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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Generally I don’t blog on the forums but lately, I’ve asked myself, what do I need? what am I getting by using this site? I guess it’s that age old question, what do women generally want when meeting a man? I certainly don’t want any kind of relationship. I’m very open in my general need for sex, but lately, Ive found the kinky side very tiring. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy my kink, when I’ve wanted it (sex), to be normal not just vanilla but “to phrase it crudely”, i don’t just want to fuck! I want to made to feel like a sexy woman and not be thought of as a slut. I want the kind of sex that feels normal with the cuddles and spooning after. Am I just deluding myself or has my time ended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you find out tell us men cause we mostly are winging it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the type of interaction you describe OP, inclusive of intimacy, certainly can be found.

Rapport and understanding can be built upon through pre meet conversation and honesty.

Not all of the opposite sex seek purely kink.

Be empowered to stick to your guns on where you at are sexually and the lucky gent will enjoy experience as much as you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all need time to find what we want. Time to find ourselves.

It's like being a teenager again.

But exploring your sexual desires.

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By *elfast_man100Man
over a year ago

Belfast

I think we need to meet bum fluff x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you find out tell us men cause we mostly are winging it "

Lol...nothing like a bit of honesty on the forums...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think it is what women want from men, more what you want from your meets.

Just because you are looking for causual or nsa sex doesnt mean it needs to be cold or detatched.

You may need take longer to build up a rapport with someone but that level of intensity can still be achieved without the other ties.

Best of luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to tell whoever you are meeting how you want it! I'd never meet anyone who was planning on making it feel like a fuck.

But all men are different. You might have to get the intimacy and spooning off one guy, and then the kinky stuff from someone else.

Men are human too, most of them are looking for the same thing, you just have to find them and find that connection with them.

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

Intimacy can be found here. But it's rare in my experience.

Best of luck op. Don't give up on what you desire x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Intimacy can be found here. But it's rare in my experience.

Best of luck op. Don't give up on what you desire x"

I think you have to meet them a few times for it to develop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm available for specialist and general purpose riding

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By *it_tribesmanMan
over a year ago

Galway


"We all need time to find what we want. Time to find ourselves.

It's like being a teenager again.

But exploring your sexual desires."
well said. Totally relateto this!

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"I think the type of interaction you describe OP, inclusive of intimacy, certainly can be found.

Rapport and understanding can be built upon through pre meet conversation and honesty.

Not all of the opposite sex seek purely kink.

Be empowered to stick to your guns on where you at are sexually and the lucky gent will enjoy experience as much as you x "

Excellent response

I completely agree with sticking to your guns about what you want, though a little give and take is good for both parties. Be considerate of the partners desires.

As you say, pre-meet conversation should lead both parties down the right path.

Spooning and cuddles are essential parts of afterplay, from my perspective, so no OP, you're not alone in that one.

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

I’m yet to find a “meet” who I would spoon with! I tend to leave that for partners, I may differ to others in that my fab meets aren’t that kind of sexual experience for me. Actually can’t remember the last time I had a cuddle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the cuddles and the intimacy that repeat meets can bring. I'm not a mechanical person and I've been very lucky to have found what I need in a few great people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Joining fab has been a learning curve for me. I dont want a traditional relationship. For me the intimacy part - cuddling, talking, laughing is what makes the sex better. When i was younger i had one night stands but as soon as the sex started i would fake my way through it and minute it was over i was gone or they left. I was afraid to show the real me in case they didnt like me.

I've learnt over the last 2 years that it is okay for me as a woman to enjoy sex, to initiate sex and to get satisfaction. I have also learnt sex gets better as you geg to know each other and the initial attraction grows more. The spark lights up lol

Anyway thats what i want (obviously to eat cake and not get fat and a threesome with daniel craig and tom hardy and squeeze jason statham in there too please)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it takes time to build however my experiences of fab is a hit and next mentality.

Men say they want regular, fwb but really the truth is it is rarely the case, go all out to get to meet up and then they go quiet after.

I do hope you find an honest man xx

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"Joining fab has been a learning curve for me. I dont want a traditional relationship. For me the intimacy part - cuddling, talking, laughing is what makes the sex better. When i was younger i had one night stands but as soon as the sex started i would fake my way through it and minute it was over i was gone or they left. I was afraid to show the real me in case they didnt like me.

