FabSwingers.com forum: Confidence

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So has fab knocked your confidence , gave you more confidence or were you always confident person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exciting thread

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By *akemesmileWoman
over a year ago

in sexy town

Always been comfortable and confident on all aspects of fab and bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn't always confident ... It just came as I got older 18 or 19 and once I realised other peoples opinions really don't matter.

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By *akemesmileWoman
over a year ago

in sexy town

"I wasn't always confident ... It just came as I got older 18 or 19 and once I realised other peoples opinions really don't matter."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab can knock u down but the opinions of others does not state who u r. Stand tall, stand proud

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"I wasn't always confident ... It just came as I got older 18 or 19 and once I realised other peoples opinions really don't matter."

This is me to a tee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab can knock u down but the opinions of others does not state who u r. Stand tall, stand proud

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

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It's played a small part true .. your exposing your body for others to scrutinise.

There needs to be a certain amount of self belief first in order to do that.

Confidence comes in all shapes and forms. A confident mind is definitely the start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So has fab knocked your confidence , gave you more confidence or were you always confident person "
People would try and knock your confidence if you let them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wasn't always confident ... It just came as I got older 18 or 19 and once I realised other peoples opinions really don't matter."

I was 24 ish before I got to that stage and even still I realised confidence is a fragile thing for me. I can feel top of the world for weeks and come crashing down in a day. But I'm getting more level now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has definately made me understand men more,understand more about body language,opened my eyes alot when it comes to sex,and in some ways yes made me more confident.

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

Being comfortable in your own skin and who you are as a person is what matters. I am a confident person but I was before I joined. Fab is just a small part of the bigger picture

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

"Being comfortable in your own skin and who you are as a person is what matters. I am a confident person but I was before I joined. Fab is just a small part of the bigger picture"

This madam B is the truth. You can't expect others to validate your worth, you need to know that before you start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as I ever was to be honest. I've found 'real life' connections much easier but fab certainly hasn't knocked my confidence at all. It's a parallel universe where women rule unequivocally...just a precursor to married life! Good to get the practice in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always had confidence. I guess the abuse you get here from some could knock one's confidence. I tend to let it go over my head and just block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly as above when you know your own worth others will see it!

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I only became more greedy since on here and use my confidence to claim what I crave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only became more greedy since on here and use my confidence to claim what I crave.

Good for you DH!!

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

Had this conversation with another fabster recently. I'm quiet confident always have been . But after a 20+yr relationship ended I don't know if been on here or freedom has made me extra confident. Could be an age thing too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a huge part of confidence is acceptance of who you are ... I think social media is a big factor in people having low confidence because if a photo doesnt get a certain number of likes "what's wrong with it" ... If u rely on others for gratification Outwardly i think u may look confident but truthfully they may be the most insecure ... My advice be kind to other people, fuck their opinion and be good to yourself confidence will come

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"I only became more greedy since on here and use my confidence to claim what I crave.

Good for you DH!!

Yes I'm enjoying myself. Why should anyone be happy with none or only one slice of the cake? I've no problem with an equally shared one, it's the perfect happy meal.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I'm always confident not shy at all. The biggest turn off is a lady who puts herself down .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only became more greedy since on here and use my confidence to claim what I crave.

Good for you DH!!

Yes I'm enjoying myself. Why should anyone be happy with none or only one slice of the cake? I've no problem with an equally shared one, it's the perfect happy meal.

Exactly Fraulein have your cake and eat it! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The abuse one gets on here is from those who don't matter. They most likely have never met you, probably never will and have no idea who you really are.

With those things in mind it makes no difference.

Often one confidence is related to assurances. The secret is to know where to look for those assurances, in places that actually matter.

Be happy with who you are and others will also see that and share in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first started here, their were no shows, and some loosers I must say, but u rise above them, and give it back, as they say dont knock a person when their down, but if I've learnt one lesson from fab, just move on and say what u think and too hell with what they think or say. So yes my confidence is alot better, thanks too fab, .

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By *angerous Mind 87Man
over a year ago

Dublin 12

It's kind of made me more confident in some way, and less in others tbh. I'm more confident in situations where sex is a topic or agenda, and I'm much more confident in approaching women whether it be in real life or through an app.

Although on the flip side, it's made me less confident in my body. I was never in great shape, but not bad shape either. But joining this has made me realise there are so many other guys in much better physical condition, and more confident in themselves. And with it being an important attribute for sure, it's made me much more conscious.

So I'm actually using that as a motivation and goal to improve my body, stamina and fitness etc, so when I do start sticking up more pictures I'll be more body confident in myself and more confident in trying to meet people

Great topic btw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab has made no difference, I'm a fairly confident person simply because I don't give a rat's ass what others think of me in the main

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab has made no difference either way to my confidence. Life has thought me that we can only control certain things and others will think and act how they want. Fab is a bit of extra fun for us and that's where it ends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care what other people think of me ,what u see u get

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

"I only became more greedy since on here and use my confidence to claim what I crave.

Hood on ya. . As it should be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The abuse one gets on here is from those who don't matter. They most likely have never met you, probably never will and have no idea who you really are.

With those things in mind it makes no difference.

Often one confidence is related to assurances. The secret is to know where to look for those assurances, in places that actually matter.

Be happy with who you are and others will also see that and share in it."

I do have to say that some people surprise/disappoint me with the things they say and do.

