FabSwingers.com forum: Filters on Single Guys

By *ireannCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

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Small rant and we apologise before we start.

Only this week we decided to ease our restrictions on our filters to allow single guys to message us again. We updated our profile to reflect this.

All the below will get ignored/deleted & blocked;

- Cock pics on profile.

- One liners.

- Cold Friend requests.

- Winks.

- No face photo on initial mail.

- Only cock pics on initial mail.

For anyone that knows us we do enjoy the excitement meeting new people, but when you still receive mail & requests like we have listed above it does get frustrating. Out of all the mail we received from single guys this week only two.. yes two stood out that lead to plans for a social meet because guess what.. they followed our criteria on how we like to be contacted.

Okay, yes we know it is daunting mailing someone for the first time, but if your that interested in meeting someone you have to take a chance.

If your the type of person that does not want to follow our criteria for contacting us.. then don't contact us... Simple.

Anyone else feel the same or beg to differ?

EireCpl xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tighten your filters again then

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

I'd just like to apologise again for the fifteen cock shots (that I appear to have sent twice!)....

I don't know what came over me....

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

We gave up on the single guy search recently, just not worth it, the nonsense messages and blocked them.

Rather meet them at one of socials or an event.

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By *lison123Woman
over a year ago

I totally agree and the amount of non verified new males who add as friend without so much as a hi and send message with just “can I see your pics” drives me mad, if your a pic hunter jog on, guys try some conversation first now I do like to see face photo from guys I like to know who I’m talking to but if your verified I do return my photo even if I’m not overly intrested it’s common curtesy , but if your not verified I don’t simple if I’m not intrested I reply sorry and move on. The best yet though are the guys who are having conversations with themselves 15 messages about the weather and how horny they are and their life story and iv already said not intrested lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even as a single verified guy who follows profile requests about mails I understand your frustration. Hopefully you won't have to change your filter again but I understand if you do.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I start every conversation with one line, a simple hi, how's it going or something.

Didn't know it was so annoying, so I'll refrain from messaging you into the future.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I always send a face photo and always very respectfull . I rarely wink or send friends request . I always read a profile first . But hate when ladies look for a face photo but don't have any photos up themselfs . I think that's a bit unfair.

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By *ittyMissKittyWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I'd just like to apologise again for the fifteen cock shots (that I appear to have sent twice!)....

I don't know what came over me....

Ah but I bet you weren't cock blocked!!!!

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By *oftgentle123Man
over a year ago

Letterkenny

"Small rant and we apologise before we start.

Only this week we decided to ease our restrictions on our filters to allow single guys to message us again. We updated our profile to reflect this.

All the below will get ignored/deleted & blocked;

- Cock pics on profile.

- One liners.

- Cold Friend requests.

- Winks.

- No face photo on initial mail.

- Only cock pics on initial mail.

Okay, yes we know it is daunting mailing someone for the first time, but if your that interested in meeting someone you have to take a chance.

If your the type of person that does not want to follow our criteria for contacting us.. then don't contact us... Simple.

Anyone else feel the same or beg to differ?

EireCpl xxxx"

I understand how annoying it is for you. But spare a thought for genuine guys on here who read profiles and go to lengths sending messages based on the profiles they have read and nevermind getting replies, they dont even get read. All part of the fab world and while its fustrating the good things that happen outweigh the bad, all about the enjoyable parts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell ya boys a pocket pussy is the only way to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has a single guy if I like a profile I wink and send a message If I get a reply I tk and If it's a no tks that's people choice. Never send a abusive message. Just happy fabbing. If I like a pic I fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And here’s me mad for single guys to msg me and they don’t. Jeez it’s neatky enough to drive me straight!!!

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By *ireannCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

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Okay, let us put it this way.. why do single guys purposely go against what a couple has asked for in their profile. If we don't want cock pics in a mail chances are we won't change our minds just for you. If we say we don't want a one line "Hi, I'm free tonight, wanna f*#k" instead of putting a mail together that shows that you can at least hold a conversation with us if we were to meet.

Also if we say we won't respond to winks, we won't. We feel they are a lazy way of getting in touch (our personal opinion). We have said it in our profile we won't respond to winks and yet guys will still do it. That reflects to us that you haven't read our criteria so instantly your not a match for us.

