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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it for an easy fuck ? Is it because it's a thrill to sleep with people you don't know on a regular basis ? Os it attraction to an alternative lifesyle ?

Is it not being able to fulfil responsibilty and seeking out cheap thrills ?

Is it to stay Peter Pan and indulge in impulsive primal pleasures rather than seek challenges such as relationships that may or may not take on more responsibility ?

Is it a choice made by not wanting to be constrained by the boundaries of society ?

Is it an extension of being extroverted ?

Is it management against other life issues as a release ?

Is it something you just stumbled across and never left ?

I'm sure there are myriad reasons why people are here.

I find for me it's an easy access to serotonin. It's an easy cure for boredom.

Time spent here compared to time having sex with people from here isn't productive ij realistic terms.

Interested to know why people are here.

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By *winger212Woman
over a year ago

Live in spain

I'm a single girl who can find sex easily but because I'm actively looking for a relationship I wouldn't like to sleep around. So I decided to watch men instead and oh boy I'm loving it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a single girl who can find sex easily but because I'm actively looking for a relationship I wouldn't like to sleep around. So I decided to watch men instead and oh boy I'm loving it. "

Thank you for honesty. Fair play to you and wishing you more fun !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been single for way too long and I've been outta the game, I want to get backnin fighting form just in case I meet someone special, i don't want to be a disappointment in the sack! Plus id like to experiment without the risk of alienating a potential girlfriend! I suppose i should have put this in my profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it a bit of a thrill.Being a 29yr old male i did'nt really sleep around or go on the pull in my late teens early 20's so hoping now is the time too have some exciting fun before i get to 30.Also so i can say ive done something different and only i know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Again.. fair play on the honesty. Intriguing !

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

bit of fun. i only use here to chat abit on forums at present. if sex comes along, bobs your uncle but not looking for anything else. my own life is fine plus very busy

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I'm not looking for a relationship but I love good sex and the odd three or foursome, both is way easier to find on here than pulling randomly by going out.

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By *raleebiMan
over a year ago

tralee

Looking for guys to join me and my gf for straight mmf as we had couple profile but too many plagues..

So a bit of a thrill this way lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not looking for a relationship but I love good sex and the odd three or foursome, both is way easier to find on here than pulling randomly by going out. "

Lol i know if i was asked by a good looking woman for a foursome in a club on a night out i would probably passout or run away

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By *unnitoesWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I want honey on my toes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it for an easy fuck ? Is it because it's a thrill to sleep with people you don't know on a regular basis ? Os it attraction to an alternative lifesyle ?

Is it not being able to fulfil responsibilty and seeking out cheap thrills ?

Is it to stay Peter Pan and indulge in impulsive primal pleasures rather than seek challenges such as relationships that may or may not take on more responsibility ?

Is it a choice made by not wanting to be constrained by the boundaries of society ?

Is it an extension of being extroverted ?

Is it management against other life issues as a release ?

Is it something you just stumbled across and never left ?

I'm sure there are myriad reasons why people are here.

I find for me it's an easy access to serotonin. It's an easy cure for boredom.

Time spent here compared to time having sex with people from here isn't productive ij realistic terms.

Interested to know why people are here.

"
The attraction of an alternative lifestyle...naturally with my partner in tow .but there's another part that I can't put my finger on but which i love so much...the thrill of seeing Mrs Snicker's dressed a certain way which would mostly be in a club setting like vanilla or maybe in the cubs In England which we intend to get to...but any as I said something about my partner in that setting dressed slutty/kinky/ drives me nuts but I love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel i joined because i can easily find an easy shag in town but thats all they are i need something that will get my heart pumping and adrenalin going and where else is better to find people with the same mind set. Still waiting for my first meet mind as people only seem to want to meet verified man ??..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was told about the site from a girl I was with on pof and a guy I know from the gym like a few hours apart so I was like "wtf is everyone I know on this site I never heard of?" first I was like "Jesus this shit is too much" then I was like "oh maybe it could be good" to "pof is easier" to "I'm just gunna stick to the forums until something specific pops up" haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very much about the alternative lifestyle for me. I enjoy things outside the norm. I like being able to explore kinks outside of the normal find a girl and settle down context. I've always enjoyed the adrenaline of meeting people I don't know that well. Not being able to predict exactly what well or won't happen

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By *elvetGuyMan
over a year ago

Dublin

OP, this is a super thread so congrats for addressing the "Why..?" question..!

