FabSwingers.com forum: Dom bdsm

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone here into this side of stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The dominatrix side as in Mrs snickers letting her domme side lose.

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By *imandher33Couple
over a year ago

Blanchardstown

We are into it but its nearly impossible to do when in a shared house :P

so that side only really comes out when we get a hotel room !

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

Yes i am and have been for 20 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very much so but haven’t experienced as much as I’d like too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes please experienced only I want to push my boundaries x

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Yes I would luv to meet a Domme lady to help me push my boundaries .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone should start a kik group..

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By *sexybitchWoman
over a year ago

north dublin

"We are into it but its nearly impossible to do when in a shared house :P

so that side only really comes out when we get a hotel room !

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i rent a dungeon

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By *sexybitchWoman
over a year ago

north dublin

Think i might have a bdsm party soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think i might have a bdsm party soon"

I’m coming!! See how I even post in a dominant manner?

Please can I come. I’ll be real nice. Promise.

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By *ts artMan
over a year ago

Londonderry

Yes, Now you need to understand that there's different types too

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I'm dominant in that I like to have my way, and am a bit rough.

But if a girl calls me sir I am laughing at her, its cringe.

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

"Yes, Now you need to understand that there's different types too "

So so many different types, and not to use 50 Shades a a guild

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

There's 50 shades BDSM.

And there's proper dominance/BDSM.

It annoys me when people think it's all about spanking ,humiliation etc..it's not. Like different types of kinks ,there's different kinds of dominants.

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

"There's 50 shades BDSM.

And there's proper dominance/BDSM.

It annoys me when people think it's all about spanking ,humiliation etc..it's not. Like different types of kinks ,there's different kinds of dominants. "

This right here this.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's 50 shades BDSM.

And there's proper dominance/BDSM.

It annoys me when people think it's all about spanking ,humiliation etc..it's not. Like different types of kinks ,there's different kinds of dominants. "

50 Shades has a lot to answer for..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's 50 shades BDSM.

And there's proper dominance/BDSM.

It annoys me when people think it's all about spanking ,humiliation etc..it's not. Like different types of kinks ,there's different kinds of dominants.

50 Shades has a lot to answer for.."

Seems like nearly every guy here watched the movie and now think they are a dom , couldn’t be further from the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think i might have a bdsm party soon"

I’d be very interested in that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here’s my plot summary for 50 Shades..

-Sign this paper so I can whoop your ass

-No!!

-Ah go on.. here’s presents..

-Oh ok..

“Slaps tittys around, the end”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think i might have a bdsm party soon

I’d be very interested in that "

I’d be interested in that too....not exactly a bdsm master or anything but have dabbed in it and I’d love to take a lil further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a rarity on fab. I think other fetish platforms might be a better avenue than here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's 50 shades BDSM.

And there's proper dominance/BDSM.

It annoys me when people think it's all about spanking ,humiliation etc..it's not. Like different types of kinks ,there's different kinds of dominants.

50 Shades has a lot to answer for..

Seems like nearly every guy here watched the movie and now think they are a dom , couldn’t be further from the truth "

I've never watched it, I'd imagine I'd laugh alot. It's twilight fan fiction sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here’s my plot summary for 50 Shades..

-Sign this paper so I can whoop your ass

-No!!

-Ah go on.. here’s presents..

-Oh ok..

“Slaps tittys around, the end”

Except with worse dialogue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Part of the reason I'm onfab I haven't met a woman who is open to try these things .... Yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id like to try it

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By *ittyMissKittyWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Think i might have a bdsm party soon

I’d be very interested in that "

Mise Freisin

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By *ts artMan
over a year ago

Londonderry

"Yes, Now you need to understand that there's different types too

So so many different types, and not to use 50 Shades a a guild

Dear god I really hope there's not a guild for 50 shades types

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

"Yes, Now you need to understand that there's different types too

So so many different types, and not to use 50 Shades a a guild

Dear god I really hope there's not a guild for 50 shades types

Phone auto correct. I really hope there isn't either but there probably is in America

I meant guide. But I hope it's a guide of this is what you don't do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here’s my plot summary for 50 Shades..

-Sign this paper so I can whoop your ass

-No!!

-Ah go on.. here’s presents..

