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By *ingerrrr OP   Woman
over a year ago

Meath

Morning all. I don’t want this to come out as a rant, because it’s not but I’m just flabbergasted at the amount of single guys that no show to social events.

Now this is nothing new, I know, I’ve been on site a long while. But the number posting they can’t get meets or veris and then when they do get invited, they no show.

Lads... you need to start showing up, there are lots of single ladies looking for single lads that go to various social events and can’t find yas.

(Me)

So if you’d care to comment on what happens that makes you bottle it I’d love to hear it.

(This is not a single man bashing thread, I love single men)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning all. I don’t want this to come out as a rant, because it’s not but I’m just flabbergasted at the amount of single guys that no show to social events.

Now this is nothing new, I know, I’ve been on site a long while. But the number posting they can’t get meets or veris and then when they do get invited, they no show.

Lads... you need to start showing up, there are lots of single ladies looking for single lads that go to various social events and can’t find yas.

(Me)

So if you’d care to comment on what happens that makes you bottle it I’d love to hear it.

(This is not a single man bashing thread, I love single men)"

Your not the only one who's interested in hearing why!!!

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I'm not being bad but had supposedly women that never showed and a couple too . I think we are all kinda guilty at some stage .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's difficult going to that first m'n'g

Going into the hotel, not knowing anyone, not knowing who you'll meet, not knowing who to approach.

Might be an idea for lads to arrange to meet in a small group beforehand.

Wingmen are a great help!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning all. I don’t want this to come out as a rant, because it’s not but I’m just flabbergasted at the amount of single guys that no show to social events.

Now this is nothing new, I know, I’ve been on site a long while. But the number posting they can’t get meets or veris and then when they do get invited, they no show.

Lads... you need to start showing up, there are lots of single ladies looking for single lads that go to various social events and can’t find yas.

(Me)

So if you’d care to comment on what happens that makes you bottle it I’d love to hear it.

(This is not a single man bashing thread, I love single men)"

Very frustrating at meet and greets when couples and single women outnumber the single men.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"I'm not being bad but had supposedly women that never showed and a couple too . I think we are all kinda guilty at some stage . "

i know but having put on m&gs myself it is mostly single men that cancel or become no shows. and the point ginger was making they are the ones that moan on the threads all the time. from the social the weekend alot of us women were and are in the corner of single men but this carry on can be deflating when we want to meet single men too

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"It's difficult going to that first m'n'g

Going into the hotel, not knowing anyone, not knowing who you'll meet, not knowing who to approach.

Might be an idea for lads to arrange to meet in a small group beforehand.

Wingmen are a great help!"

everyone has a first m&g thou and felt like this bout we bite the bullet and go and most of us are willing and have arranged to meet the first timers at the door.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I would luv to have a lady friend to go to meets and greets cos I would not be bodared going on my own . But unfortunatly I'm not available to go due to work at times .

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"Morning all. I don’t want this to come out as a rant, because it’s not but I’m just flabbergasted at the amount of single guys that no show to social events.

Now this is nothing new, I know, I’ve been on site a long while. But the number posting they can’t get meets or veris and then when they do get invited, they no show.

Lads... you need to start showing up, there are lots of single ladies looking for single lads that go to various social events and can’t find yas.

(Me)

So if you’d care to comment on what happens that makes you bottle it I’d love to hear it.

(This is not a single man bashing thread, I love single men)"

What do you mean social events..like a coffee meet?

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
over a year ago

Craigavon

Listen guys stop making excuses and grow a pair i was very recently let down by a guy i was suppise to be goung to a meet and greet with as i was travelling down to it but i still went ahead on my own turned out to be one of the best nites we all get nervous and anxious but you just have to bite the bullet and go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

What do you mean social events..like a coffee meet?"

Social nights out like a meet and greet or social where fabbers meet up for an afters of a wedding type party

Or yes a coffee/drinks meet

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

Shhhhh you're ruining it for the rest of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works both ways maybe guys that do not get an answer to texts sent to ladys on fab think there is no point going to socials to get ignored as well maybe the hand of friendship needs to start on fab

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"

What do you mean social events..like a coffee meet?

Social nights out like a meet and greet or social where fabbers meet up for an afters of a wedding type party

Or yes a coffee/drinks meet "

Right thanks for explaining ive never been to 1 of these meets nor have I ever been invited to 1..Its not my thing anyway..I prefer 1 on 1 meets..suppose i shouldnt be here at all seeing as its a swingers site

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"It works both ways maybe guys that do not get an answer to texts sent to ladys on fab think there is no point going to socials to get ignored as well maybe the hand of friendship needs to start on fab "

if thats the case then why bother get the invite and cancel at the last min or no show. james u know this more than most as u have private parties..

i just feel if they are nervous at the start or the reason is as u say it could be then why bother asking to go .. its not good for them as a no show at one will be a no show at all the rest and they wont get anymore invites and the same goes to the same ones that always cancel.. i dont think they realise how hard we all work behinds the scene to make these nights a success and they fact they prevent an guy that would turn up a chance of going

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By *taylor122Man
over a year ago

dublin

The rush of turning up is half the fun. Never understand why guys bottle it ??

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"It works both ways maybe guys that do not get an answer to texts sent to ladys on fab think there is no point going to socials to get ignored as well maybe the hand of friendship needs to start on fab "

I tend to agree with you most women ignore men on this to the point of being downright rude then you get blocked then they organise 1 of these "events" and start moaning that nobody shows up..I suppose its funny in many ways

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir


"It works both ways maybe guys that do not get an answer to texts sent to ladys on fab think there is no point going to socials to get ignored as well maybe the hand of friendship needs to start on fab "

I don't think that is the case James. I have been cancelled on and answer respectful messages that match my profile. I do not answer no effort non readers. I defend the stance/plight of single men on here but they have to help themselves too.

Shout out to all the great single men that do turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's actually quite easy to understand why guys bottle it and that's why it still happens.

I do think that the single guys need to be more proactive, make arrangements to meet someone close by etc

Personally I blame the single sex education system

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"It works both ways maybe guys that do not get an answer to texts sent to ladys on fab think there is no point going to socials to get ignored as well maybe the hand of friendship needs to start on fab

I tend to agree with you most women ignore men on this to the point of being downright rude then you get blocked then they organise 1 of these "events" and start moaning that nobody shows up..I suppose its funny in many ways "

its not about this its about saying ur going to m&g and cancelling on the day or been a no show to moaning on the forums daily on how hard it is to get a meet..

women & cpls do the same but dont moan on the forums over no replys or how hard it is to get a meet etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look up your last kik chat group for last social did the lads that did not show up engage in the chat ? Did they get a chance to ? Or did the few strong characters do all the talking ? I have being in a fee group chats and i would say to myself not much point going in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose all people and not just single men bottle it before a m&g.

It's like everything you think what's the worst that could happen.

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By *ingerrrr OP   Woman
over a year ago

Meath


"It works both ways maybe guys that do not get an answer to texts sent to ladys on fab think there is no point going to socials to get ignored as well maybe the hand of friendship needs to start on fab

I don't think that is the case James. I have been cancelled on and answer respectful messages that match my profile. I do not answer no effort non readers. I defend the stance/plight of single men on here but they have to help themselves too.

Shout out to all the great single men that do turn up "

I second this. I reply to polite coherent messages. I don’t bother with the wanna fuck/meet now BS.

