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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it just me or is this site the worst for single guys looking to meet women? I've been on this site a few years now and I reckon only maybe 3 women have replied to me saying not intrested. Whats the secret?

What's a good way to message someone that'll get a reply?

Like even a "no" would be nice.

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By *ocforuMan
over a year ago

Cork City


"Is it just me or is this site the worst for single guys looking to meet women? I've been on this site a few years now and I reckon only maybe 3 women have replied to me saying not intrested. Whats the secret?

What's a good way to message someone that'll get a reply?

Like even a "no" would be nice. "
I am in the same boat on here and finding it difficult

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By *orklad1988Man
over a year ago

Cork

Hi mate, I’m totally new to the site myself, I think honestly getting to know people on the forum is a good start and try and see after you talk with the guys on the forum to see if you can get a coffee and meet to make sure your serious,trust and discretion is paramount and understandable,

I only did this myself recently meeting an established member for coffee to make sure I was serious and I’m starting to make some good friends on the site. I have not been with anyone yet but there’s plenty of time for all that stuff. Try and get to know people and I think doors will open for ya. The people here are A great bunch but please remember the gals are getting a crap ton of msgs from lads just asking for a shag so they don’t respond as they get abuse if they do. I wish you luck pal.

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By *auraLucyLuLuWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Hi mate, I’m totally new to the site myself, I think honestly getting to know people on the forum is a good start and try and see after you talk with the guys on the forum to see if you can get a coffee and meet to make sure your serious,trust and discretion is paramount and understandable,

I only did this myself recently meeting an established member for coffee to make sure I was serious and I’m starting to make some good friends on the site. I have not been with anyone yet but there’s plenty of time for all that stuff. Try and get to know people and I think doors will open for ya. The people here are A great bunch but please remember the gals are getting a crap ton of msgs from lads just asking for a shag so they don’t respond as they get abuse if they do. I wish you luck pal. "

It's great to see you're fitting in and enjoying it but most of all it's great to see you know how fab works and you're playing the game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me or is this site the worst for single guys looking to meet women? I've been on this site a few years now and I reckon only maybe 3 women have replied to me saying not intrested. Whats the secret?

What's a good way to message someone that'll get a reply?

Like even a "no" would be nice. "

Yeah mate it hopeless am in the same boat would be alright if I was gay lol

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By *orklad1988Man
over a year ago

Cork


"Hi mate, I’m totally new to the site myself, I think honestly getting to know people on the forum is a good start and try and see after you talk with the guys on the forum to see if you can get a coffee and meet to make sure your serious,trust and discretion is paramount and understandable,

I only did this myself recently meeting an established member for coffee to make sure I was serious and I’m starting to make some good friends on the site. I have not been with anyone yet but there’s plenty of time for all that stuff. Try and get to know people and I think doors will open for ya. The people here are A great bunch but please remember the gals are getting a crap ton of msgs from lads just asking for a shag so they don’t respond as they get abuse if they do. I wish you luck pal.

It's great to see you're fitting in and enjoying it but most of all it's great to see you know how fab works and you're playing the game.

"

People gave me the same advice so just passing on the wisdom

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By *achelsWoman
over a year ago

ni

As a single female the amount of mail I receive is crazy and it’s impossible to reply to it all, when I do reply telling a guy I’m not interested I get abuse and called some awful things, so it’s easier just to ignore the mail and chat with guys on the likes of the forum/chatroom as they seem to be the most genuine, a lot of profiles give single guys a bad reputation it’s like the real guys have to prove themselves before they even get started

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

There are opportunities for meets if you get lucky on here and keep trying, but apparently if you want to be uber successful you need to be a fourth wave sycophantic feminist. Leave your balls at the door and agree with everything others tell you or get blackballed apart from that the forums are fun and the naughty step ain't too bad really pretty sure I'll be on it soon again

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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City


"Hi mate, I’m totally new to the site myself, I think honestly getting to know people on the forum is a good start and try and see after you talk with the guys on the forum to see if you can get a coffee and meet to make sure your serious,trust and discretion is paramount and understandable,

