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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Delimea

A friend and someone who lives close to mes wife is on here. Do i tell him?

She has been here along time to.

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By *elvicmotionsMan
over a year ago

dublin

Eh none of your business and keep sthum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No no no.and no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course not...nothing to do with you..everyone have there Owen reasons for been here. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He might well know that she's on! It's not your business and any input from you won't be well received, regardless of the situation.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"Delimea

A friend and someone who lives close to mes wife is on here. Do i tell him?

She has been here along time to."

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Thought Delimea was name of your mate there!!!

Seriously though, if it was a male friend of mine, I'd initially confront her and ask her what the deal is???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He could be on it also, there is a few ladies profiles on this that have husbands and it's not until you get talking to her, that she says this and he is happy to part take, watch, or leave her at it....according to her.

But in a nut shell, say nothing

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By *amesG69Man
over a year ago

limerick

Absolutely not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He might well know that she's on! It's not your business and any input from you won't be well received, regardless of the situation."

He doesnt know as ive mentioned the site to him b4. Hes mad about her and works like a dog. And she is doing this behind his back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say noting , do noting and the fact you posted it in here is no help either

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By *un4tooCouple
over a year ago

north cork

All this talk of confronting her, or will i tell her husband.

Friends or not. Their marriage has got absolutely nothing to do with anyone other than her and her husband.

Keep quiet and keep everyone out of trouble, including yourself. Blocl her and forget it

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"He might well know that she's on! It's not your business and any input from you won't be well received, regardless of the situation.

He doesnt know as ive mentioned the site to him b4. Hes mad about her and works like a dog. And she is doing this behind his back"
you tell him think she's gonna admit it, you could end up losing your friendship and you end up being the worse in the world.As hard as you find it I wouldn't get involved ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No lad. I would stay out of it. She and he are probably happier with there life's now

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

Is he a good mate? Or just someone you know.

If it's a good mate (life long friend etc) I'd tell him if it just someone down the road I'd stay out of it.

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By *irdnBorisMan
over a year ago

meath


"He might well know that she's on! It's not your business and any input from you won't be well received, regardless of the situation.

He doesnt know as ive mentioned the site to him b4. Hes mad about her and works like a dog. And she is doing this behind his back"
none of your business best to stay out of it he wont thank you for telling him

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By *hoosyhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

any


"Delimea

A friend and someone who lives close to mes wife is on here. Do i tell him?

She has been here along time to."

No.

That would make you a shit stirrer.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

if you thought your friend was been cheated on would you tell him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is he a good mate? Or just someone you know.

If it's a good mate (life long friend etc) I'd tell him if it just someone down the road I'd stay out of it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a dilemma, as many have said your mate may already know and like her playing with others and if not it's her business and you should stay clear. Fabs is about having fun mate ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is he a good mate? Or just someone you know.

If it's a good mate (life long friend etc) I'd tell him if it just someone down the road I'd stay out of it. "

A gud friend. We socialise together quite a bit

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

So you tell him and then what? Are you ready to be attacked by her if you tell him? Are you prepared that if he forgives her, youll be used as a scapegoat and you lose the frienship you have with him?

And then id ask have you an alterior motive in telling him, by punishing her for cheating on your friend?

Whatever way you look at this, youre going to lose. Karma has a way of doing its own job without you being in the middle of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say nothing to anyone about her. It's none of your business to start with. Digression is important for most people here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So you tell him and then what? Are you ready to be attacked by her if you tell him? Are you prepared that if he forgives her, youll be used as a scapegoat and you lose the frienship you have with him?

And then id ask have you an alterior motive in telling him, by punishing her for cheating on your friend?

Whatever way you look at this, youre going to lose. Karma has a way of doing its own job without you being in the middle of it. "

No motive no. I just hate that shes doing this on him behind his back. And he doesnt know shes here either.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"So you tell him and then what? Are you ready to be attacked by her if you tell him? Are you prepared that if he forgives her, youll be used as a scapegoat and you lose the frienship you have with him?

And then id ask have you an alterior motive in telling him, by punishing her for cheating on your friend?

Whatever way you look at this, youre going to lose. Karma has a way of doing its own job without you being in the middle of it.

