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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ladies if you went out on a first date meal,cinema etc with a guy and he did not pay for the date would he get a second date, and before the smart arse's start no i am not a cheap fucker just curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of cheap fuckers on here . Ask girls to meet for coffee and then don't even buy a girl the coffee, then get all precious when they are turned down for a ride . Manners cost nothing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shouldn't you answer first?

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Plenty of cheap fuckers on here . Ask girls to meet for coffee and then don't even buy a girl the coffee, then get all precious when they are turned down for a ride . Manners cost nothing . "

So we pay money for things and you give us sex? That sounds dodgy!

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By *ojos jugsWoman
over a year ago

Bangor


"Ladies if you went out on a first date meal,cinema etc with a guy and he did not pay for the date would he get a second date, and before the smart arse's start no i am not a cheap fucker just curious "

This happened to me couple yrs back, and no he didnt get a 2nd date.. think he was looking a `mummy` figure in life, someone to take him by the hand and say mon son lol.. I prefer a manly man and i do pay my share, halves or no date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think 50/50 would be fair. Mate mine always jokes about fact he likes having sex with escorts and fact girlfriends are just as expensive lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ladies if you went out on a first date meal,cinema etc with a guy and he did not pay for the date would he get a second date, and before the smart arse's start no i am not a cheap fucker just curious "

) lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly, never ever take someone to the cinema on a first date. Worst first date ever. You both sit there for 90 plus minutes lookin' at a effectively is a big fuckin' telly and not even speaking to each other.

(Netflix n chill, is something totally different)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ladies if you went out on a first date meal,cinema etc with a guy and he did not pay for the date would he get a second date, and before the smart arse's start no i am not a cheap fucker just curious

This happened to me couple yrs back, and no he didnt get a 2nd date.. think he was looking a `mummy` figure in life, someone to take him by the hand and say mon son lol.. I prefer a manly man and i do pay my share, halves or no date"
lol i agree fair comment

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Firstly, never ever take someone to the cinema on a first date. Worst first date ever. You both sit there for 90 plus minutes lookin' at a effectively is a big fuckin' telly and not even speaking to each other.

(Netflix n chill, is something totally different)"

There's always glamworld where you can watch the ould lads wanking!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Firstly, never ever take someone to the cinema on a first date. Worst first date ever. You both sit there for 90 plus minutes lookin' at a effectively is a big fuckin' telly and not even speaking to each other.

(Netflix n chill, is something totally different)"
true i prefare nexflix & chill cinema scrapped so lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Firstly, never ever take someone to the cinema on a first date. Worst first date ever. You both sit there for 90 plus minutes lookin' at a effectively is a big fuckin' telly and not even speaking to each other.

(Netflix n chill, is something totally different)

There's always glamworld where you can watch the ould lads wanking! "
lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think 50/50 would be fair. Mate mine always jokes about fact he likes having sex with escorts and fact girlfriends are just as expensive lol "
lol kinda true i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I asked a guy for a coffee, dinner, cinema etc I'd rather pay as I would have been the one to ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But back to the question at hand

Who should pay?

The man, right?

But your supposed to have sex with him when ever he asks, right?

I didn't think so

But Where does the double standard come from????

I like to look at it like this, if you go out with a guy and don't offer to pay, your share, you weren't brought up right.

If you go out with a guy and he doesn't pay he wasn't brought up right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I asked a guy for a coffee, dinner, cinema etc I'd rather pay as I would have been the one to ask."
ye thats fair enough but being the gentleman i am i would still insist on paying lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BlindBoy BoatClub (one of the best social commentators we have in the country at the moment)

"Why young men of Ireland need feminism"

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=vWUDQdiFB7A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But back to the question at hand

Who should pay?

The man, right?

But your supposed to have sex with him when ever he asks, right?

I didn't think so

But Where does the double standard come from????

I like to look at it like this, if you go out with a guy and don't offer to pay, your share, you weren't brought up right.

