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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Did you ever feel like you want to die. Your life is empty ? Your friends have married. You have loads of cash but it not wort a f if your alone. Am I pissed anyway goodnight to yeah all xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont presume all ur married friends are happy either. Hope you ok and its just the drink talking.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Did you ever feel like you want to die. Your life is empty ? Your friends have married. You have loads of cash but it not wort a f if your alone. Am I pissed anyway goodnight to yeah all xxx "
don't ever Marry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel shit tonight and in very happily married

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By *aggamuffin7Man
over a year ago

enniskillen

Sounds like you're suffering from depression Pete. Life can get you down at times. Get to your doctor on monday morning and ask for some help.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Talk to your friends don't hide it away. Depression is a horrible disease.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pete your not alone. hope your ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think alot of people get like that. I've been in bed since 7 today and it's not just a day with me, it's on off for months. It's important to think of where you're at, what you've achieved and what you would like to see and do in the future. Pick a project and work towards it, big or small. The sense of achievement will be great. Also talk to Friends, family and your doctor. This is very common but can make you feel alone and isolated but you're not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Steer clear of alcohol - it's a depressant and will just make you feel worse.

Hot bath/shower, get some sleep and start afresh in the morning.

Hugs and cuddles from Cork

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just tuned 40 - forty five minutes ago . I'm sleeping on my sofa cause I am in a sex less relationship and not even had a blow job on 8 months .

Both my parents died recently and I'm an only child. Life feels pretty grim for me too. I'm sitting here feeling sorry for myself. I used to have the best life ever before i moved here ten years ago. But I have a kid and she needs me. And I'm no use to anyone dead. So gonna get up at 7am go to my mundane job and repeat. Try and think of something to do long term cause as they apparently say... life started 50 min ago... taking into account how long this took to write .

I feel low and I don't know you but lost some good mates along the way. So chin up buddy and it's not all bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ps. I didn't want to sound condescending . . .

Everyone has their problems.

I'm far from a beaken of light . Just tried to put things into perspective .

Things will come good. Once you're gone you're gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best Christmas present anyone can receive, is to be kind to themselves

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam

H.O.P.E

Hold On Pain Ends....

Don't ever forget this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Indeed .

Always try and look out for others

Everyone has struggles . No one is immune

I'm in no ways a saint but life is precious . You always have something to give

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone I'll be ok tomorrow is another day a better day sleep well all X

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam


"Thanks everyone I'll be ok tomorrow is another day a better day sleep well all X "

Keep the head up and get a good night's sleep.

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam


"Indeed .

Always try and look out for others

Everyone has struggles . No one is immune

I'm in no ways a saint but life is precious . You always have something to give "

Happy Birthday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheers buddy

I feel old but they say life has just started so i plan to test that theory

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam


"Cheers buddy

I feel old but they say life has just started so i plan to test that theory "

Some of the best fun you'll ever have is in your 40's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"H.O.P.E

Hold On Pain Ends....

Don't ever forget this"

This

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By *auraLucyLuLuWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Indeed .

Always try and look out for others

Everyone has struggles . No one is immune

I'm in no ways a saint but life is precious . You always have something to give "

Happy Birthday xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Happy Birthday"

Happy 40th Birthday!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheers buddy

I feel old but they say life has just started so i plan to test that theory

Some of the best fun you'll ever have is in your 40's.

"

And it gets even better in your 50s believe me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks everyone

Didn't mean to turn this into a me thing . Old fart is smiling

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam


"Thanks everyone

Didn't mean to turn this into a me thing . Old fart is smiling "

Now we're all gonna sing Happy Birthday to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending hugs to anyone who needs one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up, OP. Hope you feel more positive tomorrow. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks everyone

Didn't mean to turn this into a me thing . Old fart is smiling "

Happy birthday x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks everyone

Didn't mean to turn this into a me thing . Old fart is smiling

Happy birthday x"

Xxxx thanks bold

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By *ccommodating GuyMan
over a year ago

Outside


"I just tuned 40 - forty five minutes ago . I'm sleeping on my sofa cause I am in a sex less relationship and not even had a blow job on 8 months .

Both my parents died recently and I'm an only child. Life feels pretty grim for me too. I'm sitting here feeling sorry for myself. I used to have the best life ever before i moved here ten years ago. But I have a kid and she needs me. And I'm no use to anyone dead. So gonna get up at 7am go to my mundane job and repeat. Try and think of something to do long term cause as they apparently say... life started 50 min ago... taking into account how long this took to write .

