn't add up. Long story short..... when I said thanks but no thanks he threatened to set up a profile with my face pic. So lesson learnt that day. Be careful who you share you FACE with.

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By *arkandEm14 OP Couple
over a year ago

dublin

"Good thread OP.

Fear realised!! OMG!! How did you overcome that? Did report and block work as that seems to be our only option. Like how much can u trust any profile on an anonymous swinging site. Verified or not... Nobody really knows anybody.. A level of risk will always be undertaken but what ever measures can be taken to reduce them risks should be applied and respected.

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By *arkandEm14 OP Couple
over a year ago

dublin

I wonder is there anything similar available??

That feature is still on kik in the links section "

Tried it last night to send to a potential. Well verified, friendly chatting on/off for what feels like forever. But it seems K!k have moved on from photobomb. And the suggestion of sending a normal pic filled me with dread!

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"Good thread OP.

Yep. Blocked and reported. I also sent an email to admin with the pic I shared and explained what happened. Profile gone but I've seen similar ones crop up.

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

we do like to send face pics weather it be here or via kik , but only to cpls , there is an option to auto delete a pic here when its viewed but i know it could be screen shoted first but i guess that goes with any way u send mail on the internet , no pics are safe ya just have to go with your gut really , we have been lucky so far

mrs crazy

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

I don't think about it too much.

Anyone who knows me knows I do this so being 'outed' isn't an issue for me at all.

As for using my pics for their own profiles or whatever, there's nothing I can do about it. I put the photos out there originally understanding the potential for someone to act the bollox

It's part of life now that your privacy only goes so far when it comes to using the internet so I just accept it and hope I don't get caught up in any scandal

I am however, conscious of the type of photos I put out there. Never anything that could potentially get me in trouble.

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By *arkandEm14 OP Couple
over a year ago

dublin

People have suggested using a pre-selected image for all face pic swaps. That you can always say it was stolen from elsewhere should it ever pop up with reference to this site or others in the vanilla world.

Mr found a pic of him being used on a dating site a while back.

What other back up excuses do people have lined up to deal with a face pic crises

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Facepics can be taken from alot of completely un fab related sites so I wouldnt worry so much about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not big on sharing face pics with people within my own county purely for fear of being acquainted with them already,be it the girl who makes your coffee,your bank teller or someone you've done work for etc.

Other counties definitely makes it easier but 1 rule of thumb is I never send or have nude pics with my face included.

If people chose to steal them or try to re-use them elsewhere it's up to them to prove the face and the body are the 1 person.

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By *arry and AnnCouple
over a year ago

Louth

Be sure to never send any play shots that include your face, there is no denying that later.. where if someone has your face it could have just as easily stolen it from FB. Doesnt make much off a difference if someone has targeted you in this way but at least you retain some level of deniability

For us sending facepics to people isnt a problem once theyre a bit of travel away, but anyone from Dublin or closer we would prefer went first

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By *arkandEm14 OP Couple
over a year ago

dublin

I really think the kik video might be a good option for well verified profiles.

I also like the deniabilty factor associated with pre-selected images.... Do u use one that's been on fb or else where so u can

validate the "stolen from fb"excuse .... What if its web searched and ur face turns up on a friend's fb profile. And the reciever is a stalker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a certain amount of good faith required but I think cropping pics from Facebook etc is the worst thing to do. There's a traceability there that makes it too easy for weirdos,stalkers and the likes

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By *arry and AnnCouple
over a year ago

Louth

"I really think the kik video might be a good option for well verified profiles.

I also like the deniabilty factor associated with pre-selected images.... Do u use one that's been on fb or else where so u can

validate the "stolen from fb"excuse .... What if its web searched and ur face turns up on a friend's fb profile. And the reciever is a stalker

I dont think ours are on FB, theyre just ones we took for using here.. not worth taking the chance

I Whatsapp'd a few profiles when trying to arrange a mmf for Ann, they regualrly show up in my FB reccommended friends!

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By *arkandEm14 OP Couple
over a year ago

dublin

"I really think the kik video might be a good option for well verified profiles.

I also like the deniabilty factor associated with pre-selected images.... Do u use one that's been on fb or else where so u can

validate the "stolen from fb"excuse .... What if its web searched and ur face turns up on a friend's fb profile. And the reciever is a stalker

I dont think ours are on FB, theyre just ones we took for using here.. not worth taking the chance

I Whatsapp'd a few profiles when trying to arrange a mmf for Ann, they regualrly show up in my FB reccommended friends!

If they show up on yours... Do you show up on Theirs!

We made that mistake before too. Deleted our fb accouns as a result.. Social media is too connected your mobile is required for all apps to work and then they speak to each other

... I only discovered that kik was syncing my contacts too, since edited.

My kik profile pic was the Mrs wearing next to nothing bit hard to explain to friends/family

Fab fone is a good option too... But then how many life adjustments would we end up with just for a bit of naughty play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was asked for one the other day and was just about to send it when the fear hit and I just couldn't do it

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By *evinM2020Man
over a year ago

Swords

Kik photobomb was a great little tool, it’s completely gone, i did a google search for something similar.

I use the kik video chat option most times, it’s really good cause it's nearly impossible to screenshot.