If you go out with a guy and he doesn't pay he wasn't brought up right.

"
deep but interesting view

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"BlindBoy BoatClub (one of the best social commentators we have in the country at the moment)

"Why young men of Ireland need feminism"

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=vWUDQdiFB7A"
we need it or women wat us to have it ??

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By *eebawMan
over a year ago

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"But back to the question at hand

Who should pay?

The man, right?

But your supposed to have sex with him when ever he asks, right?

I didn't think so

But Where does the double standard come from????

I like to look at it like this, if you go out with a guy and don't offer to pay, your share, you weren't brought up right.

If you go out with a guy and he doesn't pay he wasn't brought up right.

"

I would agree on this if i was to ask a girl out i would always offer to pay not because i wana be the big shot but iv been brough up like this . Its kind of traditional for the guy to pay no ????

And well if lady insists it would have to be 50/50 i sopose ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But back to the question at hand

Who should pay?

The man, right?

But your supposed to have sex with him when ever he asks, right?

I didn't think so

But Where does the double standard come from????

I like to look at it like this, if you go out with a guy and don't offer to pay, your share, you weren't brought up right.

If you go out with a guy and he doesn't pay he wasn't brought up right.

I would agree on this if i was to ask a girl out i would always offer to pay not because i wana be the big shot but iv been brough up like this . Its kind of traditional for the guy to pay no ????

And well if lady insists it would have to be 50/50 i sopose ? "
i agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"BlindBoy BoatClub (one of the best social commentators we have in the country at the moment)

"Why young men of Ireland need feminism"

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=vWUDQdiFB7Awe need it or women wat us to have it ??"

Just watch the video, it's only 2 minutes long and relevant to you thread

Made me, I want to say reevaluate, but re think my whole Me Tarzan. You Jane. Me must pay out look on courting.

But me still Tarzan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every girl/couple I have met has paid for my tea/coffee.

I normally only get a simple cup of tea when I meet someone. It's what I drink and like but its cheap. I think its why they all paid for it, without even asking me.

I met a couple who refused to take money off me for the hotel room, flat out refused. They said they would have been getting the hotel room anyway and they enjoyed meeting me.

I think if you are meeting someone, and the bill is going to be high, then obviously split it. Offer to pay it all if you have it, but if someone cant afford what they are ordering why are they ordering it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"BlindBoy BoatClub (one of the best social commentators we have in the country at the moment)

"Why young men of Ireland need feminism"

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=vWUDQdiFB7Awe need it or women wat us to have it ??

Just watch the video, it's only 2 minutes long and relevant to you thread

Made me, I want to say reevaluate, but re think my whole Me Tarzan. You Jane. Me must pay out look on courting.

But me still Tarzan "
lol ok so

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere


"Firstly, never ever take someone to the cinema on a first date. Worst first date ever. You both sit there for 90 plus minutes lookin' at a effectively is a big fuckin' telly and not even speaking to each other.

(Netflix n chill, is something totally different)

There's always glamworld where you can watch the ould lads wanking! "

Stop giving them ideas will ya.....sake!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im super independent so i try pay for half of everything as id hate for him to feel he had to pay for it all..we do be nearly rowing over who gets this coffee lol

Guy im with is a pure gent but i still think feck he is paying again!!!

On a first meet id have no problem paying for coffee..even when i was dating ( vanilla ) id never do dinner in case we hated each other and had to sit though a meal so coffees are good for me...

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Firstly, never ever take someone to the cinema on a first date. Worst first date ever. You both sit there for 90 plus minutes lookin' at a effectively is a big fuckin' telly and not even speaking to each other.

(Netflix n chill, is something totally different)

There's always glamworld where you can watch the ould lads wanking!

Stop giving them ideas will ya.....sake!!!!"

