FabSwingers.com forum: Party Etiquette

By *ommando4 OP Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

I was hoping regular party goers could share their experiences and give some tips on etiquette for swingers parties in Ireland such as: how to behave, how to recognise and respect others boundaries, what not to do, what to bring with you, how to dress (undress) etc. This would be of great help to newbies and those of us who have attended only a few.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

Don't drink too much there's nothing worse that a very d*unk man or woman at a party.

Don't think it's a free for all and start joining in with others having fun

Arrive on time not late like many try so they can skip straight to the action so to speak.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

Bring your own condoms.

Throw your used condom in a bin you'd be amazed at the amount of guys that just throw them on the floor

Change condoms between women again I've seen it happen

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By *exygirl17Woman
over a year ago

cork kerry

"Bring your own condoms.

Throw your used condom in a bin you'd be amazed at the amount of guys that just throw them on the floor

Change condoms between women again I've seen it happen "

Serious? Ahh some guys are disgusting

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

If the door on the room is closed and there is a couple in there leave them alone. If they want you to watch they will leave the door open.

Don't join in untill you are invited to.

Be respectfull.

Bring spare socks as they always go missing. A small bottle of mouthwash will always be appreciated.

Totally agree with Laid on the getting d*unk thing. Nobody wants to play with very d*unk people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swingers parties and vanilla parties,same etiquette applies.

I'm sure you know how to behave in other social gatherings.

Be respectful of others.

Don't talk politics or religion.

Don't steal the silverware.

Always flush after using the facilities

Don't outstay your welcome.

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By *aider190Man
over a year ago

swords

Excellent advice . Am heading to a gathering this weekend. Is there a ediquette for the bar . How do you tell if there is an interest apart from the obvious verbal ones ...???

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By *exygirl17Woman
over a year ago

cork kerry

As bad as puttin the wasp nest in there wit a baby wasp.. Disgusting

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By *exygirl17Woman
over a year ago

cork kerry

"As bad as puttin the wasp nest in there wit a baby wasp.. Disgusting

Wrong forum sooo sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't ignore people who you aren't attracted to or who you don't want to play with.

Say hello, have a chat, and be polite to every guest - it helps everyone relax, boosts the atmosphere, and makes everyone more comfortable playing in a party situation when they've built some rapport with their fellow guests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As bad as puttin the wasp nest in there wit a baby wasp.. Disgusting

Wrong forum sooo sorry

Sounds interesting

Where was it ment for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And

Don't wipe in the curtains lads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Excellent advice . Am heading to a gathering this weekend. Is there a ediquette for the bar . How do you tell if there is an interest apart from the obvious verbal ones ...???"

It's in a public bar. ? Same rules apply as any other bar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't ignore people who you aren't attracted to or who you don't want to play with.

Love this Regina.

It's a very small community and just because you don't want to play with a person doesn't mean you can't be friendly. You will always bump into fellow fabsters further down the road and it's always good to see a friendly face and smile wherever that may be regardless of if you've played or not.

Be kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smile talk shite and agree with everyone and wear white socks

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

"Smile talk shite and agree with everyone and wear white socks

Don't fall asleep lol

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By *aider190Man
over a year ago

swords

Have felt the cold couple shoulder once . Tried to engage but got blanked. It costs nothing to be polite and engage in conversation even if there is no attraction ...

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

"Have felt the cold couple shoulder once . Tried to engage but got blanked. It costs nothing to be polite and engage in conversation even if there is no attraction ... "

But you also have to respect their wishes. If you are at a bar and someone doesn't talk to you are they rude.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Smile talk shite and agree with everyone and wear white socks

Don't fall asleep lol"
pmsl I was resting my eyes I tell ya

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

"Have felt the cold couple shoulder once . Tried to engage but got blanked. It costs nothing to be polite and engage in conversation even if there is no attraction ... "
We talk to everyone but you also dont want to give the impression that you are interested either.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Have felt the cold couple shoulder once . Tried to engage but got blanked. It costs nothing to be polite and engage in conversation even if there is no attraction ... We talk to everyone but you also dont want to give the impression that you are interested either."

This is great advise having noticed this once or twice at different gatherings it pays to engage even if u don't want to play a simple hi and who are u isn't going to have people jumping on up

Guys be courteous and even if asked to assist in a play scene like help support someone on a swing it's not a green light to play. Watch what's happening be aware of ur surroundings remember no is no and if a woman in ingauged in an activity she may only raised her hand in a motion to stop respect this and stop be happy u were there to help belive me it pays off in the long run

Something else I seen is people lurking while others play and next u know they are joining in just because the door to a room is open its not an invitation to join in, a simple do u mind if i/we join in usually brings a positive answer

But most of all the only reliable information I may share with u is always wear sunscreen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let the ladies make the first move.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let the ladies make the first move."