My tuppence worth...

For the last two years or so I have had a playmate and together we explored our sexual boundaries. It was incredibly liberating, nothing was taboo and we each learned from the other what we did and didn't like as we went along.

We literally only scratched the surface and her circumstances changed meaning she can't play anymore. Gutted...

So, I'm on here to try to explore further what my limits are, with similarly open minded people... but the challenges facing single males here on Fab are huge...they are well documented in other threads so I won't elaborate here.

I am still not yet 100% sure that the Fab scene is for me but I won't know until I try, will I..?

I have played at Vanilla, signed up for a couple of socials and met (socially) some absolutely fantastic people and one or two haters who shocked me with their venom when I wore my heart on my sleeve. I am more guarded as a result but hey, its the same in the real world I guess...

In a nutshell, I'm here to learn. And I'm learning fast.

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By *asualguyMan
over a year ago

New experiences and hopefully meet some older woman/couples along the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically figured i could meet women with a similiar intentions as myself needless to say it was nil all haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, this is a super thread so congrats for addressing the "Why..?" question..!

My tuppence worth...

For the last two years or so I have had a playmate and together we explored our sexual boundaries. It was incredibly liberating, nothing was taboo and we each learned from the other what we did and didn't like as we went along.

We literally only scratched the surface and her circumstances changed meaning she can't play anymore. Gutted...

So, I'm on here to try to explore further what my limits are, with similarly open minded people... but the challenges facing single males here on Fab are huge...they are well documented in other threads so I won't elaborate here.

I am still not yet 100% sure that the Fab scene is for me but I won't know until I try, will I..?

I have played at Vanilla, signed up for a couple of socials and met (socially) some absolutely fantastic people and one or two haters who shocked me with their venom when I wore my heart on my sleeve. I am more guarded as a result but hey, its the same in the real world I guess...

In a nutshell, I'm here to learn. And I'm learning fast.

"

The thread is only as good as the contributions. I just opened the door. Up to those who post to fill it with their "why". Thank you for your gratitude. It's a subject matter that intrigues me greatly !!

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By *evilsKissWoman
over a year ago

Roscommon

fab is a great way to explore new fantasys without being judged everyone here to try new things and if u meet someone u click with so be it u might be able to explore more with them but it's the not known what coming is the best

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By *elvetGuyMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"fab is a great way to explore new fantasys without being judged everyone here to try new things and if u meet someone u click with so be it u might be able to explore more with them but it's the not known what coming is the best "

In my limited time here, Ive lost count of how many times people have said "Well, I dont judge but.." and then they judge

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By *evilsKissWoman
over a year ago

Roscommon


"fab is a great way to explore new fantasys without being judged everyone here to try new things and if u meet someone u click with so be it u might be able to explore more with them but it's the not known what coming is the best

In my limited time here, Ive lost count of how many times people have said "Well, I dont judge but.." and then they judge "

well I don't paint everyone with the same brush hun u cant please everyone on fab.as long as ur having fun and doing what you want that's the main thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is my little escape from real life!!! I can do what I want and be who I want to be. I'm not looking for a relationship at all so for me, it's all about having as much fun as I can!

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By *elvetGuyMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"fab is a great way to explore new fantasys without being judged everyone here to try new things and if u meet someone u click with so be it u might be able to explore more with them but it's the not known what coming is the best

In my limited time here, Ive lost count of how many times people have said "Well, I dont judge but.." and then they judge

well I don't paint everyone with the same brush hun u cant please everyone on fab.as long as ur having fun and doing what you want that's the main thing"

Live and let live Dani..!

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

Great question Kate

Honestly, before I could have reeled off several adrenaline rush, freedom based answers but I have evolved since joining and am currently trying to figure out how fab works for me now but haven't as of yet. I don't know if it is working for me anymore but I still love the social side of fab, always have and probably always will. So for now, that is my reason's for being here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of escapism from real life. Meet interesting people with similar kinks and interests. It’s nice to escape to this world and be able to do some truly amazing things with other like minded people. And it’s incredible fun and liberating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jaysus I just got tired of wanking

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By *elvetGuyMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Jaysus I just got tired of wanking "

Sex is great but it's not as good as the real thing

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By *elvetGuyMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Great question Kate

Honestly, before I could have reeled off several adrenaline rush, freedom based answers but I have evolved since joining and am currently trying to figure out how fab works for me now but haven't as of yet. I don't know if it is working for me anymore but I still love the social side of fab, always have and probably always will. So for now, that is my reason's for being here."