I offered to literally hold the hand of a single guy (who I’ve met a few times already) and he went radio silence on Thursday... no showed Saturday and is still MIA..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It works both ways maybe guys that do not get an answer to texts sent to ladys on fab think there is no point going to socials to get ignored as well maybe the hand of friendship needs to start on fab

I don't think that is the case James. I have been cancelled on and answer respectful messages that match my profile. I do not answer no effort non readers. I defend the stance/plight of single men on here but they have to help themselves too.

Shout out to all the great single men that do turn up

I second this. I reply to polite coherent messages. I don’t bother with the wanna fuck/meet now BS.

I offered to literally hold the hand of a single guy (who I’ve met a few times already) and he went radio silence on Thursday... no showed Saturday and is still MIA..

"

Are u sure u are not scary gingerrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It works both ways maybe guys that do not get an answer to texts sent to ladys on fab think there is no point going to socials to get ignored as well maybe the hand of friendship needs to start on fab

I don't think that is the case James. I have been cancelled on and answer respectful messages that match my profile. I do not answer no effort non readers. I defend the stance/plight of single men on here but they have to help themselves too.

Shout out to all the great single men that do turn up

I second this. I reply to polite coherent messages. I don’t bother with the wanna fuck/meet now BS.

I offered to literally hold the hand of a single guy (who I’ve met a few times already) and he went radio silence on Thursday... no showed Saturday and is still MIA..

"

Perhaps you should ask him why he didn't or doesnt want to go instead of offering to hold his hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

What do you mean social events..like a coffee meet?

Social nights out like a meet and greet or social where fabbers meet up for an afters of a wedding type party

Or yes a coffee/drinks meet

Right thanks for explaining ive never been to 1 of these meets nor have I ever been invited to 1..Its not my thing anyway..I prefer 1 on 1 meets..suppose i shouldnt be here at all seeing as its a swingers site "

You can use the site how you want you don't have to go to these, but if someone says they'll go they should just go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I offered to literally hold the hand of a single guy (who I’ve met a few times already) and he went radio silence on Thursday... no showed Saturday and is still MIA..

"

Can't excuse or defend that. Slightly () was good enough to meet me outside an MnG

That was all I needed

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Guys if you are that nervous about meeting people you should not be on here . Sure I have chatted to lots of ladies and next minute they are gone . They bottle it and go. Why come on here if have not got the courage to meet people .

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By *ingerrrr OP   Woman
over a year ago

Meath


"It works both ways maybe guys that do not get an answer to texts sent to ladys on fab think there is no point going to socials to get ignored as well maybe the hand of friendship needs to start on fab

I don't think that is the case James. I have been cancelled on and answer respectful messages that match my profile. I do not answer no effort non readers. I defend the stance/plight of single men on here but they have to help themselves too.

Shout out to all the great single men that do turn up

I second this. I reply to polite coherent messages. I don’t bother with the wanna fuck/meet now BS.

I offered to literally hold the hand of a single guy (who I’ve met a few times already) and he went radio silence on Thursday... no showed Saturday and is still MIA..

Perhaps you should ask him why he didn't or doesnt want to go instead of offering to hold his hand. "

He was going up to Wednesday night.. not a peep not reply since.. if he replied I’d ask..

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"It works both ways maybe guys that do not get an answer to texts sent to ladys on fab think there is no point going to socials to get ignored as well maybe the hand of friendship needs to start on fab

I tend to agree with you most women ignore men on this to the point of being downright rude then you get blocked then they organise 1 of these "events" and start moaning that nobody shows up..I suppose its funny in many ways

its not about this its about saying ur going to m&g and cancelling on the day or been a no show to moaning on the forums daily on how hard it is to get a meet..

women & cpls do the same but dont moan on the forums over no replys or how hard it is to get a meet etc "

I find it very difficult to get a meet on this site..ive had some great sexual encounters from normal dating sites..maybe its just me..on the m&g point..most single men dont want to meet half the site and exchange pleastries..they just want to fuck..women need to ask 100 questions before anything sexual happens

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"Look up your last kik chat group for last social did the lads that did not show up engage in the chat ? Did they get a chance to ? Or did the few strong characters do all the talking ? I have being in a fee group chats and i would say to myself not much point going in the end "

ah here james kik group doesnt have every single person going to the m&g in it that statement is a bit BS lots of the none chatters in kik group turned up saturday nite and other nights. plus those that chatted the most were willing to meet the shy ones and walk them in.. i turned up to the venue on my own and some from the kik group i never met were so welcoming to me i relaxed straight away..

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"It works both ways maybe guys that do not get an answer to texts sent to ladys on fab think there is no point going to socials to get ignored as well maybe the hand of friendship needs to start on fab

I tend to agree with you most women ignore men on this to the point of being downright rude then you get blocked then they organise 1 of these "events" and start moaning that nobody shows up..I suppose its funny in many ways

its not about this its about saying ur going to m&g and cancelling on the day or been a no show to moaning on the forums daily on how hard it is to get a meet..

women & cpls do the same but dont moan on the forums over no replys or how hard it is to get a meet etc

I find it very difficult to get a meet on this site..ive had some great sexual encounters from normal dating sites..maybe its just me..on the m&g point..most single men dont want to meet half the site and exchange pleastries..they just want to fuck..women need to ask 100 questions before anything sexual happens "

and this too can be arranged at these m&gs and again are u getting what the post is about .. its about saying the want to go then bail then come here and moan about how hard it is ..

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir


"Look up your last kik chat group for last social did the lads that did not show up engage in the chat ? Did they get a chance to ? Or did the few strong characters do all the talking ? I have being in a fee group chats and i would say to myself not much point going in the end "

Majority of Kik groups will have 50 in it but only a handful chatting. I barely participated in the Kik group. I don't think that is a valid reason either.

These Men (grown men) are on a sex/swinging site and they have opportunities that they are not availing of. Maybe as someone suggested above a buddy system/ wing man would work for them but we need the feedback from all.

Solutions not excuses.

From Kik group to predrinks, the socials are aimed at making people welcome but they have to participate in that to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the kik group called?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look up your last kik chat group for last social did the lads that did not show up engage in the chat ? Did they get a chance to ? Or did the few strong characters do all the talking ? I have being in a fee group chats and i would say to myself not much point going in the end

Majority of Kik groups will have 50 in it but only a handful chatting. I barely participated in the Kik group. I don't think that is a valid reason either.

These Men (grown men) are on a sex/swinging site and they have opportunities that they are not availing of. Maybe as someone suggested above a buddy system/ wing man would work for them but we need the feedback from all.

Solutions not excuses.

From Kik group to predrinks, the socials are aimed at making people welcome but they have to participate in that to."

It's just people looking for excuses as justification _adame b,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the kik group called?"

100 ways to avoid a m and g

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By *ingerrrr OP   Woman
over a year ago

Meath


"What's the kik group called?"

It’s disbanded now, it was set up for Saturday’s social specifically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is funny though that it's never the "bailers" who are on explaining what happened.

There is a lot of talk and no follow up especially from my fellow single(ish) men as regards meet and greets.

