FabSwingers.com forum: You can tell a lot about a genuine confident woman

By *aider190 OP Man
over a year ago

swords

Anyone ever gone on a meet and it is you who ends up paying for everything. Coffees , drinks etc . There is no effort by the other party to put their hand in their pocket . ... When it has happened to me .....it's a good indicator that you are been played.... Happy to say it's only happened twice to me on this site as nearly all the ladies I have met insist on going Dutch or buying round for round ... Just to be clear money is not the issue , it's the been taken for a fool that irkes me

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Lol white wine plz. All jokes aside I'd pay my way and gets drinks...I'm a independent woman go me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol white wine plz. All jokes aside I'd pay my way and gets drinks...I'm a independent woman go me

Me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP that has happened to me - and I am the woman!!!

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By *aider190 OP Man
over a year ago

swords

I have no doubt that some of my own gender behave this way ... Is it just a meanness of spirit (forgive the pun)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no doubt that some of my own gender behave this way ... Is it just a meanness of spirit (forgive the pun) "

All i know is it's a very unattractive trait - regardless of gender

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

Yup..been there...and also no attempt to contribute to hotel costs...

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By *aider190 OP Man
over a year ago

swords

"I have no doubt that some of my own gender behave this way ... Is it just a meanness of spirit (forgive the pun)

All i know is it's a very unattractive trait - regardless of gender "

The most unattractive trait of all

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

I get what you're saying Op. It's not about the money but it shows a touch of class and fairness for the other person to at least offer to pay for a coffee, meal or even some of the costs of a hotel room...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call me old fashioned, but, "A lady never pays in my company." That is something I picked up from my father. The original Mr Suave.

However, I do like when a lady offers on paying her share, even if her insistence falls on deaf ears

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging too expensive as it as so for hotels etc bill should be split as should rounds

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I'll always offer to pay or at least split the bill from a coffee to a hotel room....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excuse me OP I agree with your opinion that women should at least try contribute something or offer. But don’t see what it has to do with confidence? Independence maybe a better word

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By *aider190 OP Man
over a year ago

swords

"Excuse me OP I agree with your opinion that women should at least try contribute something or offer. But don’t see what it has to do with confidence? Independence maybe a better word "

Maybe just my experience but haven't met a confident lady who didn't pay her way ... Perhaps there are confident cheap skates out there as well lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP that has happened to me - and I am the woman!!!

I’ve met a few guys like that too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say there are plenty both sexes. There’s a few out there I’d say specifically ask ladies who accom to meet rather than attempt to pay a share of the hotel too. Definitely an expensive hobby.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

I met a guy once ( not off here) ordered a coffee and a cake and said I'll get a seat.I drove over 60kms because he didn't drive. Thought he would have bought me a coffee. I not bitter honest!

Hotels etc should be shared definitely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no doubt that some of my own gender behave this way ... Is it just a meanness of spirit (forgive the pun)

All i know is it's a very unattractive trait - regardless of gender

The most unattractive trait of all"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had this a lot with hotel rooms, we have had men pay for a hotel and we have payed next time etc which Is fine as this swinging malarkey can be expensive but find a lot of men once they find out we cant accommodate recommend car fun as an alternative

This does not go for all men on here!!!

Now op about this round for round thing

mines a gin

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By *aider190 OP Man
over a year ago

swords

First round is definitely on me ??

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By *auraLucyLuLuWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I suppose I've been lucky so far with the people I've met from here as they've always paid their share of the meet, hotel, dinner, drinks or whatever.... having said that when I was on another site I got stung for the lot and that was someone I was dating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it hard to fathom to be honest, I cant deal with stingy people, and unless car sex is your kink, its fuckin useless. I'm not really into hose calls, so hotels or neutral ground are the way to go, if I meet a lady, I would like to pay the bill, hopefully if there's a second calling, we work something out, split costs with a couple.

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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago

in da sticks, london, amsterdam, madrid

Probably I still belong to the old school cavaliers . I appreciate the offer of ladies to pickup a share of the bill, but would reject that as a gentleman . However I admit that I also became victim of having my genuine generosity being abused to excessive level

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some stingy feckers on fab it has to be said. One guy just made me look at him and think your dad really should have used a condom ya tight ****

Some really have no concept of going Dutch when it comes to setting up a meet. I'm sure there are women as bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's them aul tight southerners for ya.