By it's nature, I don't think anyone can figure out how Fab works... it's so personal to the individual Fabber...

"You get from Fab what you put in to it... " is a common quote on the forums which is very true

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

I wasn't being told enough times on a daily basis how bad single males are so I joined this site to hear it from women couples and cucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a relationship from 16 untill 27. My reason for being on here is very simple. Because I was in a relationship from a young age I thought sex was all about just sex. But thanks to this site and the people I've spoken to on it... I've learned so much.. Its not about perfect bodies faces or opinions.. Chemistry, connection,friendship and personal fulfillment that's why I'm still here.. Maybe people wont agree but that's being totally honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't being told enough times on a daily basis how bad single males are so I joined this site to hear it from women couples and cucks"
you've come to the right place then

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
over a year ago

Craigavon

I joined fab because im a single woman who had very little sexual experience and wanted to try new things i just love meeting new people plus i love the fact that apart from the few people i know noone else knows about this side of my life its like you canbe 2 very different people always exciting to experience new things and people

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

I’m here to find a lover, someone I can see on a regular basis, go to events and parties with.

I’ve been on site (here and elsewhere) for a while and I’ve had some great long term partners but not for the last few years.

I’m not sure if fab is really working for me this past year or so as I’m finding it increasingly difficult to find the type of person I’m looking for.

The site seems to have morphed into a “hook up” type place recently with men looking to get their rocks off in quickie situations with no regard to who they’re with.

(Not for me)

But, I still enjoy the social side when I get to events etc, so I’ll stick about for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's great Craic and I've met some great folk and the sex is fun also so any lady's or cpls Lookin a fun fella give me a shout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As some have already said it's 'great craic.'

We love the intimate meets, meet & greets and house parties in equal proportions.

Some of those we have met on FAB are now good friends off FAB.

It's a win win!

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

if I'm been honest I think many men could come on here and have sex with diff women weekly if it was available. role reversal and most women can't do the same. no strings sex to men is totally different then to women and it's also a large proportion of the reason why more women aint on the website. lots of women aint able to do just casual

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By *evilsKissWoman
over a year ago

Roscommon


"if I'm been honest I think many men could come on here and have sex with diff women weekly if it was available. role reversal and most women can't do the same. no strings sex to men is totally different then to women and it's also a large proportion of the reason why more women aint on the website. lots of women aint able to do just casual "

well I always do social 1st b4 I play with someone bcoz there is no pressure on either person to play if they don't like each other then some of us woman's aren't gonna meet random lads for sex if that's the case we would do it on a sat night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on before as a couple and had a great time so when relationship ended missed the crack so joined up again i love meeting people i would not get a chance to meet in my ordinary life and listen to their life storys social meet first for me as if there is now mutual attraction of mind or body there is no point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is my little escape from real life!!! I can do what I want and be who I want to be. I'm not looking for a relationship at all so for me, it's all about having as much fun as I can! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if I'm been honest I think many men could come on here and have sex with diff women weekly if it was available. role reversal and most women can't do the same. no strings sex to men is totally different then to women and it's also a large proportion of the reason why more women aint on the website. lots of women aint able to do just casual "

I've never had a one night stand, I had two one off encounters in my life but they weren't one night stands. There was a view to more but it didn't happen for a few reasons. I've male friends that are the same. There's loads of men that don't feel right with casual one off sex sessions too. I'm a slow starter with women. I test their limits over a long time. Would feel weird to me to be really sexually explorative and open from the first session.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"if I'm been honest I think many men could come on here and have sex with diff women weekly if it was available. role reversal and most women can't do the same. no strings sex to men is totally different then to women and it's also a large proportion of the reason why more women aint on the website. lots of women aint able to do just casual

I've never had a one night stand, I had two one off encounters in my life but they weren't one night stands. There was a view to more but it didn't happen for a few reasons. I've male friends that are the same. There's loads of men that don't feel right with casual one off sex sessions too. I'm a slow starter with women. I test their limits over a long time. Would feel weird to me to be really sexually explorative and open from the first session. "
it's happened to me in the past, agreed casual fun but saw to much of one another, feelings developed on her part, all hell broke loose as I called it off and I was the bad one. i learned my lesson. when it's casual keep it casual. no need to be seeing lots of each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dating is absolutely shite you have people pretending to want to date to get in the sack with you whereas here people are upfront about what they want also upfront about being attached or not which can’t be said for dating sites in addition you have the whole verification so you know you aren’t being catfishes.