I've learnt over the last 2 years that it is okay for me as a woman to enjoy sex, to initiate sex and to get satisfaction. I have also learnt sex gets better as you geg to know each other and the initial attraction grows more. The spark lights up lol

Anyway thats what i want (obviously to eat cake and not get fat and a threesome with daniel craig and tom hardy and squeeze jason statham in there too please) "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find either the great sex is their or it isn't. I know many say it gets better with learning each other kinks but for me either you get me or you don't. I do feel more liberal ( it's ok to be horny and wanting sex) and not afraid of asking for what I want. I am a sexual person and always have been but Fab has allowed me to enjoy what I want as well as meeting some amazing people along the way...people who I would personally call a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Generally I don’t blog on the forums but lately, I’ve asked myself, what do I need? what am I getting by using this site? I guess it’s that age old question, what do women generally want when meeting a man? I certainly don’t want any kind of relationship. I’m very open in my general need for sex, but lately, Ive found the kinky side very tiring. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy my kink, when I’ve wanted it (sex), to be normal not just vanilla but “to phrase it crudely”, i don’t just want to fuck! I want to made to feel like a sexy woman and not be thought of as a slut. I want the kind of sex that feels normal with the cuddles and spooning after. Am I just deluding myself or has my time ended. "

Jesus lady sorry for acting the typical male and stereotyping but if ye don't know what fuckin chance do we have?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you find out tell us men cause we mostly are winging it "

I can vouch for this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love the cuddles and the intimacy that repeat meets can bring. I'm not a mechanical person and I've been very lucky to have found what I need in a few great people "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am going 2 be me. Like me or hate me not going to change.

And at the end of the day it all about fun

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"I’m yet to find a “meet” who I would spoon with! I tend to leave that for partners, I may differ to others in that my fab meets aren’t that kind of sexual experience for me. Actually can’t remember the last time I had a cuddle "

ah here ill give a big long cuddle

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"I’m yet to find a “meet” who I would spoon with! I tend to leave that for partners, I may differ to others in that my fab meets aren’t that kind of sexual experience for me. Actually can’t remember the last time I had a cuddle

ah here ill give a big long cuddle "

Ah sweets I’ve to wait till May for ya

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"I’m yet to find a “meet” who I would spoon with! I tend to leave that for partners, I may differ to others in that my fab meets aren’t that kind of sexual experience for me. Actually can’t remember the last time I had a cuddle

ah here ill give a big long cuddle

Ah sweets I’ve to wait till May for ya "

yes but will be so worth the wait thou

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"I’m yet to find a “meet” who I would spoon with! I tend to leave that for partners, I may differ to others in that my fab meets aren’t that kind of sexual experience for me. Actually can’t remember the last time I had a cuddle

ah here ill give a big long cuddle

Ah sweets I’ve to wait till May for ya

yes but will be so worth the wait thou "

You always are

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"I’m yet to find a “meet” who I would spoon with! I tend to leave that for partners, I may differ to others in that my fab meets aren’t that kind of sexual experience for me. Actually can’t remember the last time I had a cuddle

ah here ill give a big long cuddle

Ah sweets I’ve to wait till May for ya

yes but will be so worth the wait thou

You always are "

Oi! You two at the front! Get a room FFS!

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"I’m yet to find a “meet” who I would spoon with! I tend to leave that for partners, I may differ to others in that my fab meets aren’t that kind of sexual experience for me. Actually can’t remember the last time I had a cuddle

ah here ill give a big long cuddle

Ah sweets I’ve to wait till May for ya

yes but will be so worth the wait thou

You always are

Oi! You two at the front! Get a room FFS! "

We have to wait till May John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m yet to find a “meet” who I would spoon with! I tend to leave that for partners, I may differ to others in that my fab meets aren’t that kind of sexual experience for me. Actually can’t remember the last time I had a cuddle

ah here ill give a big long cuddle

Ah sweets I’ve to wait till May for ya

yes but will be so worth the wait thou

You always are

Oi! You two at the front! Get a room FFS! "

You didnt ask to watch u feeling ok

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"I’m yet to find a “meet” who I would spoon with! I tend to leave that for partners, I may differ to others in that my fab meets aren’t that kind of sexual experience for me. Actually can’t remember the last time I had a cuddle

ah here ill give a big long cuddle

Ah sweets I’ve to wait till May for ya

yes but will be so worth the wait thou

You always are

Oi! You two at the front! Get a room FFS!

You didnt ask to watch u feeling ok "

I was being gentlemanly and waiting for an invite. Yeah, I need to get medical advice methinks

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub


"I’m yet to find a “meet” who I would spoon with! I tend to leave that for partners, I may differ to others in that my fab meets aren’t that kind of sexual experience for me. Actually can’t remember the last time I had a cuddle

ah here ill give a big long cuddle

Ah sweets I’ve to wait till May for ya

yes but will be so worth the wait thou

You always are

Oi! You two at the front! Get a room FFS!

