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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Someone has recently made contact with me. A so called vanilla bf. This guy hurt me but even still has the ability to draw me in. Do I allow a friendship or do I just ignore my feelings and cut him out. A fab point of view would be great

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

Stick with us Sally

Sex without the shackles

Unless of course....

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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago

in da sticks, london, amsterdam, madrid

If he did hurt you ...why would you let him anywhere near. In particular on FAB? What would make you think he would not hurt you again

I don’t get it really, do I miss something ?

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"Someone has recently made contact with me. A so called vanilla bf. This guy hurt me but even still has the ability to draw me in. Do I allow a friendship or do I just ignore my feelings and cut him out. A fab point of view would be great "

the only person that has the answer to that sally is u.. end of the day no matter what ppl say u already know the answer deep down and thats the one you go with.. after all its ur life so whats best for u is all that matters..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id not make friendship again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone has recently made contact with me. A so called vanilla bf. This guy hurt me but even still has the ability to draw me in. Do I allow a friendship or do I just ignore my feelings and cut him out. A fab point of view would be great

the only person that has the answer to that sally is u.. end of the day no matter what ppl say u already know the answer deep down and thats the one you go with.. after all its ur life so whats best for u is all that matters.. "

Nail on the head..u wont get a better response than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same, getting hurt the second time, by the same person, hurts more.

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By *otnwild69Couple
over a year ago

cork city

I can't really say as I don't know the specifics (and not asking for them as its none of my business) but if it were me I would be civil and polite but let it go no further than that. Only you can decide how to deal with it hun but whatever you choose, we're here for you x

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By *auraLucyLuLuWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Sometimes people from our past that have hurt us are best left in the past... I'm all for giving people second chances but deep down we know the ones that deserve that second chance and those we just cut loose.. good luck with your decision x

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By *ombikerMan
over a year ago

the right side of the river

A clean break, look forward to the future,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just trust your gut instinct Sally, it's rarely wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe in 2nd chances unless it was a physical or mentally abusive relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit of a sap, I'd always give a second chance. If it was really good before the hurt, I'd risk it again. You survived the last time, you can do it again, but hopefully you won't have to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The things i would ask myself are is it worth it and what would he bring into my life and finally and most importantly if he did hurt me again could i survive!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a bit of a sap, I'd always give a second chance. If it was really good before the hurt, I'd risk it again. You survived the last time, you can do it again, but hopefully you won't have to. "

See this is what my hearts saying to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes people from our past that have hurt us are best left in the past... I'm all for giving people second chances but deep down we know the ones that deserve that second chance and those we just cut loose.. good luck with your decision x"

This is what my heads saying ... I think I need to sleep on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a bit of a sap, I'd always give a second chance. If it was really good before the hurt, I'd risk it again. You survived the last time, you can do it again, but hopefully you won't have to.

See this is what my hearts saying to me "

You know something? Life is too damn short. If he got you like no one else ever did, and he wants to try again, grab it with both hands. I know I would x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a bit of a sap, I'd always give a second chance. If it was really good before the hurt, I'd risk it again. You survived the last time, you can do it again, but hopefully you won't have to.

See this is what my hearts saying to me

You know something? Life is too damn short. If he got you like no one else ever did, and he wants to try again, grab it with both hands. I know I would x"

Fuck it go for it exactly life too short xx

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast


"I'm a bit of a sap, I'd always give a second chance. If it was really good before the hurt, I'd risk it again. You survived the last time, you can do it again, but hopefully you won't have to.

See this is what my hearts saying to me

You know something? Life is too damn short. If he got you like no one else ever did, and he wants to try again, grab it with both hands. I know I would x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on circumstance . Sometimes people realise there mistake .. but one chance . Two chance after that .. never go back id say

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a bit of a sap, I'd always give a second chance. If it was really good before the hurt, I'd risk it again. You survived the last time, you can do it again, but hopefully you won't have to.

See this is what my hearts saying to me

You know something? Life is too damn short. If he got you like no one else ever did, and he wants to try again, grab it with both hands. I know I would x"

He got me, he really got me

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By * am in Your DreamsMan
over a year ago

South

Sally I live by this saying, Fuck me once shame on you Fuck me twice shame on me. Pardon the pun. You did not see it coming the first time but a second. Put yourself first lady.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Op, am guessing part of you is still very fond of this person but part of you knows the dangers of them too...

