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"Well if she's not making it up, she seems to be the centre of a lot of drama - that's what would worry me..." Ya and the school can't fire someone based on an accusation. I didn't bother to get into any details of it because it was winding me up so I just acted unfazed and changed the subject. Eventually I'll confront her on this. It's not the fact that she's possibly sleeping around it's the fact that's she's lying about it. I can't stand lies. | |||
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"Well if she's not making it up, she seems to be the centre of a lot of drama - that's what would worry me... Ya and the school can't fire someone based on an accusation. I didn't bother to get into any details of it because it was winding me up so I just acted unfazed and changed the subject. Eventually I'll confront her on this. It's not the fact that she's possibly sleeping around it's the fact that's she's lying about it. I can't stand lies. " Some people can't seem to help themselves when it comes to lying.  | |||
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"I find it strange that she would bring this up at all. Was she looking for some specific kind of reaction? Like what is the point if it? Odd." I dunno, it was just random. All this wasn't said at once. It was over the weeks but this week I kinda had enough of listening to it. | |||
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"She's probably looking for a reaction from you about it and as you're not giving her one she's possibly adding more to it as the weeks go on. Attention seeking springs to mind! " I'd be inclined to agree. | |||
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"I find it strange that she would bring this up at all. Was she looking for some specific kind of reaction? Like what is the point if it? Odd. I dunno, it was just random. All this wasn't said at once. It was over the weeks but this week I kinda had enough of listening to it. " If you want to get to the bottom of it you'll have to confront her but if she is in the habit of telling porkies it's unlikely you'll get the truth.. I'd a similar experience last year where the stories didn't add up but caught him out on several other lies but the saddest thing was that he couldn't accept that he was caught out and another web of lies was spun... perhaps we could put them in touch as he's still on here lol Either way you've got to do what's right for you... best of luck  | |||
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"I was on this before I met her and never met anyone, once I started dating her I changed my bio telling people I am not meeting. I haven't made first contact with anyone on here in over two months and even when I'm texted I will straight out say I'm not available. I stay here for the forums. I like reading about sex and people's experiences of sex and peoples dilemmas etc... I don't think I need to tell her about what I'm reading. I've no interest in swinging also. I was on here to meet a girl and hopefully become good friends with and have good sex with but it didn't happen and won't while I'm dating. I'm not chasing women here . " Why you are here is completely your own business, you don't have to justify that. Trust your gut...if stories don't add up plus too many occurrences of her being wrongly accused not to have learned her lesson by not putting herself in situations where she can be accused of things! She has to be contributing to the drama in some shape or form even if she didn't sleep with them. Also why keep casually dropping these stories into the conversation. Is she trying to tell you something. I think the best and only way forward is to sit down and broach the subject by telling her that you have no problems with her past but need her to be honest with you as you don't feel like the snippets you have been given add up. See how she handles that conversation and again...trust your gut. Best of luck | |||
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"I was on this before I met her and never met anyone, once I started dating her I changed my bio telling people I am not meeting. I haven't made first contact with anyone on here in over two months and even when I'm texted I will straight out say I'm not available. I stay here for the forums. I like reading about sex and people's experiences of sex and peoples dilemmas etc... I don't think I need to tell her about what I'm reading. I've no interest in swinging also. I was on here to meet a girl and hopefully become good friends with and have good sex with but it didn't happen and won't while I'm dating. I'm not chasing women here . Why you are here is completely your own business, you don't have to justify that. Trust your gut...if stories don't add up plus too many occurrences of her being wrongly accused not to have learned her lesson by not putting herself in situations where she can be accused of things! She has to be contributing to the drama in some shape or form even if she didn't sleep with them. Also why keep casually dropping these stories into the conversation. Is she trying to tell you something. I think the best and only way forward is to sit down and broach the subject by telling her that you have no problems with her past but need her to be honest with you as you don't feel like the snippets you have been given add up. See how she handles that conversation and again...trust your gut. Best of luck" Thats it exactly, if she told me she slept with 40 people in the past I wouldn't care, it's the past but the stories not adding up makes me feel like she's lying or that it could just be her trying to get a reaction out of me but either way I'm not liking them | |||