You didnt ask to watch u feeling ok "

Good point Mz Bunny he must be terribly ill

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Joining fab has been a learning curve for me. I dont want a traditional relationship. For me the intimacy part - cuddling, talking, laughing is what makes the sex better. When i was younger i had one night stands but as soon as the sex started i would fake my way through it and minute it was over i was gone or they left. I was afraid to show the real me in case they didnt like me.

I've learnt over the last 2 years that it is okay for me as a woman to enjoy sex, to initiate sex and to get satisfaction. I have also learnt sex gets better as you geg to know each other and the initial attraction grows more. The spark lights up lol

Anyway thats what i want (obviously to eat cake and not get fat and a threesome with daniel craig and tom hardy and squeeze jason statham in there too please) "

That’s exactly what it has become mechanical. Cold, nothing in it for me just going through the motions. The desire or the pleasure has become monotonous, unresponsive, which has lead me to be believe I may have come to the end of my needs on here.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"Joining fab has been a learning curve for me. I dont want a traditional relationship. For me the intimacy part - cuddling, talking, laughing is what makes the sex better. When i was younger i had one night stands but as soon as the sex started i would fake my way through it and minute it was over i was gone or they left. I was afraid to show the real me in case they didnt like me.

I've learnt over the last 2 years that it is okay for me as a woman to enjoy sex, to initiate sex and to get satisfaction. I have also learnt sex gets better as you geg to know each other and the initial attraction grows more. The spark lights up lol

Anyway thats what i want (obviously to eat cake and not get fat and a threesome with daniel craig and tom hardy and squeeze jason statham in there too please)

That’s exactly what it has become mechanical. Cold, nothing in it for me just going through the motions. The desire or the pleasure has become monotonous, unresponsive, which has lead me to be believe I may have come to the end of my needs on here. "

Just to clarify, you were interested enough in the other party, with them being interested enough in you, to the point where sex ensued. Then when the sex started, you lose interest almost immediately? Colour me confused! Was there any passion in foreplay or was it just like we're here to fuck, so let's fuck regardless?

Not sure how, if you do get warmed up to the point of having sex, that becomes monotonous. Have you had too much of a good thing? Mad that this would be a complaint but I guess it can happen.

Hoping you expand on what you mean

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"I’m yet to find a “meet” who I would spoon with! I tend to leave that for partners, I may differ to others in that my fab meets aren’t that kind of sexual experience for me. Actually can’t remember the last time I had a cuddle

ah here ill give a big long cuddle

Ah sweets I’ve to wait till May for ya

yes but will be so worth the wait thou

You always are

Oi! You two at the front! Get a room FFS!

You didnt ask to watch u feeling ok

Good point Mz Bunny he must be terribly ill "

See above

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Joining fab has been a learning curve for me. I dont want a traditional relationship. For me the intimacy part - cuddling, talking, laughing is what makes the sex better. When i was younger i had one night stands but as soon as the sex started i would fake my way through it and minute it was over i was gone or they left. I was afraid to show the real me in case they didnt like me.

I've learnt over the last 2 years that it is okay for me as a woman to enjoy sex, to initiate sex and to get satisfaction. I have also learnt sex gets better as you geg to know each other and the initial attraction grows more. The spark lights up lol

Anyway thats what i want (obviously to eat cake and not get fat and a threesome with daniel craig and tom hardy and squeeze jason statham in there too please)

That’s exactly what it has become mechanical. Cold, nothing in it for me just going through the motions. The desire or the pleasure has become monotonous, unresponsive, which has lead me to be believe I may have come to the end of my needs on here.

Just to clarify, you were interested enough in the other party, with them being interested enough in you, to the point where sex ensued. Then when the sex started, you lose interest almost immediately? Colour me confused! Was there any passion in foreplay or was it just like we're here to fuck, so let's fuck regardless?

Not sure how, if you do get warmed up to the point of having sex, that becomes monotonous. Have you had too much of a good thing? Mad that this would be a complaint but I guess it can happen.