-Oh ok..

“Slaps tittys around, the end”

Except with worse dialogue "

and mood music.. just imagine the narrator was humming “Whistle For The Choir” by the Fratellis as you read..

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"There's 50 shades BDSM.

And there's proper dominance/BDSM.

It annoys me when people think it's all about spanking ,humiliation etc..it's not. Like different types of kinks ,there's different kinds of dominants.

50 Shades has a lot to answer for..

Seems like nearly every guy here watched the movie and now think they are a dom , couldn’t be further from the truth

I've never watched it, I'd imagine I'd laugh alot. It's twilight fan fiction sure

L "

I've never see it. I read about 20 pages of the book and couldn't go any further.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"There's 50 shades BDSM.

And there's proper dominance/BDSM.

It annoys me when people think it's all about spanking ,humiliation etc..it's not. Like different types of kinks ,there's different kinds of dominants.

50 Shades has a lot to answer for.."

Produced a lot of wannabes and a platform for sadistic idiots

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

"There's 50 shades BDSM.

And there's proper dominance/BDSM.

It annoys me when people think it's all about spanking ,humiliation etc..it's not. Like different types of kinks ,there's different kinds of dominants.

50 Shades has a lot to answer for..

Seems like nearly every guy here watched the movie and now think they are a dom , couldn’t be further from the truth

I've never watched it, I'd imagine I'd laugh alot. It's twilight fan fiction sure

I've never see it. I read about 20 pages of the book and couldn't go any further. "

I just know about it from what I've been asked to do and I've refused.

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By *lavemale66Man
over a year ago

Carlow

"Think i might have a bdsm party soon"

Could I attend please?

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By *ts artMan
over a year ago

Londonderry

"Yes, Now you need to understand that there's different types too

So so many different types, and not to use 50 Shades a a guild

Dear god I really hope there's not a guild for 50 shades types

Phone auto correct. I really hope there isn't either but there probably is in America

I meant guide. But I hope it's a guide of this is what you don't do."

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By *ts artMan
over a year ago

Londonderry

"There's 50 shades BDSM.

And there's proper dominance/BDSM.

It annoys me when people think it's all about spanking ,humiliation etc..it's not. Like different types of kinks ,there's different kinds of dominants.

50 Shades has a lot to answer for..

Produced a lot of wannabes and a platform for sadistic idiots"

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By *arbiegirl19Woman
over a year ago

Hollymount

Oh I can vouch for mrs snickers..

Gorgeous sexy woman...that knows how to take command...

Can use the whip and flogger like no man...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's 50 shades BDSM.

And there's proper dominance/BDSM.

It annoys me when people think it's all about spanking ,humiliation etc..it's not. Like different types of kinks ,there's different kinds of dominants.

50 Shades has a lot to answer for..

Produced a lot of wannabes and a platform for sadistic idiots"

Sadly 90% of the so called 'doms' out there now think being a dom is about making a girl do the kinky shit they want.. and that couldnt be further from the truth..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's 50 shades BDSM.

And there's proper dominance/BDSM.

It annoys me when people think it's all about spanking ,humiliation etc..it's not. Like different types of kinks ,there's different kinds of dominants.

50 Shades has a lot to answer for..

Seems like nearly every guy here watched the movie and now think they are a dom , couldn’t be further from the truth

I've never watched it, I'd imagine I'd laugh alot. It's twilight fan fiction sure

L "

Watched 20 minutes of it and lost what feels like 20 years of my life nodding and smiling during lunch time chats about it at work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been into bdsm and bondage for years.

I make all my own equipment

Spreader bars.whips.floggers. I even have a stocks.

Once a code word is used and respected its kinky fun.

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By *aneMarpleWoman
over a year ago

dublin

Ive been into kink for years but now have a nice group of like minded individuals it's great and makes meeting up easier

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By *aidRXTV/TS
over a year ago

ashbourne

100% ..... I totally love it... Im a sub by the way, uncase you didnt notice!!!!

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"I've been into bdsm and bondage for years.

I make all my own equipment

Spreader bars.whips.floggers. I even have a stocks.

Once a code word is used and respected its kinky fun."

As long as the code word isn't "No" / "Ouch" / "Do what?"

Sorry, couldn't help myself.