In terms of worrying about people using your photos, on an iphone simply screenshot your own pick and it should give you the option to edit, use the marker option to write your isername on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got asked the other day from a woman who has only joined 3weeks ago,fist came a friend request, which I accepted, 2 friends photos only 1 face pic (looks like a model) the other photo looked nothing like the first.then when I messaged her she replied face pic ,,,,not hi,hello,how's things, just face pic .I'm still running lol

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By *evinM2020Man
over a year ago

Swords

Sounds legit

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By *arry and AnnCouple
over a year ago

Louth

"I really think the kik video might be a good option for well verified profiles.

I also like the deniabilty factor associated with pre-selected images.... Do u use one that's been on fb or else where so u can

validate the "stolen from fb"excuse .... What if its web searched and ur face turns up on a friend's fb profile. And the reciever is a stalker

I dont think ours are on FB, theyre just ones we took for using here.. not worth taking the chance

I Whatsapp'd a few profiles when trying to arrange a mmf for Ann, they regualrly show up in my FB reccommended friends!

If they show up on yours... Do you show up on Theirs!

We made that mistake before too. Deleted our fb accouns as a result.. Social media is too connected your mobile is required for all apps to work and then they speak to each other

... I only discovered that kik was syncing my contacts too, since edited.

My kik profile pic was the Mrs wearing next to nothing bit hard to explain to friends/family

Fab fone is a good option too... But then how many life adjustments would we end up with just for a bit of naughty play.

I can only assume we do show on theirs, but in this case he has spent several hours in hour house and bed, so im sure thats not an issue, but for those who have swapped numbers and then had to reject someone for whatever reason (especially single women) .. could be scary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't bother with exchanging pics, some people who look good in pics may for a variety of reasons be utterly unappealing in the flesh, and the converse is also true. We always do social meets anyway, if people are unwilling to meet for a coffee without facepics, that's fine with us, they needn't bother.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Well I have been told I am ugly after giving a face pic, and that I wasn't their cup of tea and maybe I just take bad pics.

If they really believed that, or if they were just trying to get a dig in cause I rubbed them the wrong way, who knows. Who cares?

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

It’s the thing with pics once they are out there you don’t no where they could end up. I won’t send face pics if I don’t want to meet but I won’t know without seeing a face pic but unfair I no but such is life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely send face pics.. I don't mind everything need to be clear from the get go.. Otherwise its just wasting time..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couple times this week I've had people who absolutely refuse to send a facepic . One even questioned why i need one if he is gonna be behind me anyway

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I don't mind sending one but I wouldn't send one at the start of a conversation. You'd need to build up some trust first. I also hate when you send one and the other person goes offline after looking at it or doesn't reciprocate after having asked for one in the first place. Grrrrrrrrr!

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"We don't bother with exchanging pics, some people who look good in pics may for a variety of reasons be utterly unappealing in the flesh, and the converse is also true. We always do social meets anyway, if people are unwilling to meet for a coffee without facepics, that's fine with us, they needn't bother."

100%

We NEVER send face pics - nor do we ask for them.

In fact if someone sent us unsolicited face pics I’d block them - discreet my arse !!

Mr 2-4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couple times this week I've had people who absolutely refuse to send a facepic . One even questioned why i need one if he is gonna be behind me anyway

Ahahahah that's a nice one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was just thinking bout that... Great option... "
Soon as I'm back home to Mrs S ( 14 days wooho

)...we plan putting that idea into action so we'll let ye guys know how we get on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the whole idea of "no face pic, no reply" that you see on so many profiles! Whatever happened to lets talk and see if we can connect on an intellectual level?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on a different site years ago and shared a face pic with the wrong person. They recognised me from where I worked and the threats and "requests" for money started within a few days. I managed to resolve the situation but I've never shared a face pic again. It was a total nightmare for me.

I always offer the person I'm chatting to the option that if we meet and they don't like the look of me then they can walk away, no hard feelings.

Nobody's walked away yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind sending one but I wouldn't send one at the start of a conversation. You'd need to build up some trust first. I also hate when you send one and the other person goes offline after looking at it or doesn't reciprocate after having asked for one in the first place. Grrrrrrrrr! "
Absolutely..true..they ask for a face pic ..you reply " no worries but would like one in return "..you send one..nothing comes back ..

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

After reading this thread I think I'll just hibernate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fear I get is, messaging a local female and she asks for a face pic straight away. My worst nightmare is sending one, then the female turning out to be a sister, cousin or even mum!!!

I have a lot of admiration for people on here that pubicly show faces, Im just a very private individual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would never ever send 1 if they want to cam on here quickly to prove no ones got a face like a spade that’s ok but that’s it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind sending one but I wouldn't send one at the start of a conversation. You'd need to build up some trust first. I also hate when you send one and the other person goes offline after looking at it or doesn't reciprocate after having asked for one in the first place. Grrrrrrrrr! Absolutely..true..they ask for a face pic ..you reply " no worries but would like one in return "..you send one..nothing comes back .."

So true.... but even after long chats and they ask for a face pic swap, and they say you first and you send one and nothing comes back. Obviously because I am just so darn handsome they know they can’t match up my standards !! ;-0

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