I feel low and I don't know you but lost some good mates along the way. So chin up buddy and it's not all bad. "

You've just "tuned" (reckon you meant turned) 40, yet you state on your profile that you're 38..

One lie leads to another..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah well I was a bit green under the Gill's when someone suggested here. And yes I did understate my age. Anyone I've chatted to knows Im a decent skin and if they have any doubts I can verify anything.

Thanks for the constructive reply anyway . I see the festive spirit is strong with you petal xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhhh hope your ok hun and it's only the drink talking ...if you need a 1 to 1 chat message me kisses Meow xxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are depths of despair we all sink into sometimes but we're here to see another day.

It's good to talk. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best Christmas present anyone can receive, is to be kind to themselves "

this is very true

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

Life was never supposed to be easy so quit whinging and get on with it

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves


"Life was never supposed to be easy so quit whinging and get on with it "

Super helpful response to someone who actually might be struggling and need help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life was never supposed to be easy so quit whinging and get on with it "

Jesus your a nasty try hard ... someone's down let's kick him. Your so brave. . Such a big man

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

Ive had awful problems in my life and im still alive i dunno how but 1 thing i learned was feeling sorry for yourself isnt going to help matters..chin up and get on with it life wasnt supposed to be easy otherwise it wouldnt be called life in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had awful problems in my life and im still alive i dunno how but 1 thing i learned was feeling sorry for yourself isnt going to help matters..chin up and get on with it life wasnt supposed to be easy otherwise it wouldnt be called life in the first place "

That should make you more empathetic, instead you post something that's not just hurtful but also dangerous to someone who may be struggling and why ?? For effect that's why... pathetic

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"Ive had awful problems in my life and im still alive i dunno how but 1 thing i learned was feeling sorry for yourself isnt going to help matters..chin up and get on with it life wasnt supposed to be easy otherwise it wouldnt be called life in the first place

That should make you more empathetic, instead you post something that's not just hurtful but also dangerous to someone who may be struggling and why ?? For effect that's why... pathetic "

who rattled your cage

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By *iftyfifty51Man
over a year ago

trim


"Did you ever feel like you want to die. Your life is empty ? Your friends have married. You have loads of cash but it not wort a f if your alone. Am I pissed anyway goodnight to yeah all xxx "

I know the feeling,but it's always darkest before the dawn. Talk to someone, it does help. Take care of yourself

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By *p4itduoCouple
over a year ago

santry

If negative comments are the results of hards times, i have failed miserably , i doubt any of us here have not had our struggles , a take or lump it attitude tells me hard times have taken their toll, empathy and support is a sign you have learned wisely from your travels .

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By *auraLucyLuLuWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Life was never supposed to be easy so quit whinging and get on with it "

I sincerely hope that you will never feel the need to ask for help when you are feeling low. And if you do I hope that whoever reads it or listens to you doesn't come up with a reply like you just did... your response shows more about your personality and to be quite honest it's not a very nice one... perhaps you should try a bit of empathy and if you don't possess the ability to do that then this is one of them occasions you say nothing....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life was never supposed to be easy so quit whinging and get on with it

I sincerely hope that you will never feel the need to ask for help when you are feeling low. And if you do I hope that whoever reads it or listens to you doesn't come up with a reply like you just did... your response shows more about your personality and to be quite honest it's not a very nice one... perhaps you should try a bit of empathy and if you don't possess the ability to do that then this is one of them occasions you say nothing.... "

Well said Laura

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you are all ok this Morning, its always good to talk to someone even ifs here it maybe a sex site but like to think we can talk and be friendly to each other also..

Nobody's life is rosie in the garden we all have a story x

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"Life was never supposed to be easy so quit whinging and get on with it

I sincerely hope that you will never feel the need to ask for help when you are feeling low. And if you do I hope that whoever reads it or listens to you doesn't come up with a reply like you just did... your response shows more about your personality and to be quite honest it's not a very nice one... perhaps you should try a bit of empathy and if you don't possess the ability to do that then this is one of them occasions you say nothing.... "

Nobody wants to hear a whingefest..the op needs to man up and stop acting like a woman..besides its christmas we cant all be in the doldroms listening to poor me pity me stories..its pathetic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life was never supposed to be easy so quit whinging and get on with it

I sincerely hope that you will never feel the need to ask for help when you are feeling low. And if you do I hope that whoever reads it or listens to you doesn't come up with a reply like you just did... your response shows more about your personality and to be quite honest it's not a very nice one... perhaps you should try a bit of empathy and if you don't possess the ability to do that then this is one of them occasions you say nothing....