No motive no. I just hate that shes doing this on him behind his back. And he doesnt know shes here either. "

You might hate what shes doing by being here, but thats her choice, not yours. Its not for you to take this into your own hands and act on it. If you werent here, youd be none the wiser. Save yourself the mental stress and anxiety and forget about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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No motive no. I just hate that shes doing this on him behind his back. And he doesnt know shes here either. "

I know I live in the country, but there's a strong smell of something about this entire thread.. hidden profile also..

How do you know he's unaware she's here..

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

Gawd!!!!! The fact you need to ask that question is scary. This site is all about discretion.

Nobody knows what goes on in other people's lives...

That's if this thread is for real.????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or you could use it to your advantage. Joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gawd!!!!! The fact you need to ask that question is scary. This site is all about discretion.

Nobody knows what goes on in other people's lives...

That's if this thread is for real.????"

Well is this thread is for real and they are lifelong friends, of course he would have an idea what's going on in their life, that's what true friendship is all about..

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere


"Gawd!!!!! The fact you need to ask that question is scary. This site is all about discretion.

Nobody knows what goes on in other people's lives...

That's if this thread is for real.????

Well is this thread is for real and they are lifelong friends, of course he would have an idea what's going on in their life, that's what true friendship is all about.."

I've lifelong friends who don't know ALL that goes on in my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gawd!!!!! The fact you need to ask that question is scary. This site is all about discretion.

Nobody knows what goes on in other people's lives...

That's if this thread is for real.????

Well is this thread is for real and they are lifelong friends, of course he would have an idea what's going on in their life, that's what true friendship is all about..

I've lifelong friends who don't know ALL that goes on in my life. "

that's you.. not everyone is like that..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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No motive no. I just hate that shes doing this on him behind his back. And he doesnt know shes here either.

I know I live in the country, but there's a strong smell of something about this entire thread.. hidden profile also..

How do you know he's unaware she's here.. "

I was hidden to stop idiots mailing me. That ok

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere


"Gawd!!!!! The fact you need to ask that question is scary. This site is all about discretion.

Nobody knows what goes on in other people's lives...

That's if this thread is for real.????

Well is this thread is for real and they are lifelong friends, of course he would have an idea what's going on in their life, that's what true friendship is all about..

I've lifelong friends who don't know ALL that goes on in my life.

that's you.. not everyone is like that.."

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By *ord Willy McFuck-BucketMan
over a year ago

newcastle

I would ask her for the ride first, sure it couldn't hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can just see the conversation now.. remember that sex site I told you I was on. Where all the women are "gagging for cock". The one where I'm meeting all the horny women for sex... I'm getting thrown pussy left right and centre (exaggeration by the way because you're probably blocked by most now)... well your missus is on there. And has been shagging anything and everything.....bang marriage is over. You guilt ridden yet ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if he is your good friend, let him find out for himself, use your imagination

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

let me ask you all. if you knew your friends bf/gf/hubby/wife were sleeping with other people would you tell your friend? be honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can just see the conversation now.. remember that sex site I told you I was on. Where all the women are "gagging for cock". The one where I'm meeting all the horny women for sex... I'm getting thrown pussy left right and centre (exaggeration by the way because you're probably blocked by most now)... well your missus is on there. And has been shagging anything and everything.....bang marriage is over. You guilt ridden yet ?"

Jesus grow up u plank. No idea if im blocked. If i am so be it

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By *o hassleMan
over a year ago

moira

1st of all I have a mates wife in here and so what . Feck all to do with me .

2nd if you have a meet with a married lady and dont say you wouldn't ... do you tell her husband .. hypocrisy if you say no

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere


"let me ask you all. if you knew your friends bf/gf/hubby/wife were sleeping with other people would you tell your friend? be honest "

That's a good question. But this is a little different. Maybe the OP should talk to the lady in question.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"let me ask you all. if you knew your friends bf/gf/hubby/wife were sleeping with other people would you tell your friend? be honest

That's a good question. But this is a little different. Maybe the OP should talk to the lady in question. "

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That's what I said earlier. Find out her side of it, let her explain and get the facts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless hes a good friend off yours id stay out of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing got to do with u.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if hes good mate id tell him if he finds out you knew and didn't tell him hes prob gonna be pissed off and as his good mate you should have his back and let him know bros b4 hoes and all that jazz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay away from it partner! Ull only end up worse off for it....

