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Does a History of Cheating Lead to Swinging?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheating seems to be the hot topic on the forum lately. Is there some sort of connection between those who have cheated or been cheated on in the past turning to swinging in future relationships? Is it possibly some peoples way of preventing cheating. If the acts that are usually considered cheating in a relationship are Ok'ed by the parties in that relationship (thus they agree to swing) then cheating wont be a problem anymore. Any thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have never cheated on anyone in my life and I joined fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was married for almost 20 years and never ever cheated

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

i never chested. first time for everything I suppose

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By *andsomeman100Man
over a year ago

Ah sure now...

Hmmmmm...my thoughts.... if you are allowing swinging in your relationship in order to prevent cheating, then thats a dysfunctional relationship. If you want to swing and your partner doesnt, then maybe you're in the wrong relationship. Cheating is just plain wrong. Not judging here...but as a starting point you have to accept that its wrong. I guess theres lots on here cheating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some might be here for those reasons not all tho

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere


"Hmmmmm...my thoughts.... if you are allowing swinging in your relationship in order to prevent cheating, then thats a dysfunctional relationship. If you want to swing and your partner doesnt, then maybe you're in the wrong relationship. Cheating is just plain wrong. Not judging here...but as a starting point you have to accept that its wrong. I guess theres lots on here cheating? "

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Are humans monogamic by nature?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are humans monogamic by nature? "

This one certainly isn't

Maybe I'm not human

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Even with boundaries and many of the same rules as in monogamous relationships, people are going to cheat. Swinging is a choice you make. Being cheated on is a choice someone else makes for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmmmm...my thoughts.... if you are allowing swinging in your relationship in order to prevent cheating, then thats a dysfunctional relationship. If you want to swing and your partner doesnt, then maybe you're in the wrong relationship. Cheating is just plain wrong. Not judging here...but as a starting point you have to accept that its wrong. I guess theres lots on here cheating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmmmm...my thoughts.... if you are allowing swinging in your relationship in order to prevent cheating, then thats a dysfunctional relationship. If you want to swing and your partner doesnt, then maybe you're in the wrong relationship. Cheating is just plain wrong. Not judging here...but as a starting point you have to accept that its wrong. I guess theres lots on here cheating? "

Was married 26 yrs... first partner I had. Never cheated physically. ..but mentally I had. Some may say thinking and dwelling on it is cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't ever!! cheat. Mine cheated on me. But they say Men cannot survive without cheating, it is in their nature.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't ever!! cheat. Mine cheated on me. But they say Men cannot survive without cheating, it is in their nature."

I think the gender gap is closing with infidelity, are women more reluctant to admit they cheat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we just don't have the balls

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No we just don't have the balls"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They might do it for revenge, to get back at him, what goes around comes around, type scenario.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

Not everyone cheats. Marriages break down for lots of reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not everyone cheats. Marriages break down for lots of reasons. "

Of course, but I'm not talking about marriage breakdown, and maybe its more comfortable for some people to focus on other peoples infidelity than acknowledge their own, I can understand that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not everyone cheats. Marriages break down for lots of reasons. "

For alot of marriage breakdowns cheating would be the easy option .. reasons are wide and varied usually with two people to blame. It's easy to point and say it's his fault and not look at where you went wrong as well. Two to make it, two to break it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not everyone cheats. Marriages break down for lots of reasons.

For alot of marriage breakdowns cheating would be the easy option .. reasons are wide and varied usually with two people to blame. It's easy to point and say it's his fault and not look at where you went wrong as well. Two to make it, two to break it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmmmm...my thoughts.... if you are allowing swinging in your relationship in order to prevent cheating, then thats a dysfunctional relationship. If you want to swing and your partner doesnt, then maybe you're in the wrong relationship. Cheating is just plain wrong. Not judging here...but as a starting point you have to accept that its wrong. I guess theres lots on here cheating? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I never did anything wrong for him too cheat, so was one sided,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wemade a vow together, he broke it, simple as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not everyone cheats. Marriages break down for lots of reasons.

