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By *ub_1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northside

The wonderful cycle of messages on fab......

Discuss, if you can be half arsed.....

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By *ub_1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northside

Bumped purely for the hell of it.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not overly certain what you're looking people to discuss but I'll take this as a chance to add my two cents to message status' and the like as all the "deleted without even being read" threads are one of my Fab pet peeves

If there's one thing I could stress, especially to single guys, it would simply be to delete any and all sent messages as soon as they're sent.

Whenever I read someone bemoan how their messages go unread without reply or that they get deleted after or straight away, all I can think is that you can't know that unless you're stalking your own outbox. Which isn't a healthy or productive way to spend your time on Fab; simply put if someone is going to reply, they will.

It's a nice quirk to see the status of a message but it can cause more hassle than it's worth at times.

There's numerous reasons why a message may be unread for example;

- Obviously a person may just not have gotten round to reading it. Remember, just because a person's profile says "online" doesn't necessarily mean that they're actively on Fab at that exact moment.

- They could have read it but just at an inopportune time like at work or out and about in general. So they've marked it "unread" so they can find it for when it's a better time.

- A couple may wait until both have read it until they decide to reply or not and so do the same in marking it "unread"

If a person decides to delete it, either without reading it or having read it, it really is the Fab cliché of "it's the same as saying they're not interested". There really is no difference in not replying to a message you have no interest in and saying "no thanks". When you message someone, you have made that decision and not them, so they're under no obligation to reply in the first place.

There could always be the case that, other than not being interested, that the person may know you or think you live too close for comfort. I know I wouldn't want someone replying to say "Sorry, you're my cousin."

As well as just a person's own approach to messages being poor. Perhaps crude, nasty, vague etc. If someone contemplates giving out about a lack or responses, remember that you are the common denominator.

There will also just be occasions where a message gets lost in the pile and that's just luck or the lack of it. Often with new profiles, perhaps who haven't discovered filters, they are the ones who may have the triple digit inboxes and it can be overwhelming. That can lead to a "bulk delete" or just time away from reading any messages to even the person going "UNLOS" if they find it too much.

There are lots of things to consider, perhaps I'm even guilty of overthinking this aspect of Fab, but I feel most of the feeling of angst, frustration, paranoia and possible nastiness can be avoided or at least eased by simply deleting a sent message.

Again, just a rant... I mean my two cents

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not overly certain what you're looking people to discuss but I'll take this as a chance to add my two cents to message status' and the like as all the "deleted without even being read" threads are one of my Fab pet peeves

If there's one thing I could stress, especially to single guys, it would simply be to delete any and all sent messages as soon as they're sent.

Whenever I read someone bemoan how their messages go unread without reply or that they get deleted after or straight away, all I can think is that you can't know that unless you're stalking your own outbox. Which isn't a healthy or productive way to spend your time on Fab; simply put if someone is going to reply, they will.

It's a nice quirk to see the status of a message but it can cause more hassle than it's worth at times.

There's numerous reasons why a message may be unread for example;

- Obviously a person may just not have gotten round to reading it. Remember, just because a person's profile says "online" doesn't necessarily mean that they're actively on Fab at that exact moment.

- They could have read it but just at an inopportune time like at work or out and about in general. So they've marked it "unread" so they can find it for when it's a better time.

- A couple may wait until both have read it until they decide to reply or not and so do the same in marking it "unread"

If a person decides to delete it, either without reading it or having read it, it really is the Fab cliché of "it's the same as saying they're not interested". There really is no difference in not replying to a message you have no interest in and saying "no thanks". When you message someone, you have made that decision and not them, so they're under no obligation to reply in the first place.

There could always be the case that, other than not being interested, that the person may know you or think you live too close for comfort. I know I wouldn't want someone replying to say "Sorry, you're my cousin."

As well as just a person's own approach to messages being poor. Perhaps crude, nasty, vague etc. If someone contemplates giving out about a lack or responses, remember that you are the common denominator.

There will also just be occasions where a message gets lost in the pile and that's just luck or the lack of it. Often with new profiles, perhaps who haven't discovered filters, they are the ones who may have the triple digit inboxes and it can be overwhelming. That can lead to a "bulk delete" or just time away from reading any messages to even the person going "UNLOS" if they find it too much.

There are lots of things to consider, perhaps I'm even guilty of overthinking this aspect of Fab, but I feel most of the feeling of angst, frustration, paranoia and possible nastiness can be avoided or at least eased by simply deleting a sent message.

Again, just a rant... I mean my two cents "

That's at least a dollars worth Pete ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discussion complete I think!

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By *aythekiddMan
over a year ago

Carlow

(this post is no longer open because Pete killed it)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only thing i might add to Petes post is that if i thought someone deleted a message sent to me and by that its notbhars to know becausecif you answer abd tgey dont know what thexquestion was then id imagine they probably werent really that interested in the first place. Now how would that really pan out conversation wise?

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By *itan79Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In the Middle

Ok inbeteeen can you re-write that message, this time with punctuation

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By *ub_1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northside

Think we can leave it at that so.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only thing i might add to Petes post is that if i thought someone deleted a message sent to me and by that its notbhars to know becausecif you answer abd tgey dont know what thexquestion was then id imagine they probably werent really that interested in the first place. Now how would that really pan out conversation wise?"

Is the answer 27?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only thing i might add to Petes post is that if i thought someone deleted a message sent to me and by that its notbhars to know becausecif you answer abd tgey dont know what thexquestion was then id imagine they probably werent really that interested in the first place. Now how would that really pan out conversation wise?

Is the answer 27? "

It's like the matrix, see everything in 1's and 0's and it'll make sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only thing i might add to Petes post is that if i thought someone deleted a message sent to me and by that its notbhars to know becausecif you answer abd tgey dont know what thexquestion was then id imagine they probably werent really that interested in the first place. Now how would that really pan out conversation wise?

Is the answer 27? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes Tosser and longCav...

my phone screen is playing silly buggers and still is....but I think you got the drift.

If i see a message sent to me deleted before I read Iit then I tendto think they actually not interested...they probably won't know what my answer was about as they can't read whatthey asked in first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That kild the sarcasm ....oooops.

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