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How Forgiving are You ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Always considered myself as a fairly _aid back guy, water off a ducks back and all that. Recently I was told I hold onto grudges for wrongs that have happened to me, not a nice trait. How forgiving are you ? Do you live and let live, allow people the right to be wrong. Or is it a case of an eye for an eye.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I don't know. Nobody ever does anything bad to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really depends on what it is.if someone borrowed a fiver and didnt pay it back id get over it....if someone if someone borrowed 500 and didnt give it back then yes i would hold a grudge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Na forgive and forget life too short for holding grudges you could be dead tomorrow

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Na forgive and forget life too short for holding grudges you could be dead tomorrow "

Is that a threat?

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

I'm a vengeful fucker I hold grudges

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it very easy to cut people out of my life if they have done me wrong. Certain people are dead to me. And no fucker comes back from the dead.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find it very easy to cut people out of my life if they have done me wrong. Certain people are dead to me. And no fucker comes back from the dead."

Haha I hear ya.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should forgive everyone who has ever hurt you, for your own sake. Some sorts of betrayals are easier to forgive. When the hurt and anger are really intense, it might not be possible, but ideally you let go of the hurt and anger as time passes .

Whether you should accept them back into your life is a different question. In a way, you have to bet your life on the person who betrayed you and hurt you sometimes over and over again and risk being hurt again . So, generally, not a wise move. It's unfortunate but you will more then Likely have your forgiveness thrown back in your face so it's best to forgive and move on .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not very forgiving here anyway

Vanilla life is a different story

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You should forgive everyone who has ever hurt you, for your own sake. Some sorts of betrayals are easier to forgive. When the hurt and anger are really intense, it might not be possible, but ideally you let go of the hurt and anger as time passes .

Whether you should accept them back into your life is a different question. In a way, you have to bet your life on the person who betrayed you and hurt you sometimes over and over again and risk being hurt again . So, generally, not a wise move. It's unfortunate but you will more then Likely have your forgiveness thrown back in your face so it's best to forgive and move on .

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Very wise words lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Na forgive and forget life too short for holding grudges you could be dead tomorrow "
I agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't know. Nobody ever does anything bad to me "

Im not so sure about that Michael, im sure your the type now that would turn the other cheek.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im not very forgiving here anyway

Vanilla life is a different story"

What she said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Na forgive and forget life too short for holding grudges you could be dead tomorrow

Is that a threat?

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I will fuck you to death smart arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take life or Fab too seriously. Forgive and forget....life is too short to be going around with a stick up your arse. Move on......

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Na forgive and forget life too short for holding grudges you could be dead tomorrow

Is that a threat?

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I will fuck you to death smart arse "

Ooooo, matron!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"I don't know. Nobody ever does anything bad to me

Im not so sure about that Michael, im sure your the type now that would turn the other cheek. "

Get your eyes off my cheeks young fella!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not !

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"I'm not !"

Yeah, that's what someone was saying about you this morning, well that and other stuff..

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Oh shit no, sorry, the bitching thread is over there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not !

Yeah, that's what someone was saying about you this morning, well that and other stuff..

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Oh shit no, sorry, the bitching thread is over there! "

Sure if they're talking about us theyre leaving you alone Mick

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Depends what the situation is sometimes I do forgive but never forget

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"I'm not !

Yeah, that's what someone was saying about you this morning, well that and other stuff..

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Oh shit no, sorry, the bitching thread is over there!

Sure if they're talking about us theyre leaving you alone Mick "

Bastards!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"I'm not !

Yeah, that's what someone was saying about you this morning, well that and other stuff..

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Oh shit no, sorry, the bitching thread is over there!

Sure if they're talking about us theyre leaving you alone Mick

Bastards! "

Never mind. I forgive them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't know. Nobody ever does anything bad to me

Im not so sure about that Michael, im sure your the type now that would turn the other cheek.

