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By *ingerrrr OP   Woman
over a year ago

Meath

I’m just wondering do people see a coffee meet veri go up and think that the people had a play meet same day too?

Do people do that?

I do a social only meet first ( maybe some kisses) but not a play. Is this the norm?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m just wondering do people see a coffee meet veri go up and think that the people had a play meet same day too?

Do people do that?

I do a social only meet first ( maybe some kisses) but not a play. Is this the norm?"

Social meets in my experience have lead to other things at times but usually yes social followed by organising play

L

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take from a verification exactly what is written. If, like is normally the case something like "I met John for a coffee, he was really funny, can't wait to meet him again for more...." then I assume they didn't bang.

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

Just cant get my head around coffee meets. Just dont get them. Most people seem to dig them, we both find them completely and utterly bizarre. We have never done one in regards to a meet and i cant see us ever doing one.

Someone describe the basic situation in a coffee meet because we both find it Strange. How can any chemistry be built up?

Cheers.

Pete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They meet, chat, flirt, kiss in the car and separate apparently

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By *ingerrrr OP   Woman
over a year ago

Meath

How can you meet someone without meeting them face to face beforehand?

As a single female I wouldn’t risk going straight to a hotel room or private house, you never know what could be waiting for you.

In a coffee meet situation you at least get an eyeball on the person, have a chat, see if they are what they said they were etc. Then go away knowing if you do/don’t want to meet them again.

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By *unnitoesWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Just cant get my head around coffee meets. Just dont get them. Most people seem to dig them, we both find them completely and utterly bizarre. We have never done one in regards to a meet and i cant see us ever doing one.

Someone describe the basic situation in a coffee meet because we both find it Strange. How can any chemistry be built up?

Cheers.

Pete"

Fair play to you guys for being able to build up chemistry without meeting someone first. As Gingerrr says, safety first for single females x

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

I haven’t really done coffee meets generally the ones I have met for coffee I knew before I’d never be meeting sexually it was just to verify them.

I’d never meet someone without talking for awhile first. I don’t have time for coffee meets lol if I get free time I want fun

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

Oh, we tend to socialize a lot before doing anything but generally m&gs and i guess it entirely different for couples for security reasons.

So if you go to a costa in ballymun for a coffee meet, do you get your nails/tan done? Do you wear baggy clothes?

Surely moat ladies want to look their best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven’t really done coffee meets generally the ones I have met for coffee I knew before I’d never be meeting sexually it was just to verify them.

I’d never meet someone without talking for awhile first. I don’t have time for coffee meets lol if I get free time I want fun "

I was just about to say I'd rather text, call and snapchat someone for a week or two before I met them. Not because of a safety concern but because its easier than a coffee meet to get to know someone. Although I'd be looking to meet someone similar to me who actually has time to text daily haha considering alot go into the guys car after a 30 min coffee I don't consider that the safest move either

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By *ingerrrr OP   Woman
over a year ago

Meath

My nails are always done...

It’s casual surroundings so it’s not Saturday night club wear attire.

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"I haven’t really done coffee meets generally the ones I have met for coffee I knew before I’d never be meeting sexually it was just to verify them.

I’d never meet someone without talking for awhile first. I don’t have time for coffee meets lol if I get free time I want fun

I was just about to say I'd rather text, call and snapchat someone for a week or two before I met them. Not because of a safety concern but because its easier than a coffee meet to get to know someone. Although I'd be looking to meet someone similar to me who actually has time to text daily haha considering alot go into the guys car after a 30 min coffee I don't consider that the safest move either "

I chat for longer mostly I’m a chatter I’d text all day

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere


"Just cant get my head around coffee meets. Just dont get them. Most people seem to dig them, we both find them completely and utterly bizarre. We have never done one in regards to a meet and i cant see us ever doing one.

Someone describe the basic situation in a coffee meet because we both find it Strange. How can any chemistry be built up?

Cheers.

