FabSwingers.com forum: Home or away?

By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

If given the choice, and I know many don't have a choice, would you prefer to meet a Fab friend in a hotel or in your/their home? Some people like to keep their private life private and keep things out of their house. Others just like being spoiled and put up in a lovely room. I have a few friends that prefer to meet in their home because all their "accessories"

are then readily available. Which do you prefer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met people at both and I understand the appeal. Hotels seem more naughty and like a film, at home makes you feel more secure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer hotel meets ,less likely to be interrupted ,plus someone else gets to do the cleaning up .We'd never accomodate at our own home but know others that do and if it works for them alls good .

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"We prefer hotel meets ,less likely to be interrupted ,plus someone else gets to do the cleaning up .We'd never accomodate at our own home but know others that do and if it works for them alls good ."

The cleaning thing is a big plus, isn't it! The sheets are someone else's problem

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I have met people at both and I understand the appeal. Hotels seem more naughty and like a film, at home makes you feel more secure."

Hotels do feel a bit more dark and dangerous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotels , best for both

For many reasons

Xxxx

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Hotels , best for both

For many reasons

Xxxx"

I'd say this will be the most popular response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My living arrangements don't allow for people over so hotel all the way

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Hotels.......my home is also my sons so would never accommodate

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Hotels.......my home is also my sons so would never accommodate

I can definitely understand that point of view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hotels , best for both

For many reasons

Xxxx

I'd say this will be the most popular response.

And it’s my treat

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"My living arrangements don't allow for people over so hotel all the way "

I think many people are the same. Like it's something they might consider if the living arrangement situation was different.

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Hotels , best for both

For many reasons

Xxxx

I'd say this will be the most popular response.

And it’s my treat

Ah here, you'll be bombarded with messages now wanting a weekend away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer the hotel's meet for a drink and a chat. I think there should not be a safety thing. If in doubt dont go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hotels , best for both

For many reasons

Xxxx

I'd say this will be the most popular response.

And it’s my treat

Ah here, you'll be bombarded with messages now wanting a weekend away

Why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My living arrangements don't allow for people over so hotel all the way

I think many people are the same. Like it's something they might consider if the living arrangement situation was different. "

I prefer hotel anyway it's just better in my opinion anyway get a drink relax and enjoy

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"My living arrangements don't allow for people over so hotel all the way

I think many people are the same. Like it's something they might consider if the living arrangement situation was different.

I prefer hotel anyway it's just better in my opinion anyway get a drink relax and enjoy "

It feels like more of an escape, a little more special.

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Hotels , best for both

For many reasons

Xxxx

I'd say this will be the most popular response.

And it’s my treat

Ah here, you'll be bombarded with messages now wanting a weekend away

Why not

Was that your plan all along???

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I prefer the hotel's meet for a drink and a chat. I think there should not be a safety thing. If in doubt dont go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hotels , best for both

For many reasons

Xxxx

I'd say this will be the most popular response.

And it’s my treat

Ah here, you'll be bombarded with messages now wanting a weekend away

Why not

Was that your plan all along???

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just following the thread

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By *rit on shannonMan
over a year ago

portumna

always found home meets tend to be more passionate and more fun overall hotels no one ever really relaxes as much and rooms are always a bit bare and basic. always found meets to be a more natural pace and build up at homes as you can work your way up to a room in hotels is almost like well lets get to it !

understand both points of view i cant host at home and therefore know the necessity of hotels but its great whe someone feels comfortable enough to invite you into theirs.

plus always thr risk with booking a hotel of a no show and you are out of pocket.

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"always found home meets tend to be more passionate and more fun overall hotels no one ever really relaxes as much and rooms are always a bit bare and basic. always found meets to be a more natural pace and build up at homes as you can work your way up to a room in hotels is almost like well lets get to it !

understand both points of view i cant host at home and therefore know the necessity of hotels but its great whe someone feels comfortable enough to invite you into theirs.

plus always thr risk with booking a hotel of a no show and you are out of pocket."

