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"Hi all just curious why the nice polite guys always finish last " And bad boys don't last. "Do you find that this approach usually works? Or let me guess, you've never tried it before. In fact, you don't normally approach girls - am I right? The truth is that you're a quiet sensitive type but, if I'm prepared to take a chance, I might just get to know the inner you: witty, adventurous, passionate, loving, loyal. Taxi! A little bit crazy, a little bit bad. But hey - don't us girls just love that" | |||
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Seriously, you can be a polite guy and date lots of women. Be a gent, use your charm but don't be scared to be a little bit cheeky too with women...
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"I love guys finishing after me, but they're rare. "I'm medium rare myself....pink with the juices flowing  | |||
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"Hi all just curious why the nice polite guys always finish last " I used to be one of those "nice guys". I'll elaborate. I'm guessing (like I was) you always show manners and are always willing to go above and beyond to please a woman that you're interested in. Before I came back on this site I had a woman lead me on and mess me around for ten months. At the time I was nothing but nice and did everything I could to please her but in the end it didn't matter. She falls into a certain category of women and a certain cycle in dating....now before I got any further I must emphasise that not all women are the same.... but in this kind of scenario.... Woman is with an asshole who of course treats her like dirt. They end up breaking up..... she complains and cries how she just wants to meet a nice guy who will treat her right..... nice guy comes along who respects her and treats her nothing but nice..... at first she loves it but then one of two things happen...... because he is so nice and she is unfamiliar with it her defences go up and she pushes him away because she thinks it's too good to be true and so doesn't know how to react or deal with it...... OR because he is so nice he becomes predictable, too easy or too boring.... he's not enough of a challenge or there is nothing about him needs changed and so she then turns round and says I'm not interested or I just want to be friends etc. Then he is in the dreaded friendzoning and continues always being that good friend hoping she might some day see just how good a person he is and love him. Doesn't work that way dude. Learned it all the very very hard way through painful experience. Now I don't tolerate flakiness or bullshit from any woman. It doesn't mean be a dick to them. Woman are to be and should be reversed and respected, but I just stopped being a doormat a long time ago. Never again will I go back to being that whole nice guy person. I am nice, and I treat women well but now I'm form and no longer a doormat. And funnily enough since then women seem to respect and like me more for it. I hope this has been insightful for you and helps a little. To anybody else reading this..... I'm not trying to offend any person, if I have, my apologies. Simply my opinion. If anyone wants to point out something I may not have considered or thought of, I'm always willing to listen and learn or be educated further. Hope you're all having a beautiful weekend folks. | |||
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"Hi all just curious why the nice polite guys always finish last And bad boys don't last. "Do you find that this approach usually works? Or let me guess, you've never tried it before. In fact, you don't normally approach girls - am I right? The truth is that you're a quiet sensitive type but, if I'm prepared to take a chance, I might just get to know the inner you: witty, adventurous, passionate, loving, loyal. Taxi! A little bit crazy, a little bit bad. But hey - don't us girls just love that"" Fucking love that movie | |||
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"I love guys finishing after me, but they're rare.
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"I love guys finishing after me, but they're rare.
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Gotta love it when the ladies trash talk..."Oi! Are you saying I'm bluffing? | |||
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"I love guys finishing after me, but they're rare.
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Gotta love it when the ladies trash talk...
Oi! Are you saying I'm bluffing? "would we ever doubt you  | |||
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"I love guys finishing after me, but they're rare.
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Gotta love it when the ladies trash talk...
Oi! Are you saying I'm bluffing? "--------- All I'm saying is... that have sat across many a table from a woman who said those brave, exact words 
...and my retort has always been the exact same:
"Well then, may the best man win"
Yes ...so far, am sure you've been telling the truth | |||
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"Hi all just curious why the nice polite guys always finish last " Do they? | |||
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"Hi all just curious why the nice polite guys always finish last Do they?" well it comes to meeting up lol | |||
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"I love guys finishing after me, but they're rare.
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Oi! Are you saying I'm bluffing?
