FabSwingers.com forum: When the shoes on the other foot.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I must admit. I know some of us ladies can be "well darn right rude" to the men on here. Deleting messages, being rude, to simply not answering. To say I'm shocked that the shoe has firmly been planted in me today is an understatement. I rarely message anyone as I prefer the guy to do the chasing. I plucked up the courage to message a couple of men today, some were gents and kindly replied but one who will remain nameless was an arrogant ass. Let's just say I learnt a valuable lesson today. Now I know how the men feel.

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By *heilsWoman
over a year ago

Midlands

I had a similar feeling recently but regarding being blocked... A well known couple messaged me, no contact previously, I went to reply and found they had me blocked... I was like WTF!!!

So I got to experience how a lot of men feel when it happens to them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a girl isn't interested in me thats completely fine. It takes 10 seconds to say that in a reply which I'd prefer than just deleting my mail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell that to feminists ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look on it as a good thing. Better to find out now that he's an arrogant ass than when meeting him

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

One of my pet peeves is when a woman asks to exchange face pics, I send mine staying clearly that if I'm not their type then a polite refusal is fine for me then...nothing.

Not interested? Then just say nicely. Don't be rude.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

It's the wimmin begging for the cock pics that annoy me. I'm not just an object here for your gratification. It's like when you're talking to them and you have to remind them "hey, my eyes are up here"

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"It's the wimmin begging for the cock pics that annoy me. I'm not just an object here for your gratification. It's like when you're talking to them and you have to remind them "hey, my eyes are up here"

Maybe I imagined some of that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe I imagined some of that?

You imagined all of that. I'd say it's completely true if it was the other way around

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

"I must admit. I know some of us ladies can be "well darn right rude" to the men on here. Deleting messages, being rude, to simply not answering. To say I'm shocked that the shoe has firmly been planted in me today is an understatement. I rarely message anyone as I prefer the guy to do the chasing. I plucked up the courage to message a couple of men today, some were gents and kindly replied but one who will remain nameless was an arrogant ass. Let's just say I learnt a valuable lesson today. Now I know how the men feel.

Anyone who feels the need to be rude when replying to someone here isn't worth meeting anyways in my opinion. It's very easy to be polite and just say not my type or whatever. His loss OP

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

Think rudeness is endemic on fab...the longer you are here the less it bothers you...

.not good that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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im so sorry about that ass u msg i get that all the time it make unfeal worthless and it not nice

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I would always be a gent to a lady . I was away the weekend and had no internet and could not answer a lady . I found that she blocked me cos I did not answer her . Aah well I just move on end of story .

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Arrogance isn't gender specific and you'll always find ignorants everywhere. As for being turned down, it's simply part of the game. Sure everyone's aware that you won't fit everyone's bill and the other way around. So it's always good to keep in mind that it isn't a nice feeling being on the receiving end and some respect and manners will be appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always manners to reply even if not interested, that's my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His loss is another's gain! I know ladies get tonnes of mail every time they log on and it's near impossible to reply to every single one of them. I do like to get a reply if I've taken the time to mail a lady and I know myself I get f**ked off over not even getting a thanks but no thanks but then I think to myself how many hundred others are saying the same thing. It's just easier not to read too much into it or get annoyed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"His loss is another's gain! I know ladies get tonnes of mail every time they log on and it's near impossible to reply to every single one of them. I do like to get a reply if I've taken the time to mail a lady and I know myself I get f**ked off over not even getting a thanks but no thanks but then I think to myself how many hundred others are saying the same thing. It's just easier not to read too much into it or get annoyed. "

I always try to reply even if it's a thanks but no thanks. Manners cost nothing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try to reply even if it's a thanks but no thanks. Manners cost nothing! "

That's very true.

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I always try to reply even if it's a thanks but no thanks. Manners cost nothing! "

^^ Tis true. She did so for me and I respect her for the courtesy she showed in a quick reply when so many others can't be bothered. Manners indeed cost nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens me all the time...

Maybe not so much since I'm photo verified... But some people are very rude on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try to reply even if it's a thanks but no thanks. Manners cost nothing!

^^ Tis true. She did so for me and I respect her for the courtesy she showed in a quick reply when so many others can't be bothered. Manners indeed cost nothing. "

I think its a bit harsh to say they can't be bothered.

