FabSwingers.com forum: He's intimidated by me!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So , I've started to see someone, since April.

He keeps saying he can never compete with all the 'other lads'. Or give me what I'm use too.

I've explained to him there isn't anyone else and I'm happy with the way things are.

Obviously I told him about fab, he's intimidated by it.

Says he's not into all this.

Um trying to reassure him but I dunno what else to do.

I haven't had a sex meet on here in a long time, do I delete my profile??

Fellas help me out please ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So , I've started to see someone, since April.

He keeps saying he can never compete with all the 'other lads'. Or give me what I'm use too.

I've explained to him there isn't anyone else and I'm happy with the way things are.

Obviously I told him about fab, he's intimidated by it.

Says he's not into all this.

Um trying to reassure him but I dunno what else to do.

I haven't had a sex meet on here in a long time, do I delete my profile??

Fellas help me out please ??

You have to make a choice.Do you delete because hes not in to it? Or do you keep haven to reassure him all the time which will end up on rows.Depends on how much you like him .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So , I've started to see someone, since April.

He keeps saying he can never compete with all the 'other lads'. Or give me what I'm use too.

I've explained to him there isn't anyone else and I'm happy with the way things are.

Obviously I told him about fab, he's intimidated by it.

Says he's not into all this.

Um trying to reassure him but I dunno what else to do.

I haven't had a sex meet on here in a long time, do I delete my profile??

Fellas help me out please ??

You have to make a choice.Do you delete because hes not in to it? Or do you keep haven to reassure him all the time which will end up on rows.Depends on how much you like him ."

I do like him and I know he likes me, but he has it in his head I'm a sex crazy person who will never b happy with him.

I can delete it no problem at all, but is that going to reassure him or is it too late.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So , I've started to see someone, since April.

He keeps saying he can never compete with all the 'other lads'. Or give me what I'm use too.

I've explained to him there isn't anyone else and I'm happy with the way things are.

Obviously I told him about fab, he's intimidated by it.

Says he's not into all this.

Um trying to reassure him but I dunno what else to do.

I haven't had a sex meet on here in a long time, do I delete my profile??

Fellas help me out please ??

With out some sacrifice we cannot have what we want in life ...

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By *unnitoesWoman
over a year ago

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It sounds to me like he is insecure and perhaps the Fab thing has made him feel that way. He maybe has the impression that there are studs lining up to meet u ( and perhaps there are!)

If Fab is of no use nor interest to you atm then yes delete it....after all you can always come back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So , I've started to see someone, since April.

He keeps saying he can never compete with all the 'other lads'. Or give me what I'm use too.

I've explained to him there isn't anyone else and I'm happy with the way things are.

Obviously I told him about qfab, he's intimidated by it.

Says he's not into all this.

Um trying to reassure him but I dunno what else to do.

I haven't had a sex meet on here in a long time, do I delete my profile??

Fellas help me out please ??

Do what u want to do if you want a meet on fab then have a meet on fab...ur bf/gf should always accept you for who ya are not who they can mould ya to be so if they cant accept the you and your life style chances are its a miss match

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So , I've started to see someone, since April.

He keeps saying he can never compete with all the 'other lads'. Or give me what I'm use too.

I've explained to him there isn't anyone else and I'm happy with the way things are.

Obviously I told him about fab, he's intimidated by it.

Says he's not into all this.

Um trying to reassure him but I dunno what else to do.

I haven't had a sex meet on here in a long time, do I delete my profile??

Fellas help me out please ??

You have to make a choice.Do you delete because hes not in to it? Or do you keep haven to reassure him all the time which will end up on rows.Depends on how much you like him .

I do like him and I know he likes me, but he has it in his head I'm a sex crazy person who will never b happy with him.

I can delete it no problem at all, but is that going to reassure him or is it too late.

If you have to keeo reassuring him then you could run in to problems down the line I think.If you delete it will he believe you aswell

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It sounds to me like he is insecure and perhaps the Fab thing has made him feel that way. He maybe has the impression that there are studs lining up to meet u ( and perhaps there are!)

