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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok heres the deal firstly sorry for the lack of punctuation im useless but will try. oh heres the deal ive been on here for a very long time, i joined here on the back of a rough relationship basic gold digging cheating and me oblivious to it all. i was thinking hey i come on here and get sex. but due to my confidence being shattered and a bad accident forcing me to move home i just sat around chatting to ppl never meeting anyone and probably ruing my rep on here because of it. now im in the situation of being on here a life time with no veri's so im untrusted and rarely answered in messages also im a bit of a usless bastard at catting up my lines are literally the dreaded 'hey'. i also think my profile is prob all wrong or my pics suck or something so advice would be great

il finish by saying this is not a cry for a veri to con ppl into thinking awh poor chap il meet him for it i just wanted to get it all out there so peaple know the real me oh and thanks for reading

let the abuse commence lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a bit of confidence

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have a bit of confidence"

ah its coming back and ive just moved so situation is better but thanks

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Hey,

You were saying you've been on a long time with no veris.

Could always consider deleting the profile and starting a new one. Fresh start so to speak.

Perhaps someone would be more trusting of or willing to meet a newbie or someone starting fresh with a new profile.

Just an idea.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Snap was just bout to say the very same thing x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

while i do like the idea now that ive posted this ppl will be like at theres your man again lol oh and can ya get a refund for the days you have left lol

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir


"Hey,

You were saying you've been on a long time with no veris.

Could always consider deleting the profile and starting a new one. Fresh start so to speak.

Perhaps someone would be more trusting of or willing to meet a newbie or someone starting fresh with a new profile.

Just an idea."

This ^^^

TBH, maybe it’s a fresh start that you need after all...

Best of luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey,

You were saying you've been on a long time with no veris.

Could always consider deleting the profile and starting a new one. Fresh start so to speak.

Perhaps someone would be more trusting of or willing to meet a newbie or someone starting fresh with a new profile.

Just an idea.

This ^^^

TBH, maybe it’s a fresh start that you need after all...

Best of luck OP "

yeah it seems to be going this way and thanks for the advice

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By *auraLucyLuLuWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"while i do like the idea now that ive posted this ppl will be like at theres your man again lol oh and can ya get a refund for the days you have left lol"

Lol you can't get a refund for the days left on your account I deleted my couples profile earlier today and it clearly states you won't get a refund ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"while i do like the idea now that ive posted this ppl will be like at theres your man again lol oh and can ya get a refund for the days you have left lol

Lol you can't get a refund for the days left on your account I deleted my couples profile earlier today and it clearly states you won't get a refund .."

well that sucks lol but thanks for the info

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By *verage Joe BlackMan
over a year ago

Border Area

Ok OP, here’s a couple of observations:

1) You’re not a bad looking guy, you’re in good shape physically so you should start to build confidence from that

2) you’ve taken a courageous step in posting what you did on the forums - but ultimately I think that’s good as people on here generally respond well to that and are the best ones to provide advice

3) You might want to rethink your profile text. Comes across a little as being a bit of a rebound thing you are doing. You don’t really need to mention about the relationship stuff - perhaps a little honest and personal to put out there on a swinger site.

4) Why not check out some profiles of guys who are successful (I.e have lots of verifications) and compare what they are saying in their profile to yours..? Why re-invent the wheel; if it’s working for them then they are doing something right. It will give you an idea of what to put in yours.

5) how about some more pics..? Check out the fab pic gallery for guys and see what types of pics attract most likes and then start to fill your gallery a bit more. If you do that daily/weekly it helps you get noticed and shows you are active.

6) Get to know people on the forums; there is a diverse range of people here - some very funny and some great characters. Put yourself out there, join in conversations and it will be easier to then ask someone to meet and verify you.

7) Once verified, get to a social and meet people..

Just some thoughts; best of luck..

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By *auraLucyLuLuWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Ok OP, here’s a couple of observations:

1) You’re not a bad looking guy, you’re in good shape physically so you should start to build confidence from that

2) you’ve taken a courageous step in posting what you did on the forums - but ultimately I think that’s good as people on here generally respond well to that and are the best ones to provide advice

3) You might want to rethink your profile text. Comes across a little as being a bit of a rebound thing you are doing. You don’t really need to mention about the relationship stuff - perhaps a little honest and personal to put out there on a swinger site.

4) Why not check out some profiles of guys who are successful (I.e have lots of verifications) and compare what they are saying in their profile to yours..? Why re-invent the wheel; if it’s working for them then they are doing something right. It will give you an idea of what to put in yours.

5) how about some more pics..? Check out the fab pic gallery for guys and see what types of pics attract most likes and then start to fill your gallery a bit more. If you do that daily/weekly it helps you get noticed and shows you are active.