Now if Fab had a dating aspect on this my world would be made because I could meet someone who is open sexually as myself and not be misjudged for enjoying this lifestyle.

There is nothing better than going to a social or club meeting people on your wavelength

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By *addubMan
over a year ago

dublin. 12

After 2 failed marriages I just want to meet like minded people who just want fun without any hastle. Great topic for all to answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To experiment find out what i like and to fufill as many of my fantasies as i can. I want to try everything at least

Once

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By *alwaygirlpWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Dating is absolutely shite you have people pretending to want to date to get in the sack with you whereas here people are upfront about what they want also upfront about being attached or not which can’t be said for dating sites in addition you have the whole verification so you know you aren’t being catfishes.

Now if Fab had a dating aspect on this my world would be made because I could meet someone who is open sexually as myself and not be misjudged for enjoying this lifestyle.

There is nothing better than going to a social or club meeting people on your wavelength "

This is exactly my thoughts too. Fab dating would be great. It’s so hard to find guys that are ok with my sexual preferences and experiences. Many are overwhelmed or just don’t understand. I’ll stick with Fab for now and hopefully when I’m least expecting it, the perfect partner will come along and we can then decide if fab is for us or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dating is absolutely shite you have people pretending to want to date to get in the sack with you whereas here people are upfront about what they want also upfront about being attached or not which can’t be said for dating sites in addition you have the whole verification so you know you aren’t being catfishes.

Now if Fab had a dating aspect on this my world would be made because I could meet someone who is open sexually as myself and not be misjudged for enjoying this lifestyle.

There is nothing better than going to a social or club meeting people on your wavelength

This is exactly my thoughts too. Fab dating would be great. It’s so hard to find guys that are ok with my sexual preferences and experiences. Many are overwhelmed or just don’t understand. I’ll stick with Fab for now and hopefully when I’m least expecting it, the perfect partner will come along and we can then decide if fab is for us or not. "

I’d love to meet someone that would consider playing on Fab with me even for the socials and parties a girl can dream

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By *alwaygirlpWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Dating is absolutely shite you have people pretending to want to date to get in the sack with you whereas here people are upfront about what they want also upfront about being attached or not which can’t be said for dating sites in addition you have the whole verification so you know you aren’t being catfishes.

Now if Fab had a dating aspect on this my world would be made because I could meet someone who is open sexually as myself and not be misjudged for enjoying this lifestyle.

There is nothing better than going to a social or club meeting people on your wavelength

This is exactly my thoughts too. Fab dating would be great. It’s so hard to find guys that are ok with my sexual preferences and experiences. Many are overwhelmed or just don’t understand. I’ll stick with Fab for now and hopefully when I’m least expecting it, the perfect partner will come along and we can then decide if fab is for us or not.

I’d love to meet someone that would consider playing on Fab with me even for the socials and parties a girl can dream "

I do think this can happen. A good friend of mine has recently joined with his gf. It is out there so we just have to persevere I guess.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

i personally don't think swinging will ever be the "norm". I'd say If you said to alot "oh ye I'm on a swinging site with my gf, we love playing with others and I love watching her be fucked" people would look at you as if you have 10 heads. my own future hopefully when I decide to settle, is a gf but as I already said I'm not a true swinger and have no interest in adopting this lifestyle with a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i personally don't think swinging will ever be the "norm". I'd say If you said to alot "oh ye I'm on a swinging site with my gf, we love playing with others and I love watching her be fucked" people would look at you as if you have 10 heads. my own future hopefully when I decide to settle, is a gf but as I already said I'm not a true swinger and have no interest in adopting this lifestyle with a partner "

