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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi All

I hope you all are enjoying the sprinkle of sunshine we're getting haha!

I am a very sexual person, and I love swinging, but I haven't done so since I met my partner! She can be a bit jealous but I would love to swing with her, to see her be pleasured in different ways than I can while enjoying something new myself. Recently during a very hot encounter we had I mentioned we should swing as I was about to climax..... Instead of looking miffed she looked curious and even more turned on.... A week later I broached the subject of fantasies again while in the midst.... And she let it blow over! Am I on to something? Or will my fantasy get dashed? I would love some insight and thanks for reading.

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By *un4tooCouple
over a year ago

north cork

I wouldn't try so much as to "convince" her but i see what you're getting at.

I think you're on the right track while bringing it up during sex. Maybe straight after the climax and ye are both lying there bring it up again straight away. "You seemed to get turned on by swinging/3sum or 4sum whatever" .

Id also make it about her. As in id bring up having another male join ye rather than a female, unless you know shes bi curious. For us thats how it started. Talk during sex until we eased into a party and we both really enjoyed and are here since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one way of finding out anssers.talk to her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she is already on here !!!!

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By *ohnandGemCouple
over a year ago

Louth/Meath/Dublin


" She can be a bit jealous. "

Red flag. Jealousy has no place in swinging.

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By *un4tooCouple
over a year ago

north cork


" She can be a bit jealous.

Red flag. Jealousy has no place in swinging. "

Or any relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" She can be a bit jealous.

Red flag. Jealousy has no place in swinging.

Or any relationship "

If she’s that kinda nature I wouldn’t advise it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd ask her don't beat around the Bush

As for jealously I'd stay clear of here if you have jealousy your can't have trust and well you can't swing as a couple without trust

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By *un4tooCouple
over a year ago

north cork

Maybe she has reasons for her insecurities? Like you being on here. Not attacking u but maybe your the problem and not her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe she has reasons for her insecurities? Like you being on here. Not attacking u but maybe your the problem and not her"
That's quite an assumption

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By *un4tooCouple
over a year ago

north cork


"Maybe she has reasons for her insecurities? Like you being on here. Not attacking u but maybe your the problem and not her That's quite an assumption "

You're getting boring at this stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe she has reasons for her insecurities? Like you being on here. Not attacking u but maybe your the problem and not her That's quite an assumption

You're getting boring at this stage. "
Oh why so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just can't the image of you blurting out 'we should swing!' just before you climaxed..thanks mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe she has reasons for her insecurities? Like you being on here. Not attacking u but maybe your the problem and not her That's quite an assumption

You're getting boring at this stage. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just can't the image of you blurting out 'we should swing!' just before you climaxed..thanks mate "

I felt it was worth the shot haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe she has reasons for her insecurities? Like you being on here. Not attacking u but maybe your the problem and not her That's quite an assumption

You're getting boring at this stage. "

Ok this seems to have gone on to a small bit of a slagging thing here so I apologise for creating the tensioned topic.

Absolutely understand, you're not attacking me, I didn't think so anyway. She doesn't know I'm on here tbh, that being said I actually haven't met anyone on here yet anyway.... Don't think anyone finds me interesting enough haha!

Thank you all so much for your advice and understanding, I hope you all have a very nice evening.... Whatever might be planned

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By *un4tooCouple
over a year ago

north cork


"Maybe she has reasons for her insecurities? Like you being on here. Not attacking u but maybe your the problem and not her That's quite an assumption

You're getting boring at this stage.

Ok this seems to have gone on to a small bit of a slagging thing here so I apologise for creating the tensioned topic.

Absolutely understand, you're not attacking me, I didn't think so anyway. She doesn't know I'm on here tbh, that being said I actually haven't met anyone on here yet anyway.... Don't think anyone finds me interesting enough haha!

Thank you all so much for your advice and understanding, I hope you all have a very nice evening.... Whatever might be planned "

Glad you didnt pick me up wrong. Hopefully we'll see ye both on here soon

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe she has reasons for her insecurities? Like you being on here. Not attacking u but maybe your the problem and not her That's quite an assumption

You're getting boring at this stage.

Ok this seems to have gone on to a small bit of a slagging thing here so I apologise for creating the tensioned topic.

Absolutely understand, you're not attacking me, I didn't think so anyway. She doesn't know I'm on here tbh, that being said I actually haven't met anyone on here yet anyway.... Don't think anyone finds me interesting enough haha!

Thank you all so much for your advice and understanding, I hope you all have a very nice evening.... Whatever might be planned

Glad you didnt pick me up wrong. Hopefully we'll see ye both on here soon"

I can only hope thanks again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she jealous type she's not going want see you fucking other women lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello to you all! What do you know..... Talking works, there was no tirade, no cursing, no tears! A good adult discussion.... She isn't keen but hasn't closed the book on it, told her i'll respect her decision and of course not pressure her.

Thank you all!! We may get to meet some couples from here I hope

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Just put on a movie on Netflix like...

HOW TO ORGANISE AN ORGY IN A SMALL TOWN

...and at the end of it, ask...

"Could you imagine that?!"

Her response will give an inkling of whether she's thought of something along those lines All about seeding the idea of threesomes, etc instead of just dropping a bombshell on her in the hope that she'll say yes...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Just put on a movie on Netflix like...

HOW TO ORGANISE AN ORGY IN A SMALL TOWN

...and at the end of it, ask...

"Could you imagine that?!"

Her response will give an inkling of whether she's thought of something along those lines All about seeding the idea of threesomes, etc instead of just dropping a bombshell on her in the hope that she'll say yes... "

Is that on Netflix UK? ?? Haha

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