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Well if hes good mate id tell him if he finds out you knew and didn't tell him hes prob gonna be pissed off and as his good mate you should have his back and let him know bros b4 hoes and all that jazz "
the first part of that is the issue. if he was been cheated on and found out you knew and didn't say then there's a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No keep your mouth shut you tout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am along the line of, if the shoe was on the other foot, how would you feel about it? Would you want your friend to tell you?

I've made many friends through out my life, causal, professional, international but my life long friends, the ones I grew up with, are like brothers. We experienced and shared everything together. Good times and bad, tragedy and fortune.

All I know is, if it was me. I'd want to know and I'd expect them to tell me.

Would I blame them for breaking up my marriage? No. My marriage was already broken when my partner decided tovjoin a swingers site to meet people for sex behind my back. Where does the fault lie in that? I'm afraid thats a debate for another thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say it's not your place to tell him . You could of course reveal who you are to her and ask her to explain why she's doing this behind your friends back for all you know maybe he has some sexual dysfunction no one knows about and his marriage is otherwise happy . There's a myriad of reasons why married people are on here , I don't judge but I also don't meet with them cos it doesn't sit right with me . If you simply can't let it go then mail her reveal who you are and tell her to explain to her husband why she is seeking sex here give her a time frame to comply and tell her if she doesn't tell him you will . However think carefully before you do this about the possible fall out to families and children etc .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am along the line of, if the shoe was on the other foot, how would you feel about it? Would you want your friend to tell you?

I've made many friends through out my life, causal, professional, international but my life long friends, the ones I grew up with, are like brothers. We experienced and shared everything together. Good times and bad, tragedy and fortune.

All I know is, if it was me. I'd want to know and I'd expect them to tell me.

Would I blame them for breaking up my marriage? No. My marriage was already broken when my partner decided tovjoin a swingers site to meet people for sex behind my back. Where does the fault lie in that? I'm afraid thats a debate for another thread"
. Totally agree with you most my friends I've known for 20 years or more and no way I wouldn't tell them if I found one there girlfriends on this because i know they would do the same and wouldn't have no women fuck over any my friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am along the line of, if the shoe was on the other foot, how would you feel about it? Would you want your friend to tell you?

I've made many friends through out my life, causal, professional, international but my life long friends, the ones I grew up with, are like brothers. We experienced and shared everything together. Good times and bad, tragedy and fortune.

All I know is, if it was me. I'd want to know and I'd expect them to tell me.

Would I blame them for breaking up my marriage? No. My marriage was already broken when my partner decided tovjoin a swingers site to meet people for sex behind my back. Where does the fault lie in that? I'm afraid thats a debate for another thread. Totally agree with you most my friends I've known for 20 years or more and no way I wouldn't tell them if I found one there girlfriends on this because i know they would do the same and wouldn't have no women fuck over any my friends "

Some of those friends I mentioned are women, and it would be men doing as you put it, the "fucking over"

I'm not talking about some bro code, a friend is a friend regardless of their sex, but I get the point you trying to make

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By *he Kinky KinksCouple
over a year ago

Dublin-Kildare

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

If he is a good friend tell him if he's just a casual acquaintance type mate leave well alone,guaranteed if the genders were reversed all the do gooders would be up for telling on a male cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am along the line of, if the shoe was on the other foot, how would you feel about it? Would you want your friend to tell you?

I've made many friends through out my life, causal, professional, international but my life long friends, the ones I grew up with, are like brothers. We experienced and shared everything together. Good times and bad, tragedy and fortune.

All I know is, if it was me. I'd want to know and I'd expect them to tell me.

