FabSwingers.com forum: Advise needed

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point . "

Hey Sally.

I think you're best to take the bull by the horns on this one and get in touch as soon as possible. The longer you leave it, the harder it's going to be.

You might not get a response you like, or any response at all, but at least you and the other person will know you tried.

Best of luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point . "

Do it, say what you've said here. If something is your fault, admit it and apologise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Do it, say what you've said here. If something is your fault, admit it and apologise. "

Yes it's totally my fault, poor choice on my part

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By *aiseanagusspraoiMan
over a year ago

city

From experience .. id say contact them and be 100% honest with them

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By *eanbelfastMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Just be open and honest. Tell them you made a mistake and that you’re sorry. Be genuine and hopefully they will forgive you but if not you tried and at least they know you are genuine. I nearly always forgive when someone genuinely apologises. Good luck x

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point . "

Tell them to build a bridge and get over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Hey Sally.

I think you're best to take the bull by the horns on this one and get in touch as soon as possible. The longer you leave it, the harder it's going to be.

You might not get a response you like, or any response at all, but at least you and the other person will know you tried.

Best of luck!"

I totally agree, get in touch with the person (don’t leave it too late), talk to them and explain yourself...

It’ll show them how sincere you are about trying to resolve the problem...

The longer you leave it the harder it gets!

Do it Sally!

After all, it’s good to talk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Do it, say what you've said here. If something is your fault, admit it and apologise.

Yes it's totally my fault, poor choice on my part "

As Isserley said above me, even if you get no response you will know you tried. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree.. Embrace the moment now. There is a fine line between giving space, and waiting to long.

I know it sounds weird, but when that first conversation happens.. Think about doing it in text Instead of face to face or a phone call.. If things are still tender.. It helps with cooling the emotions since it's just written words.. It also avoids talking into each other's mouths and gives everyone time to think before they reply

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By *on11Man
over a year ago

cork

Reach out, start the conversation, admit your failing & build a bridge.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Hey Sally.

I think you're best to take the bull by the horns on this one and get in touch as soon as possible. The longer you leave it, the harder it's going to be.

You might not get a response you like, or any response at all, but at least you and the other person will know you tried.

Best of luck!"

^^^^^^ This in a nutshell

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Tell them to build a bridge and get over it

And this is why your celabit. .. this time don't message me apologising

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Do it, say what you've said here. If something is your fault, admit it and apologise.

Yes it's totally my fault, poor choice on my part

As Isserley said above me, even if you get no response you will know you tried. Good luck. "

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree.. Embrace the moment now. There is a fine line between giving space, and waiting to long.

Ok that's really good advise x

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By *orethanenough73Man
over a year ago

City centre

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point . "

Just go for it Sally.

The humble pie might not taste nice at 1st. Like has been said, try an auld text. Good luck pal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all who posted kind advise which I intend to follow xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it Sally, make contact.

It’s not always easy to do, when you’re in the wrong, but do it.

Agree with Isserley, the longer you leave it the harder it will be.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope it all works out for you Sally.

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Tell them to build a bridge and get over it

And this is why your celabit. .. this time don't message me apologising "

are you joking I go balls deep at least once a week

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Go for it Sally, make contact.

It’s not always easy to do, when you’re in the wrong, but do it.

Agree with Isserley, the longer you leave it the harder it will be.

Good luck!

Thank you x

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Hey Sally.

I think you're best to take the bull by the horns on this one and get in touch as soon as possible. The longer you leave it, the harder it's going to be.

You might not get a response you like, or any response at all, but at least you and the other person will know you tried.

Best of luck!

I totally agree, get in touch with the person (don’t leave it too late), talk to them and explain yourself...

It’ll show them how sincere you are about trying to resolve the problem...

The longer you leave it the harder it gets!

Do it Sally!

After all, it’s good to talk!