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All I'm saying is...
that have sat across many a table from a woman who said those brave, exact words
...and my retort has always been the exact same:
"Well then, may the best man win"
Yes ...so far, am sure you've been telling the truth "I'm not saying it's impossible, but we women also know that 7inch is more likely 5 and I can count the ones that exceeded on one hand.  | |||
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"OP yes you may finish last but you may end up with the best lady in the bunch. There are ladies who genuinely appreciate a nice, mannerly gent, particularly if he gives the odd hint that he may be different when the lights go out. That gets their imagination running wild and a lady needs her mind engaged before the body will yield the delights you desire. Dom 4 Sub post very well worth reading. Not saying it's the Bible but worth a read. Personally my favourite bit is: "Women should be reversed" That's so tempting "Are you saying you only shag with the lights out? | |||
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"I love guys finishing after me, but they're rare.
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Gotta love it when the ladies trash talk...
Oi! Are you saying I'm bluffing?
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All I'm saying is...
that have sat across many a table from a woman who said those brave, exact words
...and my retort has always been the exact same:
"Well then, may the best man win"
Yes ...so far, am sure you've been telling the truth
I'm not saying it's impossible, but we women also know that 7inch is more likely 5 and I can count the ones that exceeded on one hand. "--------------------- First, was about who finished last /???
Now, t'is all about the size of the tool for the job!!!
Well, all I can say is "hard" luck for all those "little" cowboys out there who "short" changed you in more ways than one 
Btw, will have you know...
5 inches (from the ground) still gets the job done | |||
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"Why do people still refer to it as 'finishing'? Everyone knows that rounds 2 and 3 are the most intense "What's this about more rounds  please explain, sounds like a competition. | |||
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"Why do people still refer to it as 'finishing'? Everyone knows that rounds 2 and 3 are the most intense
What's this about more rounds please explain, sounds like a competition. "----------- Competition??? More just a great fun contest where one ends up on top
but two still ...come... out as winners! | |||
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"I love guys finishing after me, but they're rare. "The lady ALWAYS cums first. | |||
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"I love guys finishing after me, but they're rare.
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Gotta love it when the ladies trash talk...
Oi! Are you saying I'm bluffing?
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All I'm saying is...
that have sat across many a table from a woman who said those brave, exact words
...and my retort has always been the exact same:
"Well then, may the best man win"
Yes ...so far, am sure you've been telling the truth
I'm not saying it's impossible, but we women also know that 7inch is more likely 5 and I can count the ones that exceeded on one hand.
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First, was about who finished last /???
Now, t'is all about the size of the tool for the job!!!
Well, all I can say is "hard" luck for all those "little" cowboys out there who "short" changed you in more ways than one
Btw, will have you know...
5 inches (from the ground) still gets the job done "Na, na, na, na you got me all wrong there. The reference to size was only to say that exaggeration and boasting isn't a foible that only women have now and then and certainly not a reference to my meets - cock pics are great. all I tried to say that nearly every man promises you to last longer. | |||
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"I love guys finishing after me, but they're rare. "Really that rare I'm yet to meet a woman who can make me cum I'm like the McGregor of this site ye all say no he's not right fr me the next I hop in to bed and I shock them once again!!!... | |||
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"I love guys finishing after me, but they're rare.
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Gotta love it when the ladies trash talk...
Oi! Are you saying I'm bluffing?
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All I'm saying is...
that have sat across many a table from a woman who said those brave, exact words
...and my retort has always been the exact same:
"Well then, may the best man win"
Yes ...so far, am sure you've been telling the truth
I'm not saying it's impossible, but we women also know that 7inch is more likely 5 and I can count the ones that exceeded on one hand.
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First, was about who finished last /???
Now, t'is all about the size of the tool for the job!!!
Well, all I can say is "hard" luck for all those "little" cowboys out there who "short" changed you in more ways than one
Btw, will have you know...
5 inches (from the ground) still gets the job done
Na, na, na, na you got me all wrong there. The reference to size was only to say that exaggeration and boasting isn't a foible that only women have now and then and certainly not a reference to my meets - cock pics are great. all I tried to say that nearly every man promises you to last longer. "---------------- Ha! Ha! A few gents beginning to retract their nice veris then???
Would be nice if a few women would veri size for those women (not like yourself OBVIOUSLY)
getting the short end of the stick... and quite literally too
Soooo... time wise, how far out were these promised predictions?? | |||
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"I love guys finishing after me, but they're rare.
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Gotta love it when the ladies trash talk...
Oi! Are you saying I'm bluffing?
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All I'm saying is...
that have sat across many a table from a woman who said those brave, exact words
...and my retort has always been the exact same:
"Well then, may the best man win"
Yes ...so far, am sure you've been telling the truth
I'm not saying it's impossible, but we women also know that 7inch is more likely 5 and I can count the ones that exceeded on one hand.