Would I blame them for breaking up my marriage? No. My marriage was already broken when my partner decided tovjoin a swingers site to meet people for sex behind my back. Where does the fault lie in that? I'm afraid thats a debate for another thread. Totally agree with you most my friends I've known for 20 years or more and no way I wouldn't tell them if I found one there girlfriends on this because i know they would do the same and wouldn't have no women fuck over any my friends

Some of those friends I mentioned are women, and it would be men doing as you put it, the "fucking over"

I'm not talking about some bro code, a friend is a friend regardless of their sex, but I get the point you trying to make"
females are different as in majority them still keep seen the bloke even after they have cheated I gave up trying help female friends with that but any my male friends that have been cheated on just end the relationship as they know they cant trust there girlfriend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A thankless position to be in OP , but I wish someone had told me. Dozens of people had first-hand knowledge for years about my ex's chronic infidelity. Nothing was worth the years that I wasted on him allowing him to convince me I was crazy for questioning him .You should tell him providing the details you know. Keep reminding him you are only telling him the truth because you honestly care and respect him, you have knowledge about his future which continues to be compromised by allowing the deception to continue for months even years . As far as I'm concerned, everyone who chose not to tell me was no friend of mine . I would have liked to have had what I suspected all along confirmed because he made me think I was hysterical and possessive which in fact isn't my nature. You can't predict how he will react to you but at least he can make a choice about his future based on all the facts not the lies she has told him .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

none of your business. Sher he may know his wife is on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can just see the conversation now.. remember that sex site I told you I was on. Where all the women are "gagging for cock". The one where I'm meeting all the horny women for sex... I'm getting thrown pussy left right and centre (exaggeration by the way because you're probably blocked by most now)... well your missus is on there. And has been shagging anything and everything.....bang marriage is over. You guilt ridden yet ?

Jesus grow up u plank. No idea if im blocked. If i am so be it"

Plank . Well how would you explain it then.. It's no one's business why she is on here but her own. Just block her. And speaking from experience there is truth in the saying you never know what goes on behind closed doors..

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By *o hassleMan
over a year ago

moira


"Can just see the conversation now.. remember that sex site I told you I was on. Where all the women are "gagging for cock". The one where I'm meeting all the horny women for sex... I'm getting thrown pussy left right and centre (exaggeration by the way because you're probably blocked by most now)... well your missus is on there. And has been shagging anything and everything.....bang marriage is over. You guilt ridden yet ?

Jesus grow up u plank. No idea if im blocked. If i am so be it

Plank . Well how would you explain it then.. It's no one's business why she is on here but her own. Just block her. And speaking from experience there is truth in the saying you never know what goes on behind closed doors.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All those telling him not to say anything and that it's not his place..... Is that not what being a friend is?

Because I sure as hell would be pretty pissed off if one of my friends knew my partner was cheating on me and didn't tell me

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Stay out of it it's none of your business.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"All those telling him not to say anything and that it's not his place..... Is that not what being a friend is?

Because I sure as hell would be pretty pissed off if one of my friends knew my partner was cheating on me and didn't tell me"

Nobody knows any details of the friends homelife except his friend is mad about his wife. Theres no "good" or "right" way to deal with this as theyre both different things in this instance. So Op should ask the question what would his friend want. If he knows him well enough, then he already knows the answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stay out of it it's none of your business.

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This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Delimea

The one thing apart from manners thats appreciated here is DISCRETION , you say nothing, none of your business, if it bothers you seeing her profile, block her , if its really bothering you, im not sure this site is for you, we all here for different reasons but none of us shoukd be here to judge

A friend and someone who lives close to mes wife is on here. Do i tell him?

She has been here along time to."

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

Tell your mate dude never mind the "none of your business" brigade. Bro's before Ho's dude.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Tell your mate dude never mind the "none of your business" brigade. Bro's before Ho's dude."

Ho's !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if it was the other way around and your good mate was on fab with the wife not knowing. Would you tell her???

I think the only dilemma is whether you're prepared to bump into people you know and be able to keep it to yourself.

Dublin seems like a big place where you can be anonymous on Fab but you would be surprised how many people you would know in "real life". Do you plan on going to socials to meet swingers, plan on going to parties or clubs?? Are you going to have a dilemma about any other friends or acquaintances that you find out are on here too?

You don't have any pics ups. Does that mean you expect discretion from people ?

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Tell your mate dude never mind the "none of your business" brigade. Bro's before Ho's dude.

Ho's ! "

yup that's what I said I'm guessing you

(a) have never heard the expression

(b) are going to show faux outrage or

(c) will just have to get over it.