It is a very nice feeling when someone trusts you enough to let you into their home, I mean what is more personal than your actual home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I no longer do hotel meets as a rule as I've had to foot the bill a few times and had a couple very late no shows. I've one hotel meet to be arranged but she's booking it.

One of my main filters is if they say cannot accommodate then I tend not to engage, or if they message I'll raise this issue straight away to see if will cause difficult in meeting as many don't meet outside either. No point wasting anyone's time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d never have a fab meet in my home, much prefer a hotel. Also I have a very large,very protective dog so he’d be a massive cock block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a hotel meet. Feeling deprived now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotel meets are more naughty

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I no longer do hotel meets as a rule as I've had to foot the bill a few times and had a couple very late no shows. I've one hotel meet to be arranged but she's booking it.

I don't do hotels anymore either. And I get the accommodation chit chat done with straight away. I understand 100%

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I’d never have a fab meet in my home, much prefer a hotel. Also I have a very large,very protective dog so he’d be a massive cock block

It's funny you said about the dog. My regular complains that I'm sometimes more excited to see his dog than I am to see him

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Never had a hotel meet. Feeling deprived now!

Diclasse is apparently giving them out! Shoot him a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never had a hotel meet. Feeling deprived now!

Diclasse is apparently giving them out! Shoot him a message

Sorted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If given the choice, and I know many don't have a choice, would you prefer to meet a Fab friend in a hotel or in your/their home? Some people like to keep their private life private and keep things out of their house. Others just like being spoiled and put up in a lovely room. I have a few friends that prefer to meet in their home because all their "accessories"

are then readily available. Which do you prefer?

Hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hotel meets are more naughty

I agree. Waiting for the knock on the door. Room service to replenish the supplies is also a bonus. Also feels like a treat.

P.s Happy Friday everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never had a hotel meet. Feeling deprived now!

Diclasse is apparently giving them out! Shoot him a message

It’s a simple gesture , not a big deal

Got to use those VIP points

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Never had a hotel meet. Feeling deprived now!

Diclasse is apparently giving them out! Shoot him a message

It’s a simple gesture , not a big deal

Got to use those VIP points

So you're a generous VIP now?? Such a humble fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I no longer do hotel meets as a rule as I've had to foot the bill a few times and had a couple very late no shows. I've one hotel meet to be arranged but she's booking it.

I don't do hotels anymore either. And I get the accommodation chit chat done with straight away. I understand 100%"

Unlike some others on here I find hotel meets a bit cold and more akin to paying for sex in my mind. I'm certainly less relaxed in a hotel than in a home. Many of my meets will be over a weekend and so they also involve going out for a meal/drinks between sessions.

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I no longer do hotel meets as a rule as I've had to foot the bill a few times and had a couple very late no shows. I've one hotel meet to be arranged but she's booking it.

I don't do hotels anymore either. And I get the accommodation chit chat done with straight away. I understand 100%

...do you ever make pancakes? Asking for a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like hosting to be honest and if weekend nite no hurry home next day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I no longer do hotel meets as a rule as I've had to foot the bill a few times and had a couple very late no shows. I've one hotel meet to be arranged but she's booking it.

I don't do hotels anymore either. And I get the accommodation chit chat done with straight away. I understand 100%

...do you ever make pancakes? Asking for a friend

Lol... I'd say your friend has nicely set you up there.

Best ask her as she probably now has one of the best pancake recepies in Ireland and the UK

Tell her I'm still waiting on my royalties

Yes I do btw.

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I like hosting to be honest and if weekend nite no hurry home next day "

That's nice, too. No rushing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First time usually a hotel tbh unless they host. If something is more regular then home becomes handoer and less expensive. But I can't always host due to living with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are then readily available. Which do you prefer?

Hotel "

You like an apartment too right?

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"First time usually a hotel tbh unless they host. If something is more regular then home becomes handoer and less expensive. But I can't always host due to living with others. "

That is a sticking point for loads of guys! Flatmates! Grrrrrr

Believe me, as someone interested in single guys, I can be found cursing flatmates daily!