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By *jb_1980Man
over a year ago

limerick

"OP that has happened to me - and I am the woman!!!

Serious???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP that has happened to me - and I am the woman!!!

Serious???"

Absofuckinglutely

I always go dutch btw

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

split the bill. easy peasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are some stingy feckers on fab it has to be said. One guy just made me look at him and think your dad really should have used a condom ya tight ****

Some really have no concept of going Dutch when it comes to setting up a meet. I'm sure there are women as bad."

That made me giggle lol.

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By *aider190 OP Man
over a year ago

swords

Well the verdict is in .....mean feckers both male and female are on this site . To be avoided when possible . The genuine decent fabbers are here and need to given the chance to prove how decent they are .... Here's to us all ... The genuine people who respect those they meet and never take advantage of those who have taken the time and made the effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well the verdict is in .....mean feckers both male and female are on this site . To be avoided when possible . The genuine decent fabbers are here and need to given the chance to prove how decent they are .... Here's to us all ... The genuine people who respect those they meet and never take advantage of those who have taken the time and made the effort "

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By *assie53Woman
over a year ago

dublin

I cant accommodate and I can’t afford to pay for hotels . I’m not into car fun . So if a guy can’t afford to pay a hotel the it just doesn’t happen . I’m up front and say..most guy are on business and have the hotel already paid for. I’m not mean or looking for a freebie just my situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a man invites me for coffee or dinner, I expect him to pay.

If we meet again I will pay.

It’s about who issues the invite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and if he invites me out and then appears to be a tight arse and makes a deal about the bill, I ll pay my way but run a mile.

It’s not the money it’s the sense of I ld like your company, and I ll request you to meet me, but then I ll have no decorum. No thanks - money is a delicate indicator of kindness, warmth and fairness.

A cheap coffee is usually a good first meeting to gage people in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and if he invites me out and then appears to be a tight arse and makes a deal about the bill, I ll pay my way but run a mile.

A cheap coffee is usually a good first meeting to gage people in general. "

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"I cant accommodate and I can’t afford to pay for hotels . I’m not into car fun . So if a guy can’t afford to pay a hotel the it just doesn’t happen . I’m up front and say..most guy are on business and have the hotel already paid for. I’m not mean or looking for a freebie just my situation "

Once you're up front about it I think that's fair enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you're up front about it I think that's fair enough."

Is it fair enough? If you cant afford the lifestyle, should you be involved in it?

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

Once you're up front about it I think that's fair enough.

Is it fair enough? If you cant afford the lifestyle, should you be involved in it?"

Yes of course it's fair. If you're up front it's up to the other person to make the decision. As she said most guys are in hotels on business. I get messages saying in Dublin on business etc.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Oh and if he invites me out and then appears to be a tight arse and makes a deal about the bill, I ll pay my way but run a mile.

A cheap coffee is usually a good first meeting to gage people in general. "

And if u ask him to meet for coffee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you're up front about it I think that's fair enough.

Is it fair enough? If you cant afford the lifestyle, should you be involved in it?

Yes of course it's fair. If you're up front it's up to the other person to make the decision. As she said most guys are in hotels on business. I get messages saying in Dublin on business etc. "

I would personally find it degrading to be honest.

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

The issue is the assumption and lack of kindness not making any attempt to contribute, not the price of a coffee.And i would also say this applies to how much effort individuals will put into a meet...any meet..ie how far they will travel, what time of day, which day...what venue

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Once you're up front about it I think that's fair enough.

Is it fair enough? If you cant afford the lifestyle, should you be involved in it?"

Uuuuhhhh very snobby! I didn't know that swinging is only for the well offs.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

Once you're up front about it I think that's fair enough.

Is it fair enough? If you cant afford the lifestyle, should you be involved in it?

Yes of course it's fair. If you're up front it's up to the other person to make the decision. As she said most guys are in hotels on business. I get messages saying in Dublin on business etc.

I would personally find it degrading to be honest."

How?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a man invites me for coffee or dinner, I expect him to pay.

If we meet again I will pay.

It’s about who issues the invite. "

What if he issues the invite again? And again the next time? And the next time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you're up front about it I think that's fair enough.

Is it fair enough? If you cant afford the lifestyle, should you be involved in it?

Uuuuhhhh very snobby! I didn't know that swinging is only for the well offs.