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By *sexybitchWoman
over a year ago

north dublin

New kinky kik group contact me if like to be part of it some space left for females couples

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

"It's a rarity on fab. I think other fetish platforms might be a better avenue than here."

Half the so called Dom's here would piss their pants on other fet site's. 50 shades is mills & Boon bullshit. Being a Dom requires great observation and listening skills, anyone can play rough, a good Dom can make it erotic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A true dominant knows that it’s not all about sex a proper bdsm relationship takes time and patience to achieve . Most dominants won’t play with people just looking a quick thrill and that’s why it’s nigh on impossible to find one here for half an hours dalliance .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A true dominant knows that it’s not all about sex a proper bdsm relationship takes time and patience to achieve . Most dominants won’t play with people just looking a quick thrill and that’s why it’s nigh on impossible to find one here for half an hours dalliance ."

I personally think it's impossible to be D/s on a casual bassis.. it requires trust and understanding on a differant level.. and a true Dom has the deepest respect and regard for his submissive..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh I can vouch for mrs snickers..

Gorgeous sexy woman...that knows how to take command...

Can use the whip and flogger like no man..."
thanks for the kind words stranger...when I'm back home the 3 of us are going to have to get our vanilla on again so she can give you a good going over again especially as we won't have seen each other in a long time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think it's impossible to be D/s on a casual bassis.. it requires trust and understanding on a differant level.. and a true Dom has the deepest respect and regard for his submissive.. "

I think what appeals to most in D/s is the intense connection it brings , casual relationship don’t work for that dynamic.

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By *ittyMissKittyWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I personally think it's impossible to be D/s on a casual bassis.. it requires trust and understanding on a differant level.. and a true Dom has the deepest respect and regard for his submissive..

I think what appeals to most in D/s is the intense connection it brings , casual relationship don’t work for that dynamic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think it's impossible to be D/s on a casual bassis.. it requires trust and understanding on a differant level.. and a true Dom has the deepest respect and regard for his submissive..

I think what appeals to most in D/s is the intense connection it brings , casual relationship don’t work for that dynamic.

Agreed on this. That's why I think fab may not be the right avenue as time and effort is very much lacking as is the understanding of certain behaviour some enjoy.

Fab is full of wannabe Doms in my humble opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well am just a submissive TV domestic cleaner who enjoys a spanking etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with many things already posted here

Thoughts are that all relationships ... no matter how brief

are based on mutual respect.

The dom / sub label builds on that where trust is imperative on top of the respect for one another.

It cant be rushed, it must always be nurtured ... for mutual gratification and learning.

A sub is entrusting so much to a dom and a dom should always respect that trust. In many ways it is an honor.

The cinematic portrayal of the relationship focuses on the visible, the tangible ... but imho its simply one element. The physical is easier to portray in that medium but the intenisty of non verbal instruction and guidance is missed.

Bringing calm to the mind through physical ‘persuasions’ to focus on the here and now of the experience ... and the contrasts between a firm spank and a warm kiss .... are basic examples but the dynamics, nuances and non verbals between participants can be intoxicating

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By *organosMan
over a year ago

city centre

I am 100% into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been into bdsm and bondage for years.

I make all my own equipment

Spreader bars.whips.floggers. I even have a stocks.

Once a code word is used and respected its kinky fun."

Interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's 50 shades BDSM.

And there's proper dominance/BDSM.

It annoys me when people think it's all about spanking ,humiliation etc..it's not. Like different types of kinks ,there's different kinds of dominants.

50 Shades has a lot to answer for..

Seems like nearly every guy here watched the movie and now think they are a dom , couldn’t be further from the truth "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a proper Dom/Domme is something that very few can be.. It takes alot of trust,loyalty and masses of respect even after your time together is up .. I'm a Switch and know how this works on both ends .. it's not all whips and chains but more in the mind....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the fast n furious films

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love the fast n furious films

Good for you Hardy

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By *sexybitchWoman
over a year ago

north dublin

Fetish party 7 July

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

"It's a rarity on fab. I think other fetish platforms might be a better avenue than here."

Same people on the sites. They have no string casual sex on here, while pretending they need rules and a connection on the others, but really they just want sex, to be dominant, to be submissive, to be hit, to do the hitting, boy, girl, none of it matters to them, they just write what they think people want to hear.