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By *otwife Stag CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Waterford

Always hotel meets for us.

As said already, naughtier and no cleaning up afterwards

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Always hotel meets for us.

As said already, naughtier and no cleaning up afterwards

It seems the no clean up is a big drawing factor

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By *rit on shannonMan
over a year ago

portumna

definitely nothing better. being invited into someones home is a great feeling and especially when meet couples they very relaxed at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can never accomodate so hotel meets for me

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I prefer my home. I’ve nothing to hide. It’s my domain. I’m more comfortable thier and my rules. And besides before anyone comes to my home I will have been chatting or even met socially before hand even for a coffee at mine. Nobody has out stayed Thier welcome or come knocking on my door uninvited as if they did and started they would need to be very good at running

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I prefer my home. I’ve nothing to hide. It’s my domain. I’m more comfortable thier and my rules. And besides before anyone comes to my home I will have been chatting or even met socially before hand even for a coffee at mine. Nobody has out stayed Thier welcome or come knocking on my door uninvited as if they did and started they would need to be very good at running "

I'm glad you've had such good experiences with hosting. I prefer to be in a home as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve not been able to accommodate for the past couple of months, and I miss it. I love the chilled, laid back atmosphere of being in a house. I tend to be kinda noisy (shocker

), and that can cause problems with neighbouring rooms in hotels.

I’ve never had a bad experience hosting at home.

Moving into a new place soon and looking forward to a ‘christening’

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Perfer hotels for meets have in the past had someone to my home but he'd be the only one I'd have over....rather keep my fab and private life separate x

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By *BelfastGuyMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've heard of people turning up on the doorstep uninvited.

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By *auraLucyLuLuWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I've accommodated on occasion and have had meets as a guest in someone else's home but I still prefer hotel meets first and foremost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've heard of people turning up on the doorstep uninvited. "

Yeah, my ex in-laws used to do that all the time.

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

"I've heard of people turning up on the doorstep uninvited.

Yeah, my ex in-laws used to do that all the time.

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By *eltic CplCouple
over a year ago

Kildare

We are child free and neither of us are from where we live so dont have the worry of a relative knocking on the door , that said we are up and down the country a bit so hotels are an option as well , but only well verified to the house

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By *BelfastGuyMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I've heard of people turning up on the doorstep uninvited.

Yeah, my ex in-laws used to do that all the time.

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"We are child free and neither of us are from where we live so dont have the worry of a relative knocking on the door , that said we are up and down the country a bit so hotels are an option as well , but only well verified to the house"

That's great that you have those options! Yes, someone definitely needs to be well verified. Safety always

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I’ve not been able to accommodate for the past couple of months, and I miss it. I love the chilled, laid back atmosphere of being in a house. I tend to be kinda noisy (shocker

), and that can cause problems with neighbouring rooms in hotels.

I’ve never had a bad experience hosting at home.

Moving into a new place soon and looking forward to a ‘christening’

Congratulations! It will be good to have a comfortable space back

I have a difficulty with being quiet too

So I understand completely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't accommodate, this is the family home, and family doesn't need to ask permission to come home. Besides, it's hard to beat a wee road trip

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By *09309309 OP Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I don't accommodate, this is the family home, and family doesn't need to ask permission to come home. Besides, it's hard to beat a wee road trip

A little road trip can't be beat, not even with a stick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't accommodate, this is the family home, and family doesn't need to ask permission to come home. Besides, it's hard to beat a wee road trip

A little road trip can't be beat, not even with a stick

Not even with a big stick

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

I used to accommodate but only 2 regular meets. But, situations change and I can't anymore. So it's usually hotels. I've found though some guys that accommodate only want quickies or to meet immediately.

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By *eanbelfastMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I've heard of people turning up on the doorstep uninvited.

Yeah, my ex in-laws used to do that all the time.

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