FabSwingers.com forum: Who do they think they are??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok.. I have been a member on Fab, on and off, for nearly 10 years now, and I understand that women hold all the power on the site, and because I actually understand this, I have really enjoyed my time here... but what really really boils my piss over the last year is the way a large percentage of newer Female members, most without public pictures, INSIST on Guys sending a face pic as their very first action when making contact.... whilst I agree physical attraction is important, NO WAY should anyone request, or share face pics until fully comfortable, and when there has been some sort of connection eatablished via mailing..kik..whatever..I really see this as an abuse of their power, and complete taking advantage of their position on here..

I'd love for these women to comment on this topic and explain who they think they are making such demands......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't agree with you that women hold all the power on the site. On the photos point, their asking for a photo. Their not forcing you to send a pic. Each to their own on their profiles and want they are looking for but anyone can set up a profile and I'm amazed at the amount of men that do send face pics to someone they haven't even chatted to. Apparently they don't have a problem sending pics of their cocks to all and sundry but sending face pics straight off, 'buyer beware' if you will,

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By *odownsquabMan
over a year ago

bt22

I'd say it's mostly random guys posing as females but what do I know im still on the hunt for my first MMF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only person with power on fab is yourself.only do what you are comfortable and happy with.no one is forcing you to do anything.

Yes we ask for a face pic before a meet is arranged,we make it clear on our profile,but as I say,if someone isn't comfortable with that,they can always pass us by and move onto someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely Fab is about having fun and not a power struggle as you seem to think. It may be shallow to ask for face pics, but that's anybody's prerogative, not necessarily a woman's either.

Move on if you don't like it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The only person with power on fab is yourself.only do what you are comfortable and happy with.no one is forcing you to do anything.

Yes we ask for a face pic before a meet is arranged,we make it clear on our profile,but as I say,if someone isn't comfortable with that,they can always pass us by and move onto someone else."

Absolutely ask for a face pic before arranging a meet... It's the members with "send Face pic with 1st message" or the "messages without face pic will be deleted" comments in their profiles is whom annoy me... imagine a single man making such proclimations and demands on his profile... and I will respectfully disagree with your 1st statement... women on here 100% decide wether or not they will meet someone, or indeed sleep with someone.. that is the power to which I refer...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Surely Fab is about having fun and not a power struggle as you seem to think. It may be shallow to ask for face pics, but that's anybody's prerogative, not necessarily a woman's either.

Move on if you don't like it."

Im not referring to the percived shallowness of looking for a face pic.. it's the Demanding of one before any further contact.. Fab was never like this before.. now its all too frequent..

And I would never ever make contact with such a profile, I wonder how many are fakes??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... and I will respectfully disagree with your 1st statement... women on here 100% decide wether or not they will meet someone, or indeed sleep with someone.. that is the power to which I refer..."

Ah Dave, with respect to you, that's a silly statement. You 100% decide too if you will meet someone or indeed sleep with them. That is also power don't you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if you would never make contact with such a profile why does it bother you so much?

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Do you really want to meet someone with the attitude "send Face pic with 1st message" or the "messages without face pic will be deleted" ? Most likely not so just skip them, ain't worth a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... and I will respectfully disagree with your 1st statement... women on here 100% decide wether or not they will meet someone, or indeed sleep with someone.. that is the power to which I refer...

Ah Dave, with respect to you, that's a silly statement. You 100% decide too if you will meet someone or indeed sleep with them. That is also power don't you think?"

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By *irl4girlsWoman
over a year ago

Celbridge

Sorry to boil your piss but I'm guilty of this but after a little chat not first message purely because I don't have time to waste or want to waste others if there is no mutual attraction and that's important to me so again sorry x

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By *irl4girlsWoman
over a year ago

Celbridge

"The only person with power on fab is yourself.only do what you are comfortable and happy with.no one is forcing you to do anything.

Yes we ask for a face pic before a meet is arranged,we make it clear on our profile,but as I say,if someone isn't comfortable with that,they can always pass us by and move onto someone else.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

You don't have to message these people.

I tend not to mail people first (there are a exceptions) and believe it or not women will message you first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry to boil your piss but I'm guilty of this but after a little chat not first message purely because I don't have time to waste or want to waste others if there is no mutual attraction and that's important to me so again sorry x"

You're not... you chat 1st... then ask for a face pic..... which is normal and respectful..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you really want to meet someone with the attitude "send Face pic with 1st message" or the "messages without face pic will be deleted" ? Most likely not so just skip them, ain't worth a thought. "

Nope... I don't wish to ever meet someone displaying that form of arrogance on their profile. It's just that every time I read it my first thought is the hell do they think they are....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So if you would never make contact with such a profile why does it bother you so much?"

I guess because this level of arrogance and entitlement is becoming so prevelant nowadays..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to see face pic too on here. No point chatting and no attraction .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the OP is possibly referring to the "women" on here making these demands and not having pics up on their own profiles themselves, and generally no profile write up either? There has been a lot of the above behaviour of late I'm told.

Same can be said of demanding multiple met-in-person veris and not having any of their own?

I think more the remark that anyone contacting them not having the veris, attaching face pics, providing written proof of having slept with an asexual Unicorn whilst flying a helicopter with just your little finger using mind control, will be deleted / ignored gets to me (and possibly the OP too?).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if you would never make contact with such a profile why does it bother you so much?

I guess because this level of arrogance and entitlement is becoming so prevelant nowadays.."

I quite like a bit of arrogance! Hon the town

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By *pringingMan
over a year ago

North Circular Road

I don't know, I don't really think it's driven by arrogance or entitlement. A female friend once showed me her inbox about an hour after she registered and she'd already received 100+ messages. Virtually all from guys, even though she'd she'd specified she was only looking for women and couples. I'm sure plenty here have had the same experience. So I can understand wanting to whittle that down somehow, and limiting your options to those with face pics is a decent way to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll get me popcorn...this should be good

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

I would never expect a face pic attached to a first message.

I have however had mail with one attached and then the sender has assumed i will return mine.

Eah..no..

Also.. if you ask me for a face pic have the common courtesy to attach yours to the message.

oh and OP profiles with demands for this and that.. imagine what they are like in real life..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the OP is possibly referring to the "women" on here making these demands and not having pics up on their own profiles themselves, and generally no profile write up either? There has been a lot of the above behaviour of late I'm told.

Same can be said of demanding multiple met-in-person veris and not having any of their own?

Never mind them.... just meet me again. I'll keep you busy babe

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By *rs Pink PantherWoman
over a year ago

The Darkest Side

I don't ask for face pics...I like to chat and get an idea of the person first and yes if we've agreed to meet and they ask or send me a picture I'll happily send one back, not a big deal to me anyway, just my opinion...

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