Given the number of threads here about the place I figure the ould lads wanking is a big draw! I was going to say "crowd puller" but that might be a pun too far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On first few dates I do expect the guy to pay... its a good indication of his feelings and level of respect for you, if he thinks your not worth it he won't want to pay much if anything but if he is really into you he'll go all out to impress and spoil you.

As dating progresses I have no problem taking turns paying.

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By *rmaghbi27Man
over a year ago

Armagh


"But back to the question at hand

Who should pay?

The man, right?

But your supposed to have sex with him when ever he asks, right?

I didn't think so

But Where does the double standard come from????

I like to look at it like this, if you go out with a guy and don't offer to pay, your share, you weren't brought up right.

If you go out with a guy and he doesn't pay he wasn't brought up right.

"

If I ask a girl on a date I'll pay because she's doing me the honour of giving me an opportunity. If she asks me it would need to be at least 50/50 for my own narcissistic pride

Ps. What everyone needs is equality for all. Not feminism.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On first few dates I do expect the guy to pay... its a good indication of his feelings and level of respect for you, if he thinks your not worth it he won't want to pay much if anything but if he is really into you he'll go all out to impress and spoil you.

As dating progresses I have no problem taking turns paying."
good stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is where I've been going wrong...I'm throwing away the flask and sarnie box straight away

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I have always been quite old school, where the guy treats the lady etc. However I know a lot of women these days like to be independent. On my last date, and what I usually do is, when the bill comes I offer to pay the full thing. Some will accept and others will want to pay their share. If they are ok with me paying then cool but I won't insist if they want to pay their share I just accept. So long as both parties are happy then that's the main thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I asked a guy for a coffee, dinner, cinema etc I'd rather pay as I would have been the one to ask. ye thats fair enough but being the gentleman i am i would still insist on paying lol "

Most guys do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On first few dates I do expect the guy to pay... its a good indication of his feelings and level of respect for you, if he thinks your not worth it he won't want to pay much if anything but if he is really into you he'll go all out to impress and spoil you."

Out of curiosity. Does that usually work? Like do you end up dating really respectful guys who love you?

I find that nomrally when people put on a good show on the first date, they are being fake, being the best version of themselves they can be, and 99% of the time they are not that person. After a few months you figure it out, and you try change them to be that guy they were on the first dates, but they get annoyed thinking youre trying to change them, this is the real them, they never hid it from you, why change them

etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On first few dates I do expect the guy to pay... its a good indication of his feelings and level of respect for you, if he thinks your not worth it he won't want to pay much if anything but if he is really into you he'll go all out to impress and spoil you.

As dating progresses I have no problem taking turns paying."

Why don't you pay to show your feelings and level of respect for him on the first few dates?

Equality works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On first few dates I do expect the guy to pay... its a good indication of his feelings and level of respect for you, if he thinks your not worth it he won't want to pay much if anything but if he is really into you he'll go all out to impress and spoil you.

As dating progresses I have no problem taking turns paying."

And of you expect a guy to pay for you, then it's a good indication of your own respect for yourself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"BlindBoy BoatClub (one of the best social commentators we have in the country at the moment)

"Why young men of Ireland need feminism"

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=vWUDQdiFB7A"

Ah yes, the 'social commentator'...otherwise known at the loud mouth attention seeker who everyone tried to avoid when growing up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty of cheap fuckers on here . Ask girls to meet for coffee and then don't even buy a girl the coffee, then get all precious when they are turned down for a ride . Manners cost nothing .

So we pay money for things and you give us sex? That sounds dodgy! "

I was thinking that as well :-/

Is she saying get the coffee in and I'll fuck you.

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

I would usually pay the first time if i could especially if i like her. If she the independant type then i would suggest that she can pay the second time.

That way she is happy she gets to express her independence and i get to see her again.

Result in my books..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would usually pay the first time if i could especially if i like her. If she the independant type then i would suggest that she can pay the second time.

That way she is happy she gets to express her independence and i get to see her again.