Smooth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the party and the guests ..... if we know everyone I do have a tendency to throw myself into any action as a few of you know!!! But if it was new people I try to hold back a bit hahaha

Sam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the party and the guests ..... if we know everyone I do have a tendency to throw myself into any action as a few of you know!!! But if it was new people I try to hold back a bit hahaha

Sam"

When did that ever happen - you holding back??

I usually hear you impatiently stamping your foot and saying 'are we going to start having some fun here or what?'

And you're always first naked

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting post

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By *ommando4 OP Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

"Interesting post

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i agree....interesting discussion and some great tips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the party and the guests ..... if we know everyone I do have a tendency to throw myself into any action as a few of you know!!! But if it was new people I try to hold back a bit hahaha

Sam

When did that ever happen - you holding back??

I usually hear you impatiently stamping your foot and saying 'are we going to start having some fun here or what?'

And you're always first naked

Now we both know you are always the first naked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't ignore people who you aren't attracted to or who you don't want to play with.

I agree with this

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By *he Vanilla ClubCouple
over a year ago

DUBLIN

All the advice above is spot on. One major piece of advice i would give to guys especially is that if a girl is very d*unk i would hold back. If you like her get her username and try arrange a meet another time but i strongly recommend you dont play with someone who is very d*unk as you could be opening yourself to all sorts. You would be surprised at the amount of guys who see a d*unk girl as an easy target.

And like everyone else said treat people with respect, be friendly, and be respectful of whatever rules are in place.

If its a meet and greet in a hotel or a bar please remember where u are and save any sexual activity for the bedroom as someone has put their neck on the line booking the place.

Xxxxxxx

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By *isa003Woman
over a year ago

Mayo Galway Leitrim

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I found just going around chatting to people getting to know them and hopefully having a good laugh But if someone does not want to chat do not annoy them move on to someone else ..

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By *ommando4 OP Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

Yes I agree

. How do you broach the subject of playing once you've made new friends ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I agree

. How do you broach the subject of playing once you've made new friends ?"

Body language is your best indicator here..

I find asking someone if they have made a 'wishlist'

...for the evening is a good tactic if you are unsure - doesn't put anyone on the spot and hopefully they will say you! If not, it's simply conversation between guests

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Yes I agree

. How do you broach the subject of playing once you've made new friends ?

Body language is your best indicator here..

I find asking someone if they have made a 'wishlist'

...for the evening is a good tactic if you are unsure - doesn't put anyone on the spot and hopefully they will say you! If not, it's simply conversation between guests "

Failing that fancy a fook might lay it on the line for them

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By *evilinsidemeMan
over a year ago

Trim

Compliments, genuine ones though, will always indicate your interested and if the other person is thinking about you too, normally a return more sexual compliment will get the conversation flowing.

(Oh "great tits, can I suck em" isn't the kind I mean though)

I found most the likable ladies are quite straight forward and cheeky in letting you know.

"Your on my list" is always a nice one to hear whispered in your ear, even if you can't reciprocate you can be polite and say thank you.

Do...be polite, stay sober, dress well, be clean (especially if your lucky enough to play with more than one person) and always smile.

Don't....crowd around and shove your body into others, or try to join in with others who are having fun without being asked!

get d*unk and tell people you might have messaged here "can we play now or what"

Shout or be rude at ANY point.

forget to brush your teeth.

And last of all don't Worry, most the party goers are lovely, sexy people.

Have fun.

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By *r Connie LingusMan
over a year ago

Limerick

Turn up

Mingle

And enjoy

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

"Bring your own condoms.

Throw your used condom in a bin you'd be amazed at the amount of guys that just throw them on the floor

Change condoms between women again I've seen it happen "

Agreed! I've been to many parties however where there is no bin in the room or plastic bag on the door or anywhere to leave empty condoms. The amount of time I've had to shove them in their wrappers and in my pocket only to find a damp pocket an hour later

first world problem perhaps...

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By *atieglamTV/TS
over a year ago

south

And don't let laid wear your shoes he will wreck them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bring your own condoms.

Throw your used condom in a bin you'd be amazed at the amount of guys that just throw them on the floor

Change condoms between women again I've seen it happen

first world problem perhaps..."

Tie a knot in it next time Wilder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I agree

. How do you broach the subject of playing once you've made new friends ?

Body language is your best indicator here..

