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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To play the role of a maledom do you have to have big physical attributes or can you do so with a dominant personality or with neither but you have someone that's attracted to you and willing to submit to you. I feel I'm not the biggest personality and physically I'm miles off dominating but I've the opportunity for of some bdsm now. She trusts me to take completely control, I'd that all that matters?

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By *oungcouple1993xCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"To play the role of a maledom do you have to have big physical attributes or can you do so with a dominant personality or with neither but you have someone that's attracted to you and willing to submit to you. I feel I'm not the biggest personality and physically I'm miles off dominating but I've the opportunity for of some bdsm now. She trusts me to take completely control, I'd that all that matters? "

Not sure if you can be a Dom without having a dominant personality but physical attributes don't really come into it. No harm in trying it out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To play the role of a maledom do you have to have big physical attributes or can you do so with a dominant personality or with neither but you have someone that's attracted to you and willing to submit to you. I feel I'm not the biggest personality and physically I'm miles off dominating but I've the opportunity for of some bdsm now. She trusts me to take completely control, I'd that all that matters?

Not sure if you can be a Dom without having a dominant personality but physical attributes don't really come into it. No harm in trying it out "

Well she only knows me as me with her and I'd be the more dominant personality there. In everyday life I'm more easy going unless I'm really not happy with the way things are going ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, you'll see from my profile, the guy has to have a bigger personality than me and me more confident and dominant than me. It's a feeling I get from him more than anything else... its like they are sexually confident and superior to me and I love that feeling...it makes it really hard to find though!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me, you'll see from my profile, the guy has to have a bigger personality than me and me more confident and dominant than me. It's a feeling I get from him more than anything else... its like they are sexually confident and superior to me and I love that feeling...it makes it really hard to find though! "

So you think whatever I do when we do get into this that as long as I do it with confidence I'm going the right way? I feel confident already because I feel I've a millions ways of getting her off and turning her on in the situation where before it was standard stuff and I really had to hope my performance was good that night haha

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

It's obviously not your thing but I understand you've to try everything once in your life and you want to please here. However I believe if you're not into it, you won't be very convincing.

I don't think your physical appearance is in anyway crucial to be a Dom. Sure it might help to have a strong build but it's the personality that makes all the difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, you'll see from my profile, the guy has to have a bigger personality than me and me more confident and dominant than me. It's a feeling I get from him more than anything else... its like they are sexually confident and superior to me and I love that feeling...it makes it really hard to find though!

So you think whatever I do when we do get into this that as long as I do it with confidence I'm going the right way? I feel confident already because I feel I've a millions ways of getting her off and turning her on in the situation where before it was standard stuff and I really had to hope my performance was good that night haha"

Yes it's definitely all confidence!! Be in control, you'll know what she likes and when you can push her by how she responds! I'm still learning what I like myself as I go along but there are some well experienced swingers on here who've helped me on my journey

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me, you'll see from my profile, the guy has to have a bigger personality than me and me more confident and dominant than me. It's a feeling I get from him more than anything else... its like they are sexually confident and superior to me and I love that feeling...it makes it really hard to find though!

So you think whatever I do when we do get into this that as long as I do it with confidence I'm going the right way? I feel confident already because I feel I've a millions ways of getting her off and turning her on in the situation where before it was standard stuff and I really had to hope my performance was good that night haha

Yes it's definitely all confidence!! Be in control, you'll know what she likes and when you can push her by how she responds! I'm still learning what I like myself as I go along but there are some well experienced swingers on here who've helped me on my journey "

I actually can't wait to get started now haha thanks. I'm very confident around this girl and I said some things to her last night to test the waters of what I can do with her and everything was received positively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, you'll see from my profile, the guy has to have a bigger personality than me and me more confident and dominant than me. It's a feeling I get from him more than anything else... its like they are sexually confident and superior to me and I love that feeling...it makes it really hard to find though!

So you think whatever I do when we do get into this that as long as I do it with confidence I'm going the right way? I feel confident already because I feel I've a millions ways of getting her off and turning her on in the situation where before it was standard stuff and I really had to hope my performance was good that night haha

Yes it's definitely all confidence!! Be in control, you'll know what she likes and when you can push her by how she responds! I'm still learning what I like myself as I go along but there are some well experienced swingers on here who've helped me on my journey

I actually can't wait to get started now haha thanks. I'm very confident around this girl and I said some things to her last night to test the waters of what I can do with her and everything was received positively. "

Well see how it goes and good luck! Learn from each other! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's 100% about confidence. You may find it's not really your thing but only one way to find out for sure

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's 100% about confidence. You may find it's not really your thing but only one way to find out for sure"

I think it's my thing cause secretly I'm a control freak who manages to keep it under control haha so with me being completely in control (what she wants) I'm definitely going to feel good. I've just got to worry about making her feel good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's 100% about confidence. You may find it's not really your thing but only one way to find out for sure

I think it's my thing cause secretly I'm a control freak who manages to keep it under control haha so with me being completely in control (what she wants) I'm definitely going to feel good. I've just got to worry about making her feel good "

Interestingly, the desire for control stems from insecurity, you might find that being sexually dominant reduces the need for control in other areas of life.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

I don't think you're a Dom more you want to do dominance role play. Try it see if it works for you. Read up on it. Role play is fine but being a Dom is a completely different path altogether. Physical appearance has nothing to do with dominance , it's on you or it's not. Confidence is key. Good luck with it and enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm curious to know why people think It's not for me, like is it from my comments in the forums? Like I remember the first girl I was ever with. She was an innocent angel to the whole world and even to me until we were alone in bed together and it was like a completely different person. I don't think my face to the world is the same as my face in bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably because you seem a bit hesitant about it yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure lots of us show a different side to the world from the one we have in the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably because you seem a bit hesitant about it yourself?

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No more curious than hesitant. Like I know there's experience people here so instead of reading a porn site or making it up as I go I said I'd ask about it here.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

You do know trust between 2 partners is the biggest issue . So long as both of you trust each other and take it nice and slow . I think you will enjoy it. I for one could not dominate a lady .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably because you seem a bit hesitant about it yourself?

No more curious than hesitant. Like I know there's experience people here so instead of reading a porn site or making it up as I go I said I'd ask about it here. "

I think you'll be brilliant at it. Admittedly I don't know you, but you come across as a very grounded and mature person, and the fact that you care enough about your role to ask for guidance shows that you take your responsibility seriously.

Wishing you both lots of fun exploring and pushing boundaries x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably because you seem a bit hesitant about it yourself?

No more curious than hesitant. Like I know there's experience people here so instead of reading a porn site or making it up as I go I said I'd ask about it here.

I think you'll be brilliant at it. Admittedly I don't know you, but you come across as a very grounded and mature person, and the fact that you care enough about your role to ask for guidance shows that you take your responsibility seriously.

Wishing you both lots of fun exploring and pushing boundaries x"

Thank you, I'm easily please so will enjoy myself with any sexual activity, more worried about her enjoying it.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

OP... Google the Sensual Dom.

He has A great blog.

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