Ffs how can someone say they can never afford to contribute to a hotel? I'm sorry but that's just nonsense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you're up front about it I think that's fair enough.

Is it fair enough? If you cant afford the lifestyle, should you be involved in it?

Yes of course it's fair. If you're up front it's up to the other person to make the decision. As she said most guys are in hotels on business. I get messages saying in Dublin on business etc.

I would personally find it degrading to be honest.

How?"

Where would you see the difference in being offered cash or your costs covered, are they not one in the same ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Call me old fashioned, but, "A lady never pays in my company." That is something I picked up from my father. The original Mr Suave.

However, I do like when a lady offers on paying her share, even if her insistence falls on deaf ears "

Cringe. Mugs words

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By *ollymouse3Woman
over a year ago

sligo

I think ppl use this site as a dating site to be honest. It should be shared 50/50 as far as im concerned

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

Once you're up front about it I think that's fair enough.

Is it fair enough? If you cant afford the lifestyle, should you be involved in it?

Yes of course it's fair. If you're up front it's up to the other person to make the decision. As she said most guys are in hotels on business. I get messages saying in Dublin on business etc.

I would personally find it degrading to be honest.

How?

Where would you see the difference in being offered cash or your costs covered, are they not one in the same ?"

But it's not the same. The girl said she couldn't afford accommodation. She never said she wouldn't buy a drink or go halves on a meal. Accommodation in Dublin is ridiculous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and if he invites me out and then appears to be a tight arse and makes a deal about the bill, I ll pay my way but run a mile.

A cheap coffee is usually a good first meeting to gage people in general.

And if u ask him to meet for coffee"

I ll pay - if he is the one accommodating my wish.

I was once hung over and wanted an Indian and suggested it to a pof guy, my treat.

I paid, and when my back was turned he pocketed the tip - byeeeeee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a man invites me for coffee or dinner, I expect him to pay.

If we meet again I will pay.

It’s about who issues the invite.

What if he issues the invite again? And again the next time? And the next time?"

If we continue to meet it ll be a mutual desire and I ll pay my half.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Oh and if he invites me out and then appears to be a tight arse and makes a deal about the bill, I ll pay my way but run a mile.

A cheap coffee is usually a good first meeting to gage people in general.

And if u ask him to meet for coffee

I ll pay - if he is the one accommodating my wish.

I was once hung over and wanted an Indian and suggested it to a pof guy, my treat.

I paid, and when my back was turned he pocketed the tip - byeeeeee"

Really pmsi that's low

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll always offer to pay or at least split the bill from a coffee to a hotel room...."

We can have a fight over it and then make u.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you're up front about it I think that's fair enough.

Is it fair enough? If you cant afford the lifestyle, should you be involved in it?

Yes of course it's fair. If you're up front it's up to the other person to make the decision. As she said most guys are in hotels on business. I get messages saying in Dublin on business etc.

I would personally find it degrading to be honest.

How?

Where would you see the difference in being offered cash or your costs covered, are they not one in the same ?

But it's not the same. The girl said she couldn't afford accommodation. She never said she wouldn't buy a drink or go halves on a meal. Accommodation in Dublin is ridiculous. "

Nor did she say that she would contribute to any other costs involved, I don't do random meets, but I am conscious of potential implications when going on a meet..And that ain't a scenario im getting involved in, if your going to meet me then do so as an equal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and if he invites me out and then appears to be a tight arse and makes a deal about the bill, I ll pay my way but run a mile.

A cheap coffee is usually a good first meeting to gage people in general.

And if u ask him to meet for coffee

I ll pay - if he is the one accommodating my wish.

I was once hung over and wanted an Indian and suggested it to a pof guy, my treat.

I paid, and when my back was turned he pocketed the tip - byeeeeee

Really pmsi that's low

Yep really - I was morto because I love that Indian place, hate the staff to see me hanging out with a skank like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you say something to the guy who took the tip?

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Once you're up front about it I think that's fair enough.

Is it fair enough? If you cant afford the lifestyle, should you be involved in it?

Uuuuhhhh very snobby! I didn't know that swinging is only for the well offs.

Ffs how can someone say they can never afford to contribute to a hotel? I'm sorry but that's just nonsense"

It's not nonsense when you earn very little or when you're unemployed. She's upfront about it, so what's the problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you say something to the guy who took the tip? "

I went home and he messaged me with the - “nice to meet u, I enjoyed it” kinda thing.