I find asking someone if they have made a 'wishlist'

...for the evening is a good tactic if you are unsure - doesn't put anyone on the spot and hopefully they will say you! If not, it's simply conversation between guests "

Surprised you'd have to ask anyone

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

"Bring your own condoms.

Throw your used condom in a bin you'd be amazed at the amount of guys that just throw them on the floor

Change condoms between women again I've seen it happen

first world problem perhaps...

Tie a knot in it next time Wilder

I do but there's always seepage. I don't want to have to add 'bits of wire' or 'cling film' to my 'things to bring to parties' list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't ignore people who you aren't attracted to or who you don't want to play with.

Really? As I recollect Regina - insult them? Smash their drink on the floor?? and continue to get very d*unk and disappear in a rick Shaw

Your a bully

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

"Bring your own condoms.

Throw your used condom in a bin you'd be amazed at the amount of guys that just throw them on the floor

Change condoms between women again I've seen it happen

first world problem perhaps...

Tie a knot in it next time Wilder

I do but there's always seepage. I don't want to have to add 'bits of wire' or 'cling film' to my 'things to bring to parties' list

Tie tighter knots also ewwww seepage

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

make a list..not in any-order.

1, Bring your own condoms.

2, Take your own drink..dont drink someone else's .

3, Relax and enjoy whats going on, dont worry if you are not someones cup of tea.

4, No means No, everyone their for a good time,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't ignore people who you aren't attracted to or who you don't want to play with.

Really? As I recollect Regina - insult them? Smash their drink on the floor?? and continue to get very d*unk and disappear in a rick Shaw

Your a bully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bring your own condoms.

Throw your used condom in a bin you'd be amazed at the amount of guys that just throw them on the floor

Change condoms between women again I've seen it happen

first world problem perhaps...

Tie a knot in it next time Wilder

I do but there's always seepage. I don't want to have to add 'bits of wire' or 'cling film' to my 'things to bring to parties' list

I've seen the amount of kit you bring - it's like you're moving house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't ignore people who you aren't attracted to or who you don't want to play with.

Really? As I recollect Regina - insult them? Smash their drink on the floor?? and continue to get very d*unk and disappear in a rick Shaw

Your a bully

Hahahaha!

Had to keep you on your toes somehow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I agree

. How do you broach the subject of playing once you've made new friends ?

Body language is your best indicator here..

I find asking someone if they have made a 'wishlist'

...for the evening is a good tactic if you are unsure - doesn't put anyone on the spot and hopefully they will say you! If not, it's simply conversation between guests

Surprised you'd have to ask anyone

Sometimes beg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bring your own condoms.

Throw your used condom in a bin you'd be amazed at the amount of guys that just throw them on the floor

Change condoms between women again I've seen it happen

first world problem perhaps...

Tie a knot in it next time Wilder

I do but there's always seepage. I don't want to have to add 'bits of wire' or 'cling film' to my 'things to bring to parties' list

Tie tighter knots also ewwww seepage "

Oh ye mean tie a knot in the condom...

I was thinking that was a bit harsh to tie the lad in a knot!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bring your own condoms.

Throw your used condom in a bin you'd be amazed at the amount of guys that just throw them on the floor

Change condoms between women again I've seen it happen

first world problem perhaps...

Tie a knot in it next time Wilder

I do but there's always seepage. I don't want to have to add 'bits of wire' or 'cling film' to my 'things to bring to parties' list

Tie tighter knots also ewwww seepage

Oh ye mean tie a knot in the condom...

I was thinking that was a bit harsh to tie the lad in a knot!!!"

Awww

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over a year ago

"Bring your own condoms.

Throw your used condom in a bin you'd be amazed at the amount of guys that just throw them on the floor

Change condoms between women again I've seen it happen

first world problem perhaps...

Tie a knot in it next time Wilder

I do but there's always seepage. I don't want to have to add 'bits of wire' or 'cling film' to my 'things to bring to parties' list

Tie tighter knots also ewwww seepage

Oh ye mean tie a knot in the condom...

I was thinking that was a bit harsh to tie the lad in a knot!!!

Awww

So much to learn (I don't know which one of these is the laugh emoji)

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By *ommando4 OP Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

"Bring your own condoms.

Throw your used condom in a bin you'd be amazed at the amount of guys that just throw them on the floor

Change condoms between women again I've seen it happen

first world problem perhaps...

Tie a knot in it next time Wilder

I do but there's always seepage. I don't want to have to add 'bits of wire' or 'cling film' to my 'things to bring to parties' list

Tie tighter knots also ewwww seepage "
Sailor's knots ??? Good semenship

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