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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi guys, just wanted to get some ideas down as to why the ladies and couples on this site don’t reply to your emails. I’ll touch on sexual selection and evolutionary biology, although there’s a lot more to say on both subjects.
Whilst it’s true that some ladies on here get a lot of emails, I don’t think that’s the only reason for a no reply. Based on our own experience, when you reply in the negative people take it one of three ways – 1. graciously, 2. as an invitation to dialogue, or 3. as an excuse to vent their frustration. The first is good, the second can be annoying, but the third is a horrible experience and happens a lot more than you might think. Take this recent exchange between us and another couple
They: Hi, wanna meet up tonight
We: No thanks
They: Why not
We: We’re not interested
They: F** off, you’re too F** old anyway
Charming. But let’s not judge too harshly. When a woman rejects a man, she makes the harshest judgement against his whole being; “You are not worthy to propagate your genes into the next generation”. And since, from a biological and evolutionary perspective, gene propagation is the only point that life has, this is not just a judgement, it’s a condemnation. Consider that you have twice as many female ancestors as male ancestors, so being a breeder and being successful, throughout human history, is far from certain for men. Now extrapolate that to the population dynamics of this site, with the men to women ratio possible of an order of magnitude, and you can understand the tensions.
All this is a very long winded (although we have more to say on the subject) way of saying that we no longer reply to mails from people in whom we have no interest. And I think it makes the most sense, given the tensions at play. |