I messaged him back saying “yeah the food and service is always very good in there” then blocked him

Everywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why didn't you ask directly?

Seems like a very odd thing to do

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"Did you say something to the guy who took the tip?

I went home and he messaged me with the - “nice to meet u, I enjoyed it” kinda thing.

I messaged him back saying “yeah the food and service is always very good in there” then blocked him

Everywhere "

I would have told him to hand it over.

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By *assie53Woman
over a year ago

dublin

But you don’t have to worry I would not be meeting you anyway lol

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"But you don’t have to worry I would not be meeting you anyway lol "

Cassie use the reply and quote so we know who you're referring to.

. Its easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why didn't you ask directly?

Seems like a very odd thing to do "

Is this for me ??

I know he did it, but it took me a few secs to twig what happened. I got up to leave, he let me walk past first and I sensed his arm

Move across the table ... it was only as I walked across the restaurant I twigged what had happened.

I think I’m fairness, he was trying to gather up money to buy me a drink/drinks back ... but I just went home. (He was broke).

I didn’t care he was broke, I was just looking for some company. But u know ... u just don’t do that. I ld (obviously) have more respect if he just said .... thanks, goodnight ... or thanks, I ll get u back when I can.

The robbing was skanky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was saying it's odd to nick the tip... I think I'd have to say something but maybe in the moment I'd be distracted by "Wtf, did that just happen"?

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Once you're up front about it I think that's fair enough.

Is it fair enough? If you cant afford the lifestyle, should you be involved in it?

Yes of course it's fair. If you're up front it's up to the other person to make the decision. As she said most guys are in hotels on business. I get messages saying in Dublin on business etc.

I would personally find it degrading to be honest.

How?

Where would you see the difference in being offered cash or your costs covered, are they not one in the same ?

But it's not the same. The girl said she couldn't afford accommodation. She never said she wouldn't buy a drink or go halves on a meal. Accommodation in Dublin is ridiculous.

I think that's fair enough and understandable. However with her being open about it you've the choice to go along with it or leave it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was saying it's odd to nick the tip... I think I'd have to say something but maybe in the moment I'd be distracted by "Wtf, did that just happen"? "

I think I was a bit shocked

Also the case nfrontation of it, (with someone who might be a bit weird given what they just did) didn’t seem worth it, on the street outside. I was more or less outside by the time I ld twigged it.

Girl confronting weird guy... not worth it - just block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confrontation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you're up front about it I think that's fair enough.

Is it fair enough? If you cant afford the lifestyle, should you be involved in it?

Yes of course it's fair. If you're up front it's up to the other person to make the decision. As she said most guys are in hotels on business. I get messages saying in Dublin on business etc.

I would personally find it degrading to be honest.

How?

Where would you see the difference in being offered cash or your costs covered, are they not one in the same ?

But it's not the same. The girl said she couldn't afford accommodation. She never said she wouldn't buy a drink or go halves on a meal. Accommodation in Dublin is ridiculous.

I think that's fair enough and understandable. However with her being open about it you've the choice to go along with it or leave it. "

I do have the choice absolutely, as I do with expressing my opinion on the matter, as you say hunter, each on their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

*Empties pockets and counts out two crumpled up fivers and some coins*

Can I interest any of you ladies in a Happy Meal a la McDonaldy Ronaldy?

We can play on the swings in their wee play park after.

Who says romance is dead, eh?

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"*Empties pockets and counts out two crumpled up fivers and some coins*

Can I interest any of you ladies in a Happy Meal a la McDonaldy Ronaldy?

We can play on the swings in their wee play park after.

Who says romance is dead, eh?

Would ya stretch to a hot apple pie?

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"*Empties pockets and counts out two crumpled up fivers and some coins*

Can I interest any of you ladies in a Happy Meal a la McDonaldy Ronaldy?

We can play on the swings in their wee play park after.

Who says romance is dead, eh?

Would ya stretch to a hot apple pie?

*Pokes hands down sofa and rummages out some more coins*

Done!!!! Some hot apple pie also, for madam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*Empties pockets and counts out two crumpled up fivers and some coins*

Can I interest any of you ladies in a Happy Meal a la McDonaldy Ronaldy?