If Fab is of no use nor interest to you atm then yes delete it....after all you can always come back

I think he is, he over thinks everything and kinda pulls away from me when he Pa nicks.

He says not everything is about sex n feels nervous around me, like I'm a woman.. I want to have good sex with him . I've told him I've not really dabbled in the whole swinging world. I think he thinks I'm too experienced, which isn't true.

I believe that sex is different with everyone and its an experience and ad u grow as a couple we can try new things.

Like he's had a good few partners himself I'd say, but that doesn't bother me.

I think coz I'm confident n know what I want scares him

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

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I had a similar problem with an ex of mine I was totally honest about my past and she was horrified and she thought she could never compete with the women or the swinging fun I had regardless of how often I told her I loved her for her and that I was more than happy with our life together. It always played on her mind and anytime we had a row it was brought up in the end after a few years she couldn't get over it. We are still very good friends. She will always be the one that got away and it shows that a past can ruin a relationship.

So op be prepared for that sort of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So , I've started to see someone, since April.

He keeps saying he can never compete with all the 'other lads'. Or give me what I'm use too.

I've explained to him there isn't anyone else and I'm happy with the way things are.

Obviously I told him about fab, he's intimidated by it.

Says he's not into all this.

Um trying to reassure him but I dunno what else to do.

I haven't had a sex meet on here in a long time, do I delete my profile??

Fellas help me out please ??

You have to make a choice.Do you delete because hes not in to it? Or do you keep haven to reassure him all the time which will end up on rows.Depends on how much you like him .

I do like him and I know he likes me, but he has it in his head I'm a sex crazy person who will never b happy with him.

I can delete it no problem at all, but is that going to reassure him or is it too late.

TBH I reckon the seed has been planted and it'l always be there.

I also think you may like him but not enough to draw away from the lifestyle.

Let's face it we are all freaks on this site you just need to find someone that brings the best freak out of you.

And it looks like this guy isn't it.

If fab is that important that you didn't get rid of your profile or even the need to be on it when you got with this guy then he's not for you. You need to find someone that is ok with your past and willing to contribute to the future.

Remember we are all freaks. We just need to find someone that brings out the best freak in us.

I'm still searching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you see it going long term ..how much you like him ..wat will mean more to you ..him or fab..u answer this ..I think the answer is easy x just my thoughts

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OK well, I will see him later and delete it in front of him.

He will still b thinking I'm chatting away online thou.

How do I convince him I'm not without coming on too strong.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

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"OK well, I will see him later and delete it in front of him.

He will still b thinking I'm chatting away online thou.

How do I convince him I'm not without coming on too strong.

You can't you can only build trust like that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So , I've started to see someone, since April.

He keeps saying he can never compete with all the 'other lads'. Or give me what I'm use too.

I've explained to him there isn't anyone else and I'm happy with the way things are.

Obviously I told him about fab, he's intimidated by it.

Says he's not into all this.

Um trying to reassure him but I dunno what else to do.

I haven't had a sex meet on here in a long time, do I delete my profile??

Fellas help me out please ??

You have to make a choice.Do you delete because hes not in to it? Or do you keep haven to reassure him all the time which will end up on rows.Depends on how much you like him .

I do like him and I know he likes me, but he has it in his head I'm a sex crazy person who will never b happy with him.

I can delete it no problem at all, but is that going to reassure him or is it too late.

TBH I reckon the seed has been planted and it'l always be there.

I also think you may like him but not enough to draw away from the lifestyle.

Let's face it we are all freaks on this site you just need to find someone that brings the best freak out of you.

And it looks like this guy isn't it.

Remember we are all freaks. We just need to find someone that brings out the best freak in us.

I'm still searching.

I've Just been too busy, I haven't been online Ina while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your deleting it in front of him tbh that should be the end of it and move on to make a great relationship...if not ..its his problem..cant keep going over the same tjing ..hate will grow in some part along the way I think

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can you see it going long term ..how much you like him ..wat will mean more to you ..him or fab..u answer this ..I think the answer is easy x just my thoughts "

I like him, there are a lot of other factors to b considered, this, I think is a he main one for him.

Long term, I dunno... Sure its worth the journey surely. Would I like it to work out, yes of course.