But it is themselves they let down not me. Lol

But as you say it is a case of being happy with yourself which I am

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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City

I think confidence comes more with age and acceptance of who you are and being comfortable in your own skin. Here can give you little boosts or knocks from time to time but it doesn’t change the fact that overall I’m much happier in myself than I was 20 years ago.

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By *ensualandslow321Man
over a year ago

Tullamore

Have to say confident is not a word I'd associate with myself but other people sometimes do. I'd prefer to say that I'm very comfortable in my own skin and mind. Think I have always been more or less like that so can't say if Fab has affected my personality but has certainly given me great laughs and broadened my mind. So positive !!

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

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Fantastic reading through these posts and the positivity from women especially about feeling more confident as we get older. We are like fine wines ladies ... better with age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fantastic reading through these posts and the positivity from women especially about feeling more confident as we get older. We are like fine wines ladies ... better with age "
I don't think it's necessarily about "better", it's about learning not to waste your life worrying about irrelevant shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fantastic reading through these posts and the positivity from women especially about feeling more confident as we get older. We are like fine wines ladies ... better with age "

And not accepting any bs

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

"Fantastic reading through these posts and the positivity from women especially about feeling more confident as we get older. We are like fine wines ladies ... better with age

And not accepting any bs

Quite bloody right my dear. Those days are well and truly over

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

"Fantastic reading through these posts and the positivity from women especially about feeling more confident as we get older. We are like fine wines ladies ... better with age I don't think it's necessarily about "better", it's about learning not to waste your life worrying about irrelevant shit

I think that's better ... more time focused on what's important

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's kind of made me more confident in some way, and less in others tbh. I'm more confident in situations where sex is a topic or agenda, and I'm much more confident in approaching women whether it be in real life or through an app.

Great topic btw."
fair play mate it does kinda make ya want get in shape tho I love my crappy food lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For me personally im not over confident and Im not person with no confidence either I'm just comfortable with myself as a few have said don't take others opinions of myself to heart as some people love to tear people down. What got me thinking of this is amount guys asking what there doing wrong with not getting any replies and I think those guys it would knocked there confidence a bit and also the ladies get all sorts abuse in mail so that can knock there confidence as well .

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By *verage Joe BlackMan
over a year ago

Border Area

Here's a couple of perspectives:

- Being online is different to dealing with someone face to face, so people on here tend to come across more confident as we all have a degree of anonymity. How many of us have found a meet in real life to be totally different to the person we were talking to online?

- Women: I suspect the attention that most (all?) women get on here from guys is bound to boost ego and consequently confidence. Could women comment on whether this is the case?

- Men: By and large most men on here get ignored/rejected/find it hard to make headway when trying to approach ladies on here, so I suspect (depending on personality) their confidence takes a knock.

- Overall: Fab is a "virtual" world for most of peoples interactions, so is it not easier to be more confident?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The attention which you rightly mentioned (all) getting is only an ego boost if you believe it’s only aimed at you. Those who are in denial of the fact that everybody is told the same lines and chatted to in the same ways are dillusional (few probably are).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TBH I find fab sometimes a wee bit demoralising. If I'm not drooling over someone's perfect abs (while shamefully staring down at my own middle-aged mommy bits) then I'm gazing at the perfect party veris and wondering where the hell was I?

But other times, I do get a laugh out of this site, some pretty good sex and even, dare I say it... a buddy or two.

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

"The attention which you rightly mentioned (all) getting is only an ego boost if you believe it’s only aimed at you. Those who are in denial of the fact that everybody is told the same lines and chatted to in the same ways are dillusional (few probably are). "

This

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

My fab persona is up 'n down depending on how interactions progress

My real life persona couldnt give 2 shits what happens on fab and ive long learnt this virtual world is so far removed from reality its almost unbelievable..

If you cant disassociate the 2 as a single male youre in for a hard time..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My fab persona is up 'n down depending on how interactions progress

My real life persona couldnt give 2 shits what happens on fab and ive long learnt this virtual world is so far removed from reality its almost unbelievable..

If you cant disassociate the 2 as a single male youre in for a hard time.."

Same for a female. Fab is a distraction in my life not a life style.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is how you feel in yourself, if you're happy with yourself on the inside it's going to shine out of you on the outside...

I've always been a confident & a very outgoing woman in both real life & on here and definitely much happier in myself in my 30's than in my 20's (Hello dirty 30's mmmmmm lol

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You're not going to be everyone's cup of tea in life in general, so feck it..life is short, have fun & sexy times

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry

Sorry i cant answer.

Just not confident enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fantastic reading through these posts and the positivity from women especially about feeling more confident as we get older. We are like fine wines ladies ... better with age

And not accepting any bs

Quite bloody right my dear. Those days are well and truly over

Just have to keep at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The abuse one gets on here is from those who don't matter. They most likely have never met you, probably never will and have no idea who you really are.

With those things in mind it makes no difference.

Often one confidence is related to assurances. The secret is to know where to look for those assurances, in places that actually matter.

Be happy with who you are and others will also see that and share in it.

I do have to say that some people surprise/disappoint me with the things they say and do.

But it is themselves they let down not me. Lol

But as you say it is a case of being happy with yourself which I am

Can be easy to spot those who aren't. Some go through a phase others it's a loooooooong tunnel. Hopefully they don't get stuck, I'd say it can be a dark place.

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