It's not a new problem though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am answering the question the op asked from a guys prospective and to be honest i talk to way more guys on fab than i do guys and discuss the problems getting ladys to talk to u on fab i always show up and go to meet and greets and host partys and as my veries will show am quiet sane and i most messages i sent are not read or answered what hope has a young single guy got on fab very little for fab to work for everybody conversations have to take place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the kik group called?

100 ways to avoid a m and g "

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"It works both ways maybe guys that do not get an answer to texts sent to ladys on fab think there is no point going to socials to get ignored as well maybe the hand of friendship needs to start on fab

I tend to agree with you most women ignore men on this to the point of being downright rude then you get blocked then they organise 1 of these "events" and start moaning that nobody shows up..I suppose its funny in many ways

its not about this its about saying ur going to m&g and cancelling on the day or been a no show to moaning on the forums daily on how hard it is to get a meet..

women & cpls do the same but dont moan on the forums over no replys or how hard it is to get a meet etc

I find it very difficult to get a meet on this site..ive had some great sexual encounters from normal dating sites..maybe its just me..on the m&g point..most single men dont want to meet half the site and exchange pleastries..they just want to fuck..women need to ask 100 questions before anything sexual happens

and this too can be arranged at these m&gs and again are u getting what the post is about .. its about saying the want to go then bail then come here and moan about how hard it is .. "

Yea i get what youre saying they shouldnt agree to something then bail out for no reason..it must be nerves..it is a website after all so it will attract the shy socially awkward type of man to a lesser extent women..i guess women want to observe these men in social situations to see their reactions and see how they relate to other people then if they pass the test the fun begins no?

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir


"Look up your last kik chat group for last social did the lads that did not show up engage in the chat ? Did they get a chance to ? Or did the few strong characters do all the talking ? I have being in a fee group chats and i would say to myself not much point going in the end

Majority of Kik groups will have 50 in it but only a handful chatting. I barely participated in the Kik group. I don't think that is a valid reason either.

These Men (grown men) are on a sex/swinging site and they have opportunities that they are not availing of. Maybe as someone suggested above a buddy system/ wing man would work for them but we need the feedback from all.

Solutions not excuses.

From Kik group to predrinks, the socials are aimed at making people welcome but they have to participate in that to.

It's just people looking for excuses as justification _adame b,"

James was at the social. I think he is just putting across a perspective like I am.

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin


"Look up your last kik chat group for last social did the lads that did not show up engage in the chat ? Did they get a chance to ? Or did the few strong characters do all the talking ? I have being in a fee group chats and i would say to myself not much point going in the end "

Several lads that spoke lots in the Kik group pulled out a day or two before hand. I find it's quite often the most vocal in Kik groups that are the first to not turn up. Each to their own.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they let organisers know a few days before hand fair enough thats different than a no show maybe something came up playing a match etc real life has to go on .couples and single ladys do it as well a well verified lady on fab was a now show at a party i was hosting and when i asked why next day an excuse was made up about being sick funny enough a veri from another party appeared for samr nite shortly afterwards its fab it will happen there is not much loyality on fab

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

I think it’s amazing the amount of family emergencies and last min called in to work that happens on a event night

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"Look up your last kik chat group for last social did the lads that did not show up engage in the chat ? Did they get a chance to ? Or did the few strong characters do all the talking ? I have being in a fee group chats and i would say to myself not much point going in the end

Several lads that spoke lots in the Kik group pulled out a day or two before hand. I find it's quite often the most vocal in Kik groups that are the first to not turn up. Each to their own....."

Exactly Wilder !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s amazing the amount of family emergencies and last min called in to work that happens on a event night "
..

The amount of grannies around the country that all simultaneously drop dead

L

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

What happens at a m&g?

Is it just a social event get to know each other type of thing or does any fun happen?

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By *rit on shannonMan
over a year ago

portumna

attended my first m&g saturday as a single guy and its nervous walking into a function room knowing zero people but just have to throw yourslef in and chat to people. the table i sat at were all very chatty friendly folks who quiclly made me feel more at ease.

would definitely go to another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s amazing the amount of family emergencies and last min called in to work that happens on a event night "

I can't comment as I've been called away to family emergency

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"attended my first m&g saturday as a single guy and its nervous walking into a function room knowing zero people but just have to throw yourslef in and chat to people. the table i sat at were all very chatty friendly folks who quiclly made me feel more at ease.

would definitely go to another."

You were great and you definitely picked the chattiest table

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By *ingerrrr OP   Woman
over a year ago

Meath


"What happens at a m&g?

Is it just a social event get to know each other type of thing or does any fun happen?"

The organisers create a social event for you to meet others.

What you get up to after is up to you and the people/person you meet/make arrangements with.

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"What happens at a m&g?

Is it just a social event get to know each other type of thing or does any fun happen?"

It’s a night out for drinks and chats and yes fun can happen if you click but don’t go with the I’m getting a ride cause you won’t then we can sense that and avoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What happens at a m&g?

Is it just a social event get to know each other type of thing or does any fun happen?"

The function is just like any party you chat to people and they can talk to u face to face there is no pressure to do anything else the last one i was at people were extremely friendly and organisers were very helpful to newbies as some are staying in local hotels nearby fun can happen afterwards if 2 people click they are well worth going to

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Morning all. I don’t want this to come out as a rant, because it’s not but I’m just flabbergasted at the amount of single guys that no show to social events.

Now this is nothing new, I know, I’ve been on site a long while. But the number posting they can’t get meets or veris and then when they do get invited, they no show.

Lads... you need to start showing up, there are lots of single ladies looking for single lads that go to various social events and can’t find yas.

(Me)

So if you’d care to comment on what happens that makes you bottle it I’d love to hear it.

(This is not a single man bashing thread, I love single men)"
mail me and I'll tell you privatly

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By *rit on shannonMan
over a year ago

portumna


"attended my first m&g saturday as a single guy and its nervous walking into a function room knowing zero people but just have to throw yourslef in and chat to people. the table i sat at were all very chatty friendly folks who quiclly made me feel more at ease.

would definitely go to another.

You were great and you definitely picked the chattiest table "

it cetainly was and some great views at the table too

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"attended my first m&g saturday as a single guy and its nervous walking into a function room knowing zero people but just have to throw yourslef in and chat to people. the table i sat at were all very chatty friendly folks who quiclly made me feel more at ease.

would definitely go to another.

You were great and you definitely picked the chattiest table

it cetainly was and some great views at the table too "

Sweets cleavage is hard to miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To answer the question in part.

1. Some valid points made by James and others which if you read the replies have been valified by guys and rejected by women.

2. I think it's a misconception that it's mostly single guys who complain about no meets. I regularly read on forums of couple a complaint about no meets for different reasons. Remember also there are only abot 5 %of fabbers use the forums so again it's has little reflection of real representations for most things.

3. I've been on social kik groups when the ratio of guys single ladies using it tends to be outnumbered by the guys and not unusual for a single lady to be on it a couple days... make herself known see who going and then leaves it with some excuse of can't cope with notifications or battery running flat too quick etc. This leaves it often as a feeling it'll be more a cock feast at the social and so influences the outcome for guys going along in the end.(common question asked to organisers is 'how many single ladies going?' Guys do their maths and figure.. too many guys going and if it's their first time he'll figure ive little chance here. Or the the particular lady/ladies they are particularly interested in have shown no interest in him in the kik group or gas expressed they are stI'll undecided whether they are going or nother (quite commonly used as reverse psychology in kik groups)and again guy thinks might not be worth my while going.

