FabSwingers.com forum: Are single men wasting their time here?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just skimmed a thread titled “Single mans getting single mans a bad rep” and it appears as though we are not welcome here. I should have guessed since I signed up months ago – log in occasionally - have chatted with a few women (briefly) but haven’t met anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just skimmed a thread titled “Single mans getting single mans a bad rep” and it appears as though we are not welcome here. I should have guessed since I signed up months ago – log in occasionally - have chatted with a few women (briefly) but haven’t met anyone. "

The penny drops - I hear they will be banned soon anyway

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By *willfindyouWoman
over a year ago

Not looking to meet new peeps.

Just got a first mail from a guy ( Let me eat ur asshole)

Why in the name of god would we bother ????

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well if we are banned I won't miss it but it would have been nice to have been warned in some way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just got a first mail from a guy ( Let me eat ur asshole)

Why in the name of god would we bother ????

Down with that sort of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We won't be banned, we're needed. Obviously not all of us but alot of us haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah I use POF and have been told guys can be twats but do married guys behave differently?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We won't be banned, we're needed. Obviously not all of us but alot of us haha "

Only the 1%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I use POF and have been told guys can be twats but do married guys behave differently?"

Don't think so but shock horror some women's behaviour can be as bad as men, not so much in the stupid first message way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah I've met some dopes on pof all right

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By *anadianMan
over a year ago

letterkenny

Got more rides of pof than I’ve got here, msg a woman here it’s just deleted

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Same here - thought I'd sign up here because I thought it would be the quick route to NSA but zero - total waste of time. Loads of meets off pof so I reckon i'll have to go back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Got more rides of pof than I’ve got here, msg a woman here it’s just deleted "

This is true but you get a better class of ride on here and of your lucky she will let you ride her friends as well - the holy grail

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

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Sorry about the lack of easy rides lads. . Sure not to worry Saturday night approaches again. Fingers crossed for ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry about the lack of easy rides lads. . Sure not to worry Saturday night approaches again. Fingers crossed for ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I jump

In and out of here and see this thread constantly.....lads make yourself available and go to a social...all it is a group of adults meeting for a drink and have a laugh. You will get verified and hopefully make a few lasting relationships.

I do ok here, but because it’s not desperation and to be honest I’m not stuck for trying to The the ride here, as I do socialize and get out myself....stick with it, if you think you’d go to a social

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By *exyDownUnderWoman
over a year ago

Westmeath

I agree with the other poster. Get yourself verified and go to a Social.

And if your going to whinge about not being verified. Then why not go to the odd nights especially for the non verified to get verified!

Now that that's sorted.

Enjoy . . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Got more rides of pof than I’ve got here, msg a woman here it’s just deleted

This is true but you get a better class of ride on here and of your lucky she will let you ride her friends as well - the holy grail "

U may not be aware but this is a SWINGERS site . Not a get the ride site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Threads like this annoy me so much the fact that you opened with I login every now and then tells me you put no effort in and just expect to have women fall at your feet for the “ride”

You get what you put in on this website make an effort go to socials get involved in threads in the forum you might just get somewhere.

Swinging isn’t about a quick ride Its a lifestyle of sorts where people share mural experiences likes and dislikes ad prefer quality over quantity so if that’s not for you then you’re in the wrong place.

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

city centre

"Just got a first mail from a guy ( Let me eat ur asshole)

Why in the name of god would we bother ????

Down with that sort of thing "

What? Eating assholes or telling someone your going to do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just got a first mail from a guy ( Let me eat ur asshole)

Why in the name of god would we bother ????

Down with that sort of thing

What? Eating assholes or telling someone your going to do it

Do u want some sauce with dat ?

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I'm only on here to meet single lads and I know I'm not the only women doing so. I've had fantastic meets and hopefully more to come, so I appreciate the sexy single lads.

However tbh I do think some - and I mean only some - waste their time on here.

*makes a mental note: never join pof.

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By *ateniteCouple
over a year ago

Youghal

"..... I should have guessed since I signed up months ago – log in occasionally - "

There's your problem right there.