Nobody wants to hear a whingefest..the op needs to man up and stop acting like a woman..besides its christmas we cant all be in the doldroms listening to poor me pity me stories..its pathetic "

It's ok not to be ok ...don't be so horrible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life was never supposed to be easy so quit whinging and get on with it

I sincerely hope that you will never feel the need to ask for help when you are feeling low. And if you do I hope that whoever reads it or listens to you doesn't come up with a reply like you just did... your response shows more about your personality and to be quite honest it's not a very nice one... perhaps you should try a bit of empathy and if you don't possess the ability to do that then this is one of them occasions you say nothing....

Nobody wants to hear a whingefest..the op needs to man up and stop acting like a woman..besides its christmas we cant all be in the doldroms listening to poor me pity me stories..its pathetic "

Ah thats a bit harsh..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life was never supposed to be easy so quit whinging and get on with it

I sincerely hope that you will never feel the need to ask for help when you are feeling low. And if you do I hope that whoever reads it or listens to you doesn't come up with a reply like you just did... your response shows more about your personality and to be quite honest it's not a very nice one... perhaps you should try a bit of empathy and if you don't possess the ability to do that then this is one of them occasions you say nothing....

Nobody wants to hear a whingefest..the op needs to man up and stop acting like a woman..besides its christmas we cant all be in the doldroms listening to poor me pity me stories..its pathetic "

Are you not getting meets and this is the best way you can find to get attention ??

We all have our own way of dealing with things ... what your been is a childish attention seeker but no one is been cruel to you just for a sick thrill ... your a troll that lacks the wit of others

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"Life was never supposed to be easy so quit whinging and get on with it

I sincerely hope that you will never feel the need to ask for help when you are feeling low. And if you do I hope that whoever reads it or listens to you doesn't come up with a reply like you just did... your response shows more about your personality and to be quite honest it's not a very nice one... perhaps you should try a bit of empathy and if you don't possess the ability to do that then this is one of them occasions you say nothing....

Nobody wants to hear a whingefest..the op needs to man up and stop acting like a woman..besides its christmas we cant all be in the doldroms listening to poor me pity me stories..its pathetic

It's ok not to be ok ...don't be so horrible "

I didnt say it wasnt he needs to speak to a professional not people on a swingers site

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"Life was never supposed to be easy so quit whinging and get on with it

I sincerely hope that you will never feel the need to ask for help when you are feeling low. And if you do I hope that whoever reads it or listens to you doesn't come up with a reply like you just did... your response shows more about your personality and to be quite honest it's not a very nice one... perhaps you should try a bit of empathy and if you don't possess the ability to do that then this is one of them occasions you say nothing....

Nobody wants to hear a whingefest..the op needs to man up and stop acting like a woman..besides its christmas we cant all be in the doldroms listening to poor me pity me stories..its pathetic

Are you not getting meets and this is the best way you can find to get attention ??

We all have our own way of dealing with things ... what your been is a childish attention seeker but no one is been cruel to you just for a sick thrill ... your a troll that lacks the wit of others "

Its not attention seeking im just giving him a dose of reality..it worked for me a bit of straight thinking..man up quit being a girls blouse..im done here now i can sense quite a bit of anger from you..good day to you and happy Christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you ever feel like you want to die. Your life is empty ? Your friends have married. You have loads of cash but it not wort a f if your alone. Am I pissed anyway goodnight to yeah all xxx "

Hope you're feeling better today. Life is hard sometimes and we all struggle with different things and in different ways. No matter how bad things seem in the minute, and no matter how long the feelings last, things do get better. It's a circle, and nothing stays the same forever.

If I could give you 3 pieces of advice, I'd recommend you cut out or cut back the drinking. Alcohol is a depressant, and when you're low it makes you lower.

The second thing I'd advise is to go to your gp. He or she is there to help, and you will get better, you will feel happy and 'normal' again.