Get your eyes off my cheeks young fella! "

haha, hey do you want to take your routine onto someone else's thread

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By *aythekiddMan
over a year ago

Carlow

I'm very forgiving, like how I forgive all the sexy northerners for living too far away

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By *o hassleMan
over a year ago

moira

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By *o hassleMan
over a year ago

moira

You know who.... forgive and forget , as it says above life's to short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a vengeful fucker I hold grudges "

Me too

Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what the situation is sometimes I do forgive but never forget "
. . . .yes always forgive the first time..... Depending what it is obviously, but some things you can't forget!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very forgiving, like how I forgive all the sexy northerners for living too far away "

Us northerners travel

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir


"I'm not !

Yeah, that's what someone was saying about you this morning, well that and other stuff..

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Oh shit no, sorry, the bitching thread is over there!

Sure if they're talking about us theyre leaving you alone Mick

Bastards! "

Father Michael, forgive those bastards for they know not what they do!

After all.... Blessed are the cheese makers!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"I'm not !

Yeah, that's what someone was saying about you this morning, well that and other stuff..

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Oh shit no, sorry, the bitching thread is over there!

Sure if they're talking about us theyre leaving you alone Mick

Bastards!

Father Michael, forgive those bastards for they know not what they do!

After all.... Blessed are the cheese makers! "

I think he meant producers of dairy products in general

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm generally a forgiving person. I live by the motto fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. It's something my grandmother always said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do allow people the right to be wrong as two wrongs don't make a right xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do allow people the right to be wrong as two wrongs don't make a right xx "

They would actually have to want to right the wrong for that bw responsible for their own actions and actively work to make amends , a lot of people can't or won't do that .

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

This whole business of "forgive and forget" is B.S. If you get screwed over (on something non sexual), guess what???

You'll get screwed over again and again until you get smart ...

"Forgive but don't forget" is a better rule of law...

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By *shoreMan
over a year ago

cork

Im ok if someone does me wrong ..i tend to forgat but if someone wrongs a weak person....I go all bad

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

city centre

Revenge is a dish best served cold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's bad I do struggle to forgive but as I get older that's alot of energy wasted. We all screw up and rarely do people intentialy want to hurt you and if someone does hurt you on purpose it's there's to deal with. They have to live with it you have the control you can let it go... sorry a long answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do allow people the right to be wrong as two wrongs don't make a right xx

They would actually have to want to right the wrong for that bw responsible for their own actions and actively work to make amends , a lot of people can't or won't do that . "

Yes but if they don't then no point in a person bother no more with the situation, let it go i would say x. Even though i have no idea what this or whom its about lol .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it's bad I do struggle to forgive but as I get older that's alot of energy wasted. We all screw up and rarely do people intentialy want to hurt you and if someone does hurt you on purpose it's there's to deal with. They have to live with it you have the control you can let it go... sorry a long answer "
,........... . . ..it's okay we forgive you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This whole business of "forgive and forget" is B.S. If you get screwed over (on something non sexual), guess what???

You'll get screwed over again and again until you get smart ...

"Forgive but don't forget" is a better rule of law..."

Sometimes you get screwed over on the sexual stuff too . You are right you do need to get smart but holding a grudge is not healthy and forgiveness isn't for them it's for you and your own well being .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it's bad I do struggle to forgive but as I get older that's alot of energy wasted. We all screw up and rarely do people intentialy want to hurt you and if someone does hurt you on purpose it's there's to deal with. They have to live with it you have the control you can let it go... sorry a long answer ,........... . . ..it's okay we forgive you "

Can I accept your forgiveness though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do allow people the right to be wrong as two wrongs don't make a right xx

They would actually have to want to right the wrong for that bw responsible for their own actions and actively work to make amends , a lot of people can't or won't do that .