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"I was on this before I met her and never met anyone, once I started dating her I changed my bio telling people I am not meeting. I haven't made first contact with anyone on here in over two months and even when I'm texted I will straight out say I'm not available. I stay here for the forums. I like reading about sex and people's experiences of sex and peoples dilemmas etc... I don't think I need to tell her about what I'm reading. I've no interest in swinging also. I was on here to meet a girl and hopefully become good friends with and have good sex with but it didn't happen and won't while I'm dating. I'm not chasing women here . Why you are here is completely your own business, you don't have to justify that. Trust your gut...if stories don't add up plus too many occurrences of her being wrongly accused not to have learned her lesson by not putting herself in situations where she can be accused of things! She has to be contributing to the drama in some shape or form even if she didn't sleep with them. Also why keep casually dropping these stories into the conversation. Is she trying to tell you something. I think the best and only way forward is to sit down and broach the subject by telling her that you have no problems with her past but need her to be honest with you as you don't feel like the snippets you have been given add up. See how she handles that conversation and again...trust your gut. Best of luck Thats it exactly, if she told me she slept with 40 people in the past I wouldn't care, it's the past but the stories not adding up makes me feel like she's lying or that it could just be her trying to get a reaction out of me but either way I'm not liking them " I suspect (and hope) the stories aren't adding up because you have only got partial bits of each. Make time to have a safe (uninterrupted) calm conversation about each event where she has claimed she was wronged. Explain it's a conversation for clarity as you have questions as well as a past. Be open to both of you opening up. Sometimes lack of clarity can cause doubt's. Sometimes doubts are there with good reason. I hope it's a clarity issue. Maybe it will open thing's up for you both to discuss everything more clearly. | |||
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"I was on this before I met her and never met anyone, once I started dating her I changed my bio telling people I am not meeting. I haven't made first contact with anyone on here in over two months and even when I'm texted I will straight out say I'm not available. I stay here for the forums. I like reading about sex and people's experiences of sex and peoples dilemmas etc... I don't think I need to tell her about what I'm reading. I've no interest in swinging also. I was on here to meet a girl and hopefully become good friends with and have good sex with but it didn't happen and won't while I'm dating. I'm not chasing women here . Why you are here is completely your own business, you don't have to justify that. Trust your gut...if stories don't add up plus too many occurrences of her being wrongly accused not to have learned her lesson by not putting herself in situations where she can be accused of things! She has to be contributing to the drama in some shape or form even if she didn't sleep with them. Also why keep casually dropping these stories into the conversation. Is she trying to tell you something. I think the best and only way forward is to sit down and broach the subject by telling her that you have no problems with her past but need her to be honest with you as you don't feel like the snippets you have been given add up. See how she handles that conversation and again...trust your gut. Best of luck Thats it exactly, if she told me she slept with 40 people in the past I wouldn't care, it's the past but the stories not adding up makes me feel like she's lying or that it could just be her trying to get a reaction out of me but either way I'm not liking them I suspect (and hope) the stories aren't adding up because you have only got partial bits of each. Make time to have a safe (uninterrupted) calm conversation about each event where she has claimed she was wronged. Explain it's a conversation for clarity as you have questions as well as a past. Be open to both of you opening up. Sometimes lack of clarity can cause doubt's. Sometimes doubts are there with good reason. I hope it's a clarity issue. Maybe it will open thing's up for you both to discuss everything more clearly." Thats exactly what I have to do but I'm a bitch (no offence meant by the term) when it comes to the possibility of upsetting someone. Like I basically have to ask her why do you think you're consistently being accused of these things? Is there any truth to them? Why are you putting yourself in these situations? I can't let her off with "no" "I dunno" answers either so it's gunna be kinda shitty. Obviously I won't be aggressively asking the questions but she needs to he clear with the replies. Anyway thank you and everyone else for your solutions and opinions. | |||
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