4. Some single guys aren't single and suddenly life gets in the way.

5. Some single guys are single but have a child and life gets in the way.

6. As someone said earlier ladies like to ask 100 questions guys want to fuck. It's a social so ladies will generally love it, guys will generally have other things on their mind than just a social...they can have their social with mates down at the local during the week .

7. Most single ladies going to socials will easily find someone to go along with and share the hotel cost. As a single guy this is less likely and hotel costs have been outrageous recently. Unless the social is localish it can be a deciding factor.

8. I'm put off certain socials because single guys tickets cost 3 or 4x the single ladies or 2x the couples and out of principle will not even consider going along to it when they have been arranged even just 25 miles away.

I'm sure some will say these aren't necessarily valid or true in their opinions... however for some they are and as such give just a few reasons why some don't go in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good morning it was my first meet and greet Saturday night and I was nervous as hell but I chatted on the group kik chat for weeks can honestly say was a great night and morning lol

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

i can only think that alot of men would prefer a one to one meet rather than a big group gathering except when advice is looked for most women suggest meeting in a group setting.

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By *rit on shannonMan
over a year ago

portumna


"attended my first m&g saturday as a single guy and its nervous walking into a function room knowing zero people but just have to throw yourslef in and chat to people. the table i sat at were all very chatty friendly folks who quiclly made me feel more at ease.

would definitely go to another.

You were great and you definitely picked the chattiest table

it cetainly was and some great views at the table too

Sweets cleavage is hard to miss "

she wasnt the only one with impressive cleavage

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"attended my first m&g saturday as a single guy and its nervous walking into a function room knowing zero people but just have to throw yourslef in and chat to people. the table i sat at were all very chatty friendly folks who quiclly made me feel more at ease.

would definitely go to another.

You were great and you definitely picked the chattiest table

it cetainly was and some great views at the table too

Sweets cleavage is hard to miss

she wasnt the only one with impressive cleavage "

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"i can only think that alot of men would prefer a one to one meet rather than a big group gathering except when advice is looked for most women suggest meeting in a group setting. "

You aren’t just in a group it’s a night out! Would they avoid talking to people when they go out on the town for the night. People over think the whole thing it’s a night out and if anything it shows they can show up and they get not just one ver but lots !! We suggest it BECAUSE it is the best way to meet people

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"i can only think that alot of men would prefer a one to one meet rather than a big group gathering except when advice is looked for most women suggest meeting in a group setting. "

This exactly ..women can be timid enough creatures..meeting a strange man 1 on 1 is daunting..you hear the horror stories of r*pes and murders

Cant really blame them for wanting to meet in a group situation to filter out the nutjobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i can only think that alot of men would prefer a one to one meet rather than a big group gathering except when advice is looked for most women suggest meeting in a group setting.

You aren’t just in a group it’s a night out! Would they avoid talking to people when they go out on the town for the night. People over think the whole thing it’s a night out and if anything it shows they can show up and they get not just one ver but lots !! We suggest it BECAUSE it is the best way to meet people "

Everybody swings differently it suits sime guys and not others some guys can come across better in a one to one situation there is something foe everybody on fab but question asked by op was why guys do not show up some reasons were given by guys and mostly dismissed so back to square one single guy bashing

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"i can only think that alot of men would prefer a one to one meet rather than a big group gathering except when advice is looked for most women suggest meeting in a group setting.

You aren’t just in a group it’s a night out! Would they avoid talking to people when they go out on the town for the night. People over think the whole thing it’s a night out and if anything it shows they can show up and they get not just one ver but lots !! We suggest it BECAUSE it is the best way to meet people "
why not meet the person asking, one to one?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

the answer is most women don't want to meet one to one hence the usual response of go to a meet and greet.

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By *rezMan
over a year ago

Ennis


"It's difficult going to that first m'n'g

Going into the hotel, not knowing anyone, not knowing who you'll meet, not knowing who to approach.

Might be an idea for lads to arrange to meet in a small group beforehand.

Wingmen are a great help!"

Amen

It aint easy to be a single on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the answer is most women don't want to meet one to one hence the usual response of go to a meet and greet. "

Exactly if a lady does not want to chat to u on fab why will she want to chat to u at a meet and greet u are still the same person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i can only think that alot of men would prefer a one to one meet rather than a big group gathering except when advice is looked for most women suggest meeting in a group setting.

You aren’t just in a group it’s a night out! Would they avoid talking to people when they go out on the town for the night. People over think the whole thing it’s a night out and if anything it shows they can show up and they get not just one ver but lots !! We suggest it BECAUSE it is the best way to meet people

Everybody swings differently it suits sime guys and not others some guys can come across better in a one to one situation there is something foe everybody on fab but question asked by op was why guys do not show up some reasons were given by guys and mostly dismissed so back to square one single guy bashing"

Spot on James.

If a question is asked... then answers need to be listened to and even accepted even if they don't like what's said or feel it's invalid.

Don't ask if one doesn't really want answers

My general experience is that few want an answer other than what they feel is the one they have already. Few listen even in cobversation without trying to formulate a reply before the other has finished what they are saying and as a result actually haven't listened. Same can be said on forums.

I'd say there may be quite a few guys want to reply but as they may also feel their reply may be shot down by the regulars. Their reply is still valid.

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

Because some people don’t come across well in messages or their profile but can be nice in person and no one is single guy bashing. I for one was in a conversation with 4 other women who were all for single men. I’m disappointed with the ones who didn’t come as I was looking forward to meeting them! I do meet on a one to one basis but not easy for me to be available all the time I have to plan in advance hence going to a night out where I can meet lots of people

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By *iroma2010Man
over a year ago

Blackrock

Unfortunately, I can't speak for all guys and I truly understand that it can be frustrating when guys are invited to events and never shows up but if I get invited to an event, no matter what, I show up.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"the answer is most women don't want to meet one to one hence the usual response of go to a meet and greet.

Exactly if a lady does not want to chat to u on fab why will she want to chat to u at a meet and greet u are still the same person "

because meeting in person is not the same. i had a message or too from guys i didnt reply to meet one of them at ur party and we have met solo quite a few times.. in some cases messages may not be a strong point and personalities dont always come accross in text but in person its so much easier.. havent u pointed this out about socials in previous threads james.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think m&g s are great they suit me but not 10 % of people on fab go to them and some do not like them if u live down the country a hotel room last sat night was 200 euro plus think of all the nice people u are excluding by not chatting on fab ps my knowledge of this topic comes from chatting to guys every nite on fab as ladys do not chat to u on fab it does not bodder me one bit as if i had a euro for every lady including last sat night that said i was lovely and chatty and polite i should have answered u back i would be well off

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"

Very frustrating at meet and greets when couples and single women outnumber the single men."

A pussy fest. That's fab role reversal, imagine there isn't an abundance of men to choose from...

I'd slowly reverse out of the room step by step and close the door quietly behind me.

