FabSwingers.com forum: Is it Wrong to Pay for a Good Time?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is the general consensus that only desperate, sleazy and dodgy men pay for sex, and only desperate slutty or oppressed women charge for it ? Whether we find the concept of exchanging money for sex ethical or moral is a personal one, but the fact remains that prostitution is the oldest known profession. There would seem to be a lot of people wanting to have sex with a lot of strangers. Any thoughts folks?

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam

I have no problem with people doing it but, it's not for me.

I'd rather have sex with a lady that wants to have sex with me and not because she's getting paid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me no it isn't wrong for 2 or more consenting adults of free will and sound mind to engage in a transaction that brnefits both.

If any party is not there of free will or sound mind or is coerced then no I don't agree with it.

Make no mistake about it it isn't only cash women can have sex for. Career progression (under duress often) presents, inclusion into a new social strata.

How many pug ugly footballers/celeb's are with stunning ladies that in all reality may not be with said footballer etc if in a position of less financial power.

People sell their labour in many ways. Be it down a coal mine/military in a war zone/fisherman/police etc. Many face situation s where they put their own safety at risk for the pay packet at the end of the week.

If a lady or gent is willing to provide a sexual service then once they are of legal age/sound state of mind/consenting I think it is their own business what they do.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Once there's no imbalance of power then I have no problem with people doing what they want in this regard. One man's morals are another man's, well, something else other than morals.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Once there's no imbalance of power then I have no problem with people doing what they want in this regard. One man's morals are another man's, well, something else other than morals. "

Women become involved in prostitution for economic reasons, is prostitution not the sexualisation of power based on gender, class etc?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Once there's no imbalance of power then I have no problem with people doing what they want in this regard. One man's morals are another man's, well, something else other than morals.

Women become involved in prostitution for economic reasons, is prostitution not the sexualisation of power based on gender, class etc?"

Some get forced into it though too

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Once there's no imbalance of power then I have no problem with people doing what they want in this regard. One man's morals are another man's, well, something else other than morals.

Women become involved in prostitution for economic reasons, is prostitution not the sexualisation of power based on gender, class etc?"

Many do but not all. One of the representatives for sex workers in Ireland that I've seen interviewed a number of times said she became involved because she realised there was a lucrative market for something she had that she could sell and enjoy at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Once there's no imbalance of power then I have no problem with people doing what they want in this regard. One man's morals are another man's, well, something else other than morals.

Women become involved in prostitution for economic reasons, is prostitution not the sexualisation of power based on gender, class etc?

Some get forced into it though too "

The number of detected victims of trafficking in Ireland has risen from 78 in 2015 to 95 in 2016, the majority of these were being trafficked for sexual exploitation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dunno why folks are shocked at this subject , to some swinging is the stupid persons one step away from prostitution .no dout there are women trafficked in by gangs but they are probably the minority .if a woman or man for that matter wants to sell their body to a punter thats their own business but they on the wrong site here with that lark , most cant give it away here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turn off the red light is the campaign by former sex workers to criminalise the 'punter'. A man or a woman should never have to sell their body to survive, it may be 'the oldest profession' but we have stopped throwing live babies in dumps to die the way the Romans did or cutting off people's hands if they steal.

Your sexuality is very precious and selling it demeans the human being selling and buying, it dehumanises both parties.

I lived in an area of Dublin where women with their children in buggies looked for trade at the end of our street, they were surviving, not exploiting a 'gap in the market' but being exploited by society.

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

its not all oppression.

Some ladies choose to do this profession to pay for their lifestyles or university degrees etc.

Some escorts chose their clients and choose what they do with them, its not always about intercourse.

Yes there are some people that are forced in to it, they are the ones i feel for.

But like any service, if there wasn't a market for it it wouldn't exist.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Am not going to judge anybody who sells or pays for sex...

Paying for sex is just not for me as I think chemistry and attraction should be the deciding factors behind great sex as opposed to a transaction with money involved...

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

Didn't a girl sell her virginity recently for a ridiculous amount of money, it's not all forced but it's a profession that has always been exploited.

I listened to a really interesting radio interview one day about a dominatrix and her client's.

No problem as long as the person doing it is fully consenting and in control of what they are doing.

Madame Boo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"its not all oppression.

Some ladies choose to do this profession to pay for their lifestyles or university degrees etc.

Some escorts chose their clients and choose what they do with them, its not always about intercourse.

Yes there are some people that are forced in to it, they are the ones i feel for.

But like any service, if there wasn't a market for it it wouldn't exist.

The debate on prostitution/sex work has always been very one sided, sex workers are often presented as victims who lack choice or real understanding of their own lives, when in fact they are a very diverse group of individuals with different life experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met an ex once this way . I met her for buisness and after she asked me for a drink we fell for each other . She loved what she did and so did I lol so she kept working even while we dated . Infact how I got into swinging . Sadly didn't work out between us for other reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a big turn-off for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the prostitute enjoys what she or he does i have no issue with it sounds like a quick way to get rich to me i might take up this occupation lol

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By *heislanderMan
over a year ago

cheshunt

"Turn off the red light is the campaign by former sex workers to criminalise the 'punter'. A man or a woman should never have to sell their body to survive, it may be 'the oldest profession' but we have stopped throwing live babies in dumps to die the way the Romans did or cutting off people's hands if they steal.

Your sexuality is very precious and selling it demeans the human being selling and buying, it dehumanises both parties.

Yeah of course there’s that side of it but not every women is doing it to survive, I think you underestimate a lot of women by saying that. I may be biased because I do “ pay for it”. I have a regular girl that I see, and I know it’s a business transaction, however the lady is not doing it to survive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no problem with people doing it but, it's not for me.

I'd rather have sex with a lady that wants to have sex with me and not because she's getting paid."

Dats a lie!

U don't no any ladies..true story

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