For alot of marriage breakdowns cheating would be the easy option .. reasons are wide and varied usually with two people to blame. It's easy to point and say it's his fault and not look at where you went wrong as well. Two to make it, two to break it "

100% this

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

If the driving force for swinging is cheating prevention you have the wrong mindset imo and it could do more harm than any good. Is there a connection? Sure you could argue swinging as a couple allows you to commit adultery with your partners consent and sets boundaries for it both agree on however the driving force should be to enrich your sex life and live out fantasies and desires.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the driving force for swinging is cheating prevention you have the wrong mindset imo and it could do more harm than any good. Is there a connection? Sure you could argue swinging as a couple allows you to commit adultery with your partners consent and sets boundaries for it both agree on however the driving force should be to enrich your sex life and live out fantasies and desires. "

That's the reason that a couple should swing not to prevent cheating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They might do it for revenge, to get back at him, what goes around comes around, type scenario. "

I think men and women cheat for different reasons, and id imagine its the woman who decides the relationship is over in a lot of situations.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If the driving force for swinging is cheating prevention you have the wrong mindset imo and it could do more harm than any good. Is there a connection? Sure you could argue swinging as a couple allows you to commit adultery with your partners consent and sets boundaries for it both agree on however the driving force should be to enrich your sex life and live out fantasies and desires.

That's the reason that a couple should swing not to prevent cheating. "

And I'm sure that is the case with a lot of couples, we just haven't had a reply from a couple on the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They might do it for revenge, to get back at him, what goes around comes around, type scenario.

I think men and women cheat for different reasons, and id imagine its the woman who decides the relationship is over in a lot of situations."

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"They might do it for revenge, to get back at him, what goes around comes around, type scenario.

I think men and women cheat for different reasons"

I'm not so sure about that but I agree that there are many reasons for cheating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They might do it for revenge, to get back at him, what goes around comes around, type scenario.

I think men and women cheat for different reasons

I'm not so sure about that but I agree that there are many reasons for cheating. "

Would you not think that men are less likely than women to consider the consequences of their actions?

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By *lay2018Couple
over a year ago

westmeath & roscommon.

Alot on here wont admit to it. Kind of reminds me of the conversation we had with some women before. She was sitting up on her high horse saying shed never have sex on first date because its wrong. I was saying shes telling lies. Few hours later a friend of ours had her in the bathroom sucking him off and he blew his load all over her face.

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By *oris3Man
over a year ago

omagh


"Are humans monogamic by nature? "
I think so I couldn't see myself only ever fucking the one women the rest of my life but a relationship isn't about sex I don't think

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"They might do it for revenge, to get back at him, what goes around comes around, type scenario.

I think men and women cheat for different reasons

I'm not so sure about that but I agree that there are many reasons for cheating.

Would you not think that men are less likely than women to consider the consequences of their actions?"

Maybe. Hard to say. Maybe women are just more skillful at it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They might do it for revenge, to get back at him, what goes around comes around, type scenario.

I think men and women cheat for different reasons

I'm not so sure about that but I agree that there are many reasons for cheating.

Would you not think that men are less likely than women to consider the consequences of their actions?

Maybe. Hard to say. Maybe women are just more skillful at it. "

Well just going by the last couple of threads on cheating, which by the way were aimed at men, I might tend to agree with you.

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By *andsomeman100Man
over a year ago

Ah sure now...


"Even with boundaries and many of the same rules as in monogamous relationships, people are going to cheat. Swinging is a choice you make. Being cheated on is a choice someone else makes for you."

This

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By *andsomeman100Man
over a year ago

Ah sure now...


"Don't ever!! cheat. Mine cheated on me. But they say Men cannot survive without cheating, it is in their nature."

Ah now...that a bit definitive.

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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago

in da sticks, london, amsterdam, madrid

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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago

in da sticks, london, amsterdam, madrid


"Are humans monogamic by nature? "

Scientifically proven,they are not. Wrote essays about it here , lol

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Are humans monogamic by nature?