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

If i wanted to meet a woman from here id meet her 1 on 1..im not sharing with anybody im greedy

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"I think m&g s are great they suit me but not 10 % of people on fab go to them and some do not like them if u live down the country a hotel room last sat night was 200 euro plus think of all the nice people u are excluding by not chatting on fab ps my knowledge of this topic comes from chatting to guys every nite on fab as ladys do not chat to u on fab it does not bodder me one bit as if i had a euro for every lady including last sat night that said i was lovely and chatty and polite i should have answered u back i would be well off "

all the more reason for those men with invites (which are hard to get) to take advantage of them and turn up and have some chats with everyone..

i understand its next to impossible for single men here james and im not into bashing them on the forums but it is hard to stay calm when they post the rant threads given advice to go to m&gs to then not showing up or cancelling which is what gingerrrs post was about really

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"If i wanted to meet a woman from here id meet her 1 on 1..im not sharing with anybody im greedy "

haha its a pub gathering to chat to ppl and find ur solo meet not an orgy on the stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did every couple and single lady attend or does that not count as well

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"If i wanted to meet a woman from here id meet her 1 on 1..im not sharing with anybody im greedy

haha its a pub gathering to chat to ppl and find ur solo meet not an orgy on the stage "

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"I think m&g s are great they suit me but not 10 % of people on fab go to them and some do not like them if u live down the country a hotel room last sat night was 200 euro plus think of all the nice people u are excluding by not chatting on fab ps my knowledge of this topic comes from chatting to guys every nite on fab as ladys do not chat to u on fab it does not bodder me one bit as if i had a euro for every lady including last sat night that said i was lovely and chatty and polite i should have answered u back i would be well off

all the more reason for those men with invites (which are hard to get) to take advantage of them and turn up and have some chats with everyone..

i understand its next to impossible for single men here james and im not into bashing them on the forums but it is hard to stay calm when they post the rant threads given advice to go to m&gs to then not showing up or cancelling which is what gingerrrs post was about really "
I'd say realistically they don't want 2 go to meets and greets. most of the threads put up here by single men looking to get meets are told to go to a meet and greet and then say they'll go but have no real intention of doing so. the cost issue is a good point also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What cost issue?

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"I think m&g s are great they suit me but not 10 % of people on fab go to them and some do not like them if u live down the country a hotel room last sat night was 200 euro plus think of all the nice people u are excluding by not chatting on fab ps my knowledge of this topic comes from chatting to guys every nite on fab as ladys do not chat to u on fab it does not bodder me one bit as if i had a euro for every lady including last sat night that said i was lovely and chatty and polite i should have answered u back i would be well off

all the more reason for those men with invites (which are hard to get) to take advantage of them and turn up and have some chats with everyone..

i understand its next to impossible for single men here james and im not into bashing them on the forums but it is hard to stay calm when they post the rant threads given advice to go to m&gs to then not showing up or cancelling which is what gingerrrs post was about really I'd say realistically they don't want 2 go to meets and greets. most of the threads put up here by single men looking to get meets are told to go to a meet and greet and then say they'll go but have no real intention of doing so. the cost issue is a good point also "

Then why say you will !!!!!!!! If a guy is a no show at a m&g and hasn’t cancelled beforehand I wouldn’t dream of meeting them and wasting my time to meet him solo

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"What cost issue? "
paying for a hotel if travelling

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"What cost issue? "

Hotels I presume! I save and so does Sweets so we can go to these events lol

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"Did every couple and single lady attend or does that not count as well "

they dont post every single day moaning thou james thats what the thread is about.. i did say in an earlier post cpls & women do the cancel or no show

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"I think m&g s are great they suit me but not 10 % of people on fab go to them and some do not like them if u live down the country a hotel room last sat night was 200 euro plus think of all the nice people u are excluding by not chatting on fab ps my knowledge of this topic comes from chatting to guys every nite on fab as ladys do not chat to u on fab it does not bodder me one bit as if i had a euro for every lady including last sat night that said i was lovely and chatty and polite i should have answered u back i would be well off

all the more reason for those men with invites (which are hard to get) to take advantage of them and turn up and have some chats with everyone..

i understand its next to impossible for single men here james and im not into bashing them on the forums but it is hard to stay calm when they post the rant threads given advice to go to m&gs to then not showing up or cancelling which is what gingerrrs post was about really I'd say realistically they don't want 2 go to meets and greets. most of the threads put up here by single men looking to get meets are told to go to a meet and greet and then say they'll go but have no real intention of doing so. the cost issue is a good point also

Then why say you will !!!!!!!! If a guy is a no show at a m&g and hasn’t cancelled beforehand I wouldn’t dream of meeting them and wasting my time to meet him solo"
I'd say for the sake of it as hes been told by the vast majority to meet that way. give him a one to one option and I bet alot more will show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What cost issue? paying for a hotel if travelling "

You don't have to stay in hotels and you won't always have to travel.

I do understand hotels can be a ridiculous price though

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"What cost issue? paying for a hotel if travelling "

well dont look for an invite in the first place then saves time hassle the cancelling last minute and the no shows simplys

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By *rit on shannonMan
over a year ago

portumna

the most recent m&g was close to me so saved on hotel cost and ticket was cheap really considering organisers had to book a function room to hold it in. the more no shows without notice forces costs back onto the organisers which isnt fair so probably why they push up male fees to cover the no shows

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

the most less costly way of meeting someone is over a tea/coffee and a bun. have a chat and see what happens

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"I think m&g s are great they suit me but not 10 % of people on fab go to them and some do not like them if u live down the country a hotel room last sat night was 200 euro plus think of all the nice people u are excluding by not chatting on fab ps my knowledge of this topic comes from chatting to guys every nite on fab as ladys do not chat to u on fab it does not bodder me one bit as if i had a euro for every lady including last sat night that said i was lovely and chatty and polite i should have answered u back i would be well off

all the more reason for those men with invites (which are hard to get) to take advantage of them and turn up and have some chats with everyone..

i understand its next to impossible for single men here james and im not into bashing them on the forums but it is hard to stay calm when they post the rant threads given advice to go to m&gs to then not showing up or cancelling which is what gingerrrs post was about really I'd say realistically they don't want 2 go to meets and greets. most of the threads put up here by single men looking to get meets are told to go to a meet and greet and then say they'll go but have no real intention of doing so. the cost issue is a good point also

Then why say you will !!!!!!!! If a guy is a no show at a m&g and hasn’t cancelled beforehand I wouldn’t dream of meeting them and wasting my time to meet him soloI'd say for the sake of it as hes been told by the vast majority to meet that way. give him a one to one option and I bet alot more will show "

You bet wrong I’ve been stood up many a time and left sitting waiting in a hotel or at the meeting point for one on ones. Not the point of the thread thou

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

why don't you mail the no shows and ask them out straight. see what they say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What cost issue? paying for a hotel if travelling

You don't have to stay in hotels and you won't always have to travel.

I do understand hotels can be a ridiculous price though "

The cost to me for the nite was hotel 220 diesel 50 toll7 Euro parking 12 euro drinks 40 euro total 329 euro i am ok with that but could be outside the reach of some guys so another reason maybe for guys pulling out

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

I have done to ones who didn’t show at our m&g always an emergency or work amazing how many grannies are rushed to hospital happen in one night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to cancel a meet one time because my pet pig was sick and it was an honest excuse so u never know who is telling the truth

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By *alwaygirlpWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I have attended socials and hosted too. I was meant to go on Saturday but on Thursday something cropped up. I let the organisers know so my space could be given to someone on a waiting list as it’s only fair.

3 weeks ago myself and a fab friend hosted a small m&g for new fabbers. We limited numbers to overcome the fear of walking into a large group but this didn’t work either.

