FabSwingers.com forum: Social anxiety

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Excited or anxious

Hard to tell the difference sometimes

I have social anxiety at the best of times. Esp meeting new people for the first time. I become a chatterbox

How are you when meeting and greeting with new people and possible play mates?

Satine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm glad I'm not the only one. The connection between my brain and my mouth stops working and a lot of stupid stuff comes out. Beer helps.

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

I'm actually more likely to get like that at a work event than in any swinging capacity, I'm clearly mental

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

anxiety is a popular thread tonight.

i used to suffer quiet badly with it and now when meeting new people just keep reminding myself that the other person is probably a little anxious too and that we're here for the same reasons, either just for a social meet or a play date. it can add to the excitement too.

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

I’m a total chatterbox god knows what will come out of my mouth but I’m like that all the time just heightened when nervous

Started a new job and was moving between a few teams, said to my supervisor I’m like the office slut

think my mind is better in the swinging world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get terrible social anxiety! Oddly, a psychological trick to overcome it is to tell yourself you're actually excited. The physical sensations are exactly the same for excitement and nervousness. It's all about attitude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find no issue if I have chatted a fair bit on here or via kik first - you get a feel for someone and it generally makes conversation flow much easier

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

"I find no issue if I have chatted a fair bit on here or via kik first - you get a feel for someone and it generally makes conversation flow much easier "

Doesn’t matter how much I’ve charted before I’ve got verbal diarrhoea when I meet anyone

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By *it_tribesmanMan
over a year ago

Galway

Akward noise is way better than akward silences.

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

"Akward noise is way better than akward silences. "

Never awkward silence around me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Excited or anxious

Hard to tell the difference sometimes

I have social anxiety at the best of times. Esp meeting new people for the first time. I become a chatterbox

How are you when meeting and greeting with new people and possible play mates?

Satine"

Of course! But am too much of a pervert not to claw out of my realm and into the wider world like a lecherous Cthulhu.

Remember that mating potentially contributes to the progress of the human race, so sating your sexual needs is actually noble.

Yes am in a weird mood today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I get it sooo bad

and yep probably talk pure crap. On the outside it probably just seems like I am really chatty, confident but on the inside it's a total different story

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I tremble with excitement... visibly! I used to think it was part nerves, but no matter how relaxed I am now with some friends or how many times I've met them, I still tremble with excitement to see them...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do love feeling good that adrenaline buzz inside me. The nerves has its perks.

It's good to know I'm not alone. Kinda makes it a little easier, just to remember the other person/people might feel as nervous/excited.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

"I’m a total chatterbox god knows what will come out of my mouth but I’m like that all the time just heightened when nervous

Started a new job and was moving between a few teams, said to my supervisor I’m like the office slut

think my mind is better in the swinging world

that made me laugh out loud slips

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

It might comfort you to know that being laidback, comfortable, and not nervous can be off putting to people.

They can take it as a sign you're not interested, and it can suck the "spark" out of the meeting, if you're the emotional sort.

I have had girls meet me for a date (non swing) and tell me I came across so nice and laid back and it was like meeting a really old friend that they had known for years. But that there was no excitement... but then I meet other girls who love that I am laid back and nothing phases me and that i feel like their best friend..

So if you get nervous and see it as a problem, then not being nervous isn't any better, its just the other side of a coin.

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

"I’m a total chatterbox god knows what will come out of my mouth but I’m like that all the time just heightened when nervous

Started a new job and was moving between a few teams, said to my supervisor I’m like the office slut

think my mind is better in the swinging world

that made me laugh out loud slips

You know it’s true sweets

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

"It might comfort you to know that being laidback, comfortable, and not nervous can be off putting to people.

They can take it as a sign you're not interested, and it can suck the "spark" out of the meeting, if you're the emotional sort.

So if you get nervous and see it as a problem, then not being nervous isn't any better, its just the other side of a coin.

I’m ok with my nervous jabber

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

"Akward noise is way better than akward silences.

Never awkward silence around me

or me lol

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

"It might comfort you to know that being laidback, comfortable, and not nervous can be off putting to people.

They can take it as a sign you're not interested, and it can suck the "spark" out of the meeting, if you're the emotional sort.

So if you get nervous and see it as a problem, then not being nervous isn't any better, its just the other side of a coin.

im very chilled & relaxed when i meet ppl im a natural chatterbox anyways

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

"It might comfort you to know that being laidback, comfortable, and not nervous can be off putting to people.

They can take it as a sign you're not interested, and it can suck the "spark" out of the meeting, if you're the emotional sort.

So if you get nervous and see it as a problem, then not being nervous isn't any better, its just the other side of a coin.

im very chilled & relaxed when i meet ppl im a natural chatterbox anyways "

And we are even worse together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so

just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

Anyone that has met me can vouch for how much I can waffle

I am a total chatterbox but that's what I am like all the time. I have the occasional pre meet butterflies but am usually ok the rest of the time, if anything I get over excited

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so

just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha

That’s ok I’d fill the space

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so

just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha

That’s ok I’d fill the space

Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so

just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha

That’s ok I’d fill the space

Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then

Or watch my mouth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so

just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha

That’s ok I’d fill the space

Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then

Or watch my mouth

Oh I'd be watching for where it's going too

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so

just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha

That’s ok I’d fill the space

Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then

Or watch my mouth

Oh I'd be watching for where it's going too

Perv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so

just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha

That’s ok I’d fill the space

Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then

Or watch my mouth

Oh I'd be watching for where it's going too

Perv

I think there's a bit of that in all of us here

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so

just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha

That’s ok I’d fill the space

Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then

Or watch my mouth

Oh I'd be watching for where it's going too

Perv

I think there's a bit of that in all of us here

I’m an angel

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"Excited or anxious

Hard to tell the difference sometimes

I have social anxiety at the best of times. Esp meeting new people for the first time. I become a chatterbox

How are you when meeting and greeting with new people and possible play mates?

