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A backup in case of a no show

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By *ust4fun555 OP   Man
over a year ago

city centre

So you commit your time and money to a meet in a nice hotel. As the reality suggests, it may turn into a no show. A question for the lads and ladies.... Would you also organise a second meet in case the first didn't show up? And, would you tell the seconder that they are the back up so you might cancel if the first one turns up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The simplest way id believe is if you want to meet someone, arrange a public coffee meet or just a general public meet.... that way if the meet went ahead then arrange something like hotel ect, if they are a no show you havent really put yourself out of pocket.

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

Sure why not tell the first, as well and have them both cancel on you.

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By *ust4fun555 OP   Man
over a year ago

city centre

Would you feel bad if you were asked to be the backup?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even doing so. If all goes well with the coffee meet and arranging a hotel is the next step, get half the cost of the hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think many couples or ladies would appreciate being your second choice.

I did have 2 cancelations recently but would never double book myself for same time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even doing so. If all goes well with the coffee meet and arranging a hotel is the next step, get half the cost of the hotel. "
100% agree

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

I am sure most females or couples wouldn't want to play second fiddle and be waiting around on a guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sure most females or couples wouldn't want to play second fiddle and be waiting around on a guy."

I can't imagine many men would either

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Who wants to play the second fiddle? It's a big NO, just out of respect for (potential) play partners and basic manners. You can't expect anyone to be stand by/on call.

But what you can do is line them time wise up one after the other (ie afternoon, evening, morning).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who wants to play the second fiddle? It's a big NO, just out of respect for (potential) play partners and basic manners. You can't expect anyone to be stand by/on call.

But what you can do is line them time wise up one after the other (ie afternoon, evening, morning). "

But suppose the first one is so good you don't want them to leave?

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

Yep that's true, I was just taking it that he meant females or couples...

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Who wants to play the second fiddle? It's a big NO, just out of respect for (potential) play partners and basic manners. You can't expect anyone to be stand by/on call.

But what you can do is line them time wise up one after the other (ie afternoon, evening, morning). "

Ffs most of my meets are for the morning afternoon and evening

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy


"Who wants to play the second fiddle? It's a big NO, just out of respect for (potential) play partners and basic manners. You can't expect anyone to be stand by/on call.

But what you can do is line them time wise up one after the other (ie afternoon, evening, morning). "

Oh i wish i could line them up, like that. Lol

Ain't that greedy, 1 meet a time would do me...

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By *ust4fun555 OP   Man
over a year ago

city centre


"Who wants to play the second fiddle? It's a big NO, just out of respect for (potential) play partners and basic manners. You can't expect anyone to be stand by/on call.

But what you can do is line them time wise up one after the other (ie afternoon, evening, morning). "

Now that is getting your money's worth lol

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Who wants to play the second fiddle? It's a big NO, just out of respect for (potential) play partners and basic manners. You can't expect anyone to be stand by/on call.

But what you can do is line them time wise up one after the other (ie afternoon, evening, morning).

But suppose the first one is so good you don't want them to leave? "

It's a question of fine tuning the line up. It's a bit like fireworks choreography.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt do it and wouldnt like it done to me either

Whats the point in meeting if ur only second choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who wants to play the second fiddle? It's a big NO, just out of respect for (potential) play partners and basic manners. You can't expect anyone to be stand by/on call.

But what you can do is line them time wise up one after the other (ie afternoon, evening, morning).

But suppose the first one is so good you don't want them to leave?

It's a question of fine tuning the line up. It's a bit like fireworks choreography. "

Or find people who are amenable to impromptu group play

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Who wants to play the second fiddle? It's a big NO, just out of respect for (potential) play partners and basic manners. You can't expect anyone to be stand by/on call.

But what you can do is line them time wise up one after the other (ie afternoon, evening, morning).

Ffs most of my meets are for the morning afternoon and evening "

3 seconds in the morning, 3 seconds in the afternoon and 3 seconds in the evening, what do you do in-between?

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By *ust4fun555 OP   Man
over a year ago

city centre


"Who wants to play the second fiddle? It's a big NO, just out of respect for (potential) play partners and basic manners. You can't expect anyone to be stand by/on call.

But what you can do is line them time wise up one after the other (ie afternoon, evening, morning).

Ffs most of my meets are for the morning afternoon and evening

3 seconds in the morning, 3 seconds in the afternoon and 3 seconds in the evening, what do you do in-between? "

Methinks you need to fit more in. What about elevenses, lunchtime, and that all important 3am slot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats the point in being on here in first place unless your prepared to honour a comitment to a meet in the 1st place...it appears there is a lot of bullshit goes on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats the point in being on here in first place unless your prepared to honour a comitment to a meet in the 1st place...it appears there is a lot of bullshit goes on here"

Couldn't have put it better myself, or as "meatloaf"would sing

You took the words right out of my mouth

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By *unnitoesWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Would you feel bad if you were asked to be the backup?"

Feel bad? I wouldn't entertain it at all....imagine waiting, waiting, wondering if number 1 has shown up or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many people here of both genders are you trying to p**s off?

Back up plan....wtf!

Are you going to hang around and be someone else's back up plan...

I have no interest in being second on anyone's list...

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yea going through the hassle of getting ready sorting babysitters etc for something that might not happen

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

if someone told me I was the back up plan id tell them to do one Flaming cheek if you ask me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But what about the 2nd person if they have put time and effort into getting ready to meet you and the 1st person shows up.Then you would be the no show. I would find insulting to be only the backup

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

You could meet one in the morning one in the afternoon or evening. Well if you were able for them lol .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrange 2 more social drink meets in the hotel bar before game time...

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"So you commit your time and money to a meet in a nice hotel. As the reality suggests, it may turn into a no show. A question for the lads and ladies.... Would you also organise a second meet in case the first didn't show up? And, would you tell the seconder that they are the back up so you might cancel if the first one turns up?

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Can't but feel like a substitute on a division 4 football team that's about to be relegated who probably won't get his game...

Do you get a participation medal? or a veri to say how much of a great "stand by guy" you are. Seriously, what self respecting guy wants to be the b-side or the "just in case" man?

Self respect lads..

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Country West

Looks like you can use a robot now if it doesn't work out xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He also said couldn't have sat it better myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't mind being the back up plan... Hard enough to get a meet on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have no need for a back. Any of my meets where spot on and open. There was never a question about them turning up. Had great craic and banter before the meet up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so much a back up meet but we have had a warm up meet a few times,like to make the most of a night away

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By *oftgentle123Man
over a year ago

Letterkenny


"Not so much a back up meet but we have had a warm up meet a few times,like to make the most of a night away "

yeah a couple warm meets always does the trick so if you have a few organised your never let down

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