Amen

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Admitting making a mistake and your in the wrong takes guts......as the others have said, message them. Youve nothing to lose

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

Best of luck Sally. Sometimes owning it can be painful but not compared to the alternative. Apologise, completely own it no excuses and if they respond or not, you have done all that you can. Ignore those that would belittle a big dilemma in your life, true colours shine through.

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By *iftyfifty51Man
over a year ago

trim

If you dont try to apologise and to patch things up, then you will always regret it.

Be brave,take the first step, it may not be as bad as you think.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Best of luck Sally. Sometimes owning it can be painful but not compared to the alternative. Apologise, completely own it no excuses and if they respond or not, you have done all that you can. Ignore those that would belittle a big dilemma in your life, true colours shine through. "

They sure do ... I'm owning it thank you _adame b

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By *orklad1988Man
over a year ago

Cork

You know what admitting you made a mistake and owning it takes some real courage and maturity - Contact them and try and make it up thats the most you can do hun X wish you nothing but luck X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been in that boat a few times, we live and learn i guess..

Best of luck Sally..

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By *aiseanagusspraoiMan
over a year ago

city

Hope it works out Sally

Kinda in this situation myself at the minute ,so I think I'll be stealing some of the brilliant advice you got here

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

You may be surprised the person may want you to contact them by leaving it might make them question what friendship you had.

Do the right thing contact them deep down your gut is probably telling you too .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You may be surprised the person may want you to contact them by leaving it might make them question what friendship you had.

Do the right thing contact them deep down your gut is probably telling you too . "

It is I'm trying to compose something now .... say the right thing

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"You may be surprised the person may want you to contact them by leaving it might make them question what friendship you had.

Do the right thing contact them deep down your gut is probably telling you too .

It is I'm trying to compose something now .... say the right thing "

I'm send you my cock pic so you can send it on to them. It's sure to work!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You may be surprised the person may want you to contact them by leaving it might make them question what friendship you had.

Do the right thing contact them deep down your gut is probably telling you too .

It is I'm trying to compose something now .... say the right thing

I'm send you my cock pic so you can send it on to them. It's sure to work!

Mmmm

might ask you to hold off on that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get in touch apologise and then give space.

Ball is then in their court. They may need time to process their response and so respect both that and their response even if you don't like it.

You have then done the right thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A large portion humble pie Sally. It not easy but as others have said...if you make the first move and say sorry about what happened and how you have felt since it happened ...then yiu will havè done the right thing.Its up to the other party to accept your apology.Hope it works out for you xx

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

Agree with everyone else...you will feel so much better once it's done...

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By *ugarandspice101Couple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Do it, say what you've said here. If something is your fault, admit it and apologise. "

Yea and sooner rather than later x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Advise taken thank you all

sometimes you need others to point out what you already no

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By *ugarandspice101Couple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Advise taken thank you all

sometimes you need others to point out what you already no

Hope it works out for you Sally x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point . "

Contact them now........the longer you leave it the harder it will be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point . "

Sally I recently was in the same predicament

My fault totally .... I didn’t make contact and they are now gone and it’s something I regret every single day.... so make contact say you were in the wrong before it’s too late xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Sally I recently was in the same predicament

My fault totally .... I didn’t make contact and they are now gone and it’s something I regret every single day.... so make contact say you were in the wrong before it’s too late xxx "

I did ... and I'm very very happy I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Sally I recently was in the same predicament

My fault totally .... I didn’t make contact and they are now gone and it’s something I regret every single day.... so make contact say you were in the wrong before it’s too late xxx

I did ... and I'm very very happy I did

Aww that’s great news xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Sally I recently was in the same predicament

My fault totally .... I didn’t make contact and they are now gone and it’s something I regret every single day.... so make contact say you were in the wrong before it’s too late xxx

I did ... and I'm very very happy I did

Brilliant, well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Sally I recently was in the same predicament

My fault totally .... I didn’t make contact and they are now gone and it’s something I regret every single day.... so make contact say you were in the wrong before it’s too late xxx

