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By *verage Joe Black OP   Man
over a year ago

Border Area

I recently had my first MMF threesome, and it was a bit of a disaster. I was understandably nervous as it was my first time; the couple were lovely and it started with the husband giving his wife an all over naked massage.

When he finished, he asked if I would like his wife to give me one, and obviously I agreed. Her massage though was of course straddling me, naked, rubbing gel on my cock... at any other time this would be great, but the guy kept staring at me and this put me off, making it hard (no pun intended) to stay, well, hard..!

Eventually as I couldn’t come I suggested she take care of her husband and he willingly fucked her on the bed beside me. A little awkwardness afterwards with me not knowing the cue to get dressed and leave.

Two weeks later I had my second MMF, with a different couple. This time I got to take the lead and went down on the guys wife, instructing him to hold her arms as I ravaged her beautiful pussy with my tongue, making her cum three times over the space of an hour and regularly squirting. This was my comfort zone and I didn’t mind the husband being there. Afterwards she gave me a great blow job and swallowed - but he had left the hotel room at that point.

More awkwardness as to when to take cue and leave but more successful.

But I just don’t think I’m cut out for MMF as it seems creepy having another guy watching me with his wife.

What will I do Marjorie...? Help....!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've no experience with this but your second experience was better and I think that trend will continue. Just like the first time you've sex. It's kinda awkward (usually) and then you get more and more comfortable the more you have it so I'd say keep doing it and it'll eventually feel natural.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Well for starters Op, if the couples are here on Fab, it's advisable not to broadcast every bloody detail of what went on in the bedroom...

You'd one bad and one good experience but how do you think those couples would feel reading this now?

My advice would be be to Google the word "empathy"... Oh yes and also to stop throwing bouquets at yourself. Otherwise, you wont be able to see yourself from the flowers

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By *verage Joe Black OP   Man
over a year ago

Border Area


"Well for starters Op, if the couples are here on Fab, it's advisable not to broadcast every bloody detail of what went on in the bedroom...

You'd one bad and one good experience but how do you think those couples would feel reading this now?

My advice would be be to Google the word "empathy"... Oh yes and also to stop throwing bouquets at yourself. Otherwise, you wont be able to see yourself from the flowers "

Don’t worry Tim, your secrets safe(ish)...

No, they (and the experiences) were in another country and are definitely not on Fab.

You don’t think it’s useful to share to see if other people emphasise (Gee I must have googled that big word...) with the awkwardness of their early 3some experiences then...?

Shame. I thought a place like fab would be sympathetic (must have googled that too) to my plight as a noobie and offer some advise from their experiences. Perhaps I was wrong...

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I see no problem whatever in this man's query.he clearly explained his situation very fairly.would be great if he gets good solid advise instead of trying to pick holes in everyone that looks for abit of help or opinion on here.I don't have experience of mmf but have been interested in knowing what it would be like.So far one good and one not so good experience OP.I think I'd be in the same boat as you if I went ahead with One,I'd be nervous and may be not know the ques of when to leave etc.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"Well for starters Op, if the couples are here on Fab, it's advisable not to broadcast every bloody detail of what went on in the bedroom...

You'd one bad and one good experience but how do you think those couples would feel reading this now?

My advice would be be to Google the word "empathy"... Oh yes and also to stop throwing bouquets at yourself. Otherwise, you wont be able to see yourself from the flowers

Don’t worry Tim, your secrets safe(ish)...

No, they (and the experiences) were in another country and are definitely not on Fab.

You don’t think it’s useful to share to see if other people emphasise (Gee I must have googled that big word...) with the awkwardness of their early 3some experiences then...?

Shame. I thought a place like fab would be sympathetic (must have googled that too) to my plight as a noobie and offer some advise from their experiences. Perhaps I was wrong...

"

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Playing the poor "plight" of a "noobie" angle now... even though you were on Fab over a year ago... nice touch bro

The first time any man has sex with a woman, it's usually not the performance of his life ... his second time is usually better. Should he consider giving up

sex with women altogether????

It's basically the same argument...

You asked for an opinion did you not Op?

Dr Phil couldn't have given you better advise than what I gave...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well for starters Op, if the couples are here on Fab, it's advisable not to broadcast every bloody detail of what went on in the bedroom...

You'd one bad and one good experience but how do you think those couples would feel reading this now?

My advice would be be to Google the word "empathy"... Oh yes and also to stop throwing bouquets at yourself. Otherwise, you wont be able to see yourself from the flowers "
I'm sure your really worried how the couples would feel..are you one off the famous whiteknights.?

