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Am I naive or was the response harash?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I had been chatting to a very popular UK based lady on here for some time. We had exchanged face pic's and had had quite a lot of banter. Often she would say goodbye as she had to go to work. Now I know that privacy is of utmost importance to a lot of people on here and that private life is for a lot of people just that. Private. I sent the following question and was immediately blocked.

" May I ask? What sector do you work in? Hospitality, retail, I.T., manufacturing, service industry, etc, etc.

I don't need to know exact info just would like to know in general."

Obviously for her, I crossed a line.

Was I being naive or was her response a little harash? Any thought's?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Rant over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slight over reaction maybe, given that you were chatting for a while, but each to their own I suppose. Maybe she didn't want to discuss her personal life?

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Bit harsh on her part but obviously she'd rather keep that private it's a strange one alright xx

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By *addy36Man
over a year ago

Mayo

I think it was harsh seeing as you posed the question "May I ask ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could she have seen you on the " who's near " and got spooked

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I suppose like all Ladies on here, she is part of the minority and therefore pretty much has her pick of who and what she wants to reply to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Could she have seen you on the " who's near " and got spooked "

Hadn't thought of that. I know that from time to time the "who's near" feature acts up and places people a bit closer. But I would not of thought by that much as I'm in Cork and she was in London.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she told you already and thought to herself, this lad is not listening, I'm out!

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Maybe she told you already and thought to herself, this lad is not listening, I'm out!"

That's a fair point... If I find that I'm having to repeat myself while chatting to someone... or answer questions that are already covered in my profile text, I'll just get fed up and lose interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems a bit mad to me. Personally I would have carried on chatting but just avoided answering that particular question.

Maybe she’s had an issue with someone tracking her down at work before. I have had a previous meet try to add me on social media before....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I would have carried on chatting but just avoided answering that particular question. "

Me too, I've ignored such questions before but not blocked a person for it so maybe there's a more to her reasoning for blocking the OP or maybe not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she just got sick of ye lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why did you need to know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had been chatting to a very popular UK based lady on here for some time. We had exchanged face pic's and had had quite a lot of banter. Often she would say goodbye as she had to go to work. Now I know that privacy is of utmost importance to a lot of people on here and that private life is for a lot of people just that. Private. I sent the following question and was immediately blocked.

" May I ask? What sector do you work in? Hospitality, retail, I.T., manufacturing, service industry, etc, etc.

I don't need to know exact info just would like to know in general."

Obviously for her, I crossed a line.

Was I being naive or was her response a little harash? Any thought's?"

Maybe she is actually very popular... Celebrity and all

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By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

Seems harsh but who knows why. It’s a minefield isn’t it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"why did you need to know? "

I didn't "need" to know. It just intrigued me as to what such an attractive, charming, sentual, clever and funny Lady might do for a living. As in my mind, this lady could have entered any professional circle in life and succeeded.

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By *un4tooCouple
over a year ago

north cork


"why did you need to know?

I didn't "need" to know. It just intrigued me as to what such an attractive, charming, sentual, clever and funny Lady might do for a living. As in my mind, this lady could have entered any professional circle in life and succeeded."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see any problem with the question of itself, but some people are paranoid about giving away even a hint of personal information, no matter how broad (and for all you know they may have had a stalker before), or perhaps it followed other questions on your part that she,(rightly or wrongly) deemed intrusive, maybe she tired of you, maybe she's just a diva...

The possibilities are endless...

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out


"why did you need to know?

I didn't "need" to know. It just intrigued me as to what such an attractive, charming, sentual, clever and funny Lady might do for a living. As in my mind, this lady could have entered any professional circle in life and succeeded."

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By *un4tooCouple
over a year ago

north cork


"why did you need to know?

I didn't "need" to know. It just intrigued me as to what such an attractive, charming, sentual, clever and funny Lady might do for a living. As in my mind, this lady could have entered any professional circle in life and succeeded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why did you need to know?

I didn't "need" to know. It just intrigued me as to what such an attractive, charming, sentual, clever and funny Lady might do for a living. As in my mind, this lady could have entered any professional circle in life and succeeded.

"

Maybe she did and has but still don’t see why it would matter

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow


"Maybe she told you already and thought to herself, this lad is not listening, I'm out!

That's a fair point... If I find that I'm having to repeat myself while chatting to someone... or answer questions that are already covered in my profile text, I'll just get fed up and lose interest."

What?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why did you need to know?

I didn't "need" to know. It just intrigued me as to what such an attractive, charming, sentual, clever and funny Lady might do for a living. As in my mind, this lady could have entered any professional circle in life and succeeded.

Maybe she did and has but still don’t see why it would matter "

Im starting to think it might not be solely based on your question!

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By *omtom500Man
over a year ago

Tullamore

your name suits ya perfect if she's in London and you are in cork

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems a bit harsh if you both had been chatting for a while. All she had to do was say that she would rather not tell you and the the two of you could have carried on chatting.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Op, a lot of people are just moods fecks / Simple as...

So, real question is... is that the kind of person you'd be bothered spending your time pursuing?? There's loads of sexy,fun & charming people here on Fab so go find them

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