He means more to me than this.

Thanks everyone.. Minds made up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that raising the issue here maybe is to confirm what you think already. If the guy is insecure because of fab and your confidence sexually do you think it will change if you leave fab ? It will be at the back of his mind always. He may accept it's in the past for you but will always be there and may raise it's head every so often. We've all been in situations where past anxieties or concerns have been raised. That's our opinion anyway...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If your deleting it in front of him tbh that should be the end of it and move on to make a great relationship...if not ..its his problem..cant keep going over the same tjing ..hate will grow in some part along the way I think "

This is what I'm afraid of.

What if its only an excuse.

But sure, I will do it and b loyal , see what happens.

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By *unnitoesWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"OK well, I will see him later and delete it in front of him.

He will still b thinking I'm chatting away online thou.

How do I convince him I'm not without coming on too strong.

If he still thinks you'll be chatting away online then he clearly doesn't trust you and trying to convince him otherwise will be a constant battle

is he worth it?

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

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I think it's hard for someone to understand the swinging world if they not interested in it.But can understand him feeling unsure considering your profile still active. Not saying your going to cheat but it's his uncertainty. If you really like him why not give it ago than either hide or delete your profile..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think that raising the issue here maybe is to confirm what you think already. If the guy is insecure because of fab and your confidence sexually do you think it will change if you leave fab ? It will be at the back of his mind always. He may accept it's in the past for you but will always be there and may raise it's head every so often. We've all been in situations where past anxieties or concerns have been raised. That's our opinion anyway..."

Yes but posting it here gives me the chance if getting feed back.

For me to say thats done, its done, move on. Try and be sensitive to his feelings ... It has to work both ways.

For people who have experienced this so I can try to understand

I'm a very honest person... I just hope he can move on from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK well, I will see him later and delete it in front of him.

He will still b thinking I'm chatting away online thou.

How do I convince him I'm not without coming on too strong.

It's aways going to be in the back of his mind and I think will still cause problems in the future. If you've been with him since April I think you would know by now if it is concrete with him? Will he trust you! If you want to try something new, is he going to throw fab in your face!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OK well, I will see him later and delete it in front of him.

He will still b thinking I'm chatting away online thou.

How do I convince him I'm not without coming on too strong.

If he still thinks you'll be chatting away online then he clearly doesn't trust you and trying to convince him otherwise will be a constant battle

is he worth it?"

Well I'm just going to have to say that's it, its done.

I know he was badly hurt in the past, as of most of us...

I think he might b worth it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OK well, I will see him later and delete it in front of him.

He will still b thinking I'm chatting away online thou.

How do I convince him I'm not without coming on too strong.

Well, he's backed off already , I work a lot and have a child.

No one wants us to be together, its very intense tbh. Bit I think if we just concentrate on ourselves instead of what's going on around is we will be fine.

I'm obviously the stronger of both of us.

I just think giving up is too easy and I'm not ready to give up on him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you see a future with him delete and give it 100% you can come bk here anytime

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you see a future with him delete and give it 100% you can come bk here anytime

Thanks.

Its like hot spice is my alter ego.

We were out with his friends who have an open relationship and of course hotspice came out hahaha they are a gay couple and it was all just sex talk.

I seen it made him uncomfortable so I reeled it in and told him it was just banter.

Maybe I've fucked it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So , I've started to see someone, since April.

He keeps saying he can never compete with all the 'other lads'. Or give me what I'm use too.

I've explained to him there isn't anyone else and I'm happy with the way things are.

Obviously I told him about fab, he's intimidated by it.

Says he's not into all this.

Um trying to reassure him but I dunno what else to do.

I haven't had a sex meet on here in a long time, do I delete my profile??

Fellas help me out please ??

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time to say goodbye to fab go for it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So , I've started to see someone, since April.

He keeps saying he can never compete with all the 'other lads'. Or give me what I'm use too.

I've explained to him there isn't anyone else and I'm happy with the way things are.

Obviously I told him about fab, he's intimidated by it.

Says he's not into all this.

Um trying to reassure him but I dunno what else to do.