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By *cerlass321Couple
over a year ago

kilkenny

we have our own purpose rm complete with slings harness toys

and adding more each week

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By *cerlass321Couple
over a year ago

kilkenny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's 50 shades BDSM.

And there's proper dominance/BDSM.

It annoys me when people think it's all about spanking ,humiliation etc..it's not. Like different types of kinks ,there's different kinds of dominants.

50 Shades has a lot to answer for..

Seems like nearly every guy here watched the movie and now think they are a dom , couldn’t be further from the truth

I've never watched it, I'd imagine I'd laugh alot. It's twilight fan fiction sure

I've never see it. I read about 20 pages of the book and couldn't go any further. "

Omg same here the quality of the writing was piss poor...because I enjoy the lifestyle as in bdsm I couldn't bring myself to watch the film at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely into all aspects of BDSM yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fetish party 7 July

Dam I only seen this now but I hope to go to the next one x

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"Me xx"

You don't say

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

Yes ... I'm good at

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By *enaciousdsCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Yes? I felt a thread summon me? lol

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

All 50 shades jokes aside, there truly is a darker side to this. Not all self-proclaimed Doms are what they claim to be. They may talk about respect and trust but actually use fear to control and manipulate. The submission isn't therefore given willingly and the dynamic is a lie based on mental abuse. Predators using a fetish or kink as a cover to find potentially vulnerable people. I've had a glimpse of it, and it ain't pretty.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"All 50 shades jokes aside, there truly is a darker side to this. Not all self-proclaimed Doms are what they claim to be. They may talk about respect and trust but actually use fear to control and manipulate. The submission isn't therefore given willingly and the dynamic is a lie based on mental abuse. Predators using a fetish or kink as a cover to find potentially vulnerable people. I've had a glimpse of it, and it ain't pretty."

Sounds nasty and I'm sure not what most verified Fabbers are talking about but I suppose, you never know.

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

This is the worst side, the darker side of BDSM

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Sounds nasty and I'm sure not what most verified Fabbers are talking about but I suppose, you never know."

Obviously there are plenty of us who enjoy bdsm or elements thereof! It can be incredibly erotic and satisfying

I'm lucky in that I have a fantastic long-term bondage partner (we're both switches), but have witnessed the darker side of it too.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I would luv to try out a Domme lady to have her Domme me . It's a fantasy of mine .

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By *kmanMan
over a year ago

Letterkenny

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By *witchcarlosccsMan
over a year ago

dublin

I'm curious about bdsm, I'm at the command of a dominant lady.

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By *sexybitchWoman
over a year ago

north dublin

Kik group for kinky people

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I would luv to join your kik group if possible . I'm very outgoing not shy ..but no problem if not .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

love to meet a dom girl

am a sub willing to please

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Sorry about jumping into your thread the title intrigued me. However I would like to bring some balance into the discussion and give an alternative view. I would warn that I tend to write in a straightforward manner and it is not my intention to insult or slight anyone. Also the experience in Ireland may be different.

Manipulative people are everywhere. People marry manipulative people and I don't see marriage getting the same doom and gloom treatment. This is a world with bad people. But it is also world with good people.

The first rule of anything is to find out about it before diving in and find out about who you are getting involved with. You don't go diving with the first person who says they are an expert diver. You do your research.

As for those against 50SOG, the book legitimized the fantasies of millions of women and that can't be bad.

Also I would suggest that those who have poor skills as a dom did not get it from 50SOG but the myriad of pornographic bdsm websites.

I suppose I find it difficult when people treat submissives primarily as defenceless female victims who have to resist the actions of big bad male doms. Whereas submissives are of both genders or genderless and those who know they are submissive need to be told positive steps of how to do ot safely rathet than be frightened. I am yet to find mentioned in a D/S thread on Fab that there are many happy D/S couples they rarely get mentioned.

The problem for many starting is really knowing what they are looking for in D/S.

Therefore the difficulty for both subs (and I know some who have met bad doms), and doms (and I know some that have met bad subs) is to meet someone that is on the same wavelength and has similar desires whether it is physical, or psychological and who can be trusted. This is no more than the standard problem of finding a partner.

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