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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We're finding it impossible to meet single women! We're well verified and we've only met one single woman in nearly 3 years on here... We're starting to think tinder might be better for meeting women lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah dead right. Women are so hard to meet on this site . Either there all stuck up or there very cautious ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't think they are stuck up,it's probably because they have such a huge choice! But its really frustrating!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're finding it impossible to meet single women! We're well verified and we've only met one single woman in nearly 3 years on here... We're starting to think tinder might be better for meeting women lol"
States on yer profile ye met four women ???

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"Yeah dead right. Women are so hard to meet on this site . Either there all stuck up or there very cautious ... "

Excuse me..........stuck up wtf like......

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

When looking for single women you are chasing the most desirable prey and up against nearly everyone on the site for their attention. Your best bet to meet and play with single women would probably be a club. You have to understand that the woman has to like two people from a cpl where as she only has to like one for a single. Also there's the dynamics she's on her own with two people who know each other this can be off putting too especially if she's meeting at their home.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out


"Yeah dead right. Women are so hard to meet on this site . Either there all stuck up or there very cautious ... "

They'll be even more stuck up if you call them all stuck up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We're finding it impossible to meet single women! We're well verified and we've only met one single woman in nearly 3 years on here... We're starting to think tinder might be better for meeting women lol States on yer profile ye met four women ???"

Played with one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh right sorry

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"Yeah dead right. Women are so hard to meet on this site . Either there all stuck up or there very cautious ...

They'll be even more stuck up if you call them all stuck up "

Hmmmmmmmmmm....!!!

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By *ohn400Man
over a year ago

Dublin or anywhere

No single girls on here meets anybody..its much easier to meet up with a couple.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out


"No single girls on here meets anybody..its much easier to meet up with a couple."

That's a lie maybe they don't meet you and you find it easier to meet cpls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're finding it impossible to meet single women! We're well verified and we've only met one single woman in nearly 3 years on here... We're starting to think tinder might be better for meeting women lol"

I think it’s personal preference for those women and standing out for those you want to meet. And like fellow fabbers mentioned, joining an event/social M&G would help increase chances of you finding what you’re looking for. Being verified is not the only measure of someone meeting you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No single girls on here meets anybody..its much easier to meet up with a couple."

Harsh statement to make, that NO single girls on here meets anybody.... Yet you’ve been verified by 6 fems!

Hmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single woman I have met plenty of guys from here. I have yet to play with a couple though because it's very difficult to get the attraction right between three people.

Maybe that's what some people call stuck-up, but it's about personal preference.

I also find that in chatting to a couple, often it's all about what they want, or fulfilling their fantasies and I feel objectified. So if you're chatting with a woman make an effort to be inclusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Having read some of the posts on this thread and several others of its kind, I would just like to clarify something.

Men... you are not competing with 'every other man' on the site for a woman's attention. Few of us are that hungry for attention. We have our preferences and usually are only interested in chatting to that very small percentage of men who do seem to meet our preferences, to ascertain if it may lead anywhere.

Couples... not every single bi female on here is a unicorn. Few women will find they're attracted to both halves of a couple. Its as rare for most of us as it is for you to find a unicorn.

Sometimes the best and mout unexpected way to find what you're looking for is to attend socials... take the pressure off yourselves and go along with no expectations except to mingle with a lot of like-minded people and have plenty of laughs... sometimes in the middle of all those giggles and banter a spark of attraction will be ignited that you won't ever have discovered through messaging

No offense intended to The OP or anyone else by saying this... just dispelling some common myths

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No single girls on here meets anybody..its much easier to meet up with a couple."

Hmmm a little ignorant as most single women have been meet verified through one dynamic or another. Which puts that argument to rest. Maybe consider changing your approach to single women patience may help..

Also worth considering would be the single women are maybe 1 in 20 on this site. (I don't know the figures it maybe more or less)

And are highly desired by men women and couples alike. Making them inherently difficult to meet.

But as much more experience grabbers to me have said go to the event mingle. Get to know some single women and try start to build a rapport you can carry into the future?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having read some of the posts on this thread and several others of its kind, I would just like to clarify something.