I haven't had a sex meet on here in a long time, do I delete my profile??

Fellas help me out please ??

time to say goodbye to fab go for it "

I am, I'm going to delete it later when I see him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you see a future with him delete and give it 100% you can come bk here anytime

Thanks.

Its like hot spice is my alter ego.

We were out with his friends who have an open relationship and of course hotspice came out hahaha they are a gay couple and it was all just sex talk.

I seen it made him uncomfortable so I reeled it in and told him it was just banter.

Maybe I've fucked it up.

Jilly is mine too and in the vanilla world I'm flirty but on a toned down level...between meets and parties Jilly is decommissioned and yes I get where your coming from it is difficult to seperate them

. It's a big decision but if it was me I would let Hotspice have a break and see where the relationship takes you ...hope it works out there's more to life than Fab

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

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No disrespect Hot but if he did read your profile he would be even more intimated so defo don't show it to him but hopefully you can sort it out and it ends well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you see a future with him delete and give it 100% you can come bk here anytime

Thanks.

Its like hot spice is my alter ego.

We were out with his friends who have an open relationship and of course hotspice came out hahaha they are a gay couple and it was all just sex talk.

I seen it made him uncomfortable so I reeled it in and told him it was just banter.

Maybe I've fucked it up.

. It's a big decision but if it was me I would let Hotspice have a break and see where the relationship takes you ...hope it works out there's more to life than Fab

Thanks very much.

I think its time to live in the real world for a while Lol. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No disrespect Hot but if he did read your profile he would be even more intimated so defo don't show it to him but hopefully you can sort it out and it ends well

Haha your right.

I'm just going to delete it in front of him, I actually dont know if he knows I still have a profile. But I think he needs to see me do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the best to you. Hope it all works out. Give your 100%

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"All the best to you. Hope it all works out. Give your 100%"

Thanks doll, thats all I can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All the best to you. Hope it all works out. Give your 100%

Thanks doll, thats all I can do

xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like a no brainer. If its a serious relationship then give it a chance. You aren't being fair to him.

Interestingly I wonder what the reaction would be to this, if the OP was a male.......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It sounds like a no brainer. If its a serious relationship then give it a chance. You aren't being fair to him.

Interestingly I wonder what the reaction would be to this, if the OP was a male.......

How am I not been fair.

I just said I haven't been online.

I can delete it now, but I want to show him, I will prob delete Kik and change my number too. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the best hun xx hope everything works out the way you want it to xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sounds like a no brainer. If its a serious relationship then give it a chance. You aren't being fair to him.

Interestingly I wonder what the reaction would be to this, if the OP was a male.......

How am I not been fair.

I just said I haven't been online.

I can delete it now, but I want to show him, I will prob delete Kik and change my number too. Lol "

Sorry wasn't meant to come across as a dig at you - it's clear he's not comfortable and it seems clear you like him so it's fairer that you drop this place and give it a go !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It sounds like a no brainer. If its a serious relationship then give it a chance. You aren't being fair to him.

Interestingly I wonder what the reaction would be to this, if the OP was a male.......

How am I not been fair.

I just said I haven't been online.

I can delete it now, but I want to show him, I will prob delete Kik and change my number too. Lol

Sorry wasn't meant to come across as a dig at you - it's clear he's not comfortable and it seems clear you like him so it's fairer that you drop this place and give it a go ! "

Ur grand, i am not a relationship person, last one I had was 6 years ago, n that was my 1st relationship n ended up married lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So , I've started to see someone, since April.

He keeps saying he can never compete with all the 'other lads'. Or give me what I'm use too.

I've explained to him there isn't anyone else and I'm happy with the way things are.

Obviously I told him about fab, he's intimidated by it.

Says he's not into all this.

Um trying to reassure him but I dunno what else to do.

I haven't had a sex meet on here in a long time, do I delete my profile??

Fellas help me out please ??

I didn't read the other responses here so if I'm repeating, my apologies.

Vanilla find Fab intimidating, general opinion thanks to media is that we are sexual deviants who have porn sized cocks and fannys. We can fook for Ireland and have unrealistic expectations.