We can play on the swings in their wee play park after.

Who says romance is dead, eh?

Would ya stretch to a hot apple pie?

*Pokes hands down sofa and rummages out some more coins*

Done!!!! Some hot apple pie also, for madam.

Lol I’d be happy with a coffee and a donut cheers

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

I've met where I paid cause he wasn't paid til the end of the month. And it still rankles with him that I paid.

I've had many amazing night where a man didn't let me put my hand in my pocket and If I'd suggested paying or going halves they'd be offended.

Same with me buying a few drinks after they paid for everything else.

Does this make me a prostitute?? As was inferred by a previous poster

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"I've met where I paid cause he wasn't paid til the end of the month. And it still rankles with him that I paid.

I've had many amazing night where a man didn't let me put my hand in my pocket and If I'd suggested paying or going halves they'd be offended.

Same with me buying a few drinks after they paid for everything else.

Does this make me a prostitute?? As was inferred by a previous poster

Eh no! I don't think so anyway.

At least you offered to pay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Live..learn..toughing up..move on...next...

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

"I've met where I paid cause he wasn't paid til the end of the month. And it still rankles with him that I paid.

I've had many amazing night where a man didn't let me put my hand in my pocket and If I'd suggested paying or going halves they'd be offended.

Same with me buying a few drinks after they paid for everything else.

Does this make me a prostitute?? As was inferred by a previous poster

Eh no! I don't think so anyway.

At least you offered to pay."

There are an a lot of "gentlemen" on this site. Yeah I know I'm going to be roasted for that. Unfortunately the shits out way them

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"*Empties pockets and counts out two crumpled up fivers and some coins*

Can I interest any of you ladies in a Happy Meal a la McDonaldy Ronaldy?

We can play on the swings in their wee play park after.

Who says romance is dead, eh?

Would ya stretch to a hot apple pie?

*Pokes hands down sofa and rummages out some more coins*

Done!!!! Some hot apple pie also, for madam.

Lol I’d be happy with a coffee and a donut cheers

What kind of doughnuts are we talking here. I have quite the soft spot for doughnuts myself. I usually eat five a day.

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over a year ago

"I've met where I paid cause he wasn't paid til the end of the month. And it still rankles with him that I paid.

I've had many amazing night where a man didn't let me put my hand in my pocket and If I'd suggested paying or going halves they'd be offended.

Same with me buying a few drinks after they paid for everything else.

Does this make me a prostitute?? As was inferred by a previous poster

You don't just offer. You take out the money and give it to him. Just offering is a cop out and we all know some women's idea of offering is just half hearted at best

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over a year ago

"*Empties pockets and counts out two crumpled up fivers and some coins*

Can I interest any of you ladies in a Happy Meal a la McDonaldy Ronaldy?

We can play on the swings in their wee play park after.

Who says romance is dead, eh?

Would ya stretch to a hot apple pie?

*Pokes hands down sofa and rummages out some more coins*

Done!!!! Some hot apple pie also, for madam.

Lol I’d be happy with a coffee and a donut cheers

What kind of doughnuts are we talking here. I have quite the soft spot for doughnuts myself. I usually eat five a day.

Lol I’m easy the ones in McD’s are delicious if gotten fresh

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over a year ago

"I've met where I paid cause he wasn't paid til the end of the month. And it still rankles with him that I paid.

I've had many amazing night where a man didn't let me put my hand in my pocket and If I'd suggested paying or going halves they'd be offended.

Same with me buying a few drinks after they paid for everything else.

Does this make me a prostitute?? As was inferred by a previous poster

You don't just offer. You take out the money and give it to him. Just offering is a cop out and we all know some women's idea of offering is just half hearted at best"

Bananaman its not just the ladies who make halfhearted efforts when it comes to paying their share. I have previously booked hotels on my card as other person was short on funds. It becomes repetitive when, having met and enjoyed the fun attached to the booked room, the other person leaves the next day and later sends a by-the-way message saying ‘oh I forgot to pay my half of the room’ my reply ‘ u can get it the next time’ is pointless as the very same thing happens again and again. And so the pattern continues until eventually resentment builds. I expect to pay my half and I expect the same respect from others also.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"I've met where I paid cause he wasn't paid til the end of the month. And it still rankles with him that I paid.

I've had many amazing night where a man didn't let me put my hand in my pocket and If I'd suggested paying or going halves they'd be offended.