Men... you are not competing with 'every other man' on the site for a woman's attention. Few of us are that hungry for attention. We have our preferences and usually are only interested in chatting to that very small percentage of men who do seem to meet our preferences, to ascertain if it may lead anywhere.

Couples... not every single bi female on here is a unicorn. Few women will find they're attracted to both halves of a couple. Its as rare for most of us as it is for you to find a unicorn.

Sometimes the best and mout unexpected way to find what you're looking for is to attend socials... take the pressure off yourselves and go along with no expectations except to mingle with a lot of like-minded people and have plenty of laughs... sometimes in the middle of all those giggles and banter a spark of attraction will be ignited that you won't ever have discovered through messaging

No offense intended to The OP or anyone else by saying this... just dispelling some common myths "
spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having read some of the posts on this thread and several others of its kind, I would just like to clarify something.

Men... you are not competing with 'every other man' on the site for a woman's attention. Few of us are that hungry for attention. We have our preferences and usually are only interested in chatting to that very small percentage of men who do seem to meet our preferences, to ascertain if it may lead anywhere.

Couples... not every single bi female on here is a unicorn. Few women will find they're attracted to both halves of a couple. Its as rare for most of us as it is for you to find a unicorn.

Sometimes the best and mout unexpected way to find what you're looking for is to attend socials... take the pressure off yourselves and go along with no expectations except to mingle with a lot of like-minded people and have plenty of laughs... sometimes in the middle of all those giggles and banter a spark of attraction will be ignited that you won't ever have discovered through messaging

No offense intended to The OP or anyone else by saying this... just dispelling some common myths spot on "

Balls, I prefer the idea that they're all stuck up

I need a sarcasm font

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was at the mayo m&g at the weekend beautiful sexy friendly ladies to talk to brillant fun great banter and a few phone numbers exchanged that is the way to go op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having read some of the posts on this thread and several others of its kind, I would just like to clarify something.

Men... you are not competing with 'every other man' on the site for a woman's attention. Few of us are that hungry for attention. We have our preferences and usually are only interested in chatting to that very small percentage of men who do seem to meet our preferences, to ascertain if it may lead anywhere.

Couples... not every single bi female on here is a unicorn. Few women will find they're attracted to both halves of a couple. Its as rare for most of us as it is for you to find a unicorn.

Sometimes the best and mout unexpected way to find what you're looking for is to attend socials... take the pressure off yourselves and go along with no expectations except to mingle with a lot of like-minded people and have plenty of laughs... sometimes in the middle of all those giggles and banter a spark of attraction will be ignited that you won't ever have discovered through messaging

No offense intended to The OP or anyone else by saying this... just dispelling some common myths "

Well said. Another benefit of a meet and greet is you get to see people over a much longer period of time than a coffee meet. You get to see how they interact with you and others, whether or not they can handle a few drinks or even a few too many drinks, and whether they have more or less the same personality they had at the start of the night when it gets to time to leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having read some of the posts on this thread and several others of its kind, I would just like to clarify something.

Men... you are not competing with 'every other man' on the site for a woman's attention. Few of us are that hungry for attention. We have our preferences and usually are

only interested in chatting to that very small percentage of men who do seem to meet our preferences, to ascertain if it may lead anywhere.

Couples... not every single bi female on here is a unicorn. Few women will find they're attracted to both halves of a couple. Its as rare for most of us as it is for you to find a unicorn.

Sometimes the best and mout unexpected way to find what you're looking for is to attend socials... take the pressure off yourselves and go along with no expectations except to mingle with a lot of like-minded people and have plenty of laughs... sometimes in the middle of all those giggles and banter a spark of attraction will be ignited that you won't ever have discovered through messaging

No offense intended to The OP or anyone else by saying this... just dispelling some common myths

Well said. Another benefit of a meet and greet is you get to see people over a much longer period of time than a coffee meet. You get to see how they interact with you and others, whether or not they can handle a few drinks or even a few too many drinks, and whether they have more or less the same personality they had at the start of the night when it gets to time to leave. "

Now miss sally where is this going lol in my defence ireland won the six nations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having read some of the posts on this thread and several others of its kind, I would just like to clarify something.