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"Well for starters Op, if the couples are here on Fab, it's advisable not to broadcast every bloody detail of what went on in the bedroom...

You'd one bad and one good experience but how do you think those couples would feel reading this now?

My advice would be be to Google the word "empathy"... Oh yes and also to stop throwing bouquets at yourself. Otherwise, you wont be able to see yourself from the flowers I'm sure your really worried how the couples would feel..are you one off the famous whiteknights.?"

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I'm more the Dark knight but that's usually only around Halloween in my little batman outfit...

You don't know me from Adam yet find it easy to name call. Could you at least articulate a propeer paragraph to back up your wise and deeply insightful observation...

Actually, I do give a damn about other people and as for being famous, that's me and Mrs Clooney's business, k?

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir


"Well for starters Op, if the couples are here on Fab, it's advisable not to broadcast every bloody detail of what went on in the bedroom...

You'd one bad and one good experience but how do you think those couples would feel reading this now?

My advice would be be to Google the word "empathy"... Oh yes and also to stop throwing bouquets at yourself. Otherwise, you wont be able to see yourself from the flowers

Don’t worry Tim, your secrets safe(ish)...

No, they (and the experiences) were in another country and are definitely not on Fab.

You don’t think it’s useful to share to see if other people emphasise (Gee I must have googled that big word...) with the awkwardness of their early 3some experiences then...?

Shame. I thought a place like fab would be sympathetic (must have googled that too) to my plight as a noobie and offer some advise from their experiences. Perhaps I was wrong...

"

To be fair op you didn't state that the couple's were not on here so it was a valid point and you did ask for opinions...opinions differ so not all will be favourable. Maybe empathy over emphasis is called for here

Welcome back Joe

Madame B

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By *verage Joe Black OP   Man
over a year ago

Border Area


"

To be fair op you didn't state that the couple's were not on here so it was a valid point and you did ask for opinions...opinions differ so not all will be favourable. Maybe empathy over emphasis is called for here

Welcome back Joe

Madame B"

Ah Madame B: a voice of reason and sanity...! Very pleased to know you are still on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always think fair play to any lads that get involved in mmf with a couple as I'm sure it's tough for the first few times. Only you can answer if it's for you though op... It might get easier or you might still find it awkward but only you can decide that.

As for when you are finished... Why not just say well I suppose I best get going, that was fun etc etc

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By *verage Joe Black OP   Man
over a year ago

Border Area


"I always think fair play to any lads that get involved in mmf with a couple as I'm sure it's tough for the first few times. Only you can answer if it's for you though op... It might get easier or you might still find it awkward but only you can decide that.

As for when you are finished... Why not just say well I suppose I best get going, that was fun etc etc "

Thank you for the advice and opinion

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"I always think fair play to any lads that get involved in mmf with a couple as I'm sure it's tough for the first few times. Only you can answer if it's for you though op... It might get easier or you might still find it awkward but only you can decide that.

As for when you are finished... Why not just say well I suppose I best get going, that was fun etc etc "

Good advice.

Also, Tim, the fact OP has been here a year doesn't mean they have lots of MMF experience, so what's that about?

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir


"

To be fair op you didn't state that the couple's were not on here so it was a valid point and you did ask for opinions...opinions differ so not all will be favourable. Maybe empathy over emphasis is called for here

Welcome back Joe

Madame B

Ah Madame B: a voice of reason and sanity...! Very pleased to know you are still on here "

Cheers Joe, mines a bud

As for the post, personally I think the couple should politely make it clear on cues to leave but if not then assume that they want couple time unless otherwise stated. Enjoy

MB

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By *verage Joe Black OP   Man
over a year ago

Border Area


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Cheers Joe, mines a bud

As for the post, personally I think the couple should politely make it clear on cues to leave but if not then assume that they want couple time unless otherwise stated. Enjoy

MB

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Thank you; that’s what I sensed from the second couple, but I wasn’t sure...

Anyway, about that threesome... lol

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By *he Kinky KinksCouple
over a year ago

Dublin-Kildare

We regularly have other guys join in 3-ways, and I (Mr) feel its my “part” to make the guy feel relaxed around me. Bit of a chat, maybe leave the room at start, by the time I come back in his mojo would be in full flow lol.

As for the leaving part, when it’s over I just say thanks, and I’ll drop you veri, because we do appreciate it can be awkward for a lad when the fun is over. Sometimes she might like to sleep between both of us and get a morning surprise but that’s another story

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Hey OP. When it comes to meeting couples it will usually be pretty standard that the male will want to watch or be involved.

I've had a number of three ways with C now and it really turns me on watching her with another man and sometimes joining in.