Result in my books.. "

My shout for lunch soon so

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West


"I would usually pay the first time if i could especially if i like her. If she the independant type then i would suggest that she can pay the second time.

That way she is happy she gets to express her independence and i get to see her again.

Result in my books..

My shout for lunch soon so "

For you my lady.. anytime..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty of cheap fuckers on here . Ask girls to meet for coffee and then don't even buy a girl the coffee, then get all precious when they are turned down for a ride . Manners cost nothing .

So we pay money for things and you give us sex? That sounds dodgy!

I was thinking that as well :-/

Is she saying get the coffee in and I'll fuck you. "

jesus h christ i said no such thing , i merely commented that cheap bastards here INVITE women for coffee and then proceed not to even offer a lousy 2 quid coffee. if you wouldnt even spring for a lousy cuppa coffee why would i ever consider sharing anything other than a no thanks with you

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Plenty of cheap fuckers on here . Ask girls to meet for coffee and then don't even buy a girl the coffee, then get all precious when they are turned down for a ride . Manners cost nothing .

So we pay money for things and you give us sex? That sounds dodgy! "
pretty sure sex was on the cards with this being a sex site and all lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty of cheap fuckers on here . Ask girls to meet for coffee and then don't even buy a girl the coffee, then get all precious when they are turned down for a ride . Manners cost nothing . "

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies if you went out on a first date meal,cinema etc with a guy and he did not pay for the date would he get a second date, and before the smart arse's start no i am not a cheap fucker just curious

This happened to me couple yrs back, and no he didnt get a 2nd date.. think he was looking a `mummy` figure in life, someone to take him by the hand and say mon son lol.. I prefer a manly man and i do pay my share, halves or no date"

Mon son lol lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a little more mature.... I think the guy should pay on a date particularly a first date no question

When I was younger I spent many holidays where I never bought a drink as guys always did then .... I think it's gentlemanly

Even now I hate going to the bar!

Sam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a little more mature.... I think the guy should pay on a date particularly a first date no question

When I was younger I spent many holidays where I never bought a drink as guys always did then .... I think it's gentlemanly

Even now I hate going to the bar!

Sam

"

So so true those of us of a certain age ... a gent will pay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the man should always pay as respect as having a beautifull lady on his arms where ever he goes and they women do make more of an effort to get ready than the man my honest view its a gentlemanly thing to do is treath the women like a queen she should be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont see the problem people should not expect everything for free in this world is our moto . however turning up on time smart dressed nice smell etc is more than enough. you dont know if the guy can afford that meal/cinema for two people..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I wouldn't even arrange a meet/date without a few bob in my pocket. Wouldn't enjoy it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, I wouldn't even arrange a meet/date without a few bob in my pocket. Wouldn't enjoy it. "
but some ladys are whats the words (gold diggers) an i dont see why they expect a man too pay her way in life..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, I wouldn't even arrange a meet/date without a few bob in my pocket. Wouldn't enjoy it. but some ladys are whats the words (gold diggers) an i dont see why they expect a man too pay her way in life.. "

Yeah that's a different story than paying for a date. That'd be presents and supporting a lifestyle. People have different views, just personally wouldn't go on a date if I couldn't pay for it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, I wouldn't even arrange a meet/date without a few bob in my pocket. Wouldn't enjoy it. but some ladys are whats the words (gold diggers) an i dont see why they expect a man too pay her way in life..