All I'll say is that history doesn't repeat itself but it certainly rhymes. Ask yourself is if it all goes wrong, are you prepared to go through being hurt again plus this time blaming yourself for giving them that second chance???

Only you know the answer but if you do bring them back, explain that there's parameters and if they cross they're gone for good, no questions asked...

Taking care of yourself is your #1 priority here so best of luck with whatever you decide to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow your

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd sleep on it if I were you.make ur decision very carefully.

While some people are capable of change and genuinely sorry for what they done and willing to make it up others aren't

U will know urself whether ur willing to take that leap and see how it goes

All the best in whatever decision u make

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Op, am guessing part of you is still very fond of this person but part of you knows the dangers of them too...

All I'll say is that history doesn't repeat itself but it certainly rhymes. Ask yourself is if it all goes wrong, are you prepared to go through being hurt again plus this time blaming yourself for giving them that second chance???

Only you know the answer but if you do bring them back, explain that there's parameters and if they cross they're gone for good, no questions asked...

Taking care of yourself is your #1 priority here so best of luck with whatever you decide to do "

Thanks that's good well put advise. Thank you

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By *r_mrs_studmuffinCouple
over a year ago

narnia


"Someone has recently made contact with me. A so called vanilla bf. This guy hurt me but even still has the ability to draw me in. Do I allow a friendship or do I just ignore my feelings and cut him out. A fab point of view would be great

the only person that has the answer to that sally is u.. end of the day no matter what ppl say u already know the answer deep down and thats the one you go with.. after all its ur life so whats best for u is all that matters.. "
have to agree sweetlips only the op can answer that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd sleep on it if I were you.make ur decision very carefully.

While some people are capable of change and genuinely sorry for what they done and willing to make it up others aren't

U will know urself whether ur willing to take that leap and see how it goes

All the best in whatever decision u make"

I'm sleeping on it .. I'll know in the morning. The head is the best decision I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op.. Asking a bunch of strangers that know nothing about the previous relationship you had with this guy, will not give you the answer..

I would think he would be the one you should have this discussion with and then go with your gut feeling or what is right for you..

best of luck..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone has recently made contact with me. A so called vanilla bf. This guy hurt me but even still has the ability to draw me in. Do I allow a friendship or do I just ignore my feelings and cut him out. A fab point of view would be great "

We are all different in how forgiving we are when hurt. I'm a once bitten twice shy type and cursed with a long memory. Basically only you can decide whether you want to leave yourself vulnerable to more hurt with this guy or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please be careful as you can see i was on fab before got hurt big time.. don't rush into anything. Take your time

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By *otbod81Man
over a year ago

navan

Live life don't ponder

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By *ugarandspice101Couple
over a year ago

Belfast


"The things i would ask myself are is it worth it and what would he bring into my life and finally and most importantly if he did hurt me again could i survive!"

And also can you trust him enough not to hurt you again? Hugs Sally hope things work out for the best x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Please be careful as you can see i was on fab before got hurt big time.. don't rush into anything. Take your time "

Thank you .. I've decided I'm not going back. I'm here I'm having fun and honestly there's less liars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please be careful as you can see i was on fab before got hurt big time.. don't rush into anything. Take your time

Thank you .. I've decided I'm not going back. I'm here I'm having fun and honestly there's less liars "

Less liars, than bingo? I dont mean to be flippant, but what does that mean?

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

Sally I think if you really wanted him back you wouldn't need to ask the question. If you're happy stay that way. Think back to when and how he hurt you. You might find the answer that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s an old saying....

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

I think you already know not to go there. Some people just like to fuck with other people’s heads....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sally I think you knew the answer but just wanted it aired. Personally I think you made the right call.

Also your opening post reminded me a half remembered movie.

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By *irdnBorisMan
over a year ago

meath

Good call sally life is not easy at times and very hard but in the end we all make a good choice all the best sally . Mick x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't answer him back sally if he hurt you!! Cut him loose and move on, you don't need the crap! Thats what I would do if someone did something wrong to me anyway.

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