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By *ysteryman2009Man
over a year ago

Ireland

What you see and hear here you leave here. Golden rule of swinging is discretion and respect.The fact you posted your comments regarding your friends wife shows a lack of swinging intelligence on your part.

The question you should ask of yourself is why are you here on fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What you see and hear here you leave here. Golden rule of swinging is discretion and respect.The fact you posted your comments regarding your friends wife shows a lack of swinging intelligence on your part.

The question you should ask of yourself is why are you here on fab?"

Swinging without your partners knowledge and consent isn't swinging it's cheating

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

What if his mate was doing it, would he tell his mate's wife?

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By *umpsMan
over a year ago

city

Would be worse if she was having an affair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, he's your friend, tell him.

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Tell him that you love her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All this bullshit about shoes and other feet and if situation were reversed, blah blah blah. If he's your friend, tell him what you know, that's what friends do. If he's complicit with the swinger lifestyle there will be no harm done and he'll let you know about that.......... Why are you even asking? Friends are friends.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"What you see and hear here you leave here. Golden rule of swinging is discretion and respect.The fact you posted your comments regarding your friends wife shows a lack of swinging intelligence on your part.

The question you should ask of yourself is why are you here on fab?

Swinging without your partners knowledge and consent isn't swinging it's cheating "

So what if he/ she is swinging without a partners consent! The onus isnt on me if i meet a guy whos married is it? The onus is on the guy/lady whos cheating? I dont want an affiar or to be the other woman. I want sex and nothing more!Nobody knows what makes a person cheat and the list is too long to go into here, but i will if you want me to!. In my book cheating isnt solely blamed at one persons doorstep. Its down to communicating with the other half when problems arise. That doesnt only include a sexual relationship, its across the board on what a partnership is.So forgive me ..as much as i dont condone cheating, i wont be blamed for having sex with a guy whos married. It was HER choice to join a swing site, just the same as its a married mans CHOICE to join.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's nice. If you saw your friend's husband or wife on fab, would you not tell your friend? Because I would, did and will.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

She will deny it and the messenger will be shot. I wouldn't go near it.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"She will deny it and the messenger will be shot. I wouldn't go near it. "

Thank you DH.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

dirty bitches Dem women!

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"That's nice. If you saw your friend's husband or wife on fab, would you not tell your friend? Because I would, did and will. "

Nope. Unless i was there, which would mean i fucked him or watched him fuck. Then.its chinese whispers and second hand gossip .

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

I have wondered would this be answered differently by people away from a swingers site. i bet I know what people who despise cheating would do

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"I have wondered would this be answered differently by people away from a swingers site. i bet I know what people who despise cheating would do "

What ye mean? Like tinder or badoo or real life maybe? would ye stop ffs!!

Youll get the answers you want to hear. Internet answers!!

Go to a pub or club and chat up a nice girl instead?

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

What if, instead of a friend it was a relatives wife or husband???

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"I have wondered would this be answered differently by people away from a swingers site. i bet I know what people who despise cheating would do

What ye mean? Like tinder or badoo or real life maybe? would ye stop ffs!!

Youll get the answers you want to hear. Internet answers!!

Go to a pub or club and chat up a nice girl instead?"
tinder and badoo are sites like this lol. talk to everyday people who don't swing and despise cheating and you'll get a diff answer to this topic. end of the day if you were married and your husband was cheating on you and a good friend knew. would you want to know or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

she's probably left now and joined another site after reading reading this thread all day thinking this is just more hassle than its worth...you've no proof op...it could be your mate on here with her or being her profile for all ye know...ye just never know... whatever's going on leave them to it....its not your problem...tbh if somebody did something like that on me I would not be happy at all...and if they can find me here chances are they could be found too...it wouldn't end well...true he's your mate...but fook it I'd just turn a blind eye to it if it was me....mates or not....I'd keep well out of it.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"she's probably left now and joined another site after reading reading this thread all day thinking this is just more hassle than its worth...you've no proof op...it could be your mate on here with her or being her profile for all ye know...ye just never know... whatever's

going on leave them to it....its not your problem...tbh if somebody did something like that on me I would not be happy at all...and if they can find me here chances are they could be found too...it wouldn't end well...true he's your mate...but fook it I'd just turn a blind eye to it if it was me....mates or not....I'd keep well out of it."