I wouldn’t want it to be the “norm” but it’s definitely a lot less judged than before and definitely covers all walks of life.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"i personally don't think swinging will ever be the "norm". I'd say If you said to alot "oh ye I'm on a swinging site with my gf, we love playing with others and I love watching her be fucked" people would look at you as if you have 10 heads. my own future hopefully when I decide to settle, is a gf but as I already said I'm not a true swinger and have no interest in adopting this lifestyle with a partner

I wouldn’t want it to be the “norm” but it’s definitely a lot less judged than before and definitely covers all walks of life. "
you can also sign up here to fullfill your own fantasies as a single etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy from POF told me about it bout 5 years ago! Haven’t looked back since made great lifetime friends here! Wouldn’t change a thing about my experiences here! We’re all responsible for our own choices and it’s all about having fun and enjoying it

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

I'm really here for the hypocrisy just saw a post looking for a guy to help with satisfying a female with a "fabulous" physique but no fatty's allowed

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By *pontaneous fun boyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary, Dublin.


"Is it for an easy fuck ? Is it because it's a thrill to sleep with people you don't know on a regular basis ? Os it attraction to an alternative lifesyle ?

Is it not being able to fulfil responsibilty and seeking out cheap thrills ?

Is it to stay Peter Pan and indulge in impulsive primal pleasures rather than seek challenges such as relationships that may or may not take on more responsibility ?

Is it a choice made by not wanting to be constrained by the boundaries of society ?

Is it an extension of being extroverted ?

Is it management against other life issues as a release ?

Is it something you just stumbled across and never left ?

I'm sure there are myriad reasons why people are here.

I find for me it's an easy access to serotonin. It's an easy cure for boredom.

Time spent here compared to time having sex with people from here isn't productive ij realistic terms.

Interested to know why people are here.

"

To be really honest never had a problem picking up a woman but only afraid of sharing what my fantasies are. On here it's all on the table. I can quickly tell the truth because it's basically anon.

Asking a woman to do to me what I want to be done to me didn't really end well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long story short we were dating two years I got very very d*unk and opened up to my partner about being very sexually adventurous in my head and always had fantasies I could never open up about, Turns out she was the very same so we spoke about it and turned out we connected more in the relationship than we had previously as we both lived with this sort of guilt for feeling sexually open but nope turned out we both felt the same so we've been doing a bucket list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Long story short we were dating two years I got very very d*unk and opened up to my partner about being very sexually adventurous in my head and always had fantasies I could never open up about, Turns out she was the very same so we spoke about it and turned out we connected more in the relationship than we had previously as we both lived with this sort of guilt for feeling sexually open but nope turned out we both felt the same so we've been doing a bucket list "

That’s awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it for an easy fuck ? Is it because it's a thrill to sleep with people you don't know on a regular basis ? Os it attraction to an alternative lifesyle ?

Is it not being able to fulfil responsibilty and seeking out cheap thrills ?

Is it to stay Peter Pan and indulge in impulsive primal pleasures rather than seek challenges such as relationships that may or may not take on more responsibility ?

Is it a choice made by not wanting to be constrained by the boundaries of society ?

Is it an extension of being extroverted ?

Is it management against other life issues as a release ?

Is it something you just stumbled across and never left ?

I'm sure there are myriad reasons why people are here.

I find for me it's an easy access to serotonin. It's an easy cure for boredom.

Time spent here compared to time having sex with people from here isn't productive ij realistic terms.

Interested to know why people are here.

To be really honest never had a problem picking up a woman but only afraid of sharing what my fantasies are. On here it's all on the table. I can quickly tell the truth because it's basically anon.

Asking a woman to do to me what I want to be done to me didn't really end well. "

But you’re asking women on here

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By *pontaneous fun boyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary, Dublin.


"Long story short we were dating two years I got very very d*unk and opened up to my partner about being very sexually adventurous in my head and always had fantasies I could never open up about, Turns out she was the very same so we spoke about it and turned out we connected more in the relationship than we had previously as we both lived with this sort of guilt for feeling sexually open but nope turned out we both felt the same so we've been doing a bucket list "

Love it. Sounds like a dream come thru

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The funny thing is,.. i was told about this site to meet new "Friendly " people, with the same sexual mind as me.. but since joining 8 months ago not one person is willing to even have a conversation or meet and that either becaude im one of the shorter men "in hight" or because i have no verifications (dont know how ill get one of them if noone will give a newbie a chance) is like everyone judges by the cover.. in my day to day life im constantly getting told how different and funny and loud i am but on here im just feeling like the outcasts (and im paying for it lol) nearly got 2 meets tho! But they wanted me to buy their ? REALLY ?? i must just be an alian from a sexual planet here to treat the nice people when they eventually do come around lol ??