Men... you are not competing with 'every other man' on the site for a woman's attention. Few of us are that hungry for attention. We have our preferences and usually are only interested in chatting to that very small percentage of men who do seem to meet our preferences, to ascertain if it may lead anywhere.

Couples... not every single bi female on here is a unicorn. Few women will find they're attracted to both halves of a couple. Its as rare for most of us as it is for you to find a unicorn.

Sometimes the best and mout unexpected way to find what you're looking for is to attend socials... take the pressure off yourselves and go along with no expectations except to mingle with a lot of like-minded people and have plenty of laughs... sometimes in the middle of all those giggles and banter a spark of attraction will be ignited that you won't ever have discovered through messaging

No offense intended to The OP or anyone else by saying this... just dispelling some common myths

Well said. Another benefit of a meet and greet is you get to see people over a much longer period of time than a coffee meet. You get to see how they interact with you and others, whether or not they can handle a few drinks or even a few too many drinks, and whether they have more or less the same personality they had at the start of the night when it gets to time to leave. "

Socials are great but i know personally they are daunting and when there are other single woman who are confident and have no problem talking to everyone there i find i end up sitting with the few i have met previously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here..And on here a lot longer too.

Not really pushed at this stage anymore.. If it happens, it happens, if not, we always have each other.

As for Tinder, we're trying that too.

Lot more responses from that as from here, but also still have timewasters, and scammers on there.

Be careful of the profiles that want to contact you via email. Most if not all of those are scams.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My opinion is the girls on here are greedy. They don't want to he sharing a man or woman they want all attention on them. Everyone is on here for their own sexual fantasies and want to be the main attraction in them I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having read some of the posts on this thread and several others of its kind, I would just like to clarify something.

Men... you are not competing with 'every other man' on the site for a woman's attention. Few of us are that hungry for attention. We have our preferences and usually are

only interested in chatting to that very small percentage of men who do seem to meet our preferences, to ascertain if it may lead anywhere.

Couples... not every single bi female on here is a unicorn. Few women will find they're attracted to both halves of a couple. Its as rare for most of us as it is for you to find a unicorn.

Sometimes the best and mout unexpected way to find what you're looking for is to attend socials... take the pressure off yourselves and go along with no expectations except to mingle with a lot of like-minded people and have plenty of laughs... sometimes in the middle of all those giggles and banter a spark of attraction will be ignited that you won't ever have discovered through messaging

No offense intended to The OP or anyone else by saying this... just dispelling some common myths

Well said. Another benefit of a meet and greet is you get to see people over a much longer period of time than a coffee meet. You get to see how they interact with you and others, whether or not they can handle a few drinks or even a few too many drinks, and whether they have more or less the same personality they had at the start of the night when it gets to time to leave.

Now miss sally where is this going lol in my defence ireland won the six nations "

You Mr, need no defence. You were impeccable, even with all the celebrations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Socials are great but i know personally they are daunting and when there are other single woman who are confident and have no problem talking to everyone there i find i end up sitting with the few i have met previously. "

What you might find easier is a smaller social, the bigger ones can be daunting. I'm not the most confident of people myself in those situations, but we had a small social in letterkenny last year and I found it easy enough to go up to people and introduce myself.

Are you walking with us on our next outing? There are some lovely people in our group X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My opinion is the girls on here are greedy. They don't want to he sharing a man or woman they want all attention on them. Everyone is on here for their own sexual fantasies and want to be the main attraction in them I think. "

Gosh, is that really what you think? While we're all here for our own reasons, surely mutual satisfaction is the main one? Am I way off the mark?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My opinion is the girls on here are greedy. They don't want to he sharing a man or woman they want all attention on them. Everyone is on here for their own sexual fantasies and want to be the main attraction in them I think.

Gosh, is that really what you think? While we're all here for our own reasons, surely mutual satisfaction is the main one? Am I way off the mark?"