If you think he's worth it then make that commitment, I think you already know if you want to or not.

I hope whichever you decide it makes you both happy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So , I've started to see someone, since April.

He keeps saying he can never compete with all the 'other lads'. Or give me what I'm use too.

I've explained to him there isn't anyone else and I'm happy with the way things are.

Obviously I told him about fab, he's intimidated by it.

Says he's not into all this.

Um trying to reassure him but I dunno what else to do.

I haven't had a sex meet on here in a long time, do I delete my profile??

Fellas help me out please ??

I didn't read the other responses here so if I'm repeating, my apologies.

Vanilla find Fab intimidating, general opinion thanks to media is that we are sexual deviants who have porn sized cocks and fannys. We can fook for Ireland and have unrealistic expectations.

If you think he's worth it then make that commitment, I think you already know if you want to or not.

I hope whichever you decide it makes you both happy

Thanks yosser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing I'd add is that if you're going to delete the account in front of him,explain that you're doing it because you really like him and want the relationship to work. Insist that he believes you won't be online behind his back and are done with fab! Trust takes time to build so you both need to focus on each other. Best of luck for you both!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All you can do is try to reassure your partner that they are your priority. If they refuse to accept this because of their own insecurities then it's never going to work and better to pull the plug now than get more deeply attached and suffer all the resulting drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he's not into the idea of swinging, yet you are hesitating on turning your back on it, perhaps compatibility is an issue anyway?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The only thing I'd add is that if you're going to delete the account in front of him,explain that you're doing it because you really like him and want the relationship to work. Insist that he believes you won't be online behind his back and are done with fab! Trust takes time to build so you both need to focus on each other. Best of luck for you both!! "

This is exactly what I am going to do.

Its important to me that he knows this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If he's not into the idea of swinging, yet you are hesitating on turning your back on it, perhaps compatibility is an issue anyway?"

I'm not hesitating hun, I just hope its enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he's not into the idea of swinging, yet you are hesitating on turning your back on it, perhaps compatibility is an issue anyway?

I'm not hesitating hun, I just hope its enough

It may not be, some people find it impossible to trust, sometimes due to low self-esteem or previous bad experiences, and nothing at all to do with the current partner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If he's not into the idea of swinging, yet you are hesitating on turning your back on it, perhaps compatibility is an issue anyway?

I'm not hesitating hun, I just hope its enough

It may not be, some people find it impossible to trust, sometimes due to low self-esteem or previous bad experiences, and nothing at all to do with the current partner."

Yep, I normally have trust issues, but I can honestly say I trust him 100%.

I know he's been badly hurt in the past and explained to him that at some point he has to let people in, might not be me, but eventually he might.

If he doesn't feel this way towards me then at least we tried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is exactly what I am going to do.

Its important to me that he knows this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sounds to me like he is insecure and perhaps the Fab thing has made him feel that way. He maybe has the impression that there are studs lining up to meet u ( and perhaps there are!)

If Fab is of no use nor interest to you atm then yes delete it....after all you can always come back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reassurance is very important. I've just faced something similar and had to walk away as trust was lost and not reassured. Well it was but she didn't like me asking directly. Not sure how else one can ask but that's the choice one makes and take it on the chin.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Reassurance is very important. I've just faced something similar and had to walk away as trust was lost and not reassured. Well it was but she didn't like me asking directly. Not sure how else one can ask but that's the choice one makes and take it on the chin."

I'm worried about how he will take the talk tbh . but it has to be done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK well, I will see him later and delete it in front of him.

He will still b thinking I'm chatting away online thou.

How do I convince him I'm not without coming on too strong.

You can't you can only build trust like that "

When did you get to be so wise mister laid...

What he said

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over a year ago

"If you see a future with him delete and give it 100% you can come bk here anytime

Thanks.

Its like hot spice is my alter ego.

We were out with his friends who have an open relationship and of course hotspice came out hahaha they are a gay couple and it was all just sex talk.

I seen it made him uncomfortable so I reeled it in and told him it was just banter.

Maybe I've fucked it up.