Pete"

I would find it strange NOT to have a coffee meet . I've spoken to people for ages then coffee with absolutely no chemistry. Also I'd never put myself in a dangerous situation. You're chatting to someone off the internet. So to walk into a hotel room or house not knowing the person is far to dangerous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven’t really done coffee meets generally the ones I have met for coffee I knew before I’d never be meeting sexually it was just to verify them.

I’d never meet someone without talking for awhile first. I don’t have time for coffee meets lol if I get free time I want fun

I was just about to say I'd rather text, call and snapchat someone for a week or two before I met them. Not because of a safety concern but because its easier than a coffee meet to get to know someone. Although I'd be looking to meet someone similar to me who actually has time to text daily haha considering alot go into the guys car after a 30 min coffee I don't consider that the safest move either

I chat for longer mostly I’m a chatter I’d text all day "

Haha me too but I'm a texter. I'll text my way through a day if I'm not in anyone's company but I have a huge dislike of phone calls to the point that if its not immediate family or my manager I let it ring out and then text "what's up?" to the number

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"I haven’t really done coffee meets generally the ones I have met for coffee I knew before I’d never be meeting sexually it was just to verify them.

I’d never meet someone without talking for awhile first. I don’t have time for coffee meets lol if I get free time I want fun

I was just about to say I'd rather text, call and snapchat someone for a week or two before I met them. Not because of a safety concern but because its easier than a coffee meet to get to know someone. Although I'd be looking to meet someone similar to me who actually has time to text daily haha considering alot go into the guys car after a 30 min coffee I don't consider that the safest move either

I chat for longer mostly I’m a chatter I’d text all day

Haha me too but I'm a texter. I'll text my way through a day if I'm not in anyone's company but I have a huge dislike of phone calls to the point that if its not immediate family or my manager I let it ring out and then text "what's up?" to the number "

I do that too hijacking the thread here

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere


"Oh, we tend to socialize a lot before doing anything but generally m&gs and i guess it entirely different for couples for security reasons.

So if you go to a costa in ballymun for a coffee meet, do you get your nails/tan done? Do you wear baggy clothes?

Surely moat ladies want to look their best.

"

A coffee meet is like a social during the day . I'd turn up well groomed and expect the same from the person I'm meeting.

Why would you wear baggy clothes????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh, we tend to socialize a lot before doing anything but generally m&gs and i guess it entirely different for couples for security reasons.

So if you go to a costa in ballymun for a coffee meet, do you get your nails/tan done? Do you wear baggy clothes?

Surely moat ladies want to look their best.

A coffee meet is like a social during the day . I'd turn up well groomed and expect the same from the person I'm meeting.

Why would you wear baggy clothes????"

Yeah whats with the baggy clothes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven’t really done coffee meets generally the ones I have met for coffee I knew before I’d never be meeting sexually it was just to verify them.

I’d never meet someone without talking for awhile first. I don’t have time for coffee meets lol if I get free time I want fun

I was just about to say I'd rather text, call and snapchat someone for a week or two before I met them. Not because of a safety concern but because its easier than a coffee meet to get to know someone. Although I'd be looking to meet someone similar to me who actually has time to text daily haha considering alot go into the guys car after a 30 min coffee I don't consider that the safest move either

I chat for longer mostly I’m a chatter I’d text all day

Haha me too but I'm a texter. I'll text my way through a day if I'm not in anyone's company but I have a huge dislike of phone calls to the point that if its not immediate family or my manager I let it ring out and then text "what's up?" to the number

I do that too hijacking the thread here "

Haha I'll ok stop, back to the thread. OK I know girls (one that used to be on this but I met off pof) that do "coffee meets" and i asked them how their "date" went (inverted commas because they're not off here and only one knows I'm here so they don't call it coffee meets) and the answer I usually get is "we went for coffee, had a chat and went off for a drive and kiss" has coffee given them superpowers to where they can get into a strangers car and fight them off if needed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The coffee meet is to see if the sexual chemistry is their and as it can happen, that you can text swap face pics etc but meet it person and it's just not the same

M&G/Clubs/Parties are exactly like a coffee meet, only more people and in the sense you see the person, you chat, you flirt and if the sexual desire is their, then you play.