And lastly, try to focus on the positive things in your life. I'm sure you've got lots of good stuff going on, despite your current low mood. Positivity attracts positivity, negativity attracts more negativity. It's hard sometimes to see the good, but the more you look the more you'll find. Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life was never supposed to be easy so quit whinging and get on with it

I sincerely hope that you will never feel the need to ask for help when you are feeling low. And if you do I hope that whoever reads it or listens to you doesn't come up with a reply like you just did... your response shows more about your personality and to be quite honest it's not a very nice one... perhaps you should try a bit of empathy and if you don't possess the ability to do that then this is one of them occasions you say nothing....

Nobody wants to hear a whingefest..the op needs to man up and stop acting like a woman..besides its christmas we cant all be in the doldroms listening to poor me pity me stories..its pathetic

It's ok not to be ok ...don't be so horrible

I didnt say it wasnt he needs to speak to a professional not people on a swingers site "

Still doesn't give you the right to be horrible does it?

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By *onygirl19Woman
over a year ago

co dublin


"Life was never supposed to be easy so quit whinging and get on with it

I sincerely hope that you will never feel the need to ask for help when you are feeling low. And if you do I hope that whoever reads it or listens to you doesn't come up with a reply like you just did... your response shows more about your personality and to be quite honest it's not a very nice one... perhaps you should try a bit of empathy and if you don't possess the ability to do that then this is one of them occasions you say nothing....

Nobody wants to hear a whingefest..the op needs to man up and stop acting like a woman..besides its christmas we cant all be in the doldroms listening to poor me pity me stories..its pathetic

It's ok not to be ok ...don't be so horrible

I didnt say it wasnt he needs to speak to a professional not people on a swingers site "

And what makes you think that just because this is a swingers site that there are not professionals here who can actually help and give advice ??? And maybe the op just wanted to get something off his chest and get a little empathy and understanding from like minded folk .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you ever feel like you want to die. Your life is empty ? Your friends have married. You have loads of cash but it not wort a f if your alone. Am I pissed anyway goodnight to yeah all xxx

Hope you're feeling better today. Life is hard sometimes and we all struggle with different things and in different ways. No matter how bad things seem in the minute, and no matter how long the feelings last, things do get better. It's a circle, and nothing stays the same forever.

If I could give you 3 pieces of advice, I'd recommend you cut out or cut back the drinking. Alcohol is a depressant, and when you're low it makes you lower.

The second thing I'd advise is to go to your gp. He or she is there to help, and you will get better, you will feel happy and 'normal' again.

And lastly, try to focus on the positive things in your life. I'm sure you've got lots of good stuff going on, despite your current low mood. Positivity attracts positivity, negativity attracts more negativity. It's hard sometimes to see the good, but the more you look the more you'll find. Best of luck "

All good advice, and I would add something, don't compare yourself with others and imagine that they have perfect lives or relationships, everyone has their struggles at some time or another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

All good advice, and I would add something, don't compare yourself with others and imagine that they have perfect lives or relationships, everyone has their struggles at some time or another."

That's a very good point.

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

4 things you can see

3 things you can hear

2 things you can touch

1 thing you can taste

This is great for ptsd..intrusive memories failing that stamp your feet on the ground..it litetally grounds you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"4 things you can see

3 things you can hear

2 things you can touch

1 thing you can taste

This is great for ptsd..intrusive memories failing that stamp your feet on the ground..it litetally grounds you "

And you could of shown that decency from the start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"4 things you can see

3 things you can hear

2 things you can touch

1 thing you can taste

This is great for ptsd..intrusive memories failing that stamp your feet on the ground..it litetally grounds you "

I've heard of those lists for dealing with panic attacks, but I don't know if they'd help with what the OP has described. Having said that, it probably does bring you into the moment rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Omg thanks to all of yeah for yer kind words really did make me feel better this morning. Even brought a little tear to my eye to think strangers can be so kind. I am way way better today think it was just a bad night and I will stay off the drink for a bit. Hope yeah all have a great Xmas thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Omg thanks to all of yeah for yer kind words really did make me feel better this morning. Even brought a little tear to my eye to think strangers can be so kind. I am way way better today think it was just a bad night and I will stay off the drink for a bit. Hope yeah all have a great Xmas thanks xx "

