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"Just wondering what everyone’s opinion is on here? I have talked to and met a number of great couples and singles on here. However on occasions when it comes to arranging a meet, following an initial social meet, I have been told that if I want to have some fun then Its up to me to have to book and pay for hotel. The booking part I have no issue with but I feel that the cost should be split. It’s as if I am paying to have sex with someone! Just curious to if people think it is up to a guy to always pay when two parties getting pleasure . Single females I am happy to pay for hotel but couples I just feel cost should be split. May come across as a tight arse now " if it’s a one on one situation and you get on well you go Dutch if it’s like a gangbang situation I think it’s only fair ppl put money towards the hotel costs | |||
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"I've paid for every single date I've been on in my life. I've even travelled to other counties to meet girls in their home town and paid for everything we did. Sometimes when I'm low on cash I kinda wish the girls would offer but I can never ever bring myself to ask for bills to be split. That's the society we live in as males ha " Then you need to learn to ask for their share. No point complaining about the society you live in if you don't speak up when needed. | |||
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"I've paid for every single date I've been on in my life. I've even travelled to other counties to meet girls in their home town and paid for everything we did. Sometimes when I'm low on cash I kinda wish the girls would offer but I can never ever bring myself to ask for bills to be split. That's the society we live in as males ha Then you need to learn to ask for their share. No point complaining about the society you live in if you don't speak up when needed." I'd guarantee you'd straight away lose alot of women if you suggested paying half on a date. I don't drink alcohol or smoke etc.. So usually have a better budget for dates haha I usually wait until the dating part is over and you're together to start sharing bills but for dates you'd actually lose some women. And before anyone says they're not worth it then they still are, they just seem to expect its normal for guys to pay. | |||
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"I've paid for every single date I've been on in my life. I've even travelled to other counties to meet girls in their home town and paid for everything we did. Sometimes when I'm low on cash I kinda wish the girls would offer but I can never ever bring myself to ask for bills to be split. That's the society we live in as males ha Then you need to learn to ask for their share. No point complaining about the society you live in if you don't speak up when needed. I'd guarantee you'd straight away lose alot of women if you suggested paying half on a date. I don't drink alcohol or smoke etc.. So usually have a better budget for dates haha I usually wait until the dating part is over and you're together to start sharing bills but for dates you'd actually lose some women. And before anyone says they're not worth it then they still are, they just seem to expect its normal for guys to pay. " I think you're right. Many women would be put off by that. You just have to decide what your priority is at the time. It's a sticky situation. | |||
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"I've paid for every single date I've been on in my life. I've even travelled to other counties to meet girls in their home town and paid for everything we did. Sometimes when I'm low on cash I kinda wish the girls would offer but I can never ever bring myself to ask for bills to be split. That's the society we live in as males ha Then you need to learn to ask for their share. No point complaining about the society you live in if you don't speak up when needed. I'd guarantee you'd straight away lose alot of women if you suggested paying half on a date. I don't drink alcohol or smoke etc.. So usually have a better budget for dates haha I usually wait until the dating part is over and you're together to start sharing bills but for dates you'd actually lose some women. And before anyone says they're not worth it then they still are, they just seem to expect its normal for guys to pay. " Then you're also accepting it as the norm and setting the standard for the future relationship. | |||
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"I've paid for every single date I've been on in my life. I've even travelled to other counties to meet girls in their home town and paid for everything we did. Sometimes when I'm low on cash I kinda wish the girls would offer but I can never ever bring myself to ask for bills to be split. That's the society we live in as males ha Then you need to learn to ask for their share. No point complaining about the society you live in if you don't speak up when needed. I'd guarantee you'd straight away lose alot of women if you suggested paying half on a date. I don't drink alcohol or smoke etc.. So usually have a better budget for dates haha I usually wait until the dating part is over and you're together to start sharing bills but for dates you'd actually lose some women. And before anyone says they're not worth it then they still are, they just seem to expect its normal for guys to pay. Then you're also accepting it as the norm and setting the standard for the future relationship. " I'm a pussy though, I'm not brave enough to tackle this issue haha | |||