I've stopped the coffee meets and now go through the social aspect but I still get time to flirt & chat like I would if I was going for a coffee/tea/drink meet with an individual only now I get to meet more people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never felt the need to get my nails done or put on fake tan to have sex

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"I've never felt the need to get my nails done or put on fake tan to have sex "

Me either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In terms of is a social meet just a social meet then really depends on the person themselves. I've done social meets that were only soxial but also done a social meet that extended into a sexual meet but that is rare. Again it's down to the individuals

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

What’s wrong with baggy clothes?

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"What’s wrong with baggy clothes? "

I live in baggy clothes!

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"I’m just wondering do people see a coffee meet veri go up and think that the people had a play meet same day too?

Do people do that?

I do a social only meet first ( maybe some kisses) but not a play. Is this the norm?"

when are we having our social meet

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"Just cant get my head around coffee meets. Just dont get them. Most people seem to dig them, we both find them completely and utterly bizarre. We have never done one in regards to a meet and i cant see us ever doing one.

Someone describe the basic situation in a coffee meet because we both find it Strange. How can any chemistry be built up?

Cheers.

Pete

I would find it strange NOT to have a coffee meet . I've spoken to people for ages then coffee with absolutely no chemistry. Also I'd never put myself in a dangerous situation. You're chatting to someone off the internet. So to walk into a hotel room or house not knowing the person is far to dangerous. "

this is exactly my reason for coffee meets.. been part of a cpl u alreadly have that safetly net with each other and as we all know some ppl arent who what they claim to be. So if u & others find it silly & pointless for some its a necessary step to take to reassure us that will be safe m&gs arent always possible for us to attend to so call it our 1 on 1 m&g.. Bottom line whatever way works best each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway OP, you should do what suits you and you are comfortable with, regardless of what others choose to do.

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area


"What’s wrong with baggy clothes? "
not exactly shiny leggings now are they

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By *ohnandGemCouple
over a year ago

Louth/Meath/Dublin


"What’s wrong with baggy clothes? not exactly shiny leggings now are they"

Sometimes a lady can be sexy in her PJ's.

Some like baggies, some like leggings. Some like socials some like coffee meets.

You do what suits you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s wrong with baggy clothes? not exactly shiny leggings now are they"
Cant beat shiny or wet look legging...even for a coffee meet

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever


"What’s wrong with baggy clothes? not exactly shiny leggings now are they"

Shiny leggings don’t look nice on me

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere


"Just cant get my head around coffee meets. Just dont get them. Most people seem to dig them, we both find them completely and utterly bizarre. We have never done one in regards to a meet and i cant see us ever doing one.

Someone describe the basic situation in a coffee meet because we both find it Strange. How can any chemistry be built up?

Cheers.

Pete

I would find it strange NOT to have a coffee meet . I've spoken to people for ages then coffee with absolutely no chemistry. Also I'd never put myself in a dangerous situation. You're chatting to someone off the internet. So to walk into a hotel room or house not knowing the person is far to dangerous.

this is exactly my reason for coffee meets.. been part of a cpl u alreadly have that safetly net with each other and as we all know some ppl arent who what they claim to be. So if u & others find it silly & pointless for some its a necessary step to take to reassure us that will be safe m&gs arent always possible for us to attend to so call it our 1 on 1 m&g.. Bottom line whatever way works best each to their own "

In a nutshell.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere


"I haven’t really done coffee meets generally the ones I have met for coffee I knew before I’d never be meeting sexually it was just to verify them.