I did ... and I'm very very happy I did

Brilliant, well done

Thank you

I'm so happy to have my friend back

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By *orklad1988Man
over a year ago

Cork

could not be happier for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I apologised once too a friend here, I got blocked, so u can't win, just move on, at least I tried, some people are not so forgiven

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Sally I recently was in the same predicament

My fault totally .... I didn’t make contact and they are now gone and it’s something I regret every single day.... so make contact say you were in the wrong before it’s too late xxx

I did ... and I'm very very happy I did

Good stuff...happy for ya...hope it works out just fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point . "

I haven't read any of the thread, just the original post OP. My advice is simple. Make the phone call and be completely honest. It may not resolve the hurt or situation but at least you can do nothing more. The truth shall set you free....eventually!

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point . "

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Anticipating something you know you have to do is often ten times scarier than what does happen...

I don't know your circumstances but putting two hands in the air and admitting you made a mistake is the only way to save a valuable friendship...

Whatever their response, you'll be able to walk away knowing you did the best you could to right any wrong you committed

Hope it works out

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By *r_mrs_studmuffinCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point . "
hey sally just contact this person and be honest and apologize if you need too we are only human after all and mistakes are made we have all been there hurting someone we shouldn’t unintentionally best of luck op xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Sally I recently was in the same predicament

My fault totally .... I didn’t make contact and they are now gone and it’s something I regret every single day.... so make contact say you were in the wrong before it’s too late xxx

I did ... and I'm very very happy I did

That's great, delighted for you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok some genuine advise needed. ..

I screwed up, made a huge mistake and hurt someone I cared about. I'm afraid to contact them though i desperately want to.

Some wise words would be appreciated at this point .

Sally I recently was in the same predicament

My fault totally .... I didn’t make contact and they are now gone and it’s something I regret every single day.... so make contact say you were in the wrong before it’s too late xxx

I did ... and I'm very very happy I did

That's great, delighted for you x"

Thanks Sally really apricated all the good advise. It was the push I needed

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

I do hope that you have already bitten the bullet Sally and at least texted an apology.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do hope that you have already bitten the bullet Sally and at least texted an apology. "

Bullet has been bitten Dunboyne

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"I do hope that you have already bitten the bullet Sally and at least texted an apology.

Bullet has been bitten Dunboyne

Good woman. Well done and I hope it all works out in the end.

I had a similar situation with a very good friend that I let fester for a year until a 3rd party stepped in, banged our heads together and I don't think I have thought about it until seeing this thread and we're the best of mates again since, like it never happened.

Of course some will say that I'm just lick arsing to get the ride but we know that I mean it sincerely

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By *BelfastGuyMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Always good to day your sorry.

Glad you got it sorted.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Life is far to short to hold a grudge and just get down on bended knee and ask for forgiveness . I'm sure they will respond . Wish you the best hope it works out for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do hope that you have already bitten the bullet Sally and at least texted an apology.

Bullet has been bitten Dunboyne

Good woman. Well done and I hope it all works out in the end.

Of course some will say that I'm just lick arsing to get the ride but we know that I mean it sincerely

I know your been sincere. . Im So glad I stopped procrastinating and did it. . Someone special is back in my life

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"I do hope that you have already bitten the bullet Sally and at least texted an apology.

Bullet has been bitten Dunboyne

Good woman. Well done and I hope it all works out in the end.

Of course some will say that I'm just lick arsing to get the ride but we know that I mean it sincerely

I know your been sincere. . Im So glad I stopped procrastinating and did it. . Someone special is back in my life

Delighted, for both of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do hope that you have already bitten the bullet Sally and at least texted an apology.

Bullet has been bitten Dunboyne

Good woman. Well done and I hope it all works out in the end.

Of course some will say that I'm just lick arsing to get the ride but we know that I mean it sincerely

I know your been sincere. . Im So glad I stopped procrastinating and did it. . Someone special is back in my life

Really happy that it worked out for you....it was worth taking the chance

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