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

city centre

"Just got a first mail from a guy ( Let me eat ur asshole)

Why in the name of god would we bother ????

Down with that sort of thing

What? Eating assholes or telling someone your going to do it

Do u want some sauce with dat ?

No defo no sauce when your eating assholes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just got a first mail from a guy ( Let me eat ur asshole)

Why in the name of god would we bother ????

Down with that sort of thing

What? Eating assholes or telling someone your going to do it

Do u want some sauce with dat ?

No defo no sauce when your eating assholes

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Do the one's up there own arse use sauce.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

These treads do my head in why do these guys hang themselfs thinking the ladies are here for them instead the ladies are here for their own pleasure and until guys learn that they will never get a meet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think single lads are wasting their time but there's just not as many ladies to men. Couples are looking for couples or just single women most of the time.

As I said in the other forum,

I'm not verified but not willing to meet with just anyone where there's no attraction, chemistry or spark just for the sake of getting a green tick. I have my standards and tastes and know what and who I'd like to tickle my fancy and I'm sure the ladies do too.

I Would be interested in a social meet just to say hi but not on a festival weekend though!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think single lads are wasting their time but there's just not as many ladies to men. Couples are looking for couples or just single women most of the time.

As I said in the other forum,

I Would be interested in a social meet just to say hi but not on a festival weekend though!!

Isnt every weekend between may and sept a festival wkend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More specific altogether now & ep jeez

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More specific altogether now & ep jeez"

Love ep just hate camping.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"These treads do my head in why do these guys hang themselfs thinking the ladies are here for them instead the ladies are here for their own pleasure and until guys learn that they will never get a meet . "
So the ladies are here for there own pleasure. What are the guys here for?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Totally untrue but can't be bothered explaining the effort I've put in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got seriously messed around by a couple last night.

Spent over 3 hours sitting in reception of a D4 hotel drinking 7up.

And this particular couple just gave me excuse after excuse. Asked me if I could be there for 10pm.

I messaged them,but funnily enough when I got to the hotel out came all the excuses from them.

Then they tried to claim I wasn't in the hotel at all. Finally I went home at 1:10am.

Its such a shame that this couple did this and behaved like this to me.

My entire night ruined and my time wasted.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

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I'm with you all the way

As a single guy, I feel that I have been used & abused by the female Fabbers here

Yes, they meet you for coffee, sleep with you and if you're any good, give you a nice veri or tell other female Fabbers about you...

...And as for those couples

drinking their fancy lattes and cappuccinos before you all head up the hotel room for him to watch you with his wife. They don't care about us single men, they're just in it for their own amusement

Seriously lads, this "poor me, I'm a single male" nonsense on the forums is getting old fast. This whinging about you "can't meet anyone". There's socials on, meet & greets, you can write a decent profile, keep the dick pics to yourself and instead of "Wanna F...?" (...with a cock pic) chat to the women and couples as "PEOPLE" Imagine

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Big idea... MAKE THE EFFORT

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Assuming I'm a ""Wanna F...?" (...with a cock pic)" type is your fantasy. My profile may be a bit shit but I haven't really seen many impressive profiles from guys or gals on this site. A lot of what looks like cut and paste in fact. Some people replying to my thread saying its a 'swingers' site and I should have known better don't know I was told about this site by a woman I was chatting to on pof - we were having a candid convo there about NSA and she said I'd have more luck here. Turns out she's a regular here so you can't really blame me for assuming singles are welcome even though its named 'fabswingers'. The fact is, I've had more shags that you can shake a stick at from pof and zero from here. The only reason I signed up here was because I thought that the fact this site seems explicitly about sex – at least far more up front about it than pof – would mean I might be able to speed things up and meet a fuck buddy but no. And I understand there could be a 1000 men to 50 women meaning women just can’t reply to the volume of messages they get but who do you blame for that? Single men or the women who encourage them to come here? And yeah, some men send horrible messages. What can I say about that? That’s not me its some men? Signing up here was a bad idea for me and I couldn’t have known that unless I did so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well if we are banned I won't miss it but it would have been nice to have been warned in some way"

Of course you're not going to be banned, where would we be without the decent, normal, sane and fun men who are in the majority here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I agree with there are too many men and too many idiot men but also there are too little women and too many women with an inflated ego when they shouldn't have! Maybe making it not free for men would be better it would eliminated alot time waster or at the very least fab will get some profit from it

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

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I'm with you all the way

As a single guy, I feel that I have been used & abused by the female Fabbers here

Yes, they meet you for coffee, sleep with you and if you're any good, give you a nice veri or tell other female Fabbers about you...