I only did this myself recently meeting an established member for coffee to make sure I was serious and I’m starting to make some good friends on the site. I have not been with anyone yet but there’s plenty of time for all that stuff. Try and get to know people and I think doors will open for ya. The people here are A great bunch but please remember the gals are getting a crap ton of msgs from lads just asking for a shag so they don’t respond as they get abuse if they do. I wish you luck pal. "

Well said hun. xx

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By *orklad1988Man
over a year ago

Cork


"Hi mate, I’m totally new to the site myself, I think honestly getting to know people on the forum is a good start and try and see after you talk with the guys on the forum to see if you can get a coffee and meet to make sure your serious,trust and discretion is paramount and understandable,

I only did this myself recently meeting an established member for coffee to make sure I was serious and I’m starting to make some good friends on the site. I have not been with anyone yet but there’s plenty of time for all that stuff. Try and get to know people and I think doors will open for ya. The people here are A great bunch but please remember the gals are getting a crap ton of msgs from lads just asking for a shag so they don’t respond as they get abuse if they do. I wish you luck pal.

Well said hun. xx"

Thanks Ladylace X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single female the amount of mail I receive is crazy and it’s impossible to reply to it all, when I do reply telling a guy I’m not interested I get abuse and called some awful things, so it’s easier just to ignore the mail and chat with guys on the likes of the forum/chatroom as they seem to be the most genuine, a lot of profiles give single guys a bad reputation it’s like the real guys have to prove themselves before they even get started"

Guys that give you abuse back for just saying no are ruining it for decent guys (like me lol) I don't understand why they have that mentality, ah well just have to keep fabbing suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are opportunities for meets if you get lucky on here and keep trying, but apparently if you want to be uber successful you need to be a fourth wave sycophantic feminist. Leave your balls at the door and agree with everything others tell you or get blackballed apart from that the forums are fun and the naughty step ain't too bad really pretty sure I'll be on it soon again "

A fair amount of good analysis here, in speaking you're mind you are exactly the opposite of what you described. Bravery and honesty ,pity there wasn't more of it on here.

Harry

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By *verage Joe BlackMan
over a year ago

Border Area


"There are opportunities for meets if you get lucky on here and keep trying, but apparently if you want to be uber successful you need to be a fourth wave sycophantic feminist. Leave your balls at the door and agree with everything others tell you or get blackballed apart from that the forums are fun and the naughty step ain't too bad really pretty sure I'll be on it soon again

A fair amount of good analysis here, in speaking you're mind you are exactly the opposite of what you described. Bravery and honesty ,pity there wasn't more of it on here.

Harry"

Fair play to you both for stepping up and saying it..

There are a reasonable amount of fantastic ladies on here too though that don’t fall into that category - and they are really good craic too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't need to be gay to meet a bloke for a coffee.its a good way to get verified that way ppl know your serious and will turn up.

I offered to do this numerous of times for guys and not 1 actually turned up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are opportunities for meets if you get lucky on here and keep trying, but apparently if you want to be uber successful you need to be a fourth wave sycophantic feminist. Leave your balls at the door and agree with everything others tell you or get blackballed apart from that the forums are fun and the naughty step ain't too bad really pretty sure I'll be on it soon again "

I disagree.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"Is it just me or is this site the worst for single guys looking to meet women? I've been on this site a few years now and I reckon only maybe 3 women have replied to me saying not intrested. Whats the secret?

What's a good way to message someone that'll get a reply?

Like even a "no" would be nice. "

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There's really more than enough meets for everyone on Fab willing to make the effort and...

- write a profile that's interesting and enticing

- READ the damn profiles (as in does she want a fwb? tie up? Couples? or a fantasy to be fulfilled?)

- Attach pics that are cheeky, charming or sexy

- Don't be too needy or desperate (it shows...)

- Focus on a chat first instead of asking them for sex off the bat? (they know you like sex )

- Be sociable and dependable and ffs SHOW UP as people talk here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont make meeting your sole focus if its not happening for you. x Things happen when u not looking for them strange enough.

Be nice and be chilled out.

Whatevers meant for u wont pass u by

x

Good luck and have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last time I was someone's type, I was giving blood.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"There are opportunities for meets if you get lucky on here and keep trying, but apparently if you want to be uber successful you need to be a fourth wave sycophantic feminist. Leave your balls at the door and agree with everything others tell you or get blackballed apart from that the forums are fun and the naughty step ain't too bad really pretty sure I'll be on it soon again

I disagree."

