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Do girls really see other girls as competition?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So iam seeing this girl and she all her fantasies involve other women.

However, she's far more open to being with another guy then a woman because she feels she is too self conscious around women and looks at them as being prettier, sexier and better sexually etc

Just curious do other women here feel that way particularly when it comes to having a 3 sum? Do you over think and worry the other woman might be better or prettier etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally no, if the chemistry is right and all parties get on well and are equally attracted to each other there shouldn't be any need to feel your less attractive than the other person or persons otherwise they wouldn't have invited ye to play

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally no, if the chemistry is right and all parties get on well and are equally attracted to each other there shouldn't be any need to feel your less attractive than the other person or persons otherwise they wouldn't have invited ye to play "

What i mean is that she seems to have it in her head that the guy she's with might perceive the other girl to be better looking. Sexier. Better in bed etc so although she has a fantasy of being with a girl. She doesn't want the guy to be involved because suddenly she views the other girl as competition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally no, if the chemistry is right and all parties get on well and are equally attracted to each other there shouldn't be any need to feel your less attractive than the other person or persons otherwise they wouldn't have invited ye to play

What i mean is that she seems to have it in her head that the guy she's with might perceive the other girl to be better looking. Sexier. Better in bed etc so although she has a fantasy of being with a girl. She doesn't want the guy to be involved because suddenly she views the other girl as competition "

Then that's her own insecurities nothing to do with the other M & F ..so she needs to choose two people she's comfortable with and hence she won't feel there's competition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no insecurities myself and can enjoy sexy ladies and sexy men. I can pick up on insecurities or uncomfortableness with ladies though this is usually when they seem to be going along with play with lady cos man wants it.

But if your lady wants to.explore she should, I recommend it but prob suggest she needs to have a one on one with Lady albeit a chat or coffee, or fun.

I don't see anyone as competition and if any insecurities i can see group play being a problem

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

No I don’t see other ladies as competition. Half the time I see them as prey. Lol

I don’t own anyone on here so why would I be in competition with any other lovely ladies? I’m happy to join up with one or two I know for ffm’s and ff one on ones..

(Does that make your horny.. as Austin powers would say)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you see the amount of drama that goes on here, how could you doubt it for even a minute?

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By *09309309Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"When you see the amount of drama that goes on here, how could you doubt it for even a minute?"

Yeah. Pretty much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you see the amount of drama that goes on here, how could you doubt it for even a minute?"

Very true !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally no, if the chemistry is right and all parties get on well and are equally attracted to each other there shouldn't be any need to feel your less attractive than the other person or persons otherwise they wouldn't have invited ye to play

What i mean is that she seems to have it in her head that the guy she's with might perceive the other girl to be better looking. Sexier. Better in bed etc so although she has a fantasy of being with a girl. She doesn't want the guy to be involved because suddenly she views the other girl as competition "

I must be one of the insecure ones !!

Yes I do sometimes think of women but I think if I was to do anything group wise with other women I might feel disempowered, it might turn into a performance where the other woman “performs” better or is more experienced and more up for more extreme stuff.

I think the person who suggested that the girl just try a FF might be on to something.

Whatever the girls do during a Ff is just for their enjoyment and not a performance for anyone else.

I think the competition thing is very real and based on loads of deep routed male/female behaviors - men typically were the hunters and women the prize .... no one wants to share the podium with another prize winner (it dilutes the feeling of being chased and maybe makes you rethink how much they really want YOU).

Sunday morning - hope that kinda makes sense.

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By *09309309Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Personally no, if the chemistry is right and all parties get on well and are equally attracted to each other there shouldn't be any need to feel your less attractive than the other person or persons otherwise they wouldn't have invited ye to play

What i mean is that she seems to have it in her head that the guy she's with might perceive the other girl to be better looking. Sexier. Better in bed etc so although she has a fantasy of being with a girl. She doesn't want the guy to be involved because suddenly she views the other girl as competition

I must be one of the insecure ones !!

Yes I do sometimes think of women but I think if I was to do anything group wise with other women I might feel disempowered, it might turn into a performance where the other woman “performs” better or is more experienced and more up for more extreme stuff.

I think the person who suggested that the girl just try a FF might be on to something.

Whatever the girls do during a Ff is just for their enjoyment and not a performance for anyone else.

I think the competition thing is very real and based on loads of deep routed male/female behaviors - men typically were the hunters and women the prize .... no one wants to share the podium with another prize winner (it dilutes the feeling of being chased and maybe makes you rethink how much they really want YOU).

Sunday morning - hope that kinda makes sense. "

I agree. You've made perfect sense

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By *ohnandGemCouple
over a year ago

Louth/Meath/Dublin

Until she deals with her insecurities her fantasies should remain fantasy.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Women compete among each other as much as men do, 'to find the suitable man'. It's done with the same tactics that men use, but it's mainly focused on physical attractiveness.

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By *longshottMan
over a year ago

Limerick


"Women compete among each other as much as men do, 'to find the suitable man'. It's done with the same tactics that men use, but it's mainly focused on physical attractiveness. "

From what I've seen I would agree. Modern culture puts so much unfair emphasis on a woman to look so called physically attractive.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

I can't generalise but I know for a fact some women on here tell lies about others to get a leg up (or leg over) with some guys.

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By *09309309Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"I can't generalise but I know for a fact some women on here tell lies about others to get a leg up (or leg over) with some guys."

I don't think anyone would be shocked by that. It's fairly typical behavior, both off and on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My fb is ver consious over her breasts when we meet other couples and sometimes it will take her a while to get going. I suppose we are all a bit like that when we meet others like we men and do we measure up!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP it's very daunting coming into the swinging scene when you haven't played with other woman etc...

She will play in her own time with the right lady or couple....

Don't pressure her into it....

I originally came onto fab with an fb and I was a little shocked and found it very daunting...

The fb at the time was pressuring me to play with another couple and and 6 weeks later I told that fb where to go...

I only started to enjoy fab when I came on by myself playing by my owns rules no one else,s

Give her time and try bringing her on a few social meets first rather than play meets

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By *ittyMissKittyWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"OP it's very daunting coming into the swinging scene when you haven't played with other woman etc...

She will play in her own time with the right lady or couple....

Don't pressure her into it....

I originally came onto fab with an fb and I was a little shocked and found it very daunting...

The fb at the time was pressuring me to play with another couple and and 6 weeks later I told that fb where to go...

I only started to enjoy fab when I came on by myself playing by my owns rules no one else,s

Give her time and try bringing her on a few social meets first rather than play meets"

Totally agree. I found meeting another female far more daunting than a male, I still do in a lot of cases! Especially if it's a couple, and it's nothing to do with the couple at all. 99% of the couples I've had the luck to meet are very down to earth and make you feel very at home with them! I'd definitely suggest attending meet and greet or parties and meeting people that way as you tend to be able to judge how everyone will get on! But leave her to her own pace. When the time is right she will know

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