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First, was about who finished last /???
Now, t'is all about the size of the tool for the job!!!
Well, all I can say is "hard" luck for all those "little" cowboys out there who "short" changed you in more ways than one
Btw, will have you know...
5 inches (from the ground) still gets the job done
Na, na, na, na you got me all wrong there. The reference to size was only to say that exaggeration and boasting isn't a foible that only women have now and then and certainly not a reference to my meets - cock pics are great. all I tried to say that nearly every man promises you to last longer. "If u can get off in two and a half strokes I promise to cum last  | |||
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"I love guys finishing after me, but they're rare.
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Gotta love it when the ladies trash talk...
Oi! Are you saying I'm bluffing?
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All I'm saying is...
that have sat across many a table from a woman who said those brave, exact words
...and my retort has always been the exact same:
"Well then, may the best man win"
Yes ...so far, am sure you've been telling the truth
I'm not saying it's impossible, but we women also know that 7inch is more likely 5 and I can count the ones that exceeded on one hand.
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First, was about who finished last /???
Now, t'is all about the size of the tool for the job!!!
Well, all I can say is "hard" luck for all those "little" cowboys out there who "short" changed you in more ways than one
Btw, will have you know...
5 inches (from the ground) still gets the job done
Na, na, na, na you got me all wrong there. The reference to size was only to say that exaggeration and boasting isn't a foible that only women have now and then and certainly not a reference to my meets - cock pics are great. all I tried to say that nearly every man promises you to last longer.
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Ha! Ha! A few gents beginning to retract their nice veris then???
Would be nice if a few women would veri size for those women (not like yourself OBVIOUSLY)
getting the short end of the stick... and quite literally too
Soooo... time wise, how far out were these promised predictions?? "Tbh I don't know what you're trying to say here as your remarks are wide open to interpretation and suggestive. Anyhow it's bedtime. | |||
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"1. There's no such thing as the friendzone. 2. Just because you're nice doesn't mean you're owed anything. " Ouch! Bit late to be getting out of bed on the wrong side
He never suggested he was owed anything, just wondered where it was getting him.
Take some honey and calm your jets there | |||
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"Wow that is deep true though. Be yourself mate. But push boundaries too lay the lady that u desire them and there not just a random number. Test fantasies and talk to them about your and their fantasies. There prob waiting for a decent man to treat them well and fulfill fantasies that way they will cum several times first proving it is possible lol " Is it Northern Lights? I smoked that in Amsterdam and I felt just like this | |||
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"I love guys finishing after me, but they're rare.
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Gotta love it when the ladies trash talk...
Oi! Are you saying I'm bluffing?
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All I'm saying is...
that have sat across many a table from a woman who said those brave, exact words
...and my retort has always been the exact same:
"Well then, may the best man win"
Yes ...so far, am sure you've been telling the truth
I'm not saying it's impossible, but we women also know that 7inch is more likely 5 and I can count the ones that exceeded on one hand.
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First, was about who finished last /???
Now, t'is all about the size of the tool for the job!!!
Well, all I can say is "hard" luck for all those "little" cowboys out there who "short" changed you in more ways than one
Btw, will have you know...
5 inches (from the ground) still gets the job done
Na, na, na, na you got me all wrong there. The reference to size was only to say that exaggeration and boasting isn't a foible that only women have now and then and certainly not a reference to my meets - cock pics are great. all I tried to say that nearly every man promises you to last longer.
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Ha! Ha! A few gents beginning to retract their nice veris then???
Would be nice if a few women would veri size for those women (not like yourself OBVIOUSLY)
getting the short end of the stick... and quite literally too
Soooo... time wise, how far out were these promised predictions??
Tbh I don't know what you're trying to say here as your remarks are wide open to interpretation and suggestive. Anyhow it's bedtime. "---------------- Just a bit of messing and banter that took a "slight" detour from the original post BUT ... the point is there's no harm in being friendly and yes, even a little cheeky at times
Unfortunately there's a common male perception that being "a nice guy" or "a gent" is a subservient weakness or something to be ashamed of.
Also, these "PUA's" and "Bad Boys" usually end up living artificial lives with few, if any real friends. So, best be yourself, be polite, respectful, charming and cheeky in apt measures.