Just as you are entitled to,but would you care to elaborate? No harm no foul after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single female the amount of mail I receive is crazy and it’s impossible to reply to it all, when I do reply telling a guy I’m not interested I get abuse and called some awful things, so it’s easier just to ignore the mail and chat with guys on the likes of the forum/chatroom as they seem to be the most genuine, a lot of profiles give single guys a bad reputation it’s like the real guys have to prove themselves before they even get started

Guys that give you abuse back for just saying no are ruining it for decent guys (like me lol) I don't understand why they have that mentality, ah well just have to keep fabbing suppose. "

Quite the opposite. Guys like that are actually making it easier for "decent" guys to be successful.

Imagine if every guy on Fab was actually polite and friendly, the competition would be far higher and thus getting meets would be even tougher.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are opportunities for meets if you get lucky on here and keep trying, but apparently if you want to be uber successful you need to be a fourth wave sycophantic feminist. Leave your balls at the door and agree with everything others tell you or get blackballed apart from that the forums are fun and the naughty step ain't too bad really pretty sure I'll be on it soon again "

You couldn’t be more far from the truth. The advise from the first person was spot on. Girls get some amount of crap on her. U need to stand out on the forums and chat so girls can see what type of person u are.

I met up with a girl 2 weeks back and in the two hours she was in my company she got 150 mails and approx. 90% were let’s fuck.

Keep trying be genuine and don’t be a dick once u get a few meets it will all come naturally

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single female the amount of mail I receive is crazy and it’s impossible to reply to it all, when I do reply telling a guy I’m not interested I get abuse and called some awful things, so it’s easier just to ignore the mail and chat with guys on the likes of the forum/chatroom as they seem to be the most genuine, a lot of profiles give single guys a bad reputation it’s like the real guys have to prove themselves before they even get started

Guys that give you abuse back for just saying no are ruining it for decent guys (like me lol) I don't understand why they have that mentality, ah well just have to keep fabbing suppose.

Quite the opposite. Guys like that are actually making it easier for "decent" guys to be successful.

Imagine if every guy on Fab was actually polite and friendly, the competition would be far higher and thus getting meets would be even tougher. "

Maybe it's just me then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are opportunities for meets if you get lucky on here and keep trying, but apparently if you want to be uber successful you need to be a fourth wave sycophantic feminist. Leave your balls at the door and agree with everything others tell you or get blackballed apart from that the forums are fun and the naughty step ain't too bad really pretty sure I'll be on it soon again

I disagree.

Just as you are entitled to,but would you care to elaborate? No harm no foul after all "

No.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"There are opportunities for meets if you get lucky on here and keep trying, but apparently if you want to be uber successful you need to be a fourth wave sycophantic feminist. Leave your balls at the door and agree with everything others tell you or get blackballed apart from that the forums are fun and the naughty step ain't too bad really pretty sure I'll be on it soon again

I disagree.

Just as you are entitled to,but would you care to elaborate? No harm no foul after all

No.

"

thought as much but have fun anyway x x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The last time I was someone's type, I was giving blood."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The last time I was someone's type, I was giving blood.

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Taken from amy’s profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single female the amount of mail I receive is crazy and it’s impossible to reply to it all, when I do reply telling a guy I’m not interested I get abuse and called some awful things, so it’s easier just to ignore the mail and chat with guys on the likes of the forum/chatroom as they seem to be the most genuine, a lot of profiles give single guys a bad reputation it’s like the real guys have to prove themselves before they even get started

Guys that give you abuse back for just saying no are ruining it for decent guys (like me lol) I don't understand why they have that mentality, ah well just have to keep fabbing suppose.

Quite the opposite. Guys like that are actually making it easier for "decent" guys to be successful.

Imagine if every guy on Fab was actually polite and friendly, the competition would be far higher and thus getting meets would be even tougher. "

So true

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By *09309309Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"You don't need to be gay to meet a bloke for a coffee.its a good way to get verified that way ppl know your serious and will turn up.

I offered to do this numerous of times for guys and not 1 actually turned up"

I have to say I wouldn't meet a guy that only had another guy as a reference. I've seen too many guys profiles that only have one veri and it's there best mate that joined the same time as they did.

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