If you are going to be intimidated by a large group and potentially won’t show, then don’t ask for an invite. This only prevents others on waiting lists having an opportunity to go. I say this for guys, ladies and couples.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"What cost issue? paying for a hotel if travelling

You don't have to stay in hotels and you won't always have to travel.

I do understand hotels can be a ridiculous price though

The cost to me for the nite was hotel 220 diesel 50 toll7 Euro parking 12 euro drinks 40 euro total 329 euro i am ok with that but could be outside the reach of some guys so another reason maybe for guys pulling out"

i understand that but we all have the same expense and most live in dublin too.. ifs thats the main factor then simply dont ask for the invite because u would of known for the off set.. and whatabout the ones that cancelled or no shows at urs james u offer free board and pancakes

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"What cost issue? paying for a hotel if travelling

You don't have to stay in hotels and you won't always have to travel.

I do understand hotels can be a ridiculous price though

The cost to me for the nite was hotel 220 diesel 50 toll7 Euro parking 12 euro drinks 40 euro total 329 euro i am ok with that but could be outside the reach of some guys so another reason maybe for guys pulling out

i understand that but we all have the same expense and most live in dublin too.. ifs thats the main factor then simply dont ask for the invite because u would of known for the off set.. and whatabout the ones that cancelled or no shows at urs james u offer free board and pancakes "
you organise one and I'll attend yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the most recent m&g was close to me so saved on hotel cost and ticket was cheap really considering organisers had to book a function room to hold it in. the more no shows without notice forces costs back onto the organisers which isnt fair so probably why they push up male fees to cover the no shows "

That's a fair point. Going by comments in this thread and others I'm not sure it has changed anything other than remove yet another group of genuine guys who might otherwise go.

I've noticed that guys places are taken up early and there is then a reserve list. Ladies and couples don't have to book as early. This certainly helps them as plans can genuinely change 2 weeks or a week before the even. I had this happen with a death in the family and last minute I couldn't go. I'd booked my place 5 weeks before. Fortunately it was fairly local so I had no hotel costs involved either.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

The reasons why a lot of people don't turn up is because they can.

This past meet and greet was prepaid tickets and I thought this would cut the amount out people who just don't turn up down to a minimum but alas that wasn't the case.

So I'm at a lose as to why people do it even after they have paid for it.

I understand that things can happen and ruin plans and a lot of the people did mail saying they could not make it etc which is good but the people who just don't bother to mail etc obviously don't really care and that is noted and I'll probably not care when they ask to come to the next one.

As for people saying it's down to costs most organisers give months notice so people should be able to see the prices before asking for an invite.

But back the the main question as to why single guys don't turn up is say its either down to nerves or let's be honest some couldn't get away from their wife or partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What cost issue? paying for a hotel if travelling

You don't have to stay in hotels and you won't always have to travel.

I do understand hotels can be a ridiculous price though

The cost to me for the nite was hotel 220 diesel 50 toll7 Euro parking 12 euro drinks 40 euro total 329 euro i am ok with that but could be outside the reach of some guys so another reason maybe for guys pulling out

i understand that but we all have the same expense and most live in dublin too.. ifs thats the main factor then simply dont ask for the invite because u would of known for the off set.. and whatabout the ones that cancelled or no shows at urs james u offer free board and pancakes "

More ladys and couples have not turned up than single ladys at the partys i have hosted one couple must be still on their way as texted me the morning of a party to say have left thats 2 months ago

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"The reasons why a lot of people don't turn up is because they can.

This past meet and greet was prepaid tickets and I thought this would cut the amount out people who just don't turn up down to a minimum but alas that wasn't the case.

So I'm at a lose as to why people do it even after they have paid for it.

I understand that things can happen and ruin plans and a lot of the people did mail saying they could not make it etc which is good but the people who just don't bother to mail etc obviously don't really care and that is noted and I'll probably not care when they ask to come to the next one.

As for people saying it's down to costs most organisers give months notice so people should be able to see the prices before asking for an invite.

But back the the main question as to why single guys don't turn up is say its either down to nerves or let's be honest some couldn't get away from their wife or partner. "

Exactly Laid I was well surprised that there was no difference with it being a prepaid event!

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"The reasons why a lot of people don't turn up is because they can.

This past meet and greet was prepaid tickets and I thought this would cut the amount out people who just don't turn up down to a minimum but alas that wasn't the case.

So I'm at a lose as to why people do it even after they have paid for it.

I understand that things can happen and ruin plans and a lot of the people did mail saying they could not make it etc which is good but the people who just don't bother to mail etc obviously don't really care and that is noted and I'll probably not care when they ask to come to the next one.

As for people saying it's down to costs most organisers give months notice so people should be able to see the prices before asking for an invite.

But back the the main question as to why single guys don't turn up is say its either down to nerves or let's be honest some couldn't get away from their wife or partner. "

And thanks to you and the ladies for a brilliant night

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"What cost issue? paying for a hotel if travelling

You don't have to stay in hotels and you won't always have to travel.

I do understand hotels can be a ridiculous price though

The cost to me for the nite was hotel 220 diesel 50 toll7 Euro parking 12 euro drinks 40 euro total 329 euro i am ok with that but could be outside the reach of some guys so another reason maybe for guys pulling out

i understand that but we all have the same expense and most live in dublin too.. ifs thats the main factor then simply dont ask for the invite because u would of known for the off set.. and whatabout the ones that cancelled or no shows at urs james u offer free board and pancakes

More ladys and couples have not turned up than single ladys at the partys i have hosted one couple must be still on their way as texted me the morning of a party to say have left thats 2 months ago "

and how many of those women & cpls create a threads daily to moan about how hard it is to get a veri which is what this thread is about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have read lots of threads lately from couples moaning lately might even have committed on them lol

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"I have read lots of threads lately from couples moaning lately might even have committed on them lol "

but they arent no shows at social events thou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning all. I don’t want this to come out as a rant, because it’s not but I’m just flabbergasted at the amount of single guys that no show to social events.

Now this is nothing new, I know, I’ve been on site a long while. But the number posting they can’t get meets or veris and then when they do get invited, they no show.

Lads... you need to start showing up, there are lots of single ladies looking for single lads that go to various social events and can’t find yas.

(Me)

So if you’d care to comment on what happens that makes you bottle it I’d love to hear it.

(This is not a single man bashing thread, I love single men)"

I went to my first social Ging, and I met you....it was really good craic. Everyone got pissed and a few couple and people sneaked off....it was great craic so lads what ever you think, the only way to get verified is to simply go to a social.....have a coffee and a chat. It’s really that easy, and everyone is nice, they might be perverts but they’re nice

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

I do be shitting in case I meet the wife inside

All jokes aslide it seems single guys bow out more than any other group and this can be for a number of reasons

Cost

Ticket price

Hotel (most if not all women will team up and share for a guy u won't get a share)

Travel

Saying that if it's going to be expensive and u can't justify the cost don't ask for an invite

Believe it or not guys can be shy and even pre drinks they may show up and not make them selves know due to the fear of being left standing like a spare prick at a whore's wedding

Feeling excluded like some said they fail to get chatting to others before the event and have a perceived notion that most have paired off before the event

Others are just living a fantasy that they can meet for NSA until they actually have to and bottle it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What cost issue? paying for a hotel if travelling

You don't have to stay in hotels and you won't always have to travel.