6) Get to know people on the forums; there is a diverse range of people here - some very funny and some great characters. Put yourself out there, join in conversations and it will be easier to then ask someone to meet and verify you.

7) Once verified, get to a social and meet people..

Just some thoughts; best of luck.. "

All fantastic advice and very well put...

Any chance we can pin that to the Irish forums page so other posters can avail of your advise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok OP, here’s a couple of observations:

1) You’re not a bad looking guy, you’re in good shape physically so you should start to build confidence from that

2) you’ve taken a courageous step in posting what you did on the forums - but ultimately I think that’s good as people on here generally respond well to that and are the best ones to provide advice

3) You might want to rethink your profile text. Comes across a little as being a bit of a rebound thing you are doing. You don’t really need to mention about the relationship stuff - perhaps a little honest and personal to put out there on a swinger site.

4) Why not check out some profiles of guys who are successful (I.e have lots of verifications) and compare what they are saying in their profile to yours..? Why re-invent the wheel; if it’s working for them then they are doing something right. It will give you an idea of what to put in yours.

5) how about some more pics..? Check out the fab pic gallery for guys and see what types of pics attract most likes and then start to fill your gallery a bit more. If you do that daily/weekly it helps you get noticed and shows you are active.

6) Get to know people on the forums; there is a diverse range of people here - some very funny and some great characters. Put yourself out there, join in conversations and it will be easier to then ask someone to meet and verify you.

7) Once verified, get to a social and meet people..

Just some thoughts; best of luck.. "

firstly mate thanks for the compliments lol and secondly cheers for the advice its actually really good im gonna have a look into things now see if i can shake things up a bit but seriously tho really really good advice and thanks again

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By *ord Willy McFuck-BucketMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"Ok OP, here’s a couple of observations:

1) You’re not a bad looking guy, you’re in good shape physically so you should start to build confidence from that

2) you’ve taken a courageous step in posting what you did on the forums - but ultimately I think that’s good as people on here generally respond well to that and are the best ones to provide advice

3) You might want to rethink your profile text. Comes across a little as being a bit of a rebound thing you are doing. You don’t really need to mention about the relationship stuff - perhaps a little honest and personal to put out there on a swinger site.

4) Why not check out some profiles of guys who are successful (I.e have lots of verifications) and compare what they are saying in their profile to yours..? Why re-invent the wheel; if it’s working for them then they are doing something right. It will give you an idea of what to put in yours.

5) how about some more pics..? Check out the fab pic gallery for guys and see what types of pics attract most likes and then start to fill your gallery a bit more. If you do that daily/weekly it helps you get noticed and shows you are active.

6) Get to know people on the forums; there is a diverse range of people here - some very funny and some great characters. Put yourself out there, join in conversations and it will be easier to then ask someone to meet and verify you.

7) Once verified, get to a social and meet people..

Just some thoughts; best of luck..

All fantastic advice and very well put...

Any chance we can pin that to the Irish forums page so other posters can avail of your advise."
sweet Jesus was just about to post the same, this needs pinned, I know every one has to start somewhere but no one ever uses the search function on the forum this is all great advice and hopefully grumpy men read it

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"Ok OP, here’s a couple of observations:

1) You’re not a bad looking guy, you’re in good shape physically so you should start to build confidence from that

2) you’ve taken a courageous step in posting what you did on the forums - but ultimately I think that’s good as people on here generally respond well to that and are the best ones to provide advice

3) You might want to rethink your profile text. Comes across a little as being a bit of a rebound thing you are doing. You don’t really need to mention about the relationship stuff - perhaps a little honest and personal to put out there on a swinger site.

4) Why not check out some profiles of guys who are successful (I.e have lots of verifications) and compare what they are saying in their profile to yours..? Why re-invent the wheel; if it’s working for them then they are doing something right. It will give you an idea of what to put in yours.

5) how about some more pics..? Check out the fab pic gallery for guys and see what types of pics attract most likes and then start to fill your gallery a bit more. If you do that daily/weekly it helps you get noticed and shows you are active.

6) Get to know people on the forums; there is a diverse range of people here - some very funny and some great characters. Put yourself out there, join in conversations and it will be easier to then ask someone to meet and verify you.

7) Once verified, get to a social and meet people..

Just some thoughts; best of luck..

All fantastic advice and very well put...

Any chance we can pin that to the Irish forums page so other posters can avail of your advise.sweet Jesus was just about to post the same, this needs pinned, I know every one has to start somewhere but no one ever uses the search function on the forum this is all great advice and hopefully grumpy men read it"

I usually hope grumpy men fuck off but then that lessens my odds of standing out, regardless of less than average abilities.

However I do agree that Average Joe's response is excellent advice and I also continue to bemoan the lack of pinned posts, to save newbies making mistakes and the rest of us regulars having to read the same thing ad infinitum!

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