...And as for those couples

drinking their fancy lattes and cappuccinos before you all head up the hotel room for him to watch you with his wife. They don't care about us single men, they're just in it for their own amusement

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Big idea... MAKE THE EFFORT

Wow a bit of sense been spoken... madness I tell you

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By *ateniteCouple
over a year ago

Youghal

I think there are 3 different threads of a similar vein on the Irish forum right now. Not including the hundreds that have gone before.

Do a search and the advice is always the same.....attitude and effort.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Seems to be a lot of self pity going on here. Think about the amount of times you go on a night out, how often would you actually pull. And bare in mind that there is alcohol involved. This is more a long run and social thing, I don't think everyone is on here just to get shagged. Maybe expectations are too high, swinger doesn't automatically mean sex addict.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most single men join fab and automatically think,they will get pussy on tap.

Sorry doesn't work that way.

Its all about how much effort you put into it.

Like everything else.

Then work,and life get in the way.

Use your imagination,be creative,send messages,don't give up.

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

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I'm with you all the way

As a single guy, I feel that I have been used & abused by the female Fabbers here

Yes, they meet you for coffee, sleep with you and if you're any good, give you a nice veri or tell other female Fabbers about you...

...And as for those couples

drinking their fancy lattes and cappuccinos before you all head up the hotel room for him to watch you with his wife. They don't care about us single men, they're just in it for their own amusement

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Big idea... MAKE THE EFFORT

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common sense as always Tim

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas

"Just got a first mail from a guy ( Let me eat ur asshole)

Why in the name of god would we bother ????

What about the normal messages, you can block twats like that

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas

"Sorry about the lack of easy rides lads. . Sure not to worry Saturday night approaches again. Fingers crossed for ya

Love the sarcasm, but you seem to paint us all with same brush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I agree with there are too many men and too many idiot men but also there are too little women and too many women with an inflated ego when they shouldn't have! Maybe making it not free for men would be better it would eliminated alot time waster or at the very least fab will get some profit from it

Yeah make it free for all those creepy guys to send abusive messages to women who say no.

Yeah very smart.

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas

"I agree with the other poster. Get yourself verified and go to a Social.

And if your going to whinge about not being verified. Then why not go to the odd nights especially for the non verified to get verified!

Now that that's sorted.

Enjoy . . ."

This is what works lads, I'm on site a while, I get what I want out of it, but what I have see is getting to socials and not whinging about it is good way to start. If I was a woman here I wouldn't go near a lad unless we met at social... To many psychos here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think he wrote 'make it not free'

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

"Sorry about the lack of easy rides lads. . Sure not to worry Saturday night approaches again. Fingers crossed for ya

Love the sarcasm, but you seem to paint us all with same brush"

Im not ??? Tell ne where and ill correct it

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By *atrick SmithMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"Sorry about the lack of easy rides lads. . Sure not to worry Saturday night approaches again. Fingers crossed for ya

Copperfacejacks will be heaving ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there are 3 different threads of a similar vein on the Irish forum right now. Not including the hundreds that have gone before.

Do a search and the advice is always the same.....attitude and effort.

Yep have to agree the consistency of this type of post recently is starting to become quite a bore

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

"Sorry about the lack of easy rides lads. . Sure not to worry Saturday night approaches again. Fingers crossed for ya

Copperfacejacks will be heaving ??"