Good to hear your feeling better today. This can be tough time of the year for people even for people who normally are ok. It is ok not to be ok but do talk to friends and family and enjoy a ripple in moderation xx Hope you have a great Christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Omg thanks to all of yeah for yer kind words really did make me feel better this morning. Even brought a little tear to my eye to think strangers can be so kind. I am way way better today think it was just a bad night and I will stay off the drink for a bit. Hope yeah all have a great Xmas thanks xx "

Ahh thats good to hear your ina better place today stay strong pal

Hope you have a lovely xmas too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A kind word and a smile, will get ya far more in life, than a loaded gun.. have a peaceful xmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the best things for your mental health is exercise get out for a good walk in the fresh air and view the beautiful countryside and it does not cost a penny

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By *K430Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

Glad to hear that you are doing better man , no harm to cool down on the drink when you are not feeling the best ,if you feel like this regularly have a chat with a doctor , if not drive on from here , you'll have a deadly 2018

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hope your ok. it's normal to feel crap sometimes. no shame in that.

I think alot here go through it.

chin up.

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By *r_mrs_studmuffinCouple
over a year ago

narnia


"H.O.P.E

Hold On Pain Ends....

Don't ever forget this"
love this thank you xxx

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By *uscious louWoman
over a year ago

dublin

Hope ur feeling OK today xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Omg thanks to all of yeah for yer kind words really did make me feel better this morning. Even brought a little tear to my eye to think strangers can be so kind. I am way way better today think it was just a bad night and I will stay off the drink for a bit. Hope yeah all have a great Xmas thanks xx "

Good to hear you're a bit better today x

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By *r_mrs_studmuffinCouple
over a year ago

narnia

Op a very brave thing to discuss your feelings on here and I'm delighted the response has been mostly positive .. it goes to show your not alone there is always someone who will listen try help if you let them .. you have taken the first step now go speak to your doctor or counsellor to help you get past this .. sending big hugs and good wishes your way xxx

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

No, never felt like I want to die.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gosh, I know that feeling.

Big hug to the OP and everyone who needs one.

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"No, never felt like I want to die."

The will to survive is strongest in humans

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By *onygirl19Woman
over a year ago

co dublin

So glad you’re feeling better xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is always worse with drink involved believe me i know how this feels.Hope you ok x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate in fairness u just think I am having a off day and chill we all get them .

Then I just think life is good stop worrying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks everyone I'll be ok tomorrow is another day a better day sleep well all X "

Christmas is an emotionally and alcohol loaded time : highs and lows and can be a receipt for disaster.

Sending you lots of human to human platonic support - kiss and hug.

If you are still feeling bad on Monday don’t bury it away, keep talking xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Omg thanks to all of yeah for yer kind words really did make me feel better this morning. Even brought a little tear to my eye to think strangers can be so kind. I am way way better today think it was just a bad night and I will stay off the drink for a bit. Hope yeah all have a great Xmas thanks xx "

So glad xx

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By *iftyfifty51Man
over a year ago

trim

I'm glad to hear that you're feeling better. Nobody has the perfect life, everyone has their ups and downs. One step at a time.

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By *uckold fun guyMan
over a year ago

wexford

Stay positive And stay strong, things will work out for ya

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By *quirter 201Woman
over a year ago

dublin

I don't post on the forums normally.

But just wanted to say kudos to all who extended empathy in a place that doesn't normally offer a lot of that.

Great to see there's a difference between 'tinternet' bantering and just maybe a softer word being needed.

Strangers aren't always the worst people to call upon ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get up and have a shower if possible go for a long walk or swim excirse helps a lot dont sit around over thinking things .call a friend or family member invite them around for a cuppa and chat there's light at the end of the tunnel mate I've been to this dark place depression and I've come out of it life gets better and hopefully things work out for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't post on the forums normally.

But just wanted to say kudos to all who extended empathy in a place that doesn't normally offer a lot of that.

Great to see there's a difference between 'tinternet' bantering and just maybe a softer word being needed.

Strangers aren't always the worst people to call upon .."

You should join us more often, and not be hiding your light under a bushel

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Hey OP. As others have said, it sounds like you may be suffering depression.

Sometimes it's ok to not be ok and there is no shame in holding your hands up and saying so. Good on you for taking the first step in saying something by posting on here.

As someone who has suffered really bad bouts of depression in the past I can relate to that feeling of futility you're describing.

Just remember that you're not alone even if at times you feel that way.