Yeah that's a different story than paying for a date. That'd be presents and supporting a lifestyle. People have different views, just personally wouldn't go on a date if I couldn't pay for it all. "
but honest why should you pay for the lot. would you pay for a hotel room for a meet with female or couple from here no chance. the bill should be split between the two. then after a few dates the yeah work away an treat your girl. but no girl should expect the bloke too get landed with the bill on a first date..

jen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I should have to. I feel its right. The only time I've had to deal with hotels is when I'm away or there's a hens or something in Dublin, room is always paid for. Never had that hotel discussion. I've always had my own place until recently, and will have my own place soon. But for a cinema date, dinner date, I've always paid. The girl normally buys me a drink in the pub afterwards, but I'd pay for the drinks in general for the night. I know things are changing, I won't though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think I should have to. I feel its right. The only time I've had to deal with hotels is when I'm away or there's a hens or something in Dublin, room is always paid for. Never had that hotel discussion. I've always had my own place until recently, and will have my own place soon. But for a cinema date, dinner date, I've always paid. The girl normally buys me a drink in the pub afterwards, but I'd pay for the drinks in general for the night. I know things are changing, I won't though. "

I'm not a gentleman either, nor am i trying to imply I am. Have numerous faults and flaws, I just have certain principles,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nice to see that there is still some gentlemen out there. However I would always pay my fair share of the bill and if the guy doesn't let me then I'd definitely but him a couple of drinks

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

I don't expect anything from anyone on here. If I meet someone socially I offer to pay my half. In fact I've paid for my own and a guys drink many times.

If we decide to meet in a hotel I always offer to split the room cost. Its called being polite. I'm not on here looking for hand outs and no one else should be either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's nice to see that there is still some gentlemen out there. However I would always pay my fair share of the bill and if the guy doesn't let me then I'd definitely but him a couple of drinks "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

any man can be a gentle man without having too enter his wallet. fact guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't expect anything from anyone on here. If I meet someone socially I offer to pay my half. In fact I've paid for my own and a guys drink many times.

If we decide to meet in a hotel I always offer to split the room cost. Its called being polite. I'm not on here looking for hand outs and no one else should be either. "

Normally if a guy pays, he would never consider it a handout.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't expect anything from anyone on here. If I meet someone socially I offer to pay my half. In fact I've paid for my own and a guys drink many times.

If we decide to meet in a hotel I always offer to split the room cost. Its called being polite. I'm not on here looking for hand outs and no one else should be either. "
exactly

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves


"I don't expect anything from anyone on here. If I meet someone socially I offer to pay my half. In fact I've paid for my own and a guys drink many times.

If we decide to meet in a hotel I always offer to split the room cost. Its called being polite. I'm not on here looking for hand outs and no one else should be either.

Normally if a guy pays, he would never consider it a handout. "

You'd be surprised what some people think on this site. Trust me some expect sex for dinners and hotels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't expect anything from anyone on here. If I meet someone socially I offer to pay my half. In fact I've paid for my own and a guys drink many times.

If we decide to meet in a hotel I always offer to split the room cost. Its called being polite. I'm not on here looking for hand outs and no one else should be either.

Normally if a guy pays, he would never consider it a handout.

You'd be surprised what some people think on this site. Trust me some expect sex for dinners and hotels. "

I'm not surprised at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheapskates are not confined to one gender.. Having said that.. One of my meets on my first profile, That lady surprised me with her generosity that day, will always remember that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I asked a guy for a coffee, dinner, cinema etc I'd rather pay as I would have been the one to ask. ye thats fair enough but being the gentleman i am i would still insist on paying lol

Most guys do"

A Gentleman always dose pay if not its not really a date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty of cheap fuckers on here . Ask girls to meet for coffee and then don't even buy a girl the coffee, then get all precious when they are turned down for a ride . Manners cost nothing .

So we pay money for things and you give us sex? That sounds dodgy!

I was thinking that as well :-/

Is she saying get the coffee in and I'll fuck you.

jesus h christ i said no such thing , i merely commented that cheap bastards here INVITE women for coffee and then proceed not to even offer a lousy 2 quid coffee. if you wouldnt even spring for a lousy cuppa coffee why would i ever consider sharing anything other than a no thanks with you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy of here, went for a meal he offered too pay, then stayed in hotel, he payed, and I bought him few drinks in pub down the road, we still meet when we can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a man should pay but maybe that's an old fashioned thing now a days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think a man should always pay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...always pay on a first meet,but if a lady offers to share costs down the line,I've no problem with that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On first few dates I do expect the guy to pay... its a good indication of his feelings and level of respect for you, if he thinks your not worth it he won't want to pay much if anything but if he is really into you he'll go all out to impress and spoil you.