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"So and now to stick to the topic, and apologies to derail several times, just be yourself and you're winning! If you're overly polite you don't do yourself a favour. It should be a mutual giving and receiving and that applies on all levels. " doesn't work to be honest | |||
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"Apologies to Dom, just to directly quote: "Woman are to be and should be reversed and respected," I know he meant revered but reversed is sooo much "Hahaha. No need to apologise. Glad you realised I meant revered. Reading back over all that I think actually did well considering how d*unk I was. Lol | |||
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"1. There's no such thing as the friendzone. 2. Just because you're nice doesn't mean you're owed anything. " 1. You're right. No such thing as the friend zone to me because as soon as a woman starts that shit it's a bye bye and all the best. 2. Yes, I totally agree. Woman I was referring to didn't owe me a single thing. Not one thing. However, if a woman doesn't appreciate what is done for her or is on offer again it's a bye bye and all the best. Life is too short. | |||
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"1. There's no such thing as the friendzone. 2. Just because you're nice doesn't mean you're owed anything. Ouch! Bit late to be getting out of bed on the wrong side
He never suggested he was owed anything, just wondered where it was getting him.
Take some honey and calm your jets there "Exactly. Glad you understand where I'm coming from. I wasn't owed a single thing and I even knew that at the time nor did I expect or demand anything. As you say, I considered where it was getting me, which was nowhere. | |||
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"So and now to stick to the topic, and apologies to derail several times, just be yourself and you're winning! If you're overly polite you don't do yourself a favour. It should be a mutual giving and receiving and that applies on all levels. doesn't work to be honest " I can sense your overwhelming enthusiasm. I'm quite sure the ladies will too. | |||
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"Most women have been broken by ex boyfriends. Guys who are possessive, jealous, controlling, jerks. That's why a lot of girls are into the "dom", the guy who will slap them about and tell them not to look at another guy. In their head they tell themselves "It means he loves me".. lol If you're a nice guy, straight forward, honest, give a girl or your partner freedom, have confidence to approach them, can make them laugh, you will still end up single. The nicer you are the more stomach turning the guy will be that the girl cheats with you on. Nearly every nice guy I know, they couldnt be funnier or nicer lads have had girls cheat on them with guys you would scrape off the bottom of your shoe. Just the way it is." You think that Doms slap women around???. That's called an abuser not a Dom. | |||
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"Most women have been broken by ex boyfriends. Guys who are possessive, jealous, controlling, jerks. That's why a lot of girls are into the "dom", the guy who will slap them about and tell them not to look at another guy. In their head they tell themselves "It means he loves me".. lol If you're a nice guy, straight forward, honest, give a girl or your partner freedom, have confidence to approach them, can make them laugh, you will still end up single. The nicer you are the more stomach turning the guy will be that the girl cheats with you on. Nearly every nice guy I know, they couldnt be funnier or nicer lads have had girls cheat on them with guys you would scrape off the bottom of your shoe. Just the way it is. You think that Doms slap women around???. That's called an abuser not a Dom. " | |||
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"Most women have been broken by ex boyfriends. Guys who are possessive, jealous, controlling, jerks. That's why a lot of girls are into the "dom", the guy who will slap them about and tell them not to look at another guy. In their head they tell themselves "It means he loves me".. lol If you're a nice guy, straight forward, honest, give a girl or your partner freedom, have confidence to approach them, can make them laugh, you will still end up single. The nicer you are the more stomach turning the guy will be that the girl cheats with you on. Nearly every nice guy I know, they couldnt be funnier or nicer lads have had girls cheat on them with guys you would scrape off the bottom of your shoe. Just the way it is." What the actual fuck!!! You think a dom beats women??? I sugguest you stop reading fantasy novels!!! Your views on this thread are very negative, maybe its you who has been broken by the ex and not "us women" | |||
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"Most women have been broken by ex boyfriends. Guys who are possessive, jealous, controlling, jerks. That's why a lot of girls are into the "dom", the guy who will slap them about and tell them not to look at another guy. In their head they tell themselves "It means he loves me".. lol If you're a nice guy, straight forward, honest, give a girl or your partner freedom, have confidence to approach them, can make them laugh, you will still end up single. The nicer you are the more stomach turning the guy will be that the girl cheats with you on. Nearly every nice guy I know, they couldnt be funnier or nicer lads have had girls cheat on them with guys you would scrape off the bottom of your shoe. Just the way it is. You think that Doms slap women around???. That's called an abuser not a Dom. " Amen to that | |||