I’d never meet someone without talking for awhile first. I don’t have time for coffee meets lol if I get free time I want fun

I was just about to say I'd rather text, call and snapchat someone for a week or two before I met them. Not because of a safety concern but because its easier than a coffee meet to get to know someone. Although I'd be looking to meet someone similar to me who actually has time to text daily haha considering alot go into the guys car after a 30 min coffee I don't consider that the safest move either

I chat for longer mostly I’m a chatter I’d text all day

Haha me too but I'm a texter. I'll text my way through a day if I'm not in anyone's company but I have a huge dislike of phone calls to the point that if its not immediate family or my manager I let it ring out and then text "what's up?" to the number

I do that too hijacking the thread here

Haha I'll ok stop, back to the thread. OK I know girls (one that used to be on this but I met off pof) that do "coffee meets" and i asked them how their "date" went (inverted commas because they're not off here and only one knows I'm here so they don't call it coffee meets) and the answer I usually get is "we went for coffee, had a chat and went off for a drive and kiss" has coffee given them superpowers to where they can get into a strangers car and fight them off if needed? "

Starbucks do a special superhero coffee...and an iced version for the hot weather.... cape and all.... hides the baggy clothes

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre


"I’m just wondering do people see a coffee meet veri go up and think that the people had a play meet same day too?

Do people do that?

I do a social only meet first ( maybe some kisses) but not a play. Is this the norm?"

???? totally the norm for me Ginger..most my veris are social ones..best way to see of chemistry for potential fun in the future

Beja xx

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

As are meet & greets social drinks to see potential fun in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As are meet & greets social drinks to see potential fun in the future "

I call it market research

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can you meet someone without meeting them face to face beforehand?

As a single female I wouldn’t risk going straight to a hotel room or private house, you never know what could be waiting for you.

In a coffee meet situation you at least get an eyeball on the person, have a chat, see if they are what they said they were etc. Then go away knowing if you do/don’t want to meet them again. "
just cause you meet someone face to face doesn't mean there not going turn out to be crazy

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"How can you meet someone without meeting them face to face beforehand?

As a single female I wouldn’t risk going straight to a hotel room or private house, you never know what could be waiting for you.

In a coffee meet situation you at least get an eyeball on the person, have a chat, see if they are what they said they were etc. Then go away knowing if you do/don’t want to meet them again. just cause you meet someone face to face doesn't mean there not going turn out to be crazy "

My ex’s are proof of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can you meet someone without meeting them face to face beforehand?

As a single female I wouldn’t risk going straight to a hotel room or private house, you never know what could be waiting for you.

In a coffee meet situation you at least get an eyeball on the person, have a chat, see if they are what they said they were etc. Then go away knowing if you do/don’t want to meet them again. just cause you meet someone face to face doesn't mean there not going turn out to be crazy

My ex’s are proof of that "
exactly lot people can hide there crazy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had far fewer coffee meets then play meets than straight play meets. I enjoy getting to know someone and building a rapport. Theres been a few who have also been blindfolded on first meet. I listen to my gut feeling about someone. In such cases I always suggest they contact a friend and tell them. I suggest they also send a txt message when I arrive and after some time to reassure their friend too.

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"I've had far fewer coffee meets then play meets than straight play meets. I enjoy getting to know someone and building a rapport. Theres been a few who have also been blindfolded on first meet. I listen to my gut feeling about someone. In such cases I always suggest they contact a friend and tell them. I suggest they also send a txt message when I arrive and after some time to reassure their friend too."

This is what me and my friend do thank god for sending locations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had far fewer coffee meets then play meets than straight play meets. I enjoy getting to know someone and building a rapport. Theres been a few who have also been blindfolded on first meet. I listen to my gut feeling about someone. In such cases I always suggest they contact a friend and tell them. I suggest they also send a txt message when I arrive and after some time to reassure their friend too.

This is what me and my friend do thank god for sending locations "

Yes and it does work well and a very useful tool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had far fewer coffee meets then play meets than straight play meets. I enjoy getting to know someone and building a rapport. Theres been a few who have also been blindfolded on first meet. I listen to my gut feeling about someone. In such cases I always suggest they contact a friend and tell them. I suggest they also send a txt message when I arrive and after some time to reassure their friend too.

This is what me and my friend do thank god for sending locations

Yes and it does work well and a very useful tool."

Always a coffee/social meet after chatting a while though there have been times when the coffee is skipped and fun takes it place. Not often but you know within a few minutes if the chemistry is there or not.