Out of curiosity. Does that usually work? Like do you end up dating really respectful guys who love you?

I find that nomrally when people put on a good show on the first date, they are being fake, being the best version of themselves they can be, and 99% of the time they are not that person. After a few months you figure it out, and you try change them to be that guy they were on the first dates, but they get annoyed thinking youre trying to change them, this is the real them, they never hid it from you, why change them

etc."

It's merely an indicator of the type of person they are, you can tell within a few dates whose not all they're pretending to be, as for love well that comes with time not on a few dstes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...always pay on a first meet,but if a lady offers to share costs down the line,I've no problem with that! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On first few dates I do expect the guy to pay... its a good indication of his feelings and level of respect for you, if he thinks your not worth it he won't want to pay much if anything but if he is really into you he'll go all out to impress and spoil you.

As dating progresses I have no problem taking turns paying.

Why don't you pay to show your feelings and level of respect for him on the first few dates?

Equality works both ways. "

If I had been the one to initiate the date I would pay, I'm talking about when I have been asked out on a date I expect the asked to pay... A date is where your asking someone to join you as a treat for dinner, a movie etc not a friend going out as a couple of singles paying your own way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont think a man should always pay."

100% agree x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On first few dates I do expect the guy to pay... its a good indication of his feelings and level of respect for you, if he thinks your not worth it he won't want to pay much if anything but if he is really into you he'll go all out to impress and spoil you.

As dating progresses I have no problem taking turns paying.

And of you expect a guy to pay for you, then it's a good indication of your own respect for yourself..."

People's views of dating are very different to others views on dating. Maybe a generation thing, upbringing, a sign of low income, equality or whatever but men I date pay on first few date and feel insulted if a woman refuses their kindness or offered to pay, as dating progresses it becomes more comfortable to take turns paying. For me paying individually for what you've each eaten or used is just awkward at any stage, how you do it is totally up to you no one is saying anyone else is wrong we're merely giving our personal opion on how we do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems there confusion if it's meets off here or a proper real life date that's being discussed! OP said 'first date' not fab meets so why hotels ate being brought into discussion it has lost me. lol

but each to their own

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"I think the man should always pay as respect as having a beautifull lady on his arms where ever he goes and they women do make more of an effort to get ready than the man my honest view its a gentlemanly thing to do is treath the women like a queen she should be"

Seriously..... Sometimes I despair ...

This is what happens when non swingers populate a site and muddy the waters ...

You make women sound like ornaments ffs....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met a guy of here, went for a meal he offered too pay, then stayed in hotel, he payed, and I bought him few drinks in pub down the road, we still meet when we can "

So you let him pay for the meal and hotel and then bought him a couple of drinks. Jesus, I hope you're proud of yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On first few dates I do expect the guy to pay... its a good indication of his feelings and level of respect for you, if he thinks your not worth it he won't want to pay much if anything but if he is really into you he'll go all out to impress and spoil you.

As dating progresses I have no problem taking turns paying.

Why don't you pay to show your feelings and level of respect for him on the first few dates?

Equality works both ways.

If I had been the one to initiate the date I would pay, I'm talking about when I have been asked out on a date I expect the asked to pay... A date is where your asking someone to join you as a treat for dinner, a movie etc not a friend going out as a couple of singles paying your own way. "

That's complete nonsense. Someone always has to initiate a date...otherwise it would never happen! All the woman has to do so is wait to be asked every time and them, bam, man is landed with the bill every time? More fool him I say. Says a lot about the type of character about many women in this thread as well to he honest, some seriously poor upbringings it's clear to see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd expect to go Dutch on a first date. That way there are no expectations on either party.