If there is something we ask for and your uncomfortable with the criteria, then itss simple don't contact us or block us.. all happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's that they purposely go against....they just don't bother their arse to read unfortunately

In my experience anyway...

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

I'd say it's because they use a scatter gun technique bound to hit something with a wide spread of mails.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bad memories does stick better than good once so I understand your frustration.

Simple solution is to just block all that don't stick to you criteria

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some very snooty comments on here towards single males...

1.Yes a lot of attention can be annoying.... So take your pics down you might not get noticed as much

2. The men on the site don't know you... So why send a face pic to a stranger before they say hello?

3. The men weren't put on here to satisfy your particular taste so they might be perfect they might be a terrible match. But one message isnt going to tell you that.

Tired of reading posts like this EVERY DAYYYYYYYYYYYY

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By *ireannCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

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"Some very snooty comments on here towards single males...

1.Yes a lot of attention can be annoying.... So take your pics down you might not get noticed as much

2. The men on the site don't know you... So why send a face pic to a stranger before they say hello?

3. The men weren't put on here to satisfy your particular taste so they might be perfect they might be a terrible match. But one message isnt going to tell you that.

Tired of reading posts like this EVERY DAYYYYYYYYYYYY

Absolutely... so then don't contact people if you don't meet the criteria.. it's that simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some very snooty comments on here towards single males...

1.Yes a lot of attention can be annoying.... So take your pics down you might not get noticed as much

2. The men on the site don't know you... So why send a face pic to a stranger before they say hello?

3. The men weren't put on here to satisfy your particular taste so they might be perfect they might be a terrible match. But one message isnt going to tell you that.

Tired of reading posts like this EVERY DAYYYYYYYYYYYY

Absolutely... so then don't contact people if you don't meet the criteria.. it's that simple"

Do you read the criteria most people have? It's a needle in haystack. Guys have to take a chance sometimes.

I don't contact many... But 9 times out of 10 it's ignored or met with a nasty reply.

Woman & couples have the power on here for obvious reasons. I just can't be bothered with people (boy you BTW) who expect a performing dog when they want it... And have them sit in the corner for the rest of the time....

(think that's fucked me up on here, but ah well)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some very snooty comments on here towards single males...

1.Yes a lot of attention can be annoying.... So take your pics down you might not get noticed as much

2. The men on the site don't know you... So why send a face pic to a stranger before they say hello?

3. The men weren't put on here to satisfy your particular taste so they might be perfect they might be a terrible match. But one message isnt going to tell you that.

Tired of reading posts like this EVERY DAYYYYYYYYYYYY

Absolutely... so then don't contact people if you don't meet the criteria.. it's that simple

Do you read the criteria most people have? It's a needle in haystack. Guys have to take a chance sometimes.

I don't contact many... But 9 times out of 10 it's ignored or met with a nasty reply.

(think that's fucked me up on here, but ah well)

*****THAT SHOULD HAVE SAID "NOT YOU BTW" Predictatext

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam

"Some very snooty comments on here towards single males...

1.Yes a lot of attention can be annoying.... So take your pics down you might not get noticed as much

2. The men on the site don't know you... So why send a face pic to a stranger before they say hello?

3. The men weren't put on here to satisfy your particular taste so they might be perfect they might be a terrible match. But one message isnt going to tell you that.

Tired of reading posts like this EVERY DAYYYYYYYYYYYY

Absolutely... so then don't contact people if you don't meet the criteria.. it's that simple

Do you read the criteria most people have? It's a needle in haystack. Guys have to take a chance sometimes.

I don't contact many... But 9 times out of 10 it's ignored or met with a nasty reply.

(think that's fucked me up on here, but ah well)

Your 100% right Johnny. Some people expect others to jump through hoops just to get to chat with them on here.

And when people don't abide by their rules they post derogatory threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single male on this site I will try explain wot it’s like for me on here.

So sometimes u read a profile and it says wot they’re into and u message them telling them wot u like and that yous have some of the same interests and blah blah blah. So u put a bit of time and effort into the message, but u never hear anything back. Fair enough.

Then sometimes U do get a reply and all they want to do is talk dirty and for u to tell them wot u want to do with them.

Then other times they want a normal conversation and then other times girls just want to be dominated.

So for me, I find it very hard to determine exactly wot way to approach each girl as all want different things and are unique in their own way.