I do have a friend who knows where I am at and who im meeting though. Better being safe.

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

I always meet socially first for safety, chemistry and authenticity reason's. Extremely rare where it has progressed to anything else. Ginger, what suits you and makes you feel comfortable is all that matters whether that's tanned and varnished or casually sexy, do it your way.

I have had loads of guy's tell me that most coffee meets progress to play...chancers moreso than charmer's.

Fooey took it the furthest though by getting his car locked into the car park on our first time meeting

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"I've had far fewer coffee meets then play meets than straight play meets. I enjoy getting to know someone and building a rapport. Theres been a few who have also been blindfolded on first meet. I listen to my gut feeling about someone. In such cases I always suggest they contact a friend and tell them. I suggest they also send a txt message when I arrive and after some time to reassure their friend too.

This is what me and my friend do thank god for sending locations

Yes and it does work well and a very useful tool."

she has a great friend thou..jusy saying

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By *atts n titsCouple
over a year ago

everywhere


"Just cant get my head around coffee meets. Just dont get them. Most people seem to dig them, we both find them completely and utterly bizarre. We have never done one in regards to a meet and i cant see us ever doing one.

Someone describe the basic situation in a coffee meet because we both find it Strange. How can any chemistry be built up?

Cheers.

Pete"

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"I've had far fewer coffee meets then play meets than straight play meets. I enjoy getting to know someone and building a rapport. Theres been a few who have also been blindfolded on first meet. I listen to my gut feeling about someone. In such cases I always suggest they contact a friend and tell them. I suggest they also send a txt message when I arrive and after some time to reassure their friend too.

This is what me and my friend do thank god for sending locations

Yes and it does work well and a very useful tool.

she has a great friend thou..jusy saying "

I do

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By *nalcumslutWoman
over a year ago

navan

Don't do coffee meets...

Fail to see the point..

What if ya don't drink coffee?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't do coffee meets...

Fail to see the point..

What if ya don't drink coffee? "

Tea .. water.... Soft drinks

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By *imerick-babeWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

This 100% !

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By *oey4somefunMan
over a year ago

Dublin/Drogheda

I have gone for many coffee meets and I find them great. It's the same as meeting someone in a pub for a drink, it doesn't have to be a alcoholic drink. Tea/coffee/water/wine, it's just a social meet and if things evolve well that's a bonus.I have met some really nice people through them. So to sum it up coffee meets don't have to be just coffee, they can be done just to see if there is chemistry. No point in booking a room blind and then you don't click. That's my thoughts anyway.

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By *nalcumslutWoman
over a year ago

navan


"Don't do coffee meets...

Fail to see the point..

What if ya don't drink coffee?

Tea .. water.... Soft drinks "

Missing my point

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"Don't do coffee meets...

Fail to see the point..

What if ya don't drink coffee?

Tea .. water.... Soft drinks

Missing my point"

I get your point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't do coffee meets...

Fail to see the point..

What if ya don't drink coffee?

Tea .. water.... Soft drinks

Missing my point"

Coffee/drink meets for some is their social outlet to see if there is a attraction

Much the same as people meeting and chatting at socials and m&g.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't do coffee meets...

Fail to see the point..

What if ya don't drink coffee?

Tea .. water.... Soft drinks

Missing my point

Coffee/drink meets for some is their social outlet to see if there is a attraction

Much the same as people meeting and chatting at socials and m&g."

I alwaya meet socially first. The last guy i met thought there was an attraction. Was i wrong. Chatted for ages got on really well. Went our separate ways and when i suggested meeting again. His answer was didnt think there was a spark so no point. Id have looked well sitting in a hotel room been rejected.

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By *organosMan
over a year ago

city centre

Agreed

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By *traycats2Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"I’m just wondering do people see a coffee meet veri go up and think that the people had a play meet same day too?

Do people do that?