I like your answer!

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By *BelfastGuyMan
over a year ago

Belfast

See no evil hear no evil speak no evil.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Exactly be discrete it's no one's business but hers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all why would you tell on the lady that's absurd to even think about doing something like that she's on for the same reason you are leave the lady be and carry on with your own fabbing, remember DISCRETION is what we need on here

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By *ornyxbbwCouple
over a year ago

Monaghan

Know a couple this happened too, step daughter and her husband told the man his wife is on the site and now they are shunned, the man won't talk to his step daughter or her hubby and the mother won't talk to her daughter, everyone in the community knows what happened it's a mess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Delimea

A friend and someone who lives close to mes wife is on here. Do i tell him?

She has been here along time to."

If his a good mate tell him ..i would never hold a lie form someone thats doing the dirt behind a mates back ..you seem to have your friends best interests at heart and its eating you knowing shes on here and your not saying ..tell him and after the storm if he blames you lets him on hun ...doubt he will tho im sure he will thank you rather than thinking you knew and were laughing at him behind his back ...what have you to loose best of luck hun hope it all works out between u and your friend xxxxxxxxx

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By *erverts AnonymousMan
over a year ago

Darkest desires

What don't you get about privacy? 1. He may already know

2. If you bring it up it will make you look like a fucktard

3. If he doesn't know you potentially lose a friend regardless if they split or work things out

4. Swingers discretion, do you think it's your place to inform him?

The way I look at it is each individual should only need to worry about what they do, nosey neighbour tactics on a swing site doesn't work. This post just reiterates why people are so nervous of meeting folk in their own areas, loose lips sinks ships!

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By *ord Willy McFuck-BucketMan
over a year ago

newcastle

You should ask random strangers on the internet what to do, that is my solution for everything now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What don't you get about privacy? 1. He may already know

2. If you bring it up it will make you look like a fucktard

3. If he doesn't know you potentially lose a friend regardless if they split or work things out

4. Swingers discretion, do you think it's your place to inform him?

The way I look at it is each individual should only need to worry about what they do, nosey neighbour tactics on a swing site doesn't work. This post just reiterates why people are so nervous of meeting folk in their own areas, loose lips sinks ships! "
why would he lose a friend if telling him his wife is on swingers site he would thank him if he didn't know and tell him he knows she is and thanks for looking out for him in what world would he get the blame for looking out for his friend I don't get your thought process on that

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

city centre

Is the op 100% sure that it is his friends wife if so HOW?

If she's playing away from home she's hardy got her face pic or any other distinguishing pics on here

Christ man have a real good think about this before you open your gob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Delimea

A friend and someone who lives close to mes wife is on here. Do i tell him?

She has been here along time to."
....... . .If your very good friend was on here,would you tell his wife?

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By *ussybangMan
over a year ago

ML3

you nailed it right there, you are fab right with it, the blame is on both side as there is break down of communication and not trying to establish their fantasies in their relationship, beside that there are too many reasons that made people to cheat ooooh is not cheating but just enjoying another body hahahaha.

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By *ussybangMan
over a year ago

ML3

That is not true, I reckon department sex was just trying to make a discussion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am along the line of, if the shoe was on the other foot, how would you feel about it? Would you want your friend to tell you?

I've made many friends through out my life, causal, professional, international but my life long friends, the ones I grew up with, are like brothers. We experienced and shared everything together. Good times and bad, tragedy and fortune.

All I know is, if it was me. I'd want to know and I'd expect them to tell me.

Would I blame them for breaking up my marriage? No. My marriage was already broken when my partner decided tovjoin a swingers site to meet people for sex behind my back. Where does the fault lie in that? I'm afraid thats a debate for another thread"

Agree wholeheartedly

I'd suss out subtly if he's a cuck and knows or something like that first though.

I'm surprised at how many here think that betraying the trust of a loved one is totally condoned.

I only meet married women who aren't "cheating".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So those who says against cheating has anybody cheated on you ever? And those whose talking in favor of cheaters have you cheated much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Delimea

A friend and someone who lives close to mes wife is on here. Do i tell him?

She has been here along time to."