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By *rDarcy37Man
over a year ago

lucan

For me it to chat with like minded people have some good banter and if anything else comes of it then that's a bonus.

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By *atts n titsCouple
over a year ago

everywhere

Because it's cheating with permission dress it how you like it's all about discrete sex and plenty of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single giy its looking for experiences that just arent possible in vanilla life. To make connections and memories that I can grow old with, never having to wonder what living must have felt like.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

For the craic! Spell it how you think I mean it, I don't care.

The banter, the forums and the occasional social I manage to get to. Obviously the whiff of an illicit encounter but read on.

This is gonna sound like such a moan/whingefest but if you want honest answers, then this is one of them.

I'm not here for variety because of not having it before. I lived in UK for ten years and had lots of that on a very regular basis, both whilst single and whilst in relationships, some long, at the same time and with multiple ladies.

Coming back to Ireland was a bit of a comedown, even in Dublin.

When I met my now wife I was very open about my history and proclivities. She was fully onboard and we had a great sex life and normal life.

Until the conception of our second child and then she lost interest in sex. Not too much before the birth but after, completely. For 4yrs! I could count on my fingers, possibly including one foot, how many times we had sex since the second child was born.

Drove me to drink, literally. What's the point going to bed when there's no love there? Don't get me wrong, there's loads of love in the house and cuddles/kisses during the day but it doesn't translate to the bedroom for some reason. This is an abridged version of my real life. Don't think that you can judge/comment from what you have just read please, as there's much more to it but, I'm typing this, not dictating, so thumb needs a break!

That's when I heard about Fab. I've been here since. My profile is honest, clearly stating that I'm married and I think says something about not easy to meet and likely a crap shag due to lack of use.

I stay cos I'm a pervy fecker, I love looking at the pics and I chat to people who I someday may meet in an interesting scenario, where we can be ourselves, explore each other and our kinks, without judgement, due to the nature of Fab and our conversations leading to said meet.

I don't care if anyone has an issue with this, as I'm too long in the tooth to be concerned with others perceptions.

Fab is great, wonderful bunch of roughly similar, like minded people, who talk openly about many issues sexually related, without hangups, often with a sense of humour to lighten the seriousness and make it fun.

That's what I signed up for.

PS - now what was the thread about writing 86 line posts and then deleting them?

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

to get the occasional shag

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"For the craic! Spell it how you think I mean it, I don't care.

The banter, the forums and the occasional social I manage to get to. Obviously the whiff of an illicit encounter but read on.

This is gonna sound like such a moan/whingefest but if you want honest answers, then this is one of them.

I'm not here for variety because of not having it before. I lived in UK for ten years and had lots of that on a very regular basis, both whilst single and whilst in relationships, some long, at the same time and with multiple ladies.

Coming back to Ireland was a bit of a comedown, even in Dublin.

When I met my now wife I was very open about my history and proclivities. She was fully onboard and we had a great sex life and normal life.

Until the conception of our second child and then she lost interest in sex. Not too much before the birth but after, completely. For 4yrs! I could count on my fingers, possibly including one foot, how many times we had sex since the second child was born.

Drove me to drink, literally. What's the point going to bed when there's no love there? Don't get me wrong, there's loads of love in the house and cuddles/kisses during the day but it doesn't translate to the bedroom for some reason. This is an abridged version of my real life. Don't think that you can judge/comment from what you have just read please, as there's much more to it but, I'm typing this, not dictating, so thumb needs a break!

That's when I heard about Fab. I've been here since. My profile is honest, clearly stating that I'm married and I think says something about not easy to meet and likely a crap shag due to lack of use.

I stay cos I'm a pervy fecker, I love looking at the pics and I chat to people who I someday may meet in an interesting scenario, where we can be ourselves, explore each other and our kinks, without judgement, due to the nature of Fab and our conversations leading to said meet.

I don't care if anyone has an issue with this, as I'm too long in the tooth to be concerned with others perceptions.