A lot of No Thankyou replies lead onto more messages. The Why Nots, the abuse.

FAB rules say no reply means no interest and while you may think its rude - its not really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not replying isn't rude.

Girls get so used to guys fawning over them that even a straight up "No not interested" might hit them as rude.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Happens me all the time...

Maybe not so much since I'm photo verified... But some people are very rude on here. "

But your profile is still blank with one pic verified for friends only? Youre not exactly welcoming other fabbers into your shop so to speak.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I always try to reply even if it's a thanks but no thanks. Manners cost nothing!

^^ Tis true. She did so for me and I respect her for the courtesy she showed in a quick reply when so many others can't be bothered. Manners indeed cost nothing.

I think its a bit harsh to say they can't be bothered.

A lot of No Thankyou replies lead onto more messages. The Why Nots, the abuse.

FAB rules say no reply means no interest and while you may think its rude - its not really. "

This is true ^^^

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Only online 10 minutes.....already 10 no Thankyou's

I'd spend all night doing it and wouldnt get chance to do anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply to all the countless (hundreds everyday)messages and winks I get ..even the "wanna fuck " ones with loads of fanny photos..and the ladies offering me money..oh and the "hi I'm in your area..wanna shag now" ones..

Just because I'm here doesn't mean I'm a slut (maybe a little though)...

Oh and a big thanks for the hallucinogenic drugs (you know who you are)

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

"Only online 10 minutes.....already 10 no Thankyou's

I'd spend all night doing it and wouldnt get chance to do anything else.

Aww keep the chin up toxic..theres someone out there for you...

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

"Only online 10 minutes.....already 10 no Thankyou's

I'd spend all night doing it and wouldnt get chance to do anything else.

Aww keep the chin up toxic..theres someone out there for you...

Pmsl.....if i get through the no Thankyou's, you may be right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only online 10 minutes.....already 10 no Thankyou's

I'd spend all night doing it and wouldnt get chance to do anything else.

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a no thank you is still better than just being ignored lol it doesn't take a lot to be polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take a no reply as confirmation she isnt into me.simple as that and i move on.

Girls cant be expected to reply to upwards of 100 mails a day.

People here are too easily offended in my opinion not that anyone wants to listen to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive done the " im not meeting/ chatting/ no thank you and it goes ok only to get the "hello hows things " the next day...your damned if you do, damned if you dont...

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

"Only online 10 minutes.....already 10 no Thankyou's

I'd spend all night doing it and wouldnt get chance to do anything else.

a no thank you is still better than just being ignored lol it doesn't take a lot to be polite

So i spend half the night saying no thankyou and not get any where? Is that what your saying?

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I always try to reply even if it's a thanks but no thanks. Manners cost nothing!

^^ Tis true. She did so for me and I respect her for the courtesy she showed in a quick reply when so many others can't be bothered. Manners indeed cost nothing.

I think its a bit harsh to say they can't be bothered.

A lot of No Thankyou replies lead onto more messages. The Why Nots, the abuse.

FAB rules say no reply means no interest and while you may think its rude - its not really.

This is true ^^^"

Well yeah I understand that it's not so clear cut. I know a lot of the women get more messages they can cope with. And as you say it can often lead on to further messages and abuse etc. That's why I always state that I'm totally ok with a polite refusal and promise not to be a dick about it. Usually that makes it easier for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only online 10 minutes.....already 10 no Thankyou's

I'd spend all night doing it and wouldnt get chance to do anything else.

a no thank you is still better than just being ignored lol it doesn't take a lot to be polite

So i spend half the night saying no thankyou and not get any where? Is that what your saying? "

I understand where your coming from as lady's are probably inundated with messages on a daily basis but from a guys perspective it would be nice to even see one no thank you out of a bunch of messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr) being a single guy on here and other sites before will always try to reply to messages.

But if it's a one line "How's you" "Any plans for the weekend" message I'll just ignore, or if I'm in a funny mood, then I'm quite happy to walk with them down their conversational cul-de-sac with simple one line answers. "Grand" "no" etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My moto:

Don't be offended if someone rejects you, people usually reject expensive things because they can't afford them

A block usually means avoiding drama no matter which way it goes you blocking someone or being blocked by someone else. Take it as a blessing. Just not meant to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My moto:

Don't be offended if someone rejects you, people usually reject expensive things because they can't afford them

A block usually means avoiding drama no matter which way it goes you blocking someone or being blocked by someone else. Take it as a blessing. Just not meant to be

Haha. Love your motto Minx. Excellent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Answer to that question.. is biowin in the wind..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try to reply even if it's a thanks but no thanks. Manners cost nothing!