If the roles were reversed and you were in his position, what would you want him to do? There's your answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can just see the conversation now.. remember that sex site I told you I was on. Where all the women are "gagging for cock". The one where I'm meeting all the horny women for sex... I'm getting thrown pussy left right and centre (exaggeration by the way because you're probably blocked by most now)... well your missus is on there. And has been shagging anything and everything.....bang marriage is over. You guilt ridden yet ?"

Why would he be guilt ridden? If the marraige is over then he should be delighted and he's gotten his good mate out of a shit situation.

Don't be a cunt OP and tell your friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Delimea

A friend and someone who lives close to mes wife is on here. Do i tell him?

She has been here along time to."

I say tell him

In fact tell us all which profile it is too so we can have a gawk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe just maybe her husband knows she's on here and encourages it ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you nailed it right there, you are fab right with it, the blame is on both side as there is break down of communication and not trying to establish their fantasies in their relationship, beside that there are too many reasons that made people to cheat ooooh is not cheating but just enjoying another body hahahaha. "

Why would you assume that OPS friend maybe under the impression that he is in loving relationship with a loving wife , doing everything he can for his family unaware that he is with a serial cheater , its highly likely the only thing wrong with their relationship is her cheating , if it was my friend I'd would tell him , it will be a hard conversation and it's true it could go either way and he could loose the friendship but at least he will know he did the right thing .

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


" you nailed it right there, you are fab right with it, the blame is on both side as there is break down of communication and not trying to establish their fantasies in their relationship, beside that there are too many reasons that made people to cheat ooooh is not cheating but just enjoying another body hahahaha.

Why would you assume that OPS friend maybe under the impression that he is in loving relationship with a loving wife , doing everything he can for his family unaware that he is with a serial cheater , its highly likely the only thing wrong with their relationship is her cheating , if it was my friend I'd would tell him , it will be a hard conversation and it's true it could go either way and he could loose the friendship but at least he will know he did the right thing . "

Maybe the question is 'why is she 'cheating'? Is he not the perfect husband? What issues are there? Has he been unfaithful? Etc. A friend is a friend but not to interfere in a marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you nailed it right there, you are fab right with it, the blame is on both side as there is break down of communication and not trying to establish their fantasies in their relationship, beside that there are too many reasons that made people to cheat ooooh is not cheating but just enjoying another body hahahaha.

Why would you assume that OPS friend maybe under the impression that he is in loving relationship with a loving wife , doing everything he can for his family unaware that he is with a serial cheater , its highly likely the only thing wrong with their relationship is her cheating , if it was my friend I'd would tell him , it will be a hard conversation and it's true it could go either way and he could loose the friendship but at least he will know he did the right thing .

Maybe the question is 'why is she 'cheating'? Is he not the perfect husband? What issues are there? Has he been unfaithful? Etc. A friend is a friend but not to interfere in a marriage. "

Sure almost every marriage or relationship has problems. But Having problems in your relationship doesn't justify cheating. There is no excuse for it . Work on your relationship or walk away . Blaming your partner for it doesn't make it right . Cheaters always have a million excuses , there are plenty of people in difficult situations who don't resort to lies and deception.

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By *angero3aMan
over a year ago

swords

no why tell.would not mind if some of the sexy mums around were on here .would love to give some of them one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is he a good mate? Or just someone you know.

If it's a good mate (life long friend etc) I'd tell him if it just someone down the road I'd stay out of it. "

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath


"So you tell him and then what? Are you ready to be attacked by her if you tell him? Are you prepared that if he forgives her, youll be used as a scapegoat and you lose the frienship you have with him?

And then id ask have you an alterior motive in telling him, by punishing her for cheating on your friend?

Whatever way you look at this, youre going to lose. Karma has a way of doing its own job without you being in the middle of it.

No motive no. I just hate that shes doing this on him behind his back. And he doesnt know shes here either. "

Just because you mentioned the site to him doesn't mean he would admit he knows.. maybe it their private sexual fantasy "thing"

He's hardly going to discuss that with his mate now is he?

If I were you I'd leave her to it and mind your own business..

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


" you nailed it right there, you are fab right with it, the blame is on both side as there is break down of communication and not trying to establish their fantasies in their relationship, beside that there are too many reasons that made people to cheat ooooh is not cheating but just enjoying another body hahahaha.

