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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wanted to put this out there and get some opinions..

Just had an unpleasant chat with a woman looking at my profile. I messaged her and asked did she like to chat. I got a "No". Now I'm not the type to take offense, as I know I'm not gods gift and not for everyone's taste. I get another message back telling me, " I can't stand bi men". now on her profile she says she's bi curious as it does on my profile.

Does anyone think this is double standards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo double standards I would think

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thought so too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's nice to be nice. Don't like rudeness.Plus you have a very open and honest profile. Don't worry about it,the babe was not for you.

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By *twasntme11Woman
over a year ago

dublin

its against the rules to post a thread about someone that has blocked you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not particularly worried or upset. Probably a tad annoyed. Don't like hypocrites.

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By *otstuffkerry1Couple
over a year ago

tralee


"Not particularly worried or upset. Probably a tad annoyed. Don't like hypocrites."

In fairness she might have worded it better but i don't see her as being hypocritical

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

Don’t think it’s double standards you like what you like but no need to be rude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There were no names given in my post. I wouldn't do that. I'm not into naming and shaming.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for your opinions, that's the only reason I posted. Wanted some feed back. As I've already said I do not name and shame. But maybe peoples opinions here might make people think before being unnecessarily unpleasant when replying to others messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why so? It's ok for a woman to be bi curious but not for a man?

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"Why so? It's ok for a woman to be bi curious but not for a man?"

Techinally yeh I think you are right it is a double standard. I don’t know where it comes from. I wouldn’t not meet someone for being bi. I have been asked a number of times if I’d like to participate in bi 3somes and I’ve said no as it’s not my thing to watch men together or women together. But I do think it seems more acceptable by some for women to be together

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

Stand is a little harsh. She people should have phrased it better.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Double standard or not Op, she did you a favour by revealing her true colours early on The worst people on FAB are the "stringers along" who only want a pen pal yet will tell you they're "up for a meet soon"

She just did you a huge favour so good riddance and "NEXT!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I agree. What's a woman's mind set if they " can't stand bi men" and find it acceptable to play bi themselves?

I someone wants to play bi I have zero issues with it. But why should it be less acceptable for men than women?

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

nr Letterkenny


"Wanted to put this out there and get some opinions..

Just had an unpleasant chat with a woman looking at my profile. I messaged her and asked did she like to chat. I got a "No". Now I'm not the type to take offense, as I know I'm not gods gift and not for everyone's taste. I get another message back telling me, " I can't stand bi men". now on her profile she says she's bi curious as it does on my profile.

Does anyone think this is double standards?

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I'd say she's not really bi curious...just trying to please her man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

More like bi fobic me thinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All women have double standards mate, ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you come across as a very genuine person. From your original post the details seem to be basically ...

* You messaged 'want to chat ?'

° She meaasged back 'No'.

and the instead of leaving it at that she ...

° Messaged again ' I can't stand bi guys ! '

If that's exactly how it went down ? ( I'm aware for simplicity you may have omitted details, and if so feel free to say so ) then I wouldn't say she was being hypocritical, as if you are going to pigeon hole people by orientation,then bi women are not bi men and visa versa

Was it a rude insensitive thing to say ? Yes.

Is a blanket statement about all people of the same gender just with one common trait naive ? Yes.

But, I do wonder is there's a chance she was just so used to being hounded by people who don't take no for an answer, that she miss judged you and maybe lashed out a little at you out of frustration with others ?

Was that right ? No...but in fairness I think there's no point in reading too much into it, as it's absolutely no relection on you...and to be honest probably unfair to judge her on one ill chosen message that you can't be sure of the true motivation that was behind it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a more rewarding forum question you .ight choose to pose for your own information is :-

' Ladies, do any of you automatically dismiss meeting bi / bi-cur males ?...and if so why ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She obviously understand the concept bi curious ... but she is entitled to her view & whom she talks to ... prob a lucky escape for you

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

No its not double standards, she likes men to fuck her, and is interested in maybe being with a girl.

She does not like men being with men.

Hypocritical would be someone who believes in abortion being anti-suicide.

Or someone who believes in choice booking tickets for the pope so popes supporters would lose the choice to go.

things like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was just looking for peoples opinions. Is all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No comment

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever


"No its not double standards, she likes men to fuck her, and is interested in maybe being with a girl.

She does not like men being with men.

Hypocritical would be someone who believes in abortion being anti-suicide.

Or someone who believes in choice booking tickets for the pope so popes supporters would lose the choice to go.

things like that."

really how many unrelated threads can your shove your pro life views in? It’s getting old now

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"No its not double standards, she likes men to fuck her, and is interested in maybe being with a girl.

She does not like men being with men.

Hypocritical would be someone who believes in abortion being anti-suicide.

Or someone who believes in choice booking tickets for the pope so popes supporters would lose the choice to go.

things like that."

Topic change here but how do you get the believes in abortion but is anti suicide hypocrital they are two very different things

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city


" really how many unrelated threads can your shove your pro life views in? It’s getting old now "

I'm pro-choice?????

But thanks for noticing me.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city


"Topic change here but how do you get the believes in abortion but is anti suicide hypocrital they are two very different things"

Womans body her choice, suicidal persons body their choice.

Like euthanasia??

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"Topic change here but how do you get the believes in abortion but is anti suicide hypocrital they are two very different things

Womans body her choice, suicidal persons body their choice.

Like euthanasia??"

Still very different things

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok, getting totally off the point of this post...

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city


"Ok, getting totally off the point of this post... "

No its not the point was double standards?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Whatever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it double standards as her sexuality separate to her likes and dislikes. Though maybe a tad rude

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By *ewbies201Couple
over a year ago

lisburn

Double standards or not, it doesnt matter. The lady can chose to meet who she wants and also decline for whatever reason she feels like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I blame the parents

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

It's double standards IMO, but nothing new there, we all know that bi women are unicorns and bi men are the opposite (whatever that is). Anyhow by the end of the day everyone can have their preferences but there certainly isn't a need to be judgmental or rude. A no thanks does the job, why lash out at someone?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you..

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I'm afraid no point in moaning that she would not chat . She did not like bi men end of story I'm afraid .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh you've so missed the point!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Double standard or not Op, she did you a favour by revealing her true colours early on The worst people on FAB are the "stringers along" who only want a pen pal yet will tell you they're "up for a meet soon"

She just did you a huge favour so good riddance and "NEXT!"

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Exactly!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *ealOne74Man
over a year ago

limerick

I like women who don't like bi men ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's double standards IMO, but nothing new there, we all know that bi women are unicorns and bi men are the opposite (whatever that is). "

How about 'Omnihorns'....someone who can potentially be aroused by everyone

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By *ensualandslow321Man
over a year ago

Tullamore


"Why so? It's ok for a woman to be bi curious but not for a man?"

Nothing wrong with that at all. But people are entitled to their own choices....without being rude. I respect her wishes but she could have got her message across without being rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because someone is bi, doesn't meant they have to be into bi men.

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

She is within her rights to have her preferences but tarring all bi sexual males under a rude judgemental attitude is not the way to go about it...bet this thread would be hopping if a bi man said that to a bi woman! There's the double standard.

Regardless of sexual orientation, rude is rude!

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