I do a social only meet first ( maybe some kisses) but not a play. Is this the norm?"
we have never done anything on a coffee meet and can tell you we have done loads and don’t always put a veri up saying we had a meet with the couple either . We shy away from clubs as afraid we might meet someone we know , so coffee meets easier for us ... and we both always make an effort and dress up... one couple we met he had a tracksuit on ... Jesus make An effort I thought ... wasn’t expecting a suit btw but jeans and T-shirt / shirt would be nice .... first impressions and all that xx

Mrs stray

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By *ittyMissKittyWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Being a single female I'd never meet blind, especially a couple.. it can be totally intimidating meeting a couple alone, never mind for the first-time.

Ideally a social is the best place as you get to see them and how they interact with others. But if not a social then definitely a coffee meet.

So many people, mainly single guys would expect you to give a BJ or something after a coffee. When I feel that's the way it's going I generally don't even meet for the coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But, a man (or woman) could easily put on a nice front and may turn out to be quiet the opposite when meeting up for a fun time.

So I'm not really understanding the logic behind coffee meets.

I'd much rather build a rapport with a person over a couple of weeks via kik, snapchat , phone call etc. It gives me a better insight in to what they are truly like as a person over a two week period.

It is much harder to keep up a front for two weeks than a once off coffee meet.

Can't be too careful these day's. I certainly would not like to venture behind a closed door with a manipulative person, emotionally unstable person. And yes, females are equally capable of such characteristics.

Finally, Attraction takes a few minutes, sexual chemistry takes a few week's to build and then there is another further realm after that. And that certainly leads to an unforgettable experience and intense passion and orgasms.

The longest sexual chemistry building I participated in with someone was 6 month's, of teasing , disappearing, coming back again. The encounter that was had after those 6 month's words can't even put it in to perspective. The intensity was unimaginable. 12 hour's, no sleep.

Try it sometime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't do coffee meets...

Fail to see the point..

What if ya don't drink coffee? "
There is always tea instead

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By *traycats2Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"But, a man (or woman) could easily put on a nice front and may turn out to be quiet the opposite when meeting up for a fun time.

So I'm not really understanding the logic behind coffee meets.

I'd much rather build a rapport with a person over a couple of weeks via kik, snapchat , phone call etc. It gives me a better insight in to what they are truly like as a person over a two week period.

It is much harder to keep up a front for two weeks than a once off coffee meet.

Can't be too careful these day's. I certainly would not like to venture behind a closed door with a manipulative person, emotionally unstable person. And yes, females are equally capable of such characteristics.

Finally, Attraction takes a few minutes, sexual chemistry takes a few week's to build and then there is another further realm after that. And that certainly leads to an unforgettable experience and intense passion and orgasms.

The longest sexual chemistry building I participated in with someone was 6 month's, of teasing , disappearing, coming back again. The encounter that was had after those 6 month's words can't even put it in to perspective. The intensity was unimaginable. 12 hour's, no sleep.

Try it sometime

"
but we would chat a while before we meet for coffee - drinks ... we don’t just message someone and say fancy a coffee ... we build it up. Then meet For coffee and then if we all agree to meet again for some play even better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm..I hear ya.

But, for me that would be like this... I'm about to orgasm, right and the pinnacle of letting go...and a crow sticks his beak in my ass

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By *traycats2Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Hmm..I hear ya.

But, for me that would be like this... I'm about to orgasm, right and the pinnacle of letting go...and a crow sticks his beak in my ass"
. ...... poor crow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a fan of texting for ages and sexting exchanging pics for weeks is just annoying and I simply don’t have the time .

I find the best way to meet people is at parties and events where you can chose to play or just make a connection .

If I am meeting someone which is rare these days , I meet them socially some where public first with no expectations for play .

Too many people here are not what they present themselfs to be .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My nails are always done...

It’s casual surroundings so it’s not Saturday night club wear attire. "

What about snickers? Many many moons ago we met for coffee. I was wearing snickers at the time and you walked right by me. You did come back. Eventually.