Fab is great, wonderful bunch of roughly similar, like minded people, who talk openly about many issues sexually related, without hangups, often with a sense of humour to lighten the seriousness and make it fun.

That's what I signed up for.

PS - now what was the thread about writing 86 line posts and then deleting them?"

I will also state that I have mentioned swinging to my wife, to inject some excitement back to our bedroom but that has been dismissed.

So, she doesn't know I'm here but I have suggested it. I know some people have an issue with married men here, for various reasons, so thought I should make that clear too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like minded peeps. Fun. Massage. Forums. Curiosity. Massage.Natural perviness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did I say massage?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was/am on a different site in the same vein but a bit more niche, anyway I had been talking to this woman there and she recommended fab as a more active alternative. We fell out of contact but far as I know she's still active, fantastic person but we could never get our schedules to sync.

As to why I was on the other site to to begin with I want kinky sex and I'm single so I went looking for it

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"I was/am on a different site in the same vein but a bit more niche, anyway I had been talking to this woman there and she recommended fab as a more active alternative. We fell out of contact but far as I know she's still active, fantastic person but we could never get our schedules to sync.

As to why I was on the other site to to begin with I want kinky sex and I'm single so I went looking for it

"

Just say Fet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, this is a super thread so congrats for addressing the "Why..?" question..!

My tuppence worth...

For the last two years or so I have had a playmate and together we explored our sexual boundaries. It was incredibly liberating, nothing was taboo and we each learned from the other what we did and didn't like as we went along.

We literally only scratched the surface and her circumstances changed meaning she can't play anymore. Gutted...

So, I'm on here to try to explore further what my limits are, with similarly open minded people... but the challenges facing single males here on Fab are huge...they are well documented in other threads so I won't elaborate here.

I am still not yet 100% sure that the Fab scene is for me but I won't know until I try, will I..?

I have played at Vanilla, signed up for a couple of socials and met (socially) some absolutely fantastic people and one or two haters who shocked me with their venom when I wore my heart on my sleeve. I am more guarded as a result but hey, its the same in the real world I guess...

In a nutshell, I'm here to learn. And I'm learning fast.

"

This just about sums up fab for me, ups and downs but you take them in your stride, learn and evolve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TLDR: its fun, liberating and surprising!

For me open partnership, poliamory, naturism and swinger are various ways to express, expreience, share and catalyze Passion. Seems natural not to have sex with only one and this site (hopefully, but during a busy week I simply forget to login, did not meet anyone here yet, sometimes I write too much I think, but its ok, will just go a club soon and maybe meet fabbers there) provides a cool, sort of semi-pride-ish, - semi-secret social halo to connect and share within.

What I am attracted to is something primal, wild, subconscious resonance to tune onto and it's kind of a trance with sex - besides or beyond the mainstream social structure, and it can rejuvenate and empower with its purity if done honestly with myself and the other(s) and answer why I do what I do, even if it is like f@king with 8 all night, randomly, like animals without tomorrow; or sweet kissing, throbbing slow romantic one night stand with a stranger, who I will not see again but today we are totally for each other only. Or one of my greatest swinger memories is when in a club two guys please a brown curvy beauty while her legs are touching with my legs. Was so intimate, each push I felt, each of her electric shaking, the bliss - like happened with me! Was so satisfying that although I could have joined, in that moment was enough to feel her how she feels. Love that!

And I see the fallacy into lack of responsibility, escapism, even addiction with this - but with common sense, still can be supportive to honestly see what drives me, what I can expand with and be director of my life and not to be directed with shallow ideas of whats good for me.

I do dance with powerful trance music, hours of intense ecstatic joyride - with sober mind - and its as good as sex, but when the two can be at the same night...heaven on earth.

Often overwhelms me, even can change this purity of honest sexuality and erotic art of living to further liberation from my ego bubble and interest. To give and receive or take or be taken fully without limit and dissolve the end of me and beginning of other(s) is just mindblowing - it is the first and last art of life and very much enjoying to explore possibilities of the creative mind and to feel others and myself without thoughts, definitions, worries.

I had a list of what to do, live out and try, some are pretty wild, some are rather silly, but does not matter much as if I just do sex with stranger based on what I imagine, desire, want only - it's like masturbating with an organic robot without realizing or admitting it.