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"Okay, so their bruised asses and the marks on their body are in my imagination? Any of you know a dom that has not hit a woman till she bruised? They buy whips, paddles, for impact play dont they? If you joined any fetish site in the world and said you were not into impact play you would be laughed off it." Its not a beating tho...its 2 people who are both aware of what they are doing and mutually enjoy this...i do impact play but to me this is very different to a man laying his hands on me out side this... the fact you even think the 2 are the same shows me im wasting my time here trying to explain it... Put down the copy of 50 shades and do a bit of proper research,dont tar us all with your silly views | |||
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"Most women have been broken by ex boyfriends. Guys who are possessive, jealous, controlling, jerks. That's why a lot of girls are into the "dom", the guy who will slap them about and tell them not to look at another guy. In their head they tell themselves "It means he loves me".. lol If you're a nice guy, straight forward, honest, give a girl or your partner freedom, have confidence to approach them, can make them laugh, you will still end up single. The nicer you are the more stomach turning the guy will be that the girl cheats with you on. Nearly every nice guy I know, they couldnt be funnier or nicer lads have had girls cheat on them with guys you would scrape off the bottom of your shoe. Just the way it is. What the actual fuck!!! You think a dom beats women??? I sugguest you stop reading fantasy novels!!! Your views on this thread are very negative, maybe its you who has been broken by the ex and not "us women" " There are abusers in all walks of life. Some people as you so rightly pointed out read and watch too much fantasy crap. I know a lot of Doms and they have the utmost respect for women . Please don't assume that people who choose a BDSM way of life are abusers. Maybe do a little reading up on what a REAL DOM is . If you think being dominant is all about the dominants pleasure then you're doing it all wrong. | |||
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"Most women have been broken by ex boyfriends. Guys who are possessive, jealous, controlling, jerks. That's why a lot of girls are into the "dom", the guy who will slap them about and tell them not to look at another guy. In their head they tell themselves "It means he loves me".. lol If you're a nice guy, straight forward, honest, give a girl or your partner freedom, have confidence to approach them, can make them laugh, you will still end up single. The nicer you are the more stomach turning the guy will be that the girl cheats with you on. Nearly every nice guy I know, they couldnt be funnier or nicer lads have had girls cheat on them with guys you would scrape off the bottom of your shoe. Just the way it is. What the actual fuck!!! You think a dom beats women??? I sugguest you stop reading fantasy novels!!! Your views on this thread are very negative, maybe its you who has been broken by the ex and not "us women" There are abusers in all walks of life. Some people as you so rightly pointed out read and watch too much fantasy crap. I know a lot of Doms and they have the utmost respect for women . Please don't assume that people who choose a BDSM way of life are abusers. Maybe do a little reading up on what a REAL DOM is . If you think being dominant is all about the dominants pleasure then you're doing it all wrong." | |||
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"Okay, so their bruised asses and the marks on their body are in my imagination? Any of you know a dom that has not hit a woman till she bruised? They buy whips, paddles, for impact play dont they? If you joined any fetish site in the world and said you were not into impact play you would be laughed off it. Its not a beating tho...its 2 people who are both aware of what they are doing and mutually enjoy this...i do impact play but to me this is very different to a man laying his hands on me out side this... the fact you even think the 2 are the same shows me im wasting my time here trying to explain it... Put down the copy of 50 shades and do a bit of proper research,dont tar us all with your silly views " I wouldn't slap a lady unless she asks..... nicely...... or as a last resort when all other disciplinary measures have failed. Even then I would only do so knowing that she is ok with it. Physical punishment is only administered when necessary. There is so much more to Dom/Sub play than impact play. There's a whole mental aspect to it which seems to be beyond your comprehension. I agree with her, put down the copy of 50 Shades. Lol | |||
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"There are abusers in all walks of life. Some people as you so rightly pointed out read and watch too much fantasy crap. I know a lot of Doms and they have the utmost respect for women . Please don't assume that people who choose a BDSM way of life are abusers. Maybe do a little reading up on what a REAL DOM is . If you think being dominant is all about the dominants pleasure then you're doing it all wrong." Clarify for me, the doms you know have never taken part in impact play, not even spanking a girls ass? | |||