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"I've paid for every single date I've been on in my life. I've even travelled to other counties to meet girls in their home town and paid for everything we did. Sometimes when I'm low on cash I kinda wish the girls would offer but I can never ever bring myself to ask for bills to be split. That's the society we live in as males ha Then you need to learn to ask for their share. No point complaining about the society you live in if you don't speak up when needed. I'd guarantee you'd straight away lose alot of women if you suggested paying half on a date. I don't drink alcohol or smoke etc.. So usually have a better budget for dates haha I usually wait until the dating part is over and you're together to start sharing bills but for dates you'd actually lose some women. And before anyone says they're not worth it then they still are, they just seem to expect its normal for guys to pay. Then you're also accepting it as the norm and setting the standard for the future relationship. I'm a pussy though, I'm not brave enough to tackle this issue haha " I'll close with saying that in a relationship, you tend to get the treatment you are willing to put up with | |||
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"I don't use hotels. But if I did and I invited someone to join me in a hotel I would assume that I am paying 100%. Likewise, if I am invited somewhere I wouldn't expect to pay for anything. " I agree if someone 2 meet. I think it's up 2 them 2 travel,pay if there a hotel,and it someone asked for a face pic they should send first. | |||
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"I've paid for every single date I've been on in my life. I've even travelled to other counties to meet girls in their home town and paid for everything we did. Sometimes when I'm low on cash I kinda wish the girls would offer but I can never ever bring myself to ask for bills to be split. That's the society we live in as males ha Then you need to learn to ask for their share. No point complaining about the society you live in if you don't speak up when needed. I'd guarantee you'd straight away lose alot of women if you suggested paying half on a date. I don't drink alcohol or smoke etc.. So usually have a better budget for dates haha I usually wait until the dating part is over and you're together to start sharing bills but for dates you'd actually lose some women. And before anyone says they're not worth it then they still are, they just seem to expect its normal for guys to pay. Then you're also accepting it as the norm and setting the standard for the future relationship. I'm a pussy though, I'm not brave enough to tackle this issue haha I'll close with saying that in a relationship, you tend to get the treatment you are willing to put up with " Haha a relationship definitely should be treated differently than the swinging scene I believe. It's fair enough when initially dating to pay etc but again it's sometimes only needs to be an offer to pay that shows a lot about a person | |||
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"In general 50 : 50 no matter who you're meeting. But often it depends on the situation. ie I stay in a hotel because of business and have a meet I pay the full amount myself or respectively the other way around. On the odd occasion an invitation is acceptable " Completely agree. No issues with meeting someone when travelling with work and in that case wouldn't expect them to even offer to pay. It's just the situations where no attempt to offer is made and it's as if you're paying for a service. Not why I am on here and that's not what I think this site is meant to be about lol | |||
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"Should be 50/50 but unfortunately there are some self titled prince and princesses out there that feel you owe them something because you are agreeing to meet. As I have my own place it’s assumed I will accommodate and I don’t mind doing so for the right person but don’t assume it as the saying goes assume only makes an ass out of u and me" I believe the quote goes "assumption is the mother of all f@$K ups" Mr. | |||
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"50/50 all the way! Maybe we should start to charge any FAB visitors to our home half the mortgage, rent, rates, heating, electric and laundry for that day? " Haha it only seems right to do that | |||
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"50/50 all the way! Maybe we should start to charge any FAB visitors to our home half the mortgage, rent, rates, heating, electric and laundry for that day? " They could at least call from Tesco and ask if they should pick up some milk | |||
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"Hi OP, I think it says a lot about the couple that bring it up in conversation that if you want to play, you book and pay for the room. I'd steer well clear of people like that, its a bit low tbh. If you suggested you'd pay yourself well that's your doing, but this doesn't sound like that. L" Yep I was given an option... pay or no meet and to be honest I thought that was maybe the norm on here. Glad to hear it’s not and yes will be avoiding similar scenarios in the future. Happy to cover the hotel when on business on but when it’s meant for fun for all. | |||
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"50/50 all the way! Maybe we should start to charge any FAB visitors to our home half the mortgage, rent, rates, heating, electric and laundry for that day? They could at least call from Tesco and ask if they should pick up some milk " Now you're talking! | |||
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"Hi OP, I think it says a lot about the couple that bring it up in conversation that if you want to play, you book and pay for the room. I'd steer well clear of people like that, its a bit low tbh. If you suggested you'd pay yourself well that's your doing, but this doesn't sound like that. L Yep I was given an option... pay or no meet and to be honest I thought that was maybe the norm on here. Glad to hear it’s not and yes will be avoiding similar scenarios in the future. Happy to cover the hotel when on business on but when it’s meant for fun for all." Oh you will find others who expect a "gift"for the privilege of their company | |||