^^ Tis true. She did so for me and I respect her for the courtesy she showed in a quick reply when so many others can't be bothered. Manners indeed cost nothing.

I think its a bit harsh to say they can't be bothered.

A lot of No Thankyou replies lead onto more messages. The Why Nots, the abuse.

FAB rules say no reply means no interest and while you may think its rude - its not really. "

I totally agree I do my best to reply...cant keep justifing why im not interested..so I dont no reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh to have a woman message me i would think all my birthdays have come at once!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do try to reply to every message - manners are easily carried! It take two seconds to politely decline x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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. Yes you ladies have it easy us men usually have put in all the effort lol

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By *o hassleMan
over a year ago

moira

"I do try to reply to every message - manners are easily carried! It take two seconds to politely decline x "

A rare attitude in here and should be followed by all ( M , F and couples )

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By *elax!Man
over a year ago

Limerick

Do people realise how many messages ladies get on here? Expecting them to reply to each and every one to say 'no thank you' is ridiculous! No reply means no interest, move on and stop getting offended for the sake of being offended!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I allways reply one way or another

But there is some that keep hounding you with mail with why not and whats wrong with me and get abusive and so u block to stop the on coming whinning mail

Then the threads come here with why am i being blocked and women are called time wastors and cock teasers

Its fab dont take it too serious block ,get blocked and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I allways reply one way or another

But there is some that keep hounding you with mail with why not and whats wrong with me and get abusive and so u block to stop the on coming whinning mail

Then the threads come here with why am i being blocked and women are called time wastors and cock teasers

Its fab dont take it too serious block ,get blocked and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do try to reply to every message - manners are easily carried! It take two seconds to politely decline x

A rare attitude in here and should be followed by all ( M , F and couples )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I allways reply one way or another

But there is some that keep hounding you with mail with why not and whats wrong with me and get abusive and so u block to stop the on coming whinning mail

Then the threads come here with why am i being blocked and women are called time wastors and cock teasers

Its fab dont take it too serious block ,get blocked and move on

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. I do think some women on this are cock teases and looking for attention to be fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats usally what some men say when they get dont get the merts they want when they want

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I allways reply one way or another

But there is some that keep hounding you with mail with why not and whats wrong with me and get abusive and so u block to stop the on coming whinning mail

Then the threads come here with why am i being blocked and women are called time wastors and cock teasers

Its fab dont take it too serious block ,get blocked and move on

. I do think some women on this are cock teases and looking for attention to be fair "

Hold on there for a minute

if youre chatting to a woman on a night out and she goes off and doesnt come back, do you find her and call her a cock tease???

Clever mentality you have there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thats usally what some men say when they get dont get the merts they want when they want"
no there defo some wanting ego boost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do u make that out looking for a ego boost??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do u make that out looking for a ego boost??"
by having lots guys message them about there pics etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I allways reply one way or another

But there is some that keep hounding you with mail with why not and whats wrong with me and get abusive and so u block to stop the on coming whinning mail

Then the threads come here with why am i being blocked and women are called time wastors and cock teasers

Its fab dont take it too serious block ,get blocked and move on

. I do think some women on this are cock teases and looking for attention to be fair

Hold on there for a minute

if youre chatting to a woman on a night out and she goes off and doesnt come back, do you find her and call her a cock tease???

Clever mentality you have there!

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no cock teasing is when they all over ya all night then fuck off on ye on night out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guys mail because they want to and they like their pictures.its their choice to mail.

A few mails exchanged dosent mean a meet has to happen.

Where is the ego boost there??

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"I allways reply one way or another

But there is some that keep hounding you with mail with why not and whats wrong with me and get abusive and so u block to stop the on coming whinning mail

Then the threads come here with why am i being blocked and women are called time wastors and cock teasers

Its fab dont take it too serious block ,get blocked and move on

. I do think some women on this are cock teases and looking for attention to be fair

Hold on there for a minute

if youre chatting to a woman on a night out and she goes off and doesnt come back, do you find her and call her a cock tease???