Why would you assume that OPS friend maybe under the impression that he is in loving relationship with a loving wife , doing everything he can for his family unaware that he is with a serial cheater , its highly likely the only thing wrong with their relationship is her cheating , if it was my friend I'd would tell him , it will be a hard conversation and it's true it could go either way and he could loose the friendship but at least he will know he did the right thing .

Maybe the question is 'why is she 'cheating'? Is he not the perfect husband? What issues are there? Has he been unfaithful? Etc. A friend is a friend but not to interfere in a marriage.

Sure almost every marriage or relationship has problems. But Having problems in your relationship doesn't justify cheating. There is no excuse for it . Work on your relationship or walk away . Blaming your partner for it doesn't make it right . Cheaters always have a million excuses , there are plenty of people in difficult situations who don't resort to lies and deception. "

Who here knows she is cheating he's assuming his mate doesn't know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly think, justvleave them to it. Don't interfere.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


" you nailed it right there, you are fab right with it, the blame is on both side as there is break down of communication and not trying to establish their fantasies in their relationship, beside that there are too many reasons that made people to cheat ooooh is not cheating but just enjoying another body hahahaha.

Why would you assume that OPS friend maybe under the impression that he is in loving relationship with a loving wife , doing everything he can for his family unaware that he is with a serial cheater , its highly likely the only thing wrong with their relationship is her cheating , if it was my friend I'd would tell him , it will be a hard conversation and it's true it could go either way and he could loose the friendship but at least he will know he did the right thing .

Maybe the question is 'why is she 'cheating'? Is he not the perfect husband? What issues are there? Has he been unfaithful? Etc. A friend is a friend but not to interfere in a marriage.

She's cheating because she is a cunt. There really isn't any other explanation.

And u know she's a cunt for sure

Well not for sure, but if she's cheatings she's a cunt.

But and if we don't know neither does the op

True. Best thing for the OP is to say to the husband to find out then. "

Best thing for the op is to mind is own buisness and live his life let them to live their lives

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


" you nailed it right there, you are fab right with it, the blame is on both side as there is break down of communication and not trying to establish their fantasies in their relationship, beside that there are too many reasons that made people to cheat ooooh is not cheating but just enjoying another body hahahaha.

Why would you assume that OPS friend maybe under the impression that he is in loving relationship with a loving wife , doing everything he can for his family unaware that he is with a serial cheater , its highly likely the only thing wrong with their relationship is her cheating , if it was my friend I'd would tell him , it will be a hard conversation and it's true it could go either way and he could loose the friendship but at least he will know he did the right thing .

Maybe the question is 'why is she 'cheating'? Is he not the perfect husband? What issues are there? Has he been unfaithful? Etc. A friend is a friend but not to interfere in a marriage.

She's cheating because she is a cunt. There really isn't any other explanation.

And u know she's a cunt for sure

Well not for sure, but if she's cheatings she's a cunt.

But and if we don't know neither does the op

True. Best thing for the OP is to say to the husband to find out then.

Best thing for the op is to mind is own buisness and live his life let them to live their lives "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you nailed it right there, you are fab right with it, the blame is on both side as there is break down of communication and not trying to establish their fantasies in their relationship, beside that there are too many reasons that made people to cheat ooooh is not cheating but just enjoying another body hahahaha.

Why would you assume that OPS friend maybe under the impression that he is in loving relationship with a loving wife , doing everything he can for his family unaware that he is with a serial cheater , its highly likely the only thing wrong with their relationship is her cheating , if it was my friend I'd would tell him , it will be a hard conversation and it's true it could go either way and he could loose the friendship but at least he will know he did the right thing .

Maybe the question is 'why is she 'cheating'? Is he not the perfect husband? What issues are there? Has he been unfaithful? Etc. A friend is a friend but not to interfere in a marriage.

She's cheating because she is a cunt. There really isn't any other explanation.

And u know she's a cunt for sure

Well not for sure, but if she's cheatings she's a cunt.

But and if we don't know neither does the op

True. Best thing for the OP is to say to the husband to find out then.

Best thing for the op is to mind is own buisness and live his life let them to live their lives "

If he's a shit friend and person, then yea, that probably is the best thing to do.

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