For the first number of threesomes it took me a while to get used to the whole being naked around another guy situation but you do get used to it so I guess that also means if you try it enough you will get used to being watched.

However we always do everything possible to ensure that the other guy is comfortable.

We will always meet the other guy for a social first to have chit chat and banter to make him comfortable with us before any play meet is arranged.

Before a play meet we will tell the guy that there is no pressure or expectations, that if he gets a mental block or stage fright and can't perform then we won't be judging or disappointed and that it should still be a good night even if it ends up being just drinks and banter again. Our first few threesomes I got a mental block myself. It happens.

Before a play meet we will always let the other guy know what is acceptable and not acceptable etc and we also tell him beforehand if he can stay the night or if we will be wanting him to leave and that we will politely let him know when he has to leave. We also tell him that during our play meet if at any time he feels uncomfortable or wants a timeout or wants to stop completely then he only has to say and we won't be offended. We also let him know that if at any time there is anything he wants to say or ask then it's no problem and we won't be offended.

We understand that for a guy joining a couple it can be quite intimidating being the outsider to their relationship so that's why we do everything possible to put the guy at ease.

Usually at the start what I sometimes do is leave the room and go have a smoke so C can usually initiate things and the guy feels a bit more relaxed without me watching then when I land back I would keep my distance, I tend to find sitting on a chair on other side of room or in corner is better than being right next to or on top of them so the guy doesn't feel the watching as much. I also try not to talk or say too much as I know a guy suddenly hearing me speak reminds him or can make him aware again that there is another guy close by watching which can be off putting. After things have gotten going then usually the guy becomes ok with being watched and me joining in.

All it really boils down to for you is communication. That is the key word. You just need to communicate well with the couple before and during the meet so that you are clear or everything and don't have any doubts. Any decent couple won't mind you asking things before or during a meet so long as you do so in a polite manner. Best of luck with future meets.

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By *verage Joe Black OP   Man
over a year ago

Border Area


"We regularly have other guys join in 3-ways, and I (Mr) feel its my “part” to make the guy feel relaxed around me. Bit of a chat, maybe leave the room at start, by the time I come back in his mojo would be in full flow lol.

As for the leaving part, when it’s over I just say thanks, and I’ll drop you veri, because we do appreciate it can be awkward for a lad when the fun is over. Sometimes she might like to sleep between both of us and get a morning surprise but that’s another story "

Appreciate the advice - thank you

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By *verage Joe Black OP   Man
over a year ago

Border Area


"Hey OP. When it comes to meeting couples it will usually be pretty standard that the male will want to watch or be involved.

I've had a number of three ways with C now and it really turns me on watching her with another man and sometimes joining in.

For the first number of threesomes it took me a while to get used to the whole being naked around another guy situation but you do get used to it so I guess that also means if you try it enough you will get used to being watched.

However we always do everything possible to ensure that the other guy is comfortable.

We will always meet the other guy for a social first to have chit chat and banter to make him comfortable with us before any play meet is arranged.

Before a play meet we will tell the guy that there is no pressure or expectations, that if he gets a mental block or stage fright and can't perform then we won't be judging or disappointed and that it should still be a good night even if it ends up being just drinks and banter again. Our first few threesomes I got a mental block myself. It happens.

Before a play meet we will always let the other guy know what is acceptable and not acceptable etc and we also tell him beforehand if he can stay the night or if we will be wanting him to leave and that we will politely let him know when he has to leave. We also tell him that during our play meet if at any time he feels uncomfortable or wants a timeout or wants to stop completely then he only has to say and we won't be offended. We also let him know that if at any time there is anything he wants to say or ask then it's no problem and we won't be offended.

We understand that for a guy joining a couple it can be quite intimidating being the outsider to their relationship so that's why we do everything possible to put the guy at ease.

Usually at the start what I sometimes do is leave the room and go have a smoke so C can usually initiate things and the guy feels a bit more relaxed without me watching then when I land back I would keep my distance, I tend to find sitting on a chair on other side of room or in corner is better than being right next to or on top of them so the guy doesn't feel the watching as much. I also try not to talk or say too much as I know a guy suddenly hearing me speak reminds him or can make him aware again that there is another guy close by watching which can be off putting. After things have gotten going then usually the guy becomes ok with being watched and me joining in.

All it really boils down to for you is communication. That is the key word. You just need to communicate well with the couple before and during the meet so that you are clear or everything and don't have any doubts. Any decent couple won't mind you asking things before or during a meet so long as you do so in a polite manner. Best of luck with future meets."

Wow - that is a really comprehensive view from both sides. Thank you so much for taking the time to add such useful and honest commentary - really appreciate your time

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