So as a single male I apologise for any annoyance. But jaysus it’s hard out here for a pimp(as the saying goes)lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women they change there minds like the weather

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that its annoying all the mail from non verified guys etc,but i dont meet any guy without seeing his cock lol so could all the women stop slamming cock pics on profiles because now a lot of guys are hiding their cocks which is boring in my eyes

and if cock pics were that off putting how come everytime i post a cock pic it makes the hotlist

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By *aythekiddMan
over a year ago

Carlow

I really don't get what all the fuss is about

Takes like 5 minutes tops to fully run through someone's profile, that includes checking pics, their preferences and reading the bio.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't get what all the fuss is about

Takes like 5 minutes tops to fully run through someone's profile, that includes checking pics, their preferences and reading the bio."

But a lot don't bother Jay - pure laziness or arrogance and I don't know which is worse

And sometimes they send the exact same mail and pics several times over

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By *ireannCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

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The way we look at it is, our criteria that we look for are more a comfort level thing more then anything for us. If you are uncomfortable with that then we ask that you don't contact us because we are not going to match and that saves everyone's time.

Like we said we have our comfort levels when we chat to people because it rules out messers and pic collectors. If we have something we have as a comfort level and that contradicts with your comfort level then don't contact us, we wouldn't contact you.

Can we also confirm we have met some really nice, polite and fun single guys and we know you are out there and we have no doubt there are more out there and that's why we eased our filters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We gave up on the single guy search recently, just not worth it, the nonsense messages and blocked them.

Rather meet them at one of socials or an event.

And there lies the problem for the genuine single lads who are verified and do want to meet women and couples.

Its the complete and utter tossers who ruin it for the likes of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The other side of things is that it's not prudent for single guys to send face pics to random strangers in the first message and/or other demands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just wanna drink whiskey talk Shite laugh and rub the lady's knee

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam

"The way we look at it is, our criteria that we look for are more a comfort level thing more then anything for us. If you are uncomfortable with that then we ask that you don't contact us because we are not going to match and that saves everyone's time.

Can we also confirm we have met some really nice, polite and fun single guys and we know you are out there and we have no doubt there are more out there and that's why we eased our filters."

You want to rule out pic collectors and yet you demand pics on the first message.

Maybe people think you are pic collectors. Just saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The other side of the coin, some couples/females are looking for performing seals, might have more luck at the zoo

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By *auraLucyLuLuWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I just wanna drink whiskey talk Shite laugh and rub the lady's knee

Finally I've found my dream man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tighten your filters again and contact those that interest you. As a single guy i was falsely led to believe you get out what you put in. I get out far more from those contacting me. The reason, before it was mostly one way traffic and effort. Being contacted first has often proved to be some of the better meets. Maybe my early efforts are paying off in a different way.

Whats daunting about messaging first? Heaven forbid that they may say no thank you or worse ignore and block. So what, there's another 23,679 others the ladies or couple can contact. The most likely candidate that tick all your boxes often turns out not to have the chemistry required. So take a risk ladies... I dare you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As another point to couples/women... Don't have 10 paragraphs on your profile... All it does is make men stop reading after the first line.

Why read it,

send a profile pic

With an imaginative introduction

Try not to offend

While at the same time, giving insight into yourself

When they're not gonna reply anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As another point to couples/women... Don't have 10 paragraphs on your profile... All it does is make men stop reading after the first line.

Why read it,

send a profile pic

With an imaginative introduction

Try not to offend

While at the same time, giving insight into yourself

When they're not gonna reply anyway

More fun going to sunday mass than reading some of them long winded essays of a profile,with all the donts in them.

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By *izard00Man
over a year ago

Galway

Hi guys, I can understand where your come from on some level but also can see the other side, as I am on it!

Fair enough if you state a criteria like age, no cock pics, etc and it's not followed I can see how that's frustrating. But to go out on a limb and send a face picture first is a bit unfair in my view. Why should single male always have to send a face picture first and then possibly not get a reply. Like Ireland is a small place and having to send a face picture before any conversation happens is a bit much.

That's just my view on it.

"Small rant and we apologise before we start.

Only this week we decided to ease our restrictions on our filters to allow single guys to message us again. We updated our profile to reflect this.

All the below will get ignored/deleted & blocked;

- Cock pics on profile.

- One liners.

- Cold Friend requests.

- Winks.

- No face photo on initial mail.

- Only cock pics on initial mail.