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"Hi OP, I think it says a lot about the couple that bring it up in conversation that if you want to play, you book and pay for the room. I'd steer well clear of people like that, its a bit low tbh. If you suggested you'd pay yourself well that's your doing, but this doesn't sound like that. L Yep I was given an option... pay or no meet and to be honest I thought that was maybe the norm on here. Glad to hear it’s not and yes will be avoiding similar scenarios in the future. Happy to cover the hotel when on business on but when it’s meant for fun for all. Oh you will find others who expect a "gift"for the privilege of their company " Lol easy answer to that..... I am their gift | |||
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"Don't see why you would pay for a single lady but expect a couple to pay -surely everyone should pay their share of a meet !" I understand completely with what you are saying. I guess I have considered it in the past like I would for a first date scenario with a single female. Not the correct approach I know. Very glad to hear so many singles and couples thinking it should be a 50/ 50 split. Restoring faith on this site. Thank you | |||
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"I've paid for every single date I've been on in my life. I've even travelled to other counties to meet girls in their home town and paid for everything we did. Sometimes when I'm low on cash I kinda wish the girls would offer but I can never ever bring myself to ask for bills to be split. That's the society we live in as males ha Then you need to learn to ask for their share. No point complaining about the society you live in if you don't speak up when needed. I'd guarantee you'd straight away lose alot of women if you suggested paying half on a date. I don't drink alcohol or smoke etc.. So usually have a better budget for dates haha I usually wait until the dating part is over and you're together to start sharing bills but for dates you'd actually lose some women. And before anyone says they're not worth it then they still are, they just seem to expect its normal for guys to pay. Then you're also accepting it as the norm and setting the standard for the future relationship. " I agree completely. If you start out on a certain path well relationships tend to stay on that path. I think the day of men paying for everything is long gone. And I think most ladies would rather pay their way and split things. | |||
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"Just wondering what everyone’s opinion is on here? I have talked to and met a number of great couples and singles on here. However on occasions when it comes to arranging a meet, following an initial social meet, I have been told that if I want to have some fun then Its up to me to have to book and pay for hotel. The booking part I have no issue with but I feel that the cost should be split. It’s as if I am paying to have sex with someone! Just curious to if people think it is up to a guy to always pay when two parties getting pleasure . Single females I am happy to pay for hotel but couples I just feel cost should be split. May come across as a tight arse now " We pay for our room when ever or who ever we meet! When they leave us, they either pay for their own room or go home! | |||
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"I've paid for every single date I've been on in my life. I've even travelled to other counties to meet girls in their home town and paid for everything we did. Sometimes when I'm low on cash I kinda wish the girls would offer but I can never ever bring myself to ask for bills to be split. That's the society we live in as males ha Then you need to learn to ask for their share. No point complaining about the society you live in if you don't speak up when needed. I'd guarantee you'd straight away lose alot of women if you suggested paying half on a date. I don't drink alcohol or smoke etc.. So usually have a better budget for dates haha I usually wait until the dating part is over and you're together to start sharing bills but for dates you'd actually lose some women. And before anyone says they're not worth it then they still are, they just seem to expect its normal for guys to pay. " Not been on many dates but would never expect the guy to pay for everything . 50/50 all the way. | |||
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"Just wondering what everyone’s opinion is on here? I have talked to and met a number of great couples and singles on here. However on occasions when it comes to arranging a meet, following an initial social meet, I have been told that if I want to have some fun then Its up to me to have to book and pay for hotel. The booking part I have no issue with but I feel that the cost should be split. It’s as if I am paying to have sex with someone! Just curious to if people think it is up to a guy to always pay when two parties getting pleasure . Single females I am happy to pay for hotel but couples I just feel cost should be split. May come across as a tight arse now " Double standards all over the place. Why would you be “happy to pay” for a girl? Does both parties not get pleasure when it’s just the girl? You said paying for a room it’s like “paying to have sex” so what’s the difference between couples and a girl? Make your mind up, you’re either happy “paying to have sex” (your words not mine) or you’re not... In our case Mrs won’t meet if the guy won’t accept half the money, or return the favor if we agree a second meet, or we pay full and stay the night. | |||
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