Scientifically proven,they are not. Wrote essays about it here , lol"

I know I've read some.

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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago

in da sticks, london, amsterdam, madrid

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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago

in da sticks, london, amsterdam, madrid


"Don't ever!! cheat. Mine cheated on me. But they say Men cannot survive without cheating, it is in their nature."

Actually , women are more hardwired for promiscuity than men, but at the same time they are also better in surpressing her primal needs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women are better at it because there more sneaky and better liars guys just dumb when comes to those things lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No we just don't have the balls"
love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No we just don't have the balls love it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two very different things. I actually brought a girl I was seeing to a swing party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmmmm...my thoughts.... if you are allowing swinging in your relationship in order to prevent cheating, then thats a dysfunctional relationship. If you want to swing and your partner doesnt, then maybe you're in the wrong relationship. Cheating is just plain wrong. Not judging here...but as a starting point you have to accept that its wrong. I guess theres lots on here cheating? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours is a long story but basically my wife cheated, I found out and now I'm a cuckold lol

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Ours is a long story but basically my wife cheated, I found out and now I'm a cuckold lol"

Sounds like a Happy ending then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ours is a long story but basically my wife cheated, I found out and now I'm a cuckold lol

Sounds like a Happy ending then! "

Indeed lol, and she still gets to fuck the guy she cheated with lol

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Ours is a long story but basically my wife cheated, I found out and now I'm a cuckold lol

Sounds like a Happy ending then!

Indeed lol, and she still gets to fuck the guy she cheated with lol "

love it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ours is a long story but basically my wife cheated, I found out and now I'm a cuckold lol

Sounds like a Happy ending then!

Indeed lol, and she still gets to fuck the guy she cheated with lol

love it!"

Hehe, she does too. And pretty sure her colleague is pretty happy lol

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Ours is a long story but basically my wife cheated, I found out and now I'm a cuckold lol

Sounds like a Happy ending then!

Indeed lol, and she still gets to fuck the guy she cheated with lol

love it!

Hehe, she does too. And pretty sure her colleague is pretty happy lol "

What about yourself? Does it work for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ours is a long story but basically my wife cheated, I found out and now I'm a cuckold lol

Sounds like a Happy ending then!

Indeed lol, and she still gets to fuck the guy she cheated with lol

love it!

Hehe, she does too. And pretty sure her colleague is pretty happy lol

What about yourself? Does it work for you? "

It does I get a satisfied happy wife

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ours is a long story but basically my wife cheated, I found out and now I'm a cuckold lol

Sounds like a Happy ending then!

Indeed lol, and she still gets to fuck the guy she cheated with lol

love it!

Hehe, she does too. And pretty sure her colleague is pretty happy lol

What about yourself? Does it work for you?

It does I get a satisfied happy wife "

Do you not share the fruits of the lifestyle, or is it more voyeuristic for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ours is a long story but basically my wife cheated, I found out and now I'm a cuckold lol

Sounds like a Happy ending then!

Indeed lol, and she still gets to fuck the guy she cheated with lol

love it!

Hehe, she does too. And pretty sure her colleague is pretty happy lol

What about yourself? Does it work for you?

It does I get a satisfied happy wife

Do you not share the fruits of the lifestyle, or is it more voyeuristic for you?"

I don't even get to watch, it's a humiliation thing for me and getting to know that my wife isbeing satisfied

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ours is a long story but basically my wife cheated, I found out and now I'm a cuckold lol

Sounds like a Happy ending then!

Indeed lol, and she still gets to fuck the guy she cheated with lol

love it!

Hehe, she does too. And pretty sure her colleague is pretty happy lol

What about yourself? Does it work for you?

It does I get a satisfied happy wife

Do you not share the fruits of the lifestyle, or is it more voyeuristic for you?

I don't even get to watch, it's a humiliation thing for me and getting to know that my wife isbeing satisfied "

Ok, I hope im not being intrusive, I was curious about your profile on fab, thanks for that.

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