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

I would normally have a coffee meet for local meets but for further afield meets it will build up over text and video calls and the way it has worked out so far we both just want to jump right in lol

Every meet is different and every person is different so I generally play it by ear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had coffee meet with lad i really didn't like so thank god met 1st

I've also gone to Liverpool for meet for weekend to meet lad Id only ever spoke to and had great time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always meet socially first for safety, chemistry and authenticity reason's. Extremely rare where it has progressed to anything else. Ginger, what suits you and makes you feel comfortable is all that matters whether that's tanned and varnished or casually sexy, do it your way.

I have had loads of guy's tell me that most coffee meets progress to play...chancers moreso than charmer's.

Fooey took it the furthest though by getting his car locked into the car park on our first time meeting "

Hey I was stranded in a foreign country!

And you knew that car park is locked from 7 ya fecker!

The lengths some people will go to strand someone just to have their wicked way wiv em!

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I always insist on coffee meet first could never just meet someone and get down to business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes coffee meet and you know after 5 seconds if u like them and take it further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be safe environment fir girls absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had far fewer coffee meets then play meets than straight play meets. I enjoy getting to know someone and building a rapport. Theres been a few who have also been blindfolded on first meet. I listen to my gut feeling about someone. In such cases I always suggest they contact a friend and tell them. I suggest they also send a txt message when I arrive and after some time to reassure their friend too.

This is what me and my friend do thank god for sending locations

Yes and it does work well and a very useful tool.

she has a great friend thou..jusy saying "

I've a few but I'm told get on with it ...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has to be safe environment fir girls absolutely "

I've known where it's needed to be the other way round. Shouldn't assume the guy is always safe. Theres been a few cases of robbery on fab over the years when a guy was lured into a fake meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well then a petrol station meet so ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well then a petrol station meet so ? "

Better than a dark quiet car park or a dark quiet isolated country rd for a coffee in which has been assked in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has to be safe environment fir girls absolutely

I've known where it's needed to be the other way round. Shouldn't assume the guy is always safe. Theres been a few cases of robbery on fab over the years when a guy was lured into a fake meet. "

And that’s how I explain why I bring my baseball bat...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has to be safe environment fir girls absolutely

I've known where it's needed to be the other way round. Shouldn't assume the guy is always safe. Theres been a few cases of robbery on fab over the years when a guy was lured into a fake meet.

And that’s how I explain why I bring my baseball bat... "

Base ball bat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also why I’m unverified...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also why I’m unverified... "

Loose the base ball bat

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir


"I always meet socially first for safety, chemistry and authenticity reason's. Extremely rare where it has progressed to anything else. Ginger, what suits you and makes you feel comfortable is all that matters whether that's tanned and varnished or casually sexy, do it your way.

I have had loads of guy's tell me that most coffee meets progress to play...chancers moreso than charmer's.

Fooey took it the furthest though by getting his car locked into the car park on our first time meeting

Hey I was stranded in a foreign country!

And you knew that car park is locked from 7 ya fecker!

The lengths some people will go to strand someone just to have their wicked way wiv em!

"

I was distracted and lost track of time

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I find coffee meets awkward. I prefer all or nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find coffee meets awkward. I prefer all or nothing. "

Go hard or go home...?

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"I find coffee meets awkward. I prefer all or nothing.

Go hard or go home...? "

Yep, only once I preferred to go home, with a lil detour though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find coffee meets awkward. I prefer all or nothing. "

How long do you spend vetting them though?

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"I find coffee meets awkward. I prefer all or nothing.

How long do you spend vetting them though? "

It depends on the profile and the convo, but normally I do take my time and most importantly listen to my gut feeling. I can't see how a coffee meet keeps me any safer and if I feel the need for a coffee meet then there's doubts so why go for it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m not a fan of texting for ages and sexting exchanging pics for weeks is just annoying and I simply don’t have the time .

I find the best way to meet people is at parties and events where you can chose to play or just make a connection .

If I am meeting someone which is rare these days , I meet them socially some where public first with no expectations for play .

Too many people here are not what they present themselfs to be .

"

Very very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, sometimes it happens, one of my meets I met with a couple,after an hour we got to know each other a bit and we was in the bedroom playing .

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