. It's a big decision but if it was me I would let Hotspice have a break and see where the relationship takes you ...hope it works out there's more to life than Fab

Perfect advise jilly x

Best of luck op i think your making the right decision giving this a shot...

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

"OK well, I will see him later and delete it in front of him.

He will still b thinking I'm chatting away online thou.

How do I convince him I'm not without coming on too strong.

You can't you can only build trust like that

When did you get to be so wise mister laid...

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They say you learn from mistakes I just made more than my fair share lol and I'm still making to this day

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over a year ago

"OK well, I will see him later and delete it in front of him.

He will still b thinking I'm chatting away online thou.

How do I convince him I'm not without coming on too strong.

You can't you can only build trust like that

When did you get to be so wise mister laid...

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Laid is like the Yoda of swing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone , yiz are all great xx

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

"OK well, I will see him later and delete it in front of him.

He will still b thinking I'm chatting away online thou.

How do I convince him I'm not without coming on too strong.

You can't you can only build trust like that

When did you get to be so wise mister laid...

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Laid is like the Yoda of swing

A green midget that talks backwards.? I've been called worse I suppose lol

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By *ombikerMan
over a year ago

the right side of the river

Bet if you arranged a f m f with him he would be into it

If he was not then ditch him lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think 'Fab' is the main issue but definitely a part of it. I think he has low self esteem. If he thinks he can't compete with others or he's punching above his weight etc then he has underlying issues not directly connected to you being on Fab. By you deleting it in front of him should show him that are are committed to wanting your relationship to work with him and only him. It's a small step in being open and it should help his self esteem that maybe he isn't punching above his weight and you actually do value him and want to be with him. Obviously time will tell but I think you're doing the best you can for him in the circumstances. I wish you both well for the future.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

^^^^^

Ur right he thinks he's punching above his weight and the fact that people tell him this annoys me.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

This had me thinking all afternoon and here's where I settled

There's a lad in the village and he can pull the best looking women in the area and does so,at the weekend it's slapping on the back for him the village stud

At the same time there's a girl in the village and she's liberal in that she sees some one she likes and goes for it she knows what she likes (sex) and has enjoyed her early twenty's playing the field at the weekend she comes in to the pub and there's no slaps on the back but don't be seen talking to much to her she's the village bike

Now both have found each other and start a relationship his father asks the question what is he doing with her she's emptied more sacks than the coal man

Nothing about his past and the amount of bunkers he has emptied his sack into

Point being a guys past has no bearing on how people see him but a girls past has and yes in this sheltered bigoted country of ours people take note of this and it does play on their minds. He's feeling insecure because u are a confident woman who knows what she likes and is not afraid to ask for what she wants and afraid that u will return to where u know u can find just that and he will loose

How do u get over it I am afraid it's trust and that only comes with time delete this profile open ur devices to him let him see u are open and honest if he wishes to go ahead he will take the hint that ur not interested in others only him

Unfortunately u will never wipe his mind of the imaginary wild sex addict persona he has built up around u but u may make him realise he is now the one that u want and that u willing to give all that up for him

Or he will harbour this and let it eat him up and destroy something that could be very beautifull with u the only way ull find out to to travel the road in front of u and see where it leads

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

"So , I've started to see someone, since April.

He keeps saying he can never compete with all the 'other lads'. Or give me what I'm use too.

I've explained to him there isn't anyone else and I'm happy with the way things are.

Obviously I told him about fab, he's intimidated by it.

Says he's not into all this.

Um trying to reassure him but I dunno what else to do.

I haven't had a sex meet on here in a long time, do I delete my profile??

Fellas help me out please ??

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Well, if you like the guy and see something long term with him only, maybe hide your profile for a few months and give your relationship a shot. Fab will always be here but he won't if he's unhappy

We all have a past, but some guys get intimidated if they know their gf has been with a much more experienced guy. I should now as I was that guy for years and felt I had to compete with her ex's. Thankfully, it's something a guy grows out of...

Also, swinging is a shock to the system for many people to absorb too...

However, if you find that you're made and have a leaning towards multiple partners, you might have to sit down and tell him that that's the way you are

But fairplay to you for being honest and upfront with him about everything

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