Same with me buying a few drinks after they paid for everything else.

Does this make me a prostitute?? As was inferred by a previous poster

You don't just offer. You take out the money and give it to him. Just offering is a cop out and we all know some women's idea of offering is just half hearted at best"

Ahhh Bananaman, we women can't do anything right, can we? I play the ball back and say why do men not just simply take the offer to go halfs if that's what they really want to do.

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over a year ago

"OP that has happened to me - and I am the woman!!!

I’ve met a few guys like that too!"

Me also. I was left to pay hotel and they ain't far from this thread either

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By *aider190 OP Man
over a year ago

swords

So many of us have had some experience of this type both male and female .We all agree that it is wrong and that it is a clear indicator of the type of individual you are dealing with. It is a valid sign that this person is a user and a player so fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me. Best tactic to adopt is vote with your feet. There are plenty of genuinely decent people on this site and you don't need to deal with those who are beneath you and don't respect and appreciate you

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By *sexybitchWoman
over a year ago

north dublin

I been to many dates who im the one end up paying for it. Im to independent to let a man pay for my own drinks food etc i think should be equal your round her round money is only paper comes and goes . So dont be selfish if u have it share it you dont bring it to grave with you

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

Had one similar even got me €100 fine for smoking in the hotel room never paid a cent towards any costs. But shit happens.

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over a year ago

"Had one similar even got me €100 fine for smoking in the hotel room never paid a cent towards any costs. But shit happens."

Yeah I've heard of one woman who insists on lighting up in the bed at hotel meets

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"Had one similar even got me €100 fine for smoking in the hotel room never paid a cent towards any costs. But shit happens.

Yeah I've heard of one woman who insists on lighting up in the bed at hotel meets

Bit of a bummer,I have no problem paying but before the meet she insisted on paying half for the room etc etc but she didn't contribute towards that and left me with the fine on my card as well. Live and learn.

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"*Empties pockets and counts out two crumpled up fivers and some coins*

Can I interest any of you ladies in a Happy Meal a la McDonaldy Ronaldy?

We can play on the swings in their wee play park after.

Who says romance is dead, eh?

Would ya stretch to a hot apple pie?

*Pokes hands down sofa and rummages out some more coins*

Done!!!! Some hot apple pie also, for madam.

Lol I’d be happy with a coffee and a donut cheers

What kind of doughnuts are we talking here. I have quite the soft spot for doughnuts myself. I usually eat five a day.

Lol I’m easy the ones in McD’s are delicious if gotten fresh

A woman who is content to just sit and have a doughnut and coffee with me. I doughnut believe it. Probably because I'm a weird-dough. Lmao.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"*Empties pockets and counts out two crumpled up fivers and some coins*

Can I interest any of you ladies in a Happy Meal a la McDonaldy Ronaldy?

We can play on the swings in their wee play park after.

Who says romance is dead, eh?

Would ya stretch to a hot apple pie?

*Pokes hands down sofa and rummages out some more coins*

Done!!!! Some hot apple pie also, for madam.

Lol I’d be happy with a coffee and a donut cheers

What kind of doughnuts are we talking here. I have quite the soft spot for doughnuts myself. I usually eat five a day.

Lol I’m easy the ones in McD’s are delicious if gotten fresh

A woman who is content to just sit and have a doughnut and coffee with me. I doughnut believe it. Probably because I'm a weird-dough. Lmao.

Tea hee hee...

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

90 odd replies...it seems everyone is completely sound and unselfish when it come to both communicatiing about...and sharing responsibilities on meets...

.horse-shite...

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Ah they're not all odd replies

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

"Ah they're not all odd replies

.whoops..didnt mean to be even-ist..

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

"I've met where I paid cause he wasn't paid til the end of the month. And it still rankles with him that I paid.

I've had many amazing night where a man didn't let me put my hand in my pocket and If I'd suggested paying or going halves they'd be offended.

Same with me buying a few drinks after they paid for everything else.

Does this make me a prostitute?? As was inferred by a previous poster

You don't just offer. You take out the money and give it to him. Just offering is a cop out and we all know some women's idea of offering is just half hearted at best

Ahhh Bananaman, we women can't do anything right, can we? I play the ball back and say why do men not just simply take the offer to go halfs if that's what they really want to do. "

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