I do understand hotels can be a ridiculous price though

The cost to me for the nite was hotel 220 diesel 50 toll7 Euro parking 12 euro drinks 40 euro total 329 euro i am ok with that but could be outside the reach of some guys so another reason maybe for guys pulling out

i understand that but we all have the same expense and most live in dublin too.. ifs thats the main factor then simply dont ask for the invite because u would of known for the off set.. and whatabout the ones that cancelled or no shows at urs james u offer free board and pancakes

More ladys and couples have not turned up than single ladys at the partys i have hosted one couple must be still on their way as texted me the morning of a party to say have left thats 2 months ago

and how many of those women & cpls create a threads daily to moan about how hard it is to get a veri which is what this thread is about."

Lots... and I've commented on some too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't fuck the people around that have meet and greats....if ur going go if not just don't waste their time....

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

I even do the nervous and newbies predrinks for those that are a bit anxious I think we just have to put it as a statistical anomalies as to why people just don't turn up. At least people have stop using the "grandparent, parent, gerbil, goldfish died excuse as if that amount of people died on a Saturday I'm sure it would make the news

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By *oey4somefunMan
over a year ago

Dublin/Drogheda

I was at the social on Saturday night and it was my first. I was very nervous going in to the room and I wasn't drinking but being in the Kik group helped a lot. That definetly helps as you are not going knowing absolutely no one. Anyway as a single guy I can understand how guys can bottle it but why buy a ticket and say your going. Now as the cost of the ticket is so little, maybe this doesn't help as they don't mind losing this. I'm sure it takes a lot of time and effort to organise these events and we had plenty of notice to decide whether to go so maybe next time think hard before committing to going. It lets the organisers and fellow fabbers down when it happens. Anyway I had a great night and look forward to the next one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just like in real life some people are unreliable its hard to take when u put huge effort into creating a function for like minded people to attend i have said on more than one occasion never again but then think of the lovely people that did attend and appreciated your effort fook the begrugers and fook the non attenders

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"I even do the nervous and newbies predrinks for those that are a bit anxious I think we just have to put it as a statistical anomalies as to why people just don't turn up. At least people have stop using the "grandparent, parent, gerbil, goldfish died excuse as if that amount of people died on a Saturday I'm sure it would make the news "

some excuses can be eye rolling and to funny at times laid slips & i got some cracking ones for ours ..

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"I even do the nervous and newbies predrinks for those that are a bit anxious I think we just have to put it as a statistical anomalies as to why people just don't turn up. At least people have stop using the "grandparent, parent, gerbil, goldfish died excuse as if that amount of people died on a Saturday I'm sure it would make the news

some excuses can be eye rolling and to funny at times laid slips & i got some cracking ones for ours ..

"

We did least we got a giggle out of them

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By *unnitoesWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"It works both ways maybe guys that do not get an answer to texts sent to ladys on fab think there is no point going to socials to get ignored as well maybe the hand of friendship needs to start on fab

I don't think that is the case James. I have been cancelled on and answer respectful messages that match my profile. I do not answer no effort non readers. I defend the stance/plight of single men on here but they have to help themselves too.

Shout out to all the great single men that do turn up

I second this. I reply to polite coherent messages. I don’t bother with the wanna fuck/meet now BS.

I offered to literally hold the hand of a single guy (who I’ve met a few times already) and he went radio silence on Thursday... no showed Saturday and is still MIA..

Perhaps you should ask him why he didn't or doesnt want to go instead of offering to hold his hand. "

She can't, sure he has gone silent

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"I was at the social on Saturday night and it was my first. I was very nervous going in to the room and I wasn't drinking but being in the Kik group helped a lot. That definetly helps as you are not going knowing absolutely no one. Anyway as a single guy I can understand how guys can bottle it but why buy a ticket and say your going. Now as the cost of the ticket is so little, maybe this doesn't help as they don't mind losing this. I'm sure it takes a lot of time and effort to organise these events and we had plenty of notice to decide whether to go so maybe next time think hard before committing to going. It lets the organisers and fellow fabbers down when it happens. Anyway I had a great night and look forward to the next one."

i couldnt of said it better myself joey

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By *elvetGuyMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I was at the social last Sat too, as a single male, and I really enjoyed putting faces to names and making connections.

I was in the kik group which helped a lot and I made the effort to mix and mingle as much as possible on the night.

Meeting new people can be a challenge no matter how confident a person is but I think part of the problem is Fabbers making the leap from the safety/anonimity of being a "keyboard warrior" and actually turning up to a social in person.

Social media has a lot answer for but the art of conversation, face to face, is the only way to get to know someone.

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"I was at the social last Sat too, as a single male, and I really enjoyed putting faces to names and making connections.

I was in the kik group which helped a lot and I made the effort to mix and mingle as much as possible on the night.

Meeting new people can be a challenge no matter how confident a person is but I think part of the problem is Fabbers making the leap from the safety/anonimity of being a "keyboard warrior" and actually turning up to a social in person.

Social media has a lot answer for but the art of conversation, face to face, is the only way to get to know someone."

Well said Velvet and you can see how handsome someone is

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By *elvetGuyMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Well said Velvet and you can see how handsome someone is "

Awh, shucks... you say all the right things

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

I’ve noticed there is always more single girls then guys there.

In relation to the kik groups, the cynic in me thinks that there may be guys asking for invites to get into the kik group as a way to get people’s kik handles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve noticed there is always more single girls then guys there.

In relation to the kik groups, the cynic in me thinks that there may be guys asking for invites to get into the kik group as a way to get people’s kik handles"

Bang on I'd say.

What's yours??

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam


"It works both ways maybe guys that do not get an answer to texts sent to ladys on fab think there is no point going to socials to get ignored as well maybe the hand of friendship needs to start on fab

I don't think that is the case James. I have been cancelled on and answer respectful messages that match my profile. I do not answer no effort non readers. I defend the stance/plight of single men on here but they have to help themselves too.

Shout out to all the great single men that do turn up "

Stop shouting at me

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"I’ve noticed there is always more single girls then guys there.

In relation to the kik groups, the cynic in me thinks that there may be guys asking for invites to get into the kik group as a way to get people’s kik handles"

this is becoming more frequent T for sure

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

most those single men have no interest in meets and greets. the kik comment is spot on

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

I am with Wilder on this, its always the most vocal single lads in the chat who dont show up. I have been in many group chats with two well verified, active on the forums, single lads and neither have shown up to the last few events.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"I am with Wilder on this, its always the most vocal single lads in the chat who dont show up. I have been in many group chats with two well verified, active on the forums, single lads and neither have shown up to the last few events."

yip ive seen this too in recent mths

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By *nalcumslutWoman
over a year ago

navan

I was utterly gutted too.

So disappointed with the lack of attendance ..

But really enjoyed my first social so thanks to the socialists for organising it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am with Wilder on this, its always the most vocal single lads in the chat who dont show up. I have been in many group chats with two well verified, active on the forums, single lads and neither have shown up to the last few events."

Hey _etergemma....