I read alot of profiles and have read women state they're here to fullfil certain fantasies and thats it, alot say they just want to be a the only girl in a straight threesome or gangbang. Obviously not all women are looking for that but I've seen enough to generalise haha

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By *09309309Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Yeah dead right. Women are so hard to meet on this site . Either there all stuck up or there very cautious ...

Excuse me..........stuck up wtf like......"

Threads like this are great for knowing who to block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chaps if your going to be charmless what do you expect!

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"My opinion is the girls on here are greedy. They don't want to he sharing a man or woman they want all attention on them. Everyone is on here for their own sexual fantasies and want to be the main attraction in them I think.

Gosh, is that really what you think? While we're all here for our own reasons, surely mutual satisfaction is the main one? Am I way off the mark?

I read alot of profiles and have read women state they're here to fullfil certain fantasies and thats it, alot say they just want to be a the only girl in a straight threesome or gangbang. Obviously not all women are looking for that but I've seen enough to generalise haha "

You know nothing Jon Snow...

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By *09309309Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Having read some of the posts on this thread and several others of its kind, I would just like to clarify something.

Men... you are not competing with 'every other man' on the site for a woman's attention. Few of us are that hungry for attention. We have our preferences and usually are only interested in chatting to that very small percentage of men who do seem to meet our preferences, to ascertain if it may lead anywhere.

Couples... not every single bi female on here is a unicorn. Few women will find they're attracted to both halves of a couple. Its as rare for most of us as it is for you to find a unicorn.

Sometimes the best and mout unexpected way to find what you're looking for is to attend socials... take the pressure off yourselves and go along with no expectations except to mingle with a lot of like-minded people and have plenty of laughs... sometimes in the middle of all those giggles and banter a spark of attraction will be ignited that you won't ever have discovered through messaging

No offense intended to The OP or anyone else by saying this... just dispelling some common myths spot on

Balls, I prefer the idea that they're all stuck up

I need a sarcasm font "

Hahaha!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

You know nothing Jon Snow..."

An I the only one who read that in Ygritte's northern accent?

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By *ittyMissKittyWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

From the perspective of a single female it can be very daunting meeting a couple on your own for the first time. I prefer to meet at a social or party first where you can get a feel for what people are like and if you click. And as someone pointed out, it's not always that you fancy both parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is. A swing site is just a resource for like minded to chat and possibly connect. I'm not fond at all of the women bashing that is going on by some posters in these threads lately.

There is zero obligation if on the site to meet ANYBODY for any man/tv/ts/woman/couple.

Women I think are rightly so going to be more cautious of meeting and if that doesn't suit the person mailing them that is just tough shit to be honest. Like I said with the female profiles there are also couple profiles being set up by and used only by men with a view to deceive those who they mail as a "friendly couple". Certainly I would hope the vast majority of couples are genuine but it gives credence to the risk a woman may not be talking with a couple she thinks she is.

Not every guy either is an arsehole. Certainly though the ones who are not and can respectfully engage with a woman stand a much better chance than those who treat the swing scene as if it were free escorts.

If you want a cheap fuck go for a €50 hooker.

The ladies here deserve an awful lot more respect than is currently afforded to them by quite a few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

You know nothing Jon Snow...

An I the only one who read that in Ygritte's northern accent? "

Nope

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Why don’t the couples get together and do a threesome one week with one couple. Then the next week the female of the other couple goes to do one with them?

Or is that a complete no no?

Would the males of both couples throw a strop?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don’t the couples get together and do a threesome one week with one couple. Then the next week the female of the other couple goes to do one with them?

Or is that a complete no no?

Would the males of both couples throw a strop? "

Sounds like a solution!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In one of your profile pics op it looks like you whipped your partner bang on in the sweet spot when she was least expecting it..as well as being bang out of order it may be putting the single ladies off when checking out your profile...

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out


"Why don’t the couples get together and do a threesome one week with one couple. Then the next week the female of the other couple goes to do one with them?

Or is that a complete no no?

Would the males of both couples throw a strop? "

The problem there is if the first cpl got their ffm then said no to the return leg

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