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"Physical punishment is only administered when necessary. There is so much more to Dom/Sub play than impact play. There's a whole mental aspect to it which seems to be beyond your comprehension. I agree with her, put down the copy of 50 Shades. Lol" So you do give physical punishment? So why complain to me for saying people are into it? I never read 50 shades, and dont try to live the life it shows. That would be you? | |||
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"There are abusers in all walks of life. Some people as you so rightly pointed out read and watch too much fantasy crap. I know a lot of Doms and they have the utmost respect for women . Please don't assume that people who choose a BDSM way of life are abusers. Maybe do a little reading up on what a REAL DOM is . If you think being dominant is all about the dominants pleasure then you're doing it all wrong. Clarify for me, the doms you know have never taken part in impact play, not even spanking a girls ass?" It's completely different. There are men who say they are Doms do it for kicks roleplay. Then there are Doms who live a Dom life. Men who smack women around are ABUSERS not Doms. Not saying for one minute that there are men who are Doms that can be abusers . | |||
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"Physical punishment is only administered when necessary. There is so much more to Dom/Sub play than impact play. There's a whole mental aspect to it which seems to be beyond your comprehension. I agree with her, put down the copy of 50 Shades. Lol So you do give physical punishment? So why complain to me for saying people are into it? I never read 50 shades, and dont try to live the life it shows. That would be you?" I wasn't complaining, lol, simply airing my view as you are yours. You seem to think Dom play is just about slapping or impact play is the point I was making. There is so much more to it..... a whole mental aspect. Any person who uses their Dom role as a means to bully or manipulate, or slap his sub about is not a true Dom, simply an arsehole and nothing more. A true Dom looks after his Sub's emotional interests and is as emotionally invested in her as she is in him. One cannot flourish without the other. | |||
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"My point - If any of you above were with a girl/guy who said "Don't spank me, Dont hit me I dont like pain" or "I wont hit you, I wont hurt you", If they did not want a 3some and were not gonna pretend to be bi to get your socks off.. You would all either dump them, or cheat on them. Correct?" Nope, not at all. Last proper relationship I was in I didn't bother with this site and was quite content to be in an exclusive relationship. She wasn't into or willing to consider the kind of kinks I was into and that was ok. It's not everybody's cup of tea. But I didn't look at other women and the thought never crossed my mind to cheat. Where it went wrong is that she herself was very abusive. You seem to have a seriously warped view of Doms and other people on here. | |||
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"Physical punishment is only administered when necessary. There is so much more to Dom/Sub play than impact play. There's a whole mental aspect to it which seems to be beyond your comprehension. I agree with her, put down the copy of 50 Shades. Lol So you do give physical punishment? So why complain to me for saying people are into it? I never read 50 shades, and dont try to live the life it shows. That would be you? I wasn't complaining, lol, simply airing my view as you are yours. You seem to think Dom play is just about slapping or impact play is the point I was making. There is so much more to it..... a whole mental aspect. Any person who uses their Dom role as a means to bully or manipulate, or slap his sub about is not a true Dom, simply an arsehole and nothing more. A true Dom looks after his Sub's emotional interests and is as emotionally invested in her as she is in him. One cannot flourish without the other." This..... | |||
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"Most women have been broken by ex boyfriends. Guys who are possessive, jealous, controlling, jerks. That's why a lot of girls are into the "dom", the guy who will slap them about and tell them not to look at another guy. In their head they tell themselves "It means he loves me".. lol If you're a nice guy, straight forward, honest, give a girl or your partner freedom, have confidence to approach them, can make them laugh, you will still end up single. The nicer you are the more stomach turning the guy will be that the girl cheats with you on. Nearly every nice guy I know, they couldnt be funnier or nicer lads have had girls cheat on them with guys you would scrape off the bottom of your shoe. Just the way it is." incorrect | |||
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"Okay, so their bruised asses and the marks on their body are in my imagination? Any of you know a dom that has not hit a woman till she bruised? They buy whips, paddles, for impact play dont they? If you joined any fetish site in the world and said you were not into impact play you would be laughed off it. Its not a beating tho...its 2 people who are both aware of what they are doing and mutually enjoy this...i do impact play but to me this is very different to a man laying his hands on me out side this... the fact you even think the 2 are the same shows me im wasting my time here trying to explain it... Put down the copy of 50 shades and do a bit of proper research,dont tar us all with your silly views " Two best words in this debate... Silly views. | |||
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