I am not the guy who just do sex with strangers without words, like an instant porn fantasy - it happened, not once, probably will happen more as I know myself, yet it's also challenges me - its more difficult for me to truly enjoy that, so I think for me is better have some spark, connection. Or not? Will find out - I change by time. With some I can click with after 5 seconds we ever met, with others it needs a couple of meets, equally cool to enjoy both.

Also really interesting to check out others and to see what they try to represent, want and desire. I like humans, fascinating bunch!

Or I am full of crap and justifying it with too much words...either way, thanks and have fun!

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"TLDR: its fun, liberating and surprising!

For me open partnership, poliamory, naturism and swinger are various ways to express, expreience, share and catalyze Passion. Seems natural not to have sex with only one and this site (hopefully, but during a busy week I simply forget to login, did not meet anyone here yet, sometimes I write too much I think, but its ok, will just go a club soon and maybe meet fabbers there) provides a cool, sort of semi-pride-ish, - semi-secret social halo to connect and share within.

What I am attracted to is something primal, wild, subconscious resonance to tune onto and it's kind of a trance with sex - besides or beyond the mainstream social structure, and it can rejuvenate and empower with its purity if done honestly with myself and the other(s) and answer why I do what I do, even if it is like f@king with 8 all night, randomly, like animals without tomorrow; or sweet kissing, throbbing slow romantic one night stand with a stranger, who I will not see again but today we are totally for each other only. Or one of my greatest swinger memories is when in a club two guys please a brown curvy beauty while her legs are touching with my legs. Was so intimate, each push I felt, each of her electric shaking, the bliss - like happened with me! Was so satisfying that although I could have joined, in that moment was enough to feel her how she feels. Love that!

And I see the fallacy into lack of responsibility, escapism, even addiction with this - but with common sense, still can be supportive to honestly see what drives me, what I can expand with and be director of my life and not to be directed with shallow ideas of whats good for me.

I do dance with powerful trance music, hours of intense ecstatic joyride - with sober mind - and its as good as sex, but when the two can be at the same night...heaven on earth.

Often overwhelms me, even can change this purity of honest sexuality and erotic art of living to further liberation from my ego bubble and interest. To give and receive or take or be taken fully without limit and dissolve the end of me and beginning of other(s) is just mindblowing - it is the first and last art of life and very much enjoying to explore possibilities of the creative mind and to feel others and myself without thoughts, definitions, worries.

I had a list of what to do, live out and try, some are pretty wild, some are rather silly, but does not matter much as if I just do sex with stranger based on what I imagine, desire, want only - it's like masturbating with an organic robot without realizing or admitting it.

I am not the guy who just do sex with strangers without words, like an instant porn fantasy - it happened, not once, probably will happen more as I know myself, yet it's also challenges me - its more difficult for me to truly enjoy that, so I think for me is better have some spark, connection. Or not? Will find out - I change by time. With some I can click with after 5 seconds we ever met, with others it needs a couple of meets, equally cool to enjoy both.

Also really interesting to check out others and to see what they try to represent, want and desire. I like humans, fascinating bunch!

Or I am full of crap and justifying it with too much words...either way, thanks and have fun!

"
not even half way through your post, I'm getting dizzy!

Are you smoking something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...and if you are on something....

Sharing is Caring.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I joined fab because im a single woman who had very little sexual experience and wanted to try new things i just love meeting new people plus i love the fact that apart from the few people i know noone else knows about this side of my life its like you canbe 2 very different people always exciting to experience new things and people "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seeking attention, I love it when people fab my pics. It's great to meet couples and be part of their lives for a short time x Darren x Bradford

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of shagging which is gonna be hard because I'm not a female lol

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By *lay2018Couple
over a year ago

westmeath & roscommon.

Basically for something different and more exciting than what weve been conditioned to be like. We have been together for a long time and even though we have a healthy sex life, we want to try other things other than just using toys.

Never in a million years would we have thought wed even consider sleeping with anyone else in a situation like this but as we get older, we become wiser and alot more open minded.

Theres an old saying , your along time dead! We dont ant to leave this world living a vannila life sitting in watching eastenders every other night. Life is for living and no better way than living it with a very erotic healthy sexlife and exploring new ideas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ta roide housewifes drink tae and ate wee fancy buns

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By *ilbearniMan
over a year ago

peninsula

I'm here, to be. Me.

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