If I really like her, I'll suggest I get the bill. If I don't like her, I'll suggest Dutch.

Works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met a guy of here, went for a meal he offered too pay, then stayed in hotel, he payed, and I bought him few drinks in pub down the road, we still meet when we can

So you let him pay for the meal and hotel and then bought him a couple of drinks. Jesus, I hope

you're proud of yourself"
he offered too pay. I did suggest I pay half for meal but he insisted, he said he wanted too treat me, coz that's type of guy he was. On 2nd meet I gave him for hotel, I was talking about first meet, their are descent guys out their. That will go the whole hog for a woman.

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Wow. These forums get more off putting day by day. So many people with chips on their shoulders and so much unwarranted animosity.

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By *auraLucyLuLuWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Wow. These forums get more off putting day by day. So many people with chips on their shoulders and so much unwarranted animosity. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty of cheap fuckers on here . Ask girls to meet for coffee and then don't even buy a girl the coffee, then get all precious when they are turned down for a ride . Manners cost nothing .

Totally agree "

Me too met plenty last time I was on here. One kept going to the friggin toilet so he did not have to pay.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

Generally as a rule I pay,I have met couples who when I went to reception to pay I found they have already paid which is nice but surprising,I have also met single females who insist on paying half in the let's meet and share a hotel chats but they don't pay and I have met single females who do pay half out of principle,every one is different and the only ones that irked me in any way were the ones who insist on paying their share but don't actually do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hmmm...when we went somewhere i always pay for a woman...why??? because man should look after woman...(woman should look after family)...and we were not family...we have evolved from nature...it is man side how the date will go..i love independent woman but she should let me be a man..i let her be a woman-who is the most beauty creatures in this planet?? a woman... if i have not enough money - not invite a woman for date....simple..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow. These forums get more off putting day by day. So many people with chips on their shoulders and so much unwarranted animosity.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


" ...why??? because man should look after woman...(woman should look after family)...and we were not family..."

Welcome back 1920s...I've missed you old friend!

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"hmmm...when we went somewhere i always pay for a woman...why??? because man should look after woman...(woman should look after family)...and we were not family...we have evolved from nature...it is man side how the date will go..i love independent woman but she should let me be a man..i let her be a woman-who is the most beauty creatures in this planet?? a woman... if i have not enough money - not invite a woman for date....simple.."

Welcome to Fab Swiss Tony.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hmmm...when we went somewhere i always pay for a woman...why??? because man should look after woman...(woman should look after family)...and we were not family...we have evolved from nature...it is man side how the date will go..i love independent woman but she should let me be a man..i let her be a woman-who is the most beauty creatures in this planet?? a woman... if i have not enough money - not invite a woman for date....simple.."

Jesus wept

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By *oungcouple1993xCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

A proper date (i.e. not fab) I would expect the man to pay for the first date. In a relationship or after the first date it's grand to split things but for the first date I think it's chivalrous to pay. I am quite old fashioned though Also I'd always bring money and at least offer to pay half

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By *evilinsidemeMan
over a year ago

Trim

It's simple as a guy you always offer to pay, the lady refuses you insist and say it's your pleasure. If she argues about it go halves, but I normally say (if it was a good date) I'll get this one you treat me another day. As you progress dating, you can figure the rest out, but as a first date I like to be generous, because it's who I am.

Probably why I'm always skint though. Haha.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Is this still going? I go by whatever I think is appropriate. Every situation is different. If a man wants to spoil me I let him....

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Is this still going? I go by whatever I think is appropriate. Every situation is different. If a man wants to spoil me I let him.... "

Spoil I was thinking destroy u was more likely

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Is this still going? I go by whatever I think is appropriate. Every situation is different. If a man wants to spoil me I let him....

Spoil I was thinking destroy u was more likely "

Is that not the same?

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