Okay, yes we know it is daunting mailing someone for the first time, but if your that interested in meeting someone you have to take a chance.

If your the type of person that does not want to follow our criteria for contacting us.. then don't contact us... Simple.

Anyone else feel the same or beg to differ?

EireCpl xxxx"

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam

"As another point to couples/women... Don't have 10 paragraphs on your profile... All it does is make men stop reading after the first line.

Why read it,

send a profile pic

With an imaginative introduction

Try not to offend

While at the same time, giving insight into yourself

When they're not gonna reply anyway

And don't constantly mention blocking people

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

"I just wanna drink whiskey talk Shite laugh and rub the lady's knee

They show a bit of knee? The sl#ts!!!!

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

"I'd just like to apologise again for the fifteen cock shots (that I appear to have sent twice!)....

I don't know what came over me....

Ah but I bet you weren't cock blocked!!!!"

I just use my elbow when that happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd just like to apologise again for the fifteen cock shots (that I appear to have sent twice!)....

I don't know what came over me....

Ah but I bet you weren't cock blocked!!!!

I just use my elbow when that happens

Yeah I think I've been on the receiving end of that sharpened elbow before

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By *ireannCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

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Thanks for all the feed back folks. We don't normally post here but we were just feeling a little aggreaved by the lack of people not reading our profile when we are specific about what we are looking for.

For anyone that may think we are time wasters or pic collectors we'll put all our verifications up for a while so people can see we have met single guys, girls and couples.

Thank you all for your input.

EireCpl xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the feed back folks. We don't normally post here but we were just feeling a little aggreaved by the lack of people not reading our profile when we are specific about what we are looking for.

For anyone that may think we are time wasters or pic collectors we'll put all our verifications up for a while so people can see we have met single guys, girls and couples.

Thank you all for your input.

EireCpl xxxx"

Sorry folks... A lot of pent up anger thrown your way

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By *ireannCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

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For anyone that may think we are time wasters or pic collectors we'll put all our verifications up for a while so people can see we have met single guys, girls and couples.

Thank you all for your input.

EireCpl xxxx

Sorry folks... A lot of pent up anger thrown your way "

Not at all J, no harm no foul

Like us, people had to get their point out there

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

Mehh,that is all. (for now)

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By *exysam and StuartCouple
over a year ago

over the hills and far away

"I don't think it's that they purposely go against....they just don't bother their arse to read unfortunately

In my experience anyway..."

Exactly this. We have filters up now as the one liners and "in your area" does my nut.

We don't meet at the drop of a hat and there has to be a connection with the person or we won't play.

Sam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For anyone that may think we are time wasters or pic collectors we'll put all our verifications up for a while so people can see we have met single guys, girls and couples.

Thank you all for your input.

EireCpl xxxx"

Well I can only say you are one of the most genuine couples I've met both on and off of here. Keep it lit!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some very snooty comments on here towards single males...

1.Yes a lot of attention can be annoying.... So take your pics down you might not get noticed as much

2. The men on the site don't know you... So why send a face pic to a stranger before they say hello?

3. The men weren't put on here to satisfy your particular taste so they might be perfect they might be a terrible match. But one message isnt going to tell you that.

Tired of reading posts like this EVERY DAYYYYYYYYYYYY

Absolutely... so then don't contact people if you don't meet the criteria.. it's that simple"

Vast majority of the women and couples that message me, don't meet my criteria or I don't meet thiers.

News flash, ignorance works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get that its annoying all the mail from non verified guys etc,but i dont meet any guy without seeing his cock lol so could all the women stop slamming cock pics on profiles because now a lot of guys are hiding their cocks which is boring in my eyes

and if cock pics were that off putting how come everytime i post a cock pic it makes the hotlist

I’m with team Alexia!

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By *izard00Man
over a year ago

Galway

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By *izard00Man
over a year ago

Galway

Bold I can't wait to turn 28 and be able to message you lol

and if cock pics were that off putting how come everytime i post a cock pic it makes the hotlist

I’m with team Alexia!

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

you could follow everything a woman tells you to do on here and still not get replies. i scan profiles, I very seldom read word for word.

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By *ittyMissKittyWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I'd just like to apologise again for the fifteen cock shots (that I appear to have sent twice!)....

I don't know what came over me....

Ah but I bet you weren't cock blocked!!!!

I just use my elbow when that happens

Some elbow

knocked the wind out of anyone

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