I'd recommend you go and see your doctor and maybe try an antidepressant. They are trial and error though. It sometimes can take a while to find the right one as everybody's body is different and reacts in different ways t different chemicals. I'd also advise to try and curb your alcohol intake as alcohol is a depressant and will only make you feel worse.

On top of this, and what I found really worked for me, I'd recommend exercise.

For me long distance running worked as it got me out the house. When depressed there can be few things worse than sitting staring at the walls thinking about things.

Do whatever exercise works for you. It could be running or gym or a sport you like, but physical exercise releases endorphins in your body which is basically like a natural high and make you feel better, kind of like the body producing its own natural form of antidepressant in the body.

I know that everything may seem like doom and gloom right now but hang in there and I promise there is light at the end of that tunnel. Speaking from experience. Hope you'll be ok.

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Ive had awful problems in my life and im still alive i dunno how but 1 thing i learned was feeling sorry for yourself isnt going to help matters..chin up and get on with it life wasnt supposed to be easy otherwise it wouldnt be called life in the first place "

If there is one thing I have learned is that people who come out with lines like "You're just feeling sorry for yourself" or "Snap out of it" or "What have you got to be depressed about?" or similar, do not understand depression and how it works.

In part, I agree with you in that a person isn't going to get better just sitting around and hoping it will go away. A person needs to take some sort action or responsibility in helping themselves but when in a deep depression even the most simple things can be so hard to do. This is why some kind words and tact from others can be a big help and motivate them a little.

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Life was never supposed to be easy so quit whinging and get on with it

I sincerely hope that you will never feel the need to ask for help when you are feeling low. And if you do I hope that whoever reads it or listens to you doesn't come up with a reply like you just did... your response shows more about your personality and to be quite honest it's not a very nice one... perhaps you should try a bit of empathy and if you don't possess the ability to do that then this is one of them occasions you say nothing....

Nobody wants to hear a whingefest..the op needs to man up and stop acting like a woman..besides its christmas we cant all be in the doldroms listening to poor me pity me stories..its pathetic "

Wow. What a c**t and what a c**tish comment to make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life was never supposed to be easy so quit whinging and get on with it

I sincerely hope that you will never feel the need to ask for help when you are feeling low. And if you do I hope that whoever reads it or listens to you doesn't come up with a reply like you just did... your response shows more about your personality and to be quite honest it's not a very nice one... perhaps you should try a bit of empathy and if you don't possess the ability to do that then this is one of them occasions you say nothing....

Nobody wants to hear a whingefest..the op needs to man up and stop acting like a woman..besides its christmas we cant all be in the doldroms listening to poor me pity me stories..its pathetic

Wow. What a c**t and what a c**tish comment to make. "

Wise words M

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary


"Did you ever feel like you want to die. Your life is empty ? Your friends have married. You have loads of cash but it not wort a f if your alone. Am I pissed anyway goodnight to yeah all xxx "

Hope yer feeling a bit better buddy....

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By *ohnjosephCouple
over a year ago

nenagh

Keep ur head up and keep talking it's good to talk lots in the same place as u try and keep away from the drink look at the bright side stay positive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey OP. As others have said, it sounds like you may be suffering depression.

Sometimes it's ok to not be ok and there is no shame in holding your hands up and saying so. Good on you for taking the first step in saying something by posting on here.

As someone who has suffered really bad bouts of depression in the past I thanks for that mate I will be at doc first thing mon I don't want this to get any worse can relate to that feeling of futility you're describing.

Just remember that you're not alone even if at times you feel that way.

I'd recommend you go and see your doctor and maybe try an antidepressant. They are trial and error though. It sometimes can take a while to find the right one as everybody's body is different and reacts in different ways t different chemicals. I'd also advise to try and curb your alcohol intake as alcohol is a depressant and will only make you feel worse.

On top of this, and what I found really worked for me, I'd recommend exercise.

For me long distance running worked as it got me out the house. When depressed there can be few things worse than sitting staring at the walls thinking about things.

Do whatever exercise works for you. It could be running or gym or a sport you like, but physical exercise releases endorphins in your body which is basically like a natural high and make you feel better, kind of like the body producing its own natural form of antidepressant in the body.

I know that everything may seem like doom and gloom right now but hang in there and I promise there is light at the end of that tunnel. Speaking from experience. Hope you'll be ok."

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