Men from fab and the guard's. These threads are boring ... its supposed to be fun here a bit of a laugh.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

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I'm with you all the way

As a single guy, I feel that I have been used & abused by the female Fabbers here

Yes, they meet you for coffee, sleep with you and if you're any good, give you a nice veri or tell other female Fabbers about you...

...And as for those couples

drinking their fancy lattes and cappuccinos before you all head up the hotel room for him to watch you with his wife. They don't care about us single men, they're just in it for their own amusement

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Big idea... MAKE THE EFFORT

common sense as always Tim"

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The day Teasing Tim is the voice of common sense or reason...

God help us all

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

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I'm with you all the way

As a single guy, I feel that I have been used & abused by the female Fabbers here

Yes, they meet you for coffee, sleep with you and if you're any good, give you a nice veri or tell other female Fabbers about you...

...And as for those couples

drinking their fancy lattes and cappuccinos before you all head up the hotel room for him to watch you with his wife. They don't care about us single men, they're just in it for their own amusement

...

Big idea... MAKE THE EFFORT

common sense as always Tim

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The day Teasing Tim is the voice of common sense or reason...

God help us all

..."

The day has come .... listen choir of angels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah make it free for all those creepy guys to send abusive messages to women who say no.

Yeah very smart."
did you misread post? I was suggesting that only men that pay can contact others

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By *ofistimacatedMan
over a year ago

cavan town

I'm by no means God's gift to women but I'm loving fab. Chatting and meeting with some great people. I'm I just one of the lucky single guys or is there a secret?

Is it possible that everyone is right? i.e Put some effort in, stop whinging because things aren't going the way you want them to, get to socials etc etc etc etc etc. If you put effort into anything and it pays off, it's not luck. Just a regurgitation of many people's views on the subject of single guys but there you go, what do I know, I'm just a single guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys on here who are actually SINGLE are in my experience The Bees Knees lol

I’ve had some amazing times with them! But it’s the few attached guys that end up leaving people down! Afraid the wifey will find out all that bullshit! I find I just don’t have the tolerance for bullshit on here!!

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"Single guys on here who are actually SINGLE are in my experience The Bees Knees lol

At least some are honest about it and you can determine accordingly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are socials advertised here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single guys on here who are actually SINGLE are in my experience The Bees Knees lol

At least some are honest about it and you can determine accordingly"

Men who are married/ Attached or supposedly separated.

Each to their own.

But don't spoil things for the rest of men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are socials advertised here?"

Alot of socials are yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks ... where? On this forum? Like people from here meet in bars in Dublin?

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

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"Thanks ... where? On this forum? Like people from here meet in bars in Dublin?"

Different socials are put up here. Message your interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I'm with you all the way

As a single guy, I feel that I have been used & abused by the female Fabbers here

Yes, they meet you for coffee, sleep with you and if you're any good, give you a nice veri or tell other female Fabbers about you...

...And as for those couples

drinking their fancy lattes and cappuccinos before you all head up the hotel room for him to watch you with his wife. They don't care about us single men, they're just in it for their own amusement

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Big idea... MAKE THE EFFORT

Could not say it better myself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can everyone stop feeling sorry for themselves

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By *illium_cobblersMan
over a year ago

swords EI & Derby UK

Sorry ?? Who sorry ??? I do just grand thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Rugbygirl, couldn't have put it better myself !

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

you don't need to be a rocket scientist or have other people tell you the site is difficult for men. the numbers are completely lobsided for 1. 2) location is a huge facet. if you're in one of Ireland's bigger cities your chance of succeeding roars up the ladder. I could go on and on. you're nearly better off not mailing as a newbie and interact on forums as if u mail and mail with no replies, frustration will set in. have your fun in normal life and just use this as an extra

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a good way of looking at it. Use it as extra NSA fun. If you're relying on a shag from it forget it, you'll more than likely be disappointed lads .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will This feeling sorry for oneself ever stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I blame these bloody hitichi wands for the whole handling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Will This feeling sorry for oneself ever stop

Apparently not

it's getting a bit much at this stage .... I go away for awhile and look at the state of the place

Oh fab it never ceases to amaze me

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

easy solution to no replies. don't mail. simple

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