Yes but if they don't then no point in a person bother no more with the situation, let it go i would say x. Even though i have no idea what this or whom its about lol . "

OP didn't say what it was about . But the point I was trying to make is if you wait for someone to make amnends to be able to forgive them you may be waiting a long time best thing is to forgive , let it go and move on .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it's bad I do struggle to forgive but as I get older that's alot of energy wasted. We all screw up and rarely do people intentialy want to hurt you and if someone does hurt you on purpose it's there's to deal with. They have to live with it you have the control you can let it go... sorry a long answer ,........... . . ..it's okay we forgive you

Can I accept your forgiveness though "
. . . .of course ....I've already moved on .....to you're pics

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"This whole business of "forgive and forget" is B.S. If you get screwed over (on something non sexual), guess what???

You'll get screwed over again and again until you get smart ...

"Forgive but don't forget" is a better rule of law...

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Sometimes you get screwed over on the sexual stuff too . You are right you do need to get smart but holding a grudge is not healthy and forgiveness isn't for them it's for you and your own well being . "

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Screwed over in love and lust and have the battle scars to prove it! It's just that I think "forgive and forget" is pure new age dogma, up there with "just accept things as they are" and "think only positive thoughts"

I agree, forgiving is healthy as done properly allows you to take the emotional bag off your shoulders and lay it on the ground...

Forgetting is foolish though as anyone who doesn't learn from past mistakes are doomed to repeat those exact same mistakes. If a (Fab or real) snake bites you once, guess what will likely happen the 2nd, 3rd or 4th time???

I know the above might be construed as bitter, but am actually a very happy go lucky person

Great forum Op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does anyone else have that stupid frozen song stuck in their heads now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I forgive easily. But I never ever forget.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This whole business of "forgive and forget" is B.S. If you get screwed over (on something non sexual), guess what???

You'll get screwed over again and again until you get smart ...

"Forgive but don't forget" is a better rule of law...

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Sometimes you get screwed over on the sexual stuff too . You are right you do need to get smart but holding a grudge is not healthy and forgiveness isn't for them it's for you and your own well being .

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Screwed over in love and lust and have the battle scars to prove it! It's just that I think "forgive and forget" is pure new age dogma, up there with "just accept things as they are" and "think only positive thoughts"

I agree, forgiving is healthy as done properly allows you to take the emotional bag off your shoulders and lay it on the ground...

Forgetting is foolish though as anyone who doesn't learn from past mistakes are doomed to repeat those exact same mistakes. If a (Fab or real) snake bites you once, guess what will likely happen the 2nd, 3rd or 4th time???

I know the above might be construed as bitter, but am actually a very happy go lucky person

Great forum Op "

So forgive and don't forget .

As for making the same mistake , people can be foolish they will believe any lie they are told because they want it to be true . As a result it might take a few times for the lesson to sink in .

You can also be unlucky enough to come across someone who is just very good at lying and being deceptive .

In those cases you can't blame your self just except what happened and mark it off as a lesson learned. You have to learn to forgive yourself too .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Letting go can be an act of greater Maturity and power than hanging on

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

I am normally the forgive and never forget type to make sure it wont happen again .

Mr Dirty xx

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"I am normally the forgive and never forget type to make sure it wont happen again .

Mr Dirty xx"

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So, if a Fab guy told you he normally lasts longer than the 5 minutes he just did ... Would you forgive hi "short cummings" or forget about him very quickly soon after??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately I am cursed with a long memory. We only learn life lessons from bad experiences. That's why I very rarely look back and only look forward with positivity.yabba dabba doo??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to think I could forgive and forget...would you be forgiven for forgetting you forgave or could you forget about it

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By *aughtyTippcplCouple
over a year ago

Nearby

My mam once told me I was like my dad in one way especially, if I'm wrong done by. In her words I "hold it all in the tip of my nose".

Meaning,,, I may forgive but I never forget

Tina

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Come to my bedroom and I'll tell you all my sins to be forgiven

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Come to my bedroom and I'll tell you all my sins to be forgiven "

Hmmm, clears his throat, thats a bit forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me depends on the situation if I hold grudge or not

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