Was on this before and I met ye both at a social in Cassidy’s, it was a great night. I dropped off the radar for awhile but I’m

Back. Drop me a mail there, I can’t as your private to mail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You go to m&gs with no expectations its up to yourself to enjoy them .i meet two lovely sexy ladys sat night i hope to meet in the near future so happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go to m&gs with no expectations its up to yourself to enjoy them .i meet two lovely sexy ladys sat night i hope to meet in the near future so happy days "
But did you get your leg over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go to m&gs with no expectations its up to yourself to enjoy them .i meet two lovely sexy ladys sat night i hope to meet in the near future so happy days But did you get your leg over."

I am not interested in just getting my leg over as u said i like hosting cooking dinner having an all nighter getting to know somebody one to one everybody different in the way they want to swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go to m&gs with no expectations its up to yourself to enjoy them .i meet two lovely sexy ladys sat night i hope to meet in the near future so happy days But did you get your leg over.

I am not interested in just getting my leg over as u said i like hosting cooking dinner having an all nighter getting to know somebody one to one everybody different in the way they want to swing"
I'm on the wrong site. I thought this place was all about getting one's leg over.If you wanted small talk joint a dating site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go to m&gs with no expectations its up to yourself to enjoy them .i meet two lovely sexy ladys sat night i hope to meet in the near future so happy days But did you get your leg over.

I am not interested in just getting my leg over as u said i like hosting cooking dinner having an all nighter getting to know somebody one to one everybody different in the way they want to swing I'm on the wrong site. I thought this place was all about getting one's leg over.If you wanted small talk joint a dating site."

To some swinging is a lifestyle choice i love meeting like minded sexually adventures ladys there is no problem getting my leg over in my vanilla life if i so wish

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir


"You go to m&gs with no expectations its up to yourself to enjoy them .i meet two lovely sexy ladys sat night i hope to meet in the near future so happy days But did you get your leg over.

I am not interested in just getting my leg over as u said i like hosting cooking dinner having an all nighter getting to know somebody one to one everybody different in the way they want to swing I'm on the wrong site. I thought this place was all about getting one's leg over.If you wanted small talk joint a dating site."

Yes you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember my first meet and greet all those years ago. Turned up early but it nearly took 2 hours to pluck up the courage to go through those doors. But I did and haven’t looked back

I think the lads are expecting people to be starkers in a pub getting up to all sorts on the tables and bar

And they just can’t handle that and not turn up.

Lads it’s like meeting a few friends in the bar and having a chat or a birthday party or something. Nothing happens only that your getting to chat to some of the nicest like minded people - net working or as I like to call it market research

Yes things do crop up when there something on but it all depends how much you want this lifestyle. Fair enough if something does crop up let the organiser know as soon as possible and more than likely there probably is a genuine male on the waiting list that will turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning all. I don’t want this to come out as a rant, because it’s not but I’m just flabbergasted at the amount of single guys that no show to social events.

Now this is nothing new, I know, I’ve been on site a long while. But the number posting they can’t get meets or veris and then when they do get invited, they no show.

Lads... you need to start showing up, there are lots of single ladies looking for single lads that go to various social events and can’t find yas.

(Me)

So if you’d care to comment on what happens that makes you bottle it I’d love to hear it.

(This is not a single man bashing thread, I love single men)"
no speaking for all single lads but I'd prefer one on one meets myself but I get your point why say your going and not turn up strange one that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go to m&gs with no expectations its up to yourself to enjoy them .i meet two lovely sexy ladys sat night i hope to meet in the near future so happy days But did you get your leg over.

I am not interested in just getting my leg over as u said i like hosting cooking dinner having an all nighter getting to know somebody one to one everybody different in the way they want to swing I'm on the wrong site. I thought this place was all about getting one's leg over.If you wanted small talk joint a dating site.

Yes you are"
Oh no I'm not.

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By *addubMan
over a year ago

dublin. 12

Last m&g I attended was a good night if only I wasn't 100% well only after getting over a bad dose of flu but I went & met a few nice people (half had left for vanilla) it was a good night & looking forward to the next one, hopefully I'll be at my best & arrange a little party afterwards. (I can dream) ha ha. Seriously lads it's not going to kill you, if anything you can make new friends, after that who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be like any night out! It's all well and good making plans but then sometimes you just don't want to go out!!

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By *iroma2010Man
over a year ago

Blackrock


"It could be like any night out! It's all well and good making plans but then sometimes you just don't want to go out!! "

That is true but if u say they gonna show up, then they should, out of respect to the host.

Unless something tragic happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has always been that way . Nothing will change but maybe just dont put a cap on single men . Take the names like ladies and cpls . Host will know there not going show anyway.

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country

I feel a migraine coming on

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By *angerous Mind 87Man
over a year ago

Dublin 12

.I can actually understand why single males sometimes are no shows at M&Go's.

I went to my first one the weekend...It went grand and chatted to a few people, but there were several moments when I felt completely out of place and as if I shouldn't have been there.. it seemed as though there were certain clicks and I wasn't invited lol.

I did get chatting to a lad and couple of ladies which helped..

But I do get it completely if someone no shows (although 100% they should message the organiser and explain!!!).

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over a year ago

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I myself would not go to a meet and greet on my own . I felt out of place . If I was ever going again I would have to have a partner to go .

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By *rezMan
over a year ago

Ennis

Just reading through...

So where to start? How to pair up...

Cause i dont see myself going on my own...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".I can actually understand why single males sometimes are no shows at M&Go's.

I went to my first one the weekend...It went grand and chatted to a few people, but there were several moments when I felt completely out of place and as if I shouldn't have been there.. it seemed as though there were certain clicks and I wasn't invited lol.

I did get chatting to a lad and couple of ladies which helped..

But I do get it completely if someone no shows (although 100% they should message the organiser and explain!!!)."

Fair play to u for getting the courage to go to your first next time will not be as daunting i found people ladys couples and men very friendly i have to say at that m&g u just need to force yourself to join a group chatting introduce yourself and people will chat to u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Besides the nerves part, I think another big aspect is single guys who may be trying to keep it a secret from their partner or friends. They ask for an invite hoping they'll be free on the night and can sneak off to it without anyone they know finding out where they are going on a Saturday night.

But when the weekend comes and their friends ask if they are going out that night, they can't say that they have plans with someone they don't know, somewhere that I can't tell. So they bail

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By *ove2lick76Man
over a year ago

Ardee

Ah ging...was my company not good enough...as for the "single" guys it either be honest with status or grow a pair...it only meeting like minded people for a chat and drink...

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Morning all. I don’t want this to come out as a rant, because it’s not but I’m just flabbergasted at the amount of single guys that no show to social events.

Now this is nothing new, I know, I’ve been on site a long while. But the number posting they can’t get meets or veris and then when they do get invited, they no show.

Lads... you need to start showing up, there are lots of single ladies looking for single lads that go to various social events and can’t find yas.

(Me)

So if you’d care to comment on what happens that makes you bottle it I’d love to hear it.

(This is not a single man bashing thread, I love single men)

Very frustrating at meet and greets when couples and single women outnumber the single men."

Aye it’s awful

Mr 2-4

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By *ighighdrawMan
over a year ago

Dublin border


"What happens at a m&g?

Is it just a social event get to know each other type of thing or does any fun happen?

The organisers create a social event for you to meet others.

What you get up to after is up to you and the people/person you meet/make arrangements with. "

Hello lovely, hope your well, I think these male no shows are just guys that are not being 100% honest about their home life and bottle it in case they meet someome they know at the social.

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