Satine"

Bricking it! Nervous as hell in any social situation with new people, especially if it's a teetotal scenario. I know! Yes, drink is my crutch. I just feel awkward and not able to chat about mundane stuff.

I should say, this is my perception of how I am. The reality may be different but it's how I see it. I feel everyone is judging everybody else when it's a meet for first time.

I would only meet a Fabber that I have spoken to quite a lot, or had a lot of banter with on the forums as I'm that nervous about it.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so

just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha

That’s ok I’d fill the space

Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then

Or watch my mouth

Oh I'd be watching for where it's going too

Perv

I think there's a bit of that in all of us here

I’m an angel

no ur not .... u and angel dont go together ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so

just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha

That’s ok I’d fill the space

Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then

Or watch my mouth

Oh I'd be watching for where it's going too

Perv

I think there's a bit of that in all of us here

I’m an angel

Funny you say that I was once stopped in Dublin city by a random woman who was as she said an angel healer and card reader told me I have the soul of a "fallen angel"

no matter how many bad situations I get myself into I will always come out ok in the end of it haha

I can't say I'm strong believer in all of that stuff religion in general too

so I guess we are both Angels

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so

just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha

That’s ok I’d fill the space

Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then

Or watch my mouth

Oh I'd be watching for where it's going too

Perv

I think there's a bit of that in all of us here

I’m an angel

Funny you say that I was once stopped in Dublin city by a random woman who was as she said an angel healer and card reader told me I have the soul of a "fallen angel"

no matter how many bad situations I get myself into I will always come out ok in the end of it haha

I can't say I'm strong believer in all of that stuff religion in general too

so I guess we are both Angels

I would have queried her on that one. Wasn't the Devil originally an angel but fell from heaven?

That might have stopped her in her tracks

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

I’m a real

thou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a real

thou

You should shine that halo down on me

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"I’m a real

thou

We believe you

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

I am I swear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so

just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha

That’s ok I’d fill the space

Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then

Or watch my mouth

Oh I'd be watching for where it's going too

Perv

I think there's a bit of that in all of us here

I’m an angel

Funny you say that I was once stopped in Dublin city by a random woman who was as she said an angel healer and card reader told me I have the soul of a "fallen angel"

no matter how many bad situations I get myself into I will always come out ok in the end of it haha

I can't say I'm strong believer in all of that stuff religion in general too

so I guess we are both Angels

I would have queried her on that one. Wasn't the Devil originally an angel but fell from heaven?

That might have stopped her in her tracks

"
yeah she mentioned something along the lines of that too , to be honest I was 18 at the time and was just like what drugs is this one taking haha

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so

just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha

That’s ok I’d fill the space

Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then

Or watch my mouth

Oh I'd be watching for where it's going too

Perv

I think there's a bit of that in all of us here

I’m an angel

Funny you say that I was once stopped in Dublin city by a random woman who was as she said an angel healer and card reader told me I have the soul of a "fallen angel"

no matter how many bad situations I get myself into I will always come out ok in the end of it haha

I can't say I'm strong believer in all of that stuff religion in general too

so I guess we are both Angels

I would have queried her on that one. Wasn't the Devil originally an angel but fell from heaven?

That might have stopped her in her tracks

yeah she mentioned something along the lines of that too , to be honest I was 18 at the time and was just like what drugs is this one taking haha

Oh I just love winding them up. Same with priests. Father are ghosts real? Usually they say No. So Father, the Holy Ghost isn't real then? Followed by much backtracking from the man in black

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm normally quick on the ball myself for a good wind up

that's a good one I must try that at the next wedding or christining haha

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"I'm normally quick on the ball myself for a good wind up

that's a good one I must try that at the next wedding or christining haha"

Oh, no, you have to watch Mickey Flanagan about talking to the priest at a wedding. Hilarious. He even mentions teabagging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm normally quick on the ball myself for a good wind up

that's a good one I must try that at the next wedding or christining haha

Oh, no, you have to watch Mickey Flanagan about talking to the priest at a wedding. Hilarious. He even mentions teabagging

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I will YouTube it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Excited or anxious

Hard to tell the difference sometimes

I have social anxiety at the best of times. Esp meeting new people for the first time. I become a chatterbox

How are you when meeting and greeting with new people and possible play mates?

Satine"

OMG I'm exactly the same every time

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"I'm normally quick on the ball myself for a good wind up

that's a good one I must try that at the next wedding or christining haha

Oh, no, you have to watch Mickey Flanagan about talking to the priest at a wedding. Hilarious. He even mentions teabagging

I will YouTube it

http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x17lx7b

Start at 09:40mins for about 5mins.

Or watch all and enjoy

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By *it_tribesmanMan
over a year ago

Galway

"It might comfort you to know that being laidback, comfortable, and not nervous can be off putting to people.

They can take it as a sign you're not interested, and it can suck the "spark" out of the meeting, if you're the emotional sort.

So if you get nervous and see it as a problem, then not being nervous isn't any better, its just the other side of a coin.

im very chilled & relaxed when i meet ppl im a natural chatterbox anyways

And we are even worse together

Now there's an idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be very anxious socially until I stopped caring what people thought of me. I also realised that as an introvert, crowded social events do nothing for me, so I just don't bother with those any more, but meeting new people doesn't phase me, they will either like me or they won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% agree with this. I get very anxious in regard to meeting and I just have to keep reminding my self about how much I want to and how excited I am to allow myself to go through with it.

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