Hoping you expand on what you mean "

When I meant going through the motions, sex is an enjoyable, pleasurable activity, but the mechanics of it can be monotonous the passion always comes with the pleasure of the flesh. Never have I lost interest in the throes of sex the feeling of someone touching my skin or I the other it gives me the goosebumps. I enjoy the chat, the social side the feeling of butterflies when it’s reciprocated a mutual enjoyment of one another. Maybe it’s too much of a good thing to expect it too be good/ great all the time. I suppose it’s do I want more than the kink side now? which lead me to what do women want? I’m just as confused now as I did when I threw the question out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Joining fab has been a learning curve for me. I dont want a traditional relationship. For me the intimacy part - cuddling, talking, laughing is what makes the sex better. When i was younger i had one night stands but as soon as the sex started i would fake my way through it and minute it was over i was gone or they left. I was afraid to show the real me in case they didnt like me.

I've learnt over the last 2 years that it is okay for me as a woman to enjoy sex, to initiate sex and to get satisfaction. I have also learnt sex gets better as you geg to know each other and the initial attraction grows more. The spark lights up lol

Anyway thats what i want (obviously to eat cake and not get fat and a threesome with daniel craig and tom hardy and squeeze jason statham in there too please)

That’s exactly what it has become mechanical. Cold, nothing in it for me just going through the motions. The desire or the pleasure has become monotonous, unresponsive, which has lead me to be believe I may have come to the end of my needs on here.

Just to clarify, you were interested enough in the other party, with them being interested enough in you, to the point where sex ensued. Then when the sex started, you lose interest almost immediately? Colour me confused! Was there any passion in foreplay or was it just like we're here to fuck, so let's fuck regardless?

Not sure how, if you do get warmed up to the point of having sex, that becomes monotonous. Have you had too much of a good thing? Mad that this would be a complaint but I guess it can happen.

Hoping you expand on what you mean

When I meant going through the motions, sex is an enjoyable, pleasurable activity, but the mechanics of it can be monotonous the passion always comes with the pleasure of the flesh. Never have I lost interest in the throes of sex the feeling of someone touching my skin or I the other it gives me the goosebumps. I enjoy the chat, the social side the feeling of butterflies when it’s reciprocated a mutual enjoyment of one another. Maybe it’s too much of a good thing to expect it too be good/ great all the time. I suppose it’s do I want more than the kink side now? which lead me to what do women want? I’m just as confused now as I did when I threw the question out? "

I like to cuddle kiss tease spoil and give the female the feeling to be a women and not a.... and that i do all time on meets .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women want money and/or Mickey...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women want money and/or Mickey..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Joining fab has been a learning curve for me. I dont want a traditional relationship. For me the intimacy part - cuddling, talking, laughing is what makes the sex better. When i was younger i had one night stands but as soon as the sex started i would fake my way through it and minute it was over i was gone or they left. I was afraid to show the real me in case they didnt like me.

I've learnt over the last 2 years that it is okay for me as a woman to enjoy sex, to initiate sex and to get satisfaction. I have also learnt sex gets better as you geg to know each other and the initial attraction grows more. The spark lights up lol

Anyway thats what i want (obviously to eat cake and not get fat and a threesome with daniel craig and tom hardy and squeeze jason statham in there too please)

That’s exactly what it has become mechanical. Cold, nothing in it for me just going through the motions. The desire or the pleasure has become monotonous, unresponsive, which has lead me to be believe I may have come to the end of my needs on here.

Just to clarify, you were interested enough in the other party, with them being interested enough in you, to the point where sex ensued. Then when the sex started, you lose interest almost immediately? Colour me confused! Was there any passion in foreplay or was it just like we're here to fuck, so let's fuck regardless?

Not sure how, if you do get warmed up to the point of having sex, that becomes monotonous. Have you had too much of a good thing? Mad that this would be a complaint but I guess it can happen.

Hoping you expand on what you mean

When I meant going through the motions, sex is an enjoyable, pleasurable activity, but the mechanics of it can be monotonous the passion always comes with the pleasure of the flesh. Never have I lost interest in the throes of sex the feeling of someone touching my skin or I the other it gives me the goosebumps. I enjoy the chat, the social side the feeling of butterflies when it’s reciprocated a mutual enjoyment of one another. Maybe it’s too much of a good thing to expect it too be good/ great all the time. I suppose it’s do I want more than the kink side now? which lead me to what do women want? I’m just as confused now as I did when I threw the question out? "

Glad we could clear all that up for you so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reckon the best thing to do is give up yer auld sins and take up reading, walking, cycling and any board game that you like such as draughts or ludo or snakes and ladders. Wait at least six months and come back to Fab when everything should appear fresh and exciting all over again!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Reckon the best thing to do is give up yer auld sins and take up reading, walking, cycling and any board game that you like such as draughts or ludo or snakes and ladders. Wait at least six months and come back to Fab when everything should appear fresh and exciting all over again! "

You could be right.

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