Clever mentality you have there!

no cock teasing is when they all over ya all night then fuck off on ye on night out lol"
lol I'd say it's called lucky escape .

(on ladies behalf)

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

"I allways reply one way or another

But there is some that keep hounding you with mail with why not and whats wrong with me and get abusive and so u block to stop the on coming whinning mail

Then the threads come here with why am i being blocked and women are called time wastors and cock teasers

Its fab dont take it too serious block ,get blocked and move on

. I do think some women on this are cock teases and looking for attention to be fair

Hold on there for a minute

if youre chatting to a woman on a night out and she goes off and doesnt come back, do you find her and call her a cock tease???

Clever mentality you have there!

no cock teasing is when they all over ya all night then fuck off on ye on night out lol lol I'd say it's called lucky escape .

(on ladies behalf)"

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I allways reply one way or another

But there is some that keep hounding you with mail with why not and whats wrong with me and get abusive and so u block to stop the on coming whinning mail

Then the threads come here with why am i being blocked and women are called time wastors and cock teasers

Its fab dont take it too serious block ,get blocked and move on

. I do think some women on this are cock teases and looking for attention to be fair

Hold on there for a minute

if youre chatting to a woman on a night out and she goes off and doesnt come back, do you find her and call her a cock tease???

Clever mentality you have there!

no cock teasing is when they all over ya all night then fuck off on ye on night out lol"

Thats your real life youre referring to im guessing as youre not meet verified here yet. How are women cock teases here then??

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

"I allways reply one way or another

But there is some that keep hounding you with mail with why not and whats wrong with me and get abusive and so u block to stop the on coming whinning mail

Then the threads come here with why am i being blocked and women are called time wastors and cock teasers

Its fab dont take it too serious block ,get blocked and move on

. I do think some women on this are cock teases and looking for attention to be fair

Hold on there for a minute

if youre chatting to a woman on a night out and she goes off and doesnt come back, do you find her and call her a cock tease???

Clever mentality you have there!

no cock teasing is when they all over ya all night then fuck off on ye on night out lol

Thats your real life youre referring to im guessing as youre not meet verified here yet. How are women cock teases here then??

Lol....did you not read.....because they put up pics for men to message them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They probally not flooding his inbox with mails and on their knees begging to meet

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I allways reply one way or another

But there is some that keep hounding you with mail with why not and whats wrong with me and get abusive and so u block to stop the on coming whinning mail

Then the threads come here with why am i being blocked and women are called time wastors and cock teasers

Its fab dont take it too serious block ,get blocked and move on

. I do think some women on this are cock teases and looking for attention to be fair

Hold on there for a minute

if youre chatting to a woman on a night out and she goes off and doesnt come back, do you find her and call her a cock tease???

Clever mentality you have there!

no cock teasing is when they all over ya all night then fuck off on ye on night out lol

Thats your real life youre referring to im guessing as youre not meet verified here yet. How are women cock teases here then??

Lol....did you not read.....because they put up pics for men to message them

Stopppp!!!

holy mother of divine jesus!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can tell who is looking for ego boost some getting very defensive lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I allways reply one way or another

But there is some that keep hounding you with mail with why not and whats wrong with me and get abusive and so u block to stop the on coming whinning mail

Then the threads come here with why am i being blocked and women are called time wastors and cock teasers

Its fab dont take it too serious block ,get blocked and move on

I always reply too.

But I know I don't have to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont understand where u see that lol.i only see strong independant confident people here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I allways reply one way or another

But there is some that keep hounding you with mail with why not and whats wrong with me and get abusive and so u block to stop the on coming whinning mail

Then the threads come here with why am i being blocked and women are called time wastors and cock teasers

Its fab dont take it too serious block ,get blocked and move on

. I do think some women on this are cock teases and looking for attention to be fair

Hold on there for a minute

if youre chatting to a woman on a night out and she goes off and doesnt come back, do you find her and call her a cock tease???

Clever mentality you have there!

no cock teasing is when they all over ya all night then fuck off on ye on night out lol

Thats your real life youre referring to im guessing as youre not meet verified here yet. How are women cock teases here